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We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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Doublechocolatetiffin · 03/05/2017 17:55

I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

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Juancornetto · 05/05/2017 08:21

Oh miami I have everything crossed for you that you get seen today a d it's 'just' a scare x

conkerchops · 05/05/2017 09:16

Oh @miami have everything crossed for you - have you managed to get through to the EPU yet - insist that they see you - keep us posted we will all be thinking of you!
Yes running really helps my RA - being active does - things flare far more when I am not active and my consultant is all for it! I am probably his most active patient! He always smiles and laughs when I tell him about my latest moonwalk / 10k / running escapades! And it makes me happy so that has to be a v good thing !

emwithme · 05/05/2017 09:25

Crossing everything for you Miami

CD5 here. Met up with some lovely friends for lunch yesterday and had a whinge because I was hungover. I shouldn't be hungover at the moment. I should be moaning because I can't drink. And I KNOW that sounds all first world problem and everything but I spent last week nearly puking all week and then AF showed up on Monday, and I thought that we'd been lucky and caught on the first post-MC cycle (we got pregnant originally on cycle 2 of trying, my family tend to get pregnant quickly but unfortunately have LOTS of MCs along the way). But then I came on, and all my hopes came crashing down again.

Oh well. I will pick myself up and dust myself off and carry on (because what's the alternative?). And next week I will shag DH as much as he is willing and hopefully things will be different.

Millypad · 05/05/2017 10:03

Hello all! CD15, 3dpo. Thinking of all you brave ladies, what a good thing to do after we've been through something horrid. M/C in October and cycles only returned in March. Keeping fingers crossed x

TurquoiseDress · 05/05/2017 11:09

Oh no Miami

I hope you get seen today so you can find out more what is going on.

Really sorry to hear this- I am sure that you are (understandably) probably thinking the worst. It's the not knowing that is hardest to deal with, I think.

NicolaC17 · 05/05/2017 11:41

Just caught up on the thread. Interesting about the baby aspirin, I took it from ovulation and then continued when I got my BFP and sadly miscarried at 5 weeks: I think it's worth trying but it may not be the answer if something else is wrong. I'm on CD7 now and last month we did ovulation tracking, temp and sperm meets egg but think we will just do every other day this month as it was exhausting last time trying to keep on top of it. Hopefully my fertility crystals will do the trick.

Miami - I am staying hopeful for you and keeping my fingers crossed all is ok. Xx

AnneLovesGilbert · 05/05/2017 11:53

I've been told to take it from pre ov to af/bfp and I'm taking it on a full stomach conker. That must have been a massive shock getting the result, I don't blame you for needing some time to get your heads around it.

I know what you mean about the poorly baby who wouldn't have been able to develop well sadness vs relief it wasn't something you did dilemma. Take some time to come to terms with the new info x

Glad the letter was kind as well, I've been so touched by the tone of the communications we've had. Such respect and consideration, to both DH and me. Makes such a difference.

Welcome to the new joiners and my sympathy for your losses xxx

Bleeding still really heavy today but less chunky and not worrying anymore and I feel a million times better. But pale and weak but pain nearly gone and my mood is a load better. Had reflexology last night which is always so lovely and had an early night and an epic sleep.

I decided this morning that actually af is the least stressful time of my cycle (monstrous bleeding aside) wrt ttc. I know what I'm doing with af and it's a certainty. It's the week before that's the fucking worst. Just can't handle the uncertainty and possibilities/waiting for crashing disappointment. So the moment af arrives sucks. But after that it's not so bad, and at least the newt fw is around the corner.

Miami, I don't do praying, but I'm sending all of my thoughts and hopes and wishes to you, your pregnancy and your little bean. May he or she stay sticky. Please let this be your time to get to a take home baby.

Keep talking to us and get on to the EPU. Even without your previous losses they should be seeing you at this point with this level of bleeding, you need a scan.

Sending love x

MulderitsmeX · 05/05/2017 12:49

miami I really really hope it's all ok- sending positive energy to your little Christmas bean FlowersFlowers

lookatthemoon · 05/05/2017 13:07

Miami - I really hope you get the care you need and that this all works out well! xx

Anne - i agree about AF being least stressful part of cycle (once u have accepted the inevitability/disappointment of AF coming). At least you are on cd1 and can start again.

MulderitsmeX · 05/05/2017 13:14

conker sorry to hear your little one was so poorly, you're right that it's good to know wasn't anything you did (not that it would have been anyway but know how our brains work these days)

A running in pregnancy / ttc thread would be great!!

I saw Dr Emeke Okaro today, i think he does both nhs and private - this man is great!!!
I told him about my 2/3 MC and he said he thought there really could be an underlying cause. I have a test for thrombophilia (spelled wrong!) In 5 weeks and have been told not get preggo til then.

