TTC after miscarriage- March 2007

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Sorry, guys, can't leave a redirect at the old one- it's not accepting new messages. I hope nobody's already set a new one up...

Welcome Josie - you've had such a sad time, have they investigated why you have had such a bad run of things? Just ignore me if you'd rather just move on with TTC and not go back on what's happened

Hi all
Sorry to hear no news yet catbaby, but maybe its too early? fingers crossed for you!

Jess- i had an erpc and my af reappeared after 25 days, but has been at day 28 and 24 since so a bit up and down! Hope everything settles for you soon

Mrsmcj- hope you survived the return to work, i think the first day is the worst. On my return to work i had an argument over a car parking space and then cried for england.Some people are thoughtless!

Thanks Kensgirl I did survive but my brain was so fuzzy that I'm having to work now I'm home too (this is just a sneak diversion!) sure things will get easier!

Having a sad day today. After the excitement of being pregnant, then the distress of m/c, my life suddenly seems empty and flat. I'm waiting to ovulate and I'm fed up. I know its not been long, but I desperately want to get pregnant again.

Sorry for posting this here. I guess this should be a positive moving forward thread. Maybe I should take myself off to the hut .

Mrs Mc-I don't mind you asking-
We used an employee health scheme to have investigations after the second m/c, had the full range of blood tests and all that came up was a possible clotting problem.

Basically going by Lesley Regan's book, because we saw a hb at 8 weeks, my body has done something to the baby, which would tie in with the m/c, but as this is a fault with my genes, doesn't explain how DS1 &2 came along. We were then told that I would have to inject with Clexane to thin my blood from the moment I got my BFP.

Ironically when I tried to contact the consultant on the NHS number they told me I couldn't speak to him until Monday (it was Saturday at the time) but he had told me that every day counted. As I had seen him privately I then phoned him on his mobile number and he came away from family business to see me! He was so lovely about it all.

Unfortunately fate was being really cruel as this last time, something had gone wrong just after fertilization, meaning that this one would never have turned into a baby, so if I hadn't had to test early then I would have just though that it was a later period!

Just when I thought that I had a possible solution it had to be the time that the injections wouldn't have helped-still it proved to me that I can inject myself, which I was worried about, and I've got a stock of Clexane so that if I get a BFP there isn't such a rush to see the consultant, although I will have to be monitored to make sure that it's not ectopic as there would be comlications with the Clexane then.

Anyway, I'm looking to the future now as have had 3 different kinds of m/c (the second with severe haemhorragging) and hoping that my time will come as I'm gettimg older

Jess - my AF returned 3.5 weeks after m/c, I didn't have any form of intervention.

MrsMac - On my first day back I had a recruitment consultant ring me, she had seen me just after christmas, as I was hoping to get permission for another lab tech and mentioned to her that I was pregnant. When she asked me about how it was progressing I just cried down the phone at her! I felt so embarrassed, but she was so nice, and in fact she even mentioned that she had a m/c too!

After I posted this morning, had to dash to the loo to puke. I then nearly puked in the Asda car park this evening and am starting to feel really sick again now. Have also finished off the pack of salt n vinegar crisps I just had to have!!!!

My stomach has been feeling weird too, kind of full and feeling very uncomfortable, like I've pulled a muscle. I seem to remember feeling this way when I first fell prgenant. Maybe these test strips are particuarly sensitive? They were £5 for 20, including P&P

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Hi all so nice to see afew familiar names on here !!

I just wondered if anyone thinks that its possible to ovulate 1 week after a m/c especaly as i was only 5 wk when i m/c'ed

My dp and i had a bit of a slip and i was hoping to wait till af so that i would know where i was in my cycle.

I'm still feeling a bit shaken to be honest and am sure that it is probaly really unlikly but I can't stop thinking about it now. Sorry if this makes no sence

Jossie - sorry you're having to join us. Sounds like you've had a very hard time. Fingers crossed for you.

