40+ ttc: the one where we all get knocked up!

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Shiny new thread. Here's the link to the previous one.

I'm thinking of you, too Fuzzy.

Same here, Fuzzy. Sending hugs

Thank you all so much. It's been as bad as I imagined it would be. Can't believe I've lived without him for a whole year. It feels like yesterday. Xx

Oh Fuzzy, it's heartbreaking to think about what you have been through and thats just thinking when you have had to live it. You have done so well to survive this year and even then bring positivity to conversations like this one. I can't imagine that I would ever have managed that in similar circumstances.. That is a huge tribute to your gorgeous son... He must have been a real trouper just like his mum! All of us on this thread and I'm sure all your friends and family in RL are sending our thoughts, prayers, most positive vibes, whatever it is we do to you and your husband, for these days. And also for the soon arrival of your second child, so you can continue your amazing job with your lovely one's little bro or sis xxxxxxx

Fuzzy life is amazing and it can also be incredibly cruel - you have endured the unimaginable. I'm wishing hard for a second child for you and your dh. It won't take away the pain but will hopefully make it a little easier to bear

Cd10 today and more ewcm, no static smiley yet. Need to dtd tonight despite being knackered from a 4am start thanks to toddler ds. There should be a tired emoticon.

The two friends that I suspected were pregnant announced this week. They are about 10 years younger than me so I can't be too jealous.

I hope you pregnant ladies are faring well. I remember wearing white panty liners when I was on knickerwatch with ds - you are not alone in your paranoia!

Is anyone else due to test? We seem to be on a bit of a roll.

My symptoms have been non existent today. I'm 6 weeks. I know they come and go but it doesn't stop me worrying. My poor boobs will be bruised I've poked them so much today and my neighbour saw me having a grope in my kitchen.

The only thing I've got is slightly swollen boobs - they don't hurt at all, whereas they were agony almost straight away last time. No other symptoms - I've had headaches, which is unusual for me but I'm not attributing them to being pg. So, don't know. Can't get excited yet. I called the EPAU earlier and they want to do an early scan when I'm six weeks. In fact it will be 6 + 2. Seems very early to me but I guess they know best.

It's a worrying time Bloop, sadly there's not much anyone can say that will make it any easier.

I know what you mean Gizmojo. With DS we had a scan at 6+5 and it was a relief to see the heartbeat etc. Luckily there were no problems with that pregnancy. I had a scan at 7 weeks last year when I had the mmc and all was well but the Harmony scan at 10 weeks showed the baby had stopped growing around 8 weeks so the first scan gave me false hope. Although in my head I knew something could still go wrong, the odds were low enough that I really thought all would be ok. I still think I would have an early scan though, it's such a long wait otherwise.

Thank you clara and ababs for your lovely words. I'm having a week off from dieting & obsessing about ttc to focus on my little boy. Another friends son died of sepsis the day after Billy-Joe so it's been a very sad weekend.

Wishing Bloop and Giz my very best. I understand the anxiety. I just knew that Billy-Joe was a healthy baby by the fact that I had my head down the toilet every day from 6 weeks. It's so reassuring to have strong symptoms. I was scanned at 6w 0days with Billy-Joe as I had some pain & bleeding. I'd had an ectopic the month before he was conceived so I went straight to surgical assessment expecting the same. He was perfect with a very clear heartbeat. So as long as your dates are right I don't think 6w is too early.

Thanks ababs and fuzzy it shouldn't be this scary!

I had my scan today and there was a tiny wee blob with a heartbeat measuring 6weeks.

Bloop that's fantastic!

Wonderful news Bloop. Hope you can relax a little now.

Oh wow, Fuzzy that does sound like a really sad weekend. How awful. I hope you're doing ok

Bloop that's lovely news! Hope it's eased your mind a bit.

Thanks all :)

I'm not really wanting to leave this forum/post as it's so much friendlier than some of the others I've looked at here. I hope you don't mind if I stay here a while longer.

whew! Thank goodness bloop!

AF finally came on cd67. Onwards and upwards.

Please stay Bloop. As much as I'm sure you'd rather be in the alumni, I'm hoping to keep in touch with you and see you through to your happy ending

Bloop I always feel a bit sad when people graduate to the pg thread and we don't hear how they're getting on so I'm more than happy for you to stay.

I'm on cd13 today. I think I may have ovulated on cd11 as I had ov pain then and boobs now sore. Going to keep dtd eod until cd15 though just in case.

mrsbarnettsbaby that's a looong cycle.

Gosh yes, that's a really long cycle, mrsbarnettsbaby!

ababs did you get your static smiley in the end?

Glad to hear you're staying, bloop. I'll be staying for a while too, if that's ok with everyone? I realise I'm the worst type of poster - rock up here and then get a bfp not long after... I'm not feeling confident about it at all, though. Still no symptoms other than slightly swollen boobs.

Gizmojo no I didn't though it would have been really early, around cd10, and I was only testing in the morning then. Dtd fail last night as I fell asleep on the sofa and dh went to bed. I don't hold out much hope this cycle!

I didn't have early symptoms with my two pregnancies (one full term, one not) so try not to worry too much. You don't need to have your head stuck down a toilet to have a healthy, successful pregnancy

Ah, I see. I always find opks really tricky to time right - although I've just used the cheapie ones. Re missing dtd last night, remember the swimmers are good for a few days!

Thanks for the reassurance. To be fair, neither of my sisters had much in the way of symptoms with their first either but last time I was pregnant (mmc) I had really sore boobs almost straight away and was running to the loo all the time. Anyway. No point driving myself nuts, I guess. Have to wait for the scan in a couple of weeks.

Sorry to be away for a while. Hurrah for seeing a heartbeat, Bloop! Wonderful news. I hope you and Giz stick around. I never had much in the way of pg symptoms either.

That is a crazy cycle, MrsBarnett. Crazy-making, too, I bet.

Ababs hope the swimmers stuck around. Quickie before work?

Fuzzy I hope you're doing okay.

I've got my smear test in the morning. I only stopped bleeding on a super long AF yesterday, cd10. First one post-mc. No sex tonight as that must be a problem for the smear, no?