Is it a line? Time for some wine? Yep, it's TTC after miscarriage thread number nine.

[BertieBotts]

Hello ladies

Hope you don't mind my little poem...

Fingers crossed for some sticky beans this time.

(Newbies welcome too!)

I know although tbh I'm not even sure where to start with Googling..
Well pregnancy test was negative which is what I was thinking it would be and I'll double check in a weeks time to be sure but im fairly sure I'm out for this month.. Maybe next month.
I haven't heard of that one Anne..hope its not too bad :-)

How odd @smurf123 we have both experienced it. I had reflexology next week so going to ask her what she thinks. My cycle last month was horrendously painful and I had the most awful PMS so I really shouldn't complain that's it lighter, no cramping and I didn't have one ounce of PMS. I did think maybe I should test again but not a single other symptom that would make me think I was so I'll take it this month and hopefully me and the witch can part on good terms for the next 9 months or so. Xx

Thanks all. Really was a shitter. My afternoon has been a bust because of it, so still trying to get my work done. Oh is out tonight too, so I'm just feeling very sorry for myself as it just feels like getting through each day is more effort than I feel I have to give. Hopefully things will ease off soon. Think once AF arrived it'll help.

Anne that sounds so painful!!

Smurf glad you've got a good gp. That must really help this whole shit process. I never even saw my gp when I was pg, as just self referred to mw. Don't know what I'll do next time. Doesn't help that I don't know any of the doctors in the surgery after my fave one left!

Dancing it's so bloody hard. 5 women are pregnant at my work at the moment. It's so hard watching belly rubs, talk of mat leave & midwife appointments.

I come home everyday & just hug DH. I feel like a BFP is all I'm aiming for now, but also terrified at the same time.

Hi all
Sorry to newbies and also to those having a shit time. People really don't think before they open their mouths. Someone (who is a really good friend) said something really insensitive yesterday about kids vs puppies, she came to find me today to apologise, which was nice, she said it played on her mind for the whole rest of the day. I think my entire office have guessed that I am pg again, I have had so many appointments (counselling, docs, reflexology etc) that they would have to be living under a rock not to have noticed.
Anyway I came on here to answer @AnneLovesGilbert - stabby vag pains - all the f'ing time. On normal af cycles I get this around 2 days before (also get this around ov, in my head it's everything opening up). Currently and since bfp I have this all the time. Bit concerned but choosing to not get too worked up.

So Anne surely I'm not ignoring the docs instructions not to Google if I mumsnet it instead right?
When you had your blood test results did you find anywhere to find where "normal" was for them?

It didn't last long thankfully. I think I had it when I was pregnant but haven't had it before bfp. miami you poor thing that you've had it so often and still going on!

My back was killing me and my mood was a bit shit so I had an epic soak and half an hour with a new book and I'm now on the sofa in my pjs. DH made his famous veggie spag bol which always cheers me up. He's a god damn keeper this guy.

yellow, I can't even imagine. So glad you get lovely hugs to come home to x

Still don't feel like af is coming but assuming it's just going to be late.

Hope everyone's okay tonight x

On my results smurf I had the name of the test e.g. Thyroid, then my number and then the normal range next to it. I don't know if the range varies based on age or other factors?

If it's helpful I can pm you scans of mine. There's 4 pages of numbers and I don't know if we've had the same tests run but I can either give you the whole lot or the ranges for anything you've had. Whatever might help, just let me know

Anne I get that pre-period (especially, TMI, if I get constipated) and I got it after my miscarriages. When I described it to my doctor she said what it is is pelvic floor pain.

Hot water bottle/warm bath can help on lower back.

Thanks Anne I've been looking again and there seems to be a number in brackets beside each one which in assuming shows the normal range.. Going by that the results all seem to be entirely normal.. Apart of rubella but I knew that.
I have tests done for rubella, anti-cardiolipin (igm, igg), r anti b2 glycoprotein (igm, igg), fsh level, oestradiol level and then a bunch of anti nuclear antibodies..
While i am honestly glad my results came back seemingly "normal" it's a little bit I dunno annoying? too early in the morning to find the right word to not be able to pinpoint the miscarriages on.. Was kinda hoping for a oh yes take this magic pill and it will cure everything and it won't happen again..

Smurf I can't imagine, but it seems rational to wish there was a curable reason why it keeps happening. Though hopefully normal is good and means next time will be your time.

Well, AF arrived. 31 days post smm. So I'm officially cd1 and feeling ready to go.

Morning Ladies,

I am feeling fucking annoyed, got a 3rd day little flashing smiley on my OPK yesterday afternoon so when we got down to DTD last night we started a petty argument and he turned over and went to sleep....WHHYYY!! Oh the joys, if i don't laugh i'll cry. Does he not realise I am plotting every sex session down to the minute haha.

Anyway its a new day so that's my rant over. Hope you ladies are well. @Dancing at least its a fresh cycle :-)

We need a new title poem the thread is almost full. Any suggestions?