Also - he told me that if you have polycystic ovaries (I have the ovaries but not the syndrome) that you cannot use opks. He said that it doesn't affect fertility but means the LH will not show up. This was v interesting as I thought I was going mad so if you are in this boat also do not panic!!

Am half hoping they do find the thrombo thing as at least then will get treatment.

Really recommend this guy though, great bedside manner, helpful and thorough. Most other reviews online rave about him too!

halloumisandwich · 05/05/2017 13:36

So sorry to hear you’re still bleeding Miami, keeping everything crossed for you. I hope you get some answers soon.
So AF finished on Sunday but I’ve now had the odd bit of spotting since Wednesday. I’ve started taking pregnacare this month and I’ve seen other threads where people have said it can cause spotting but it’s just vitamins right, so I don’t think it can be that? I’m not sure whether I should be worried about it or not? I think I’m just still paranoid because I never had a scan to check everything was OK after the MC (I didn’t even go to the hospital, once the bleeding had started they just told me to sit it out really) so I don’t know for sure if I’m back to normal and this is just odd spotting, or it’s something still lurking which I should be kicking up a fuss with the Dr about? Has anyone else had something similar?

yellowfrontdoor · 05/05/2017 13:46

Oh no Miami sending you many positive vibes for your Christmas bean Flowers

Sorry to all the newbies. It's a great bunch here.

I haven't had AF since d&c so DH & I are going for every other day. Except, last night he couldn't 'finish'. He admitted he feels under so much pressure to perform that it's all getting too much. We decided to wait until AF so I can start OPKs again but I'm heartbroken. My reasonable side agrees but my grieving side doesn't!

Also, for those who've already had one child, were you early pregnancy symptoms the same both times? Or did they vary?

MulderitsmeX · 05/05/2017 13:53

halloumi i woukd definitely get a scan just for your peace of mind. I think you would know if it didn't complete properly but good to check.
Pregnacare really messed with my cycle so it really could be causing thr spotting I've heard similar things from loads of people.

Miami81 · 05/05/2017 13:57

Quick update. Scan showed bean measuring right dates and strong heartbeat. They have no idea why I am bleeding as all they can think is that it is old implantation as there is no bruising or anything around where the bean is. Scan again in two weeks hopefully.
Thanks so much for all your kindness and good wishes, it has made me a total hormonal mess. Crying all over DH. So tired now.

yellowfrontdoor · 05/05/2017 13:59

Yes Miami!!

What fantastic news for the weekend x

lookatthemoon · 05/05/2017 14:10

Mulder - there already is a running during pregnancy thread on the pregnancy board. That's what I'm aiming for but have the small matter of getting knocked up first. A ttc/running might be an idea though ...

Yellow - I had diff experiences in early pregnancy. I didn't have many symptoms before 6 weeks with the healthy pregnancy except mild dizziness/better smell. Had more symptoms with the mc but in hindsight they might have been symptoms that something was wrong ...

MulderitsmeX · 05/05/2017 14:11

Yet miami Smile keep up the good work little Christmas bean!

lookatthemoon · 05/05/2017 14:12

Miami - Yay!!! Now go get some rest for you and your tenacious little bean! 😀

Doublechocolatetiffin · 05/05/2017 14:18

Wow this thread is moving at a pace! Welcome to the newcomers, I'm sorry you find yourselves here. It's a great thread though, full of lovely people.

Miami I'm so pleased for you, such good news that all was well in the scan.

Yellow my symptoms were different for my second pregnancy. Less of the sore boobs (I remembered them being so painful the first time around) but I put that down to still bf my DD. I also had nausea the second time which I didn't get first time. That stopped though, must have been when the baby stopped developing. I didn't worry about it at the time as I hadn't felt sick in my first pregnancy, but now I'll be paranoid!

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conkerchops · 05/05/2017 14:30

Oh @miami I am so so so relieved for
You! That is such great news! Keep strong little Christmas bean!!!
We so should have a running and ttc thread! Let's start one!

meadowlark3 · 05/05/2017 14:40

miami wonderful news, so happy for you!

xxx

Juancornetto · 05/05/2017 15:07

Yay miami! Fabulous news Smile

peachgreen · 05/05/2017 15:11

@Miami81 I'm so relieved and happy for you!

Smurf123 · 05/05/2017 17:23

Miami so so pleased for you!! Glad you had a great scan! Flowers

Chugalina · 05/05/2017 17:52

Miami- great news. My sister bled almost weekly on her second, her cervix was ever so slightly open which was the reason for the bleeding and it was her second pregnancy within 18 months. It stopped at 22 weeks thankfully, baby is a beyond healthy 4 year old.