40+ ttc: the one where we all get knocked up!

[ababsurdum]

Shiny new thread. Here's the link to the previous one.

Clara I'm so sorry to hear that :(

Hello everyone just checking in to see how you all are x

Oh Clara. So so sorry . I hope you are bearing up as best you can.

Sorry to hear your news, Clara. Big hugs to you

Hi everyone. Sorry, I haven't posted in ages. I've just caught up reading the thread but sooo much has happened I don't think I'm going to be able to respond to everyone so apologies in advance.

Clara, so sorry about your loss . It's never easy but hopefully will not be physically painful for you. Fingers crossed it's over soon and you can start trying again.

Fuzzy really feeling for you at this time of year, it must be so hard. I'm so glad you've been able to start your new protocol, it's something positive to focus on at this difficult time

Welcome to all the new people - I hope your stay here is brief (in a good way!).

Thanks for thinking of me Pies. I'm 13dpo and AF is due today. I neither feel pg nor as if AF is coming. I'm sure she will be making an appearance soon but at least she'll be gone by Christmas Day. We've been ttc a year now (post mc). Totally fed up with it all now hence my absence.

Good luck to us all

Good luck Ababs!

Thank you ladies, I'm feeling ok, decided to go back to work today as we had some nice Xmas parties. Not had pain so far so hoping w/e ok. Like you say Fuzzy conceiving at all was a step forward so trying to focus on that..... I was really keeping my hopes damp so it's not too bad...... Feel like I have a reasonable plan as gonna try EOD 10-17..... And if not IUI.

It does look as if my progesterone is generally low. Does anyone know if there's anything you can do abt that?

Ooooh we need some BFPs on this thread for Christmas and if not definitely for 2017. Fingers xed for ababs, Ali and anyone else in tww and for your protocol Fuzzy. Xxxx

Hi Ababs 👋🏻 Sorry - it must be taking its toll on you. Here's hoping 2017 is a better year for both of us. Yes, I'm despising this time of year. On the 23rd my boy will have been gone for longer than he was with me. Merry Shitmas x

Glad you're feeling philosophical, Clara. I've read that Agnus Castus can help with progesterone. I took it after a mc but in my case it just seemed to bugger up my cycle; however, my hormone levels were tested the month before and they were all normal, so maybe if you take it when you don't need it, it's counterproductive. In my mmc my progesterone was so high it indicated a healthy pregnancy, which meant that they wouldn't give me a D&C for ages, much to my annoyance. My issue is egg quality. There's also progesterone cream, I think, which your doc might prescribe....?

The blank square is supposed to be a waving hand...!

That's really tough Fuzzy.... I'm so sorry!

Inevitably I'm feeling sadder today and bad headache which is maybe hormones settling as I always get it pre AF. Not so much abt this pg, as I cd see when they scanned it wasn't viable, but abt whether it can still happen at all. It's hard to know how to think abt it because I know I'm extremely lucky to have two healthy dc. I just always wanted 3 (or 4..!) so wish (don't we all) I was just a bit younger. But what's the point in that!! I I'm do have many friends and family members who had their first at 41/42/43 so am optimistic for those of you in that bracket. But I don't personally know anyone who conceived naturally after that tho they say it can happen.

Anyway, a gynae doc I saw in Nov said try EOD in the key week, not ED, and as it happened that's what we had done last month when I conceived. So that's why I'm thinking to try that for a few months. Also gonna do the post ov progesterone test and see what that says.

I hear you Ababs... Fingers xed next few days for you.

Clara sorry you're feeling down. It's perfectly understandable and I too have some regrets (why didn't we start ttc #2 sooner etc.) so I know how you feel. I don't know anything about low progesterone I'm afraid. I've never had mine tested so completely oblivious to any issues I might have there. for you, and if you feel like it.

Fuzzy how sad. I guess the milestones never stop when you lose a child. There's always their birthdays, how long they've been gone etc. My heart aches for you, I hope you get some much deserved happiness soon. How long did you say that you need to take this set of drugs for?

Well AF turned up for me today. It was 3 days later than I expected and I tested yesterday twice but bfn. I'm not sure what's going on as my LP is generally 12 days but I've had a few months lately when it's been 15. I'm pretty sure I ovulated on cd13 - I had a +ve opk that morning and a fair amount of ovulation pain that night. It's probably just my age (44, going on 45).