How annoying of him amy I agree it's so frustrating when all the man has to do is one tiny but at the beginning!!

I had another MC at 5 weeks last week. Have been referred to st marys RMC so will hopefully get some answers.

Did anyone else have uterus pain after the MC ended? Also paranoid that I have too low progesterone, also thinking of using baby aspirin next time round as well- has anyone ever self medicated this?

@Mulder Stupid question but how did you know you have low progesterone? I have just googled it and have pretty much every symptom....my Dr has never mentioned it to me before though. I have been for blood tests but they only said i have slightly higher testosterone (but not high enough to suggest PCOS, even though i have cysts on my ovaries)

Bertie It's going to be thread ten, so maybe time to jump our men?

CD3 here. AF being her usual annoying self. I had a little whinge last night that this isn't meant to be happening, I'm supposed to be pregnant now FFS. DH nodded and smiled and fed me McDonalds which was just the right thing to do.

We've got a posh dinner out tonight (with wine matched to the courses) so I shall be over indulging!

SO sorry, just read straight past you have had another miscarriage @Mulder How many have you had now? That's really crap but hopefully they will find something so you get an answer!

Oh Amy, that sucks, so sorry. Tonight?!

Shit, good point Bertie! If you're happy to start us a new one I trust you completely to come up with something brilliant

Shit Mulder I don't know what to say. Sending you a hug. Was that your third? It's the worst fucking club in the world to be in. I'm so so sorry.

There's loads and loads online about aspirin, for and against. At my first RMC apt I asked about it and he said no. And then following the last loss he said absolutely yes. I didn't ask why. I'm taking one a day, after (a lot of) food so it doesn't mess up my tummy, from just before ov to af/bfp. Doesn't seem to have worked this month but it's supposed to aid implantation if you do conceive.

If you're going to start, I'd only do it for the second half of the month (I ovulate early so from around then for me) and eat loads before you have each one just to be sure. I got a box of 100 dispersible ones from tesco pharmacy and I just swallow them which he said was fine to do.

I was so pleased for you, really gutted this has happened to you again x

@emwithme Like the name...I'll be doing more than jumping on my man tonight according to the OPK i'm still high

Ooh, your night sounds lovely em! Enjoy

I'm pretty sure af is coming. The back ache is something else, like when I had my last mc. Work is super busy (must back away from MN!) so it's keeping me distracted from the epic bawling ranting fit I feel may be around the corner..... What the actual fuck is going on? Why am I not pregnant? Where is my god damn baby?

...that sort of thing...

Anyway. Thanks for the company you lovely lot.

There I was wondering when I WAS pregnant this month how I'd know if it was the aspirin, the stones or the reflexology that worked. Ha! Seems none of it has. Shit bags.

I know what you mean @Anne i am 'working from home' which seems to be more like trawling the MN posts for any indication why I miscarry and why i'm not pregnant...Feel your pain i really do.

So sorry to hear @mulder - hope the rmc can come
Up with some
Answers for you.

My first af after the smm has turned up today so we are on exactly the same day @dancingunicorn and I have to say I was relieved and cheered and it means my system and cycle are getting back to normal after the miscarriage - I am going to book another relexology and hope next month will be the month for us! We are going to see
Our counsellor again and we have a consultants appt in a few weeks for a discussion about the miscarriages and my medical history - not rmc as such but an opportunity to sit down and discuss it all!
I had a bit of a low moment the other day when the midwife rang to ask how the pregnancy was progressing and to remind
Me about my next appt!!! I have to say I wasn't v calm
With her! Dh has made a complaint and they have investigated and sent us an apology! Just really did not need that!

Hi everyone, hope you are all doing ok.

Things have been on my mind a lot recently, the start of a new month has set me off feeling v down & negative about everything TTC.

I think also because it means that next month will be 1 year since I had the MMC.

Just cannot believe we are almost 1 year down the line and no pregnancy.
What got me through last summer was the thought that we would TTC straight away, convinced I'd be pregnant again by the end of 2016.

Any tips for coping with it all? Up until now I've just believed it would happen v soon, but that's now wearing very thin.

To "get over" the MMC, I knew becoming pregnant again was the solution. Finding it difficult to rationalise it not happening 1 year down the line.

Also, a colleague told me she was pregnant yesterday and that really sent me off in a spiral of negative feelings. Of course, I was happy for her and did the smiles & congratulations etc.

She has an 18 month old and she was talking about not wanting too big an age gap etc etc
She doesn't know about my MMC so I can't blame her, but I really had to just walk away before it made me cry.

Probably thinks I'm a weirdo now.

It's just so hard...I never do pregnancy testing usually, had some cheap ones at home so did one this morning, no idea why- felt compelled to!

Anyhow, am CD23 and of course BFN & made myself feel worse!

Just need to vent.
I'm at work and posting on here, which I practically never do, but just need some words of positivity.

Am really started to feel in a panic about everything, my birthday is in a couple of months- I'll be 39 and so I only feel that things will get harder