First day back over now MrsMcJ - Hopefully its all easier from here on in.

Sweetbean - I think its possible but unlikely. I would just leave it to fate tbh. We didn't take precautions the first month after m/c but didn't try IYSWIM. If its meant to be....

Hello everyone else ! I am off for a day with my Mum at the Country Living Spring Fair ....

Still puking....

Catbabymummy, is your period late or are you testing early? I didn't test +ve until 3 days after my period was due.

I'm testing early. Period due tomorrow. Have been feeling very sick all day today and thrown up twice. Had a period of a couple of hours when I felt absolutely fine then started feeling very sick again.
Last time I was pg, I got a +ve on the day my period was due and it was late on in the evening.
I've got myself a test from Boots so will test in the morning.

Jossie ? you?ve had such a rotten time, I hope your luck changes soon

Catbabymummy ? so hope you are! can?t wait to log in tomorrow and see! I got a +ive on the day after AF was due in January.

Sweetbean ? totally clueless on the OV question but would have thought it is possible because you can OV on cd7 apparently but not many do. My software has told me that your body treats a MC as a period and therefore the first day of the bleed is cd1. HTH Sorry to hear you are still feeling a bit shaken, me too .

Wheelybug ? hope you had a lovely day with your Mum second day back was very, very busy!

Hello Gillian

My temps are quite high, like post OV highs but not much EWCM, don?t think I?ve OVd yet. I?m cd15 today going by the day of first day of MC rule. Pre pregnancy, I Ovd around cd16-18, so we?ll see.

Hi all, i'm new on this thread so here is abit about me;

DS born 09/04
mmc end Jan 07
Now feel ready to try again.

Good luck to everyone

welcome Abwab and Jules - sorry you're here. Good luck at the docs tomorrow Jules.

C'mon Catbaby - we're all routing for you !!

Glad day 2 was ok MrsMCJ (busy probably good).

I am also off to the docs tomorrow but am v. worried they aren't going to take me seriously as we've only been trying 7 months since m/c (I'm 31). But.... I conceived v. quickly twice and since mc have had wierd hormonal goings on I think..... everyone tells me I should go and 'start dialogue' so will see what happens.

Anyway, my 'due date' is almost over (sorry to keep harping on about it) thankfully. Its been ok but will be pleased when it is over (except obviously this then means it has been a loooooong time since we've been ttc)

Good luck Cat,
make sure you wee on it long enough too. Last + i had I ended putting it back in wee as it wasn't doing anything!!! after putting more wee on it ( i had container) then it came up positive, I did two more after that to check. They were cheap tests too, and definately needed longer than they said.

Hi to everyone else

Still BFN! But feel really sick this morning, to the point where I can't face breakfast.
Also have had a headache that I can't shake since last night. I had really bad headaches when I was pregnant the first time around. My GP said it was due to the fact that I've always been prone to hormonal migraines.
Thanks for all your wishes ladies and I hope that you see BFPs soon too.

Welcome Abwab ? sorry to hear about your MMC, hope you fall again very soon

Jules ? hello there hon really glad to see you here! Hope the Drs appointment goes well. I?ve made one for 26/3 as I want to discuss family history of blood clotting issues just in case that?s the reason I MC, I?m not expecting much though, when I went to see her when I was 4 weeks pg, she was less than helpful and I am still waiting for a call back from the community midwife who I left a message for on Monday to say that I had lost my baby and could she please call me . I really hope you fall as quickly again this time

Wheelybug ? I hope it goes well at the GPs. I don?t have much faith in my GP but know that some are really supportive. You are not harping on about the due date, we all understand and dread it, sending you huge hugs and hoping you are ok.

Uki ? hello

Catbaby ? annoying that it?s still negative but still early days. I have the following in my diary which correlates dpo with likelihood of getting BFP:

10dpo 35%
11dpo 51%
12dpo 62%
13dpo 74%
14dpo 80%
15dpo 80%
16dpo 88%
17dpo 92%
and then the other 8% went all the way to 24dpo and beyond!

