We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

Same @mrsgembles 😢💔

mrsgembles I'm really sorry to hear that. How awful for you. And to everyone else who's had a really rough time of these things. :(

Well, I've had a bit of a turn up for the books. Having had our cry and resigned ourselves to starting TTC all over again, the Dr just called and said my HCG has rocketed from 12 to 100 in 2 days. So I'm still pregnant. And still bleeding. I am so confused.

lime I am so sorry your epu were so bad. Mine were a bit of a mixed bunch.. The tablets didn't work for me and then they forgot to ring me to check how things were going. But after that they were quick at booking me in for the surgical procedure and it happened within a few days both times.. Living in a smaller part of the world has its advantages.. On the other hand I have just been told that even though my referral to rmc went through 3 months ago it's likely to be at least another 6 months (closer to one year!) to actually get the appointment..
anne glad you had a lovely holiday!! It would be lovely to get away somewhere warm for a few days

Ineedaboat I'm sorry you are having a confusing time.. Have you had a scan?? I really can't help much as I haven't had any experience but a jump from 12 to 100 seems like a good jump in 2 days.. Fingers crossed for you

Thank you smurf. Back to work with a bump three days ago but the break was good

That's incredible biggerboat! So happy for you but can see how confusing that would be too. What did they say about the bleeding? Some people bleed throughout pregnancy but I think they can usually explain why. Never happened to me, I've been a reluctant miscarrier, my MMC took two lots of attempted medical management then surgery as despite having ended at 8+5 nothing was happening many weeks later and it was a bugger to complete. And with my last early one even after a test showing HCG at only 50 it took another 3 days to start.

Hopefully they'll keep a really close eye on you and you'll get some answers and the bleeding will stop. Are you having another test in 2 days?

Hello, I hope I can join. I used to be part of this thread a couple of years ago before going to have my DC. Been to the EPU today and confirmed it is back to TTC for me .

So glad I didn't ever leave you guys. It looks like I'm mc - bleeding, lots of cramping. Typically all kicked off just after I got off the phone with the gp who told me my brown cm wasn't anything to worry about and to monitor over the next week. Damn it! So now got to go all night before calling back to say it's got worse and request a referral to epu where I really hope they'll get me in for bloods/a scan tomorrow. Now to contact work and fill them in (my boss is brilliant), and again tell our friends that we're pregnant but not for much longer. Bloody hate this. I just knew it wasn't going to last though. Intuition and all that. Still gutted regardless, however much I distanced myself

Oh emvy 😢 I don't know what to say. Sending the biggest hug. If it was bleeding or cramping I'd say hold out hope.

Hope they see you quickly tomorrow.

We're here for you x

And of course you're gutted.

I'm heartbroken for you if this isn't meant to be. Will keep the faith for you a little longer if that's okay x

Oh emvy. I'm gutted for you. I really am. It's shit. I'm hoping that you still get good news from epu. You never know. I'll be thinking of you. It's rotten luck If it is a mc. i really really hope it's not.

Hugs @emvy - looks like we are back in the ttc boat too - I was six weeks yesterday and this am woke up with brown spotting that has turned into fairly steady red bleeding this eve :-( - like you I had a feeling right from the start that this would not work out ! I spoke to our EPU today who said wait and see - but call back if gets worse - as we're six weeks she doesn't think a scan would show much - so will wait and see! I poas this am though and it was still a strong positive but imagine that will fade fast! This ttc and early pregnancy malarkey is no fun :-( - was far easier when I had ds and ds 8 year ago !

Welcome fuzzy. So sorry you find yourself here. It's great to find people online that know what you are going through.

My lovely work friend just gave me a little gift today. A card to say how sorry she was and 2 beautiful candles, one for each twin lost. Such a lovely thought. It's rare to find people in real life that care that much or know what to say. Times like these you really know who your mates are...

fuzzy and conker 😢

Bloody hell, hugs and all round tonight. What a fucker.

So much love and empathy to you all. Vent away if you need to, anything we can do to be here for you.

Conker - so sorry. I really hope it's not bad news. hope you get a clear answer soon. As I mentioned in a previous thread I'm so pissed off with "waiting and seeing".its torture!

Too true lime. What a kind and thoughtful gift.

People were amazing to us when we had mmc in November. One of my favourite gifts was a bag of biscuits, a beautiful card and some flowers left on the doorstep by a friend who'd had her own loss. She knows I can never eat when things are shit and didn't want to intrude by popping in. The biscuits were actually the perfect choice!

My sister lives abroad and sent a massive box of organic fruit, salads and cheeses. Funny how you remember these things.

What helps the most is meaningful hugs and a heartfelt "sorry for your loss, I'm here for you, it's shit". So much better than god damn platitudes.

Agree anneloves. Sounds like you have a good bunch of people around you!

My boss gave me a big hug yesterday too. Made me have a little cry it did.

I defo prefer the it's shit platitudes as it so definitely is!!! Two of my closest colleagues at work are men and they have sent me exactly that message this eve! Love them v much for it! I'm just so glad I'd told so few people and now don't have to run the sympathy gauntlet at the school gate again!
I do feel stronger and more able to cope this time - just need to remember to be kind to myself !

@lime I am also so so sick of the wait and sees!!!!!

Another of my favourite thoughts. A bag of m and s chocolate honeycomb pieces from a man at work who saw I was crying (I'd just had the scan that ended it all). I actually find the men at my work have been so so kind.

Oh emvy and conker im so so sorry for you both! I really hope that you get seen tomorrow! Rest easy tonight! Thinking of you!

Oh ladies, sending lots of hugs to emvy and conker- No words can make it easier for you, just hoping that there might some positive for you both tomorrow.

Sorry you're back here fuzzy.

We are all going through so much on here- does everyone else find themselves pretty much thinking about ttc/miscarriage more or less constantly? I feel it's all I think about at the moment!

I am 2 DPO- but taking steroids post ovulation for reoccurrent miscarriages and they seem to mask all premenstral symptoms I used to get (where I found myself constantly thinking does that mean I am pregnant)- actually miss those feelings as now just feels like at the end of each cycle there is no chance as I don't feel any different. Hoping for success this time as are you all- then the panick begins!

That's lovely of your friend lime- definitely those thoughts that help you get through the really rotten times

So sorry to read about the losses on here. Love to you and good luck on the next go, you've got this.

starshine yes me! Before my first pregnancy we weren't actively trying.. We had stopped all prevention 6 months earlier but we weren't in a huge rush and we're just letting nature take its course.. I Never even considered things like "fertile windows" "ovulation dates" "2ww"... I was a full week late before I even tested. 2 miscarriages and a chemical later I have spent more more than I care to think about doing early pregnancy tests and now have both clue and ovia apps.. I still don't track using ovulation tests but I find it incredibly difficult for a day to go by without think about getting pregnant or my past due dates.. I think I spend half my time telling my head to stop thinking about it and the other half on here to stop me testing when I know it's far too early... When I know I'm out this month because my husband was on overnights during most of fw. I'm glad I'm not the only one constantly thinking of it..

Safety in numbers smurf- there is at least two of us, so I am sure that means we can't be made 😀. Sorry your out this month though