Well ababs, better to have a longer LP. Sorry about af. I know you're feeling battle-weary. So wish you'd ended this year off with some good news

I'm on cyclo progynova until next Sunday. Haven't really noticed anything other than an increase in CM. I should have a withdrawal bleed 4-7 days after the last tablet, and then it's stims from day 2 as per a normal short protocol. Got my orange matchmakers in the fridge all ready for my injection rewards (if they last that long... mmm, matchmakers.... think I'll have some matchmakers..... oh.... think I'd better buy another box)

Thanks Fuzzy, you too. Fingers crossed this cycle works for you.

How are you feeling today, Fuzzy?
Sorry to hear AF turned up, ababsurdum. It's particularly cruel if it does so after a delay. You don't want to get your hopes up, but you do and then it's doubly cruel if AF turns up.

I'm in tww limbo and full symptom spotting paranoia. Unfortunately most symptoms are also side effects of the progesterone, so I can't take any hope from fatigue, light dizziness and really rather sore breasts. I'm partly hopeful and partly preemptively despondent upon expecting AF to turn up after all. So, all within normal parameters really. ;)

AF has turned up. I just wanted something positive this month.

That sucks, City :( The only positive I can think of is that you can now have alcohol for the christmas celebrations without guilt, but it still sucks. hugs if you want them.

Well, this has been a pretty crappy couple of days on the thread. all around. Pick your poison!

So sorry for the mc, Clara. They are so hard. Ups and downs are inevitable, I'm afraid. I hope things feel a bit better soon.

fuzzy thinking of you. I hope you get some positive news out of this cycle to help a bit.

ababs sorry that your period came. It's so disappointing when you're a few days late. Long term ttc is so boring. A longer lutéal phase doesn't seem bad. If you feel like it, enjoy some nice wine over Christmas.

City sorry that the witch got you, too!

Cthulhuhope all those symptoms are more than just the progesterone talking.

Somewhere around mid-cycle here. DH is claiming he has man flu so not a lot of excitement for sex. I think what he really has is a cold complicated by two nights on the trot of heavy drinking over the weekend. We have agreed to differ.

Good luck to us all, and for those with bad ttc luck, I hope you enjoy some delicacies forbidden when pregnant over Christmas.

Sorry that my autocorrect added a random accent. Not sure why the dictionary only knows the word luteal in French!

City - that sucks but get this horrible bit out of the way, then the positive hormones will kick in just in time for xmas.

AF is due for me on xmas day! I will have to drink my way through it!

Cthul, fingers crossed for you. What dpo are you?

Ali I hope Christmas Day brings exciting news, then!

Alibaba I'm 7 dpo. The clinic would have scheduled a pregnancy test for December 23rd (we're away over xmas, though, so I couldn't make it), so I figure that's the earliest day I'll test. A whole four days from today!

City I am cheering myself with thoughts of mulled wine and Brie! (Though I have just made a healthy non-alcoholic egg nog). for you, AF sucks.

Cthulhoo you just had IUI I think? Wishing you the best of luck and a bfp in a few days.

Thanks for the kind thoughts Pies. Hopefully your dh can man up in time

Only cd2 here. We should be ttc from Christmas Day onwards which I guess is quite nice. Going to keep to EOD and a bit longer than I normally would just in case. I probably need to order more opk's. long time ttc really is boring!

Thank you Pies.. Hope Dh can banish flu in time..

Oh Ababs such a pain.., I hate it when AF decides to be a bit late but then turn up just when yr starting to hope. and for you..

City for you too ... Sorry re AF.. Such a pain, roll on 2017!

Good luck for protocol Fuzzy

Ali and Cthuloo looks like our Xmas bfp hopes pinned on you... Good luck!

ababsurdum ooh, mulled wine and brie, an excellent combination! If you're CD 2 now you'll be in the lucky position to have a guilt-free drink on Christmas and then

Yes, had IUI and am feeling intermittently hopeful (and intermittently resigned and preemptively resentful that my Christmas will be spoilt by AF). Timing was right and both our values were good, so I'm quite confident there was fertilisation but of course that doesn't mean there was / is going to be implantation.

Hey all. Thanks for all the good wishes. There is a lot going on in my life right now that I don't want to discuss in public so I will probably just lurk occasionally on here to make sure you're all still DTD.

Best wishes and may santa bring one of you a BFP.

Take care, life is short.

Sorry to hear that City. Hope you're ok. PM me if you want to chat privately.

I'm definitely cramping today which I get every month followed by spotting. So I'm not hopeful.