I get hormonal migraines too, not nice, I had quite a few before my MC.

Question for you all: would you have an early scan next time round if there was no reason other than anxiety from past MCs? I?m just not sure, my experience of scans was both positive and negative and the positives soon turned negative. I can?t decide whether it would be better just not to have any early that could be misconstrued. What are your thoughts?

AHH Cat, if your not pg, I don't know what's wrong with you , but try and relax and not test for another two days. It might just take a while.

Hi Mrs Mc- In answer to your scan question, I felt the same. (Should i have an early one or not) I hope my history helps
1st baby I had scan 6+5 and m/c at 8 weeks
2nd baby no scan and m/c at 10 weeks
3rd baby had scan at 8+5 and saw hb and ds
4th- no scan till 12 weeks baby died at 7+6
5th -scan at 8+5 thought it might be a lucky time and it was saw hb and now 18 weeks.

I guess what i'm trying to say is if your going to m/c you are going to m/c, but if you get to 8 weeks you have about 80% or more chance. I posted a link in January. I think someone kept it on file i lost it, but it was really good about pg sucess rates after m/c and all.

I loved your poem, very beautiful.

Morning all!

I hope you get your bfp, Catbaby - sounds hopeful if you're chucking up lots!! Hoping to see you on the pg after m/c thread soon...

Jules - hope the doctor can give you some helpful advice.

MrsMcJnr - here is a link to Uki's article. If you get a hb at 8 weeks, there is a 98% chance of a successful pg; if there is still a hb at 10 weeks, it then rises to 99.4%. No guarantees, obviously, but comforting stats, at least... It's in the fouth section.

highly intellectual article

Uki ? you have been through so much I am really sorry. I can see where you are coming from with the scan history, I guess it?s better to know as soon as you can what is going on but the limbo is awful, that said, I guess you always worry anyway. Have they given you any explanation at all for the MCs? I?m glad you liked my poem, I felt better after writing it as if I had some closure.

Thanks Mumpbump

Thanks Mump, i have bookmarked it again. 98% at 8 weeks that's pretty good isn't it.
How are you? what's news?

Mrs mc, yes sometimes i can't believe it all myself. It has definately made me a more emotional person, I worry like hell about every pg women i know. Iv'e only tested borderline to thrombophilia, but get high blood pressure in pg too, so I'm now on low dose asprin and extra calcium for blood pressure which is really working-lowest bp in a decade.

Your dp sounds really sweet, i think mine likes to be un-emotional or un-attatched to it all, so i have no one to talk to.

Hi Uki - having a good day today - see my post on the other thread! Helps that the sun is shining...

Can't believe no BFP Catbaby.. keep testing !!

Thats an interesting article Uki/Mumpbump. MrsMCJ, I often wonder whether I would have a reassurance scan if I ever get that far again ! I m/c at 6.5 weeks so quite early. I think I would probably go for one at 8 ish weeks when there would be a good chance of seeing a heartbeat.

Have been to the docs this morning and she was fab. It was the same doctor I saw when I m/c and she was great then so was pleased she was still there (she was a registrar when I saw her) - unforetunately it was only luck that she locumming so isn't going to be there much more. Anyway, she admitted my symptoms might suggest there is a problem so she has referred me to have day 2 blood tests, day 21 blood tests and an ultrasound to check ovulation/hormone levels. I am sooo relieved. At most I was hoping she would do day 21 bloods so this is going further than I thought. She did say that she wouldn't do anything else (if these showed no problems) though until 18 months after but we'll cross that bridge when it comes to it. I feel like a bit of a weight has lifted. And it just goes to show some GPs are ace (and I knew that anyway cos there are/were a couple on here who are fab... just in case tehy read this !). Although I have to say, in my childhood I did experience some truly awful ones which meant I almost died once but that was a loooooong time ago...