40+ ttc: the one where we all get knocked up!

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Shiny new thread. Here's the link to the previous one.

Call me a cynical old fart, but I honestly think the money's better spent on medical fertility treatment!

Hello ladies, AF showed up here too so back to cd1.. Feeling but gloomy but hey ho...Fuzzy, I hope 41/42 will still be good for you. Like you I fell q quickly late 30s with dc1. Dc2 took a year to conceive but arrived just b4 my 42nd birthday. Hoping same for you and all other Spring chickens on here ;-). Bloop, hope you're hanging in there!

Well I'm on cd7 today. I started using the dual hormone opk's yesterday (based on my shortest cycle) and today I get a flashing smiley. Wtf is going on? If I'm going to ovulate so early then I'm already out this month, I can't imagine the egg will be mature enough. We will ttc anyway, maybe I still won't ovulate until a bit later but . No ewcm yet, I usually don't start getting that until cd8.

Clara101 sorry AF got you too.

The S&B thread on 80's lipstick made me chuckle. We all used to wear twilight teaser

Oh sh*t. Ladies. Help.

I've been quietly doing 2ww (currently 8dpo) and was a bit concerned that my temp dropped about 0.1 celsius both yesterday and today. For god knows what reason, I decided to poas and.... faint positive on a FRER (though bfn on internet cheapie. Yeah, I know). I'm now kicking myself, thinking that the temp drops may mean this is a chemical and I've wasted a test and got my hopes up. Not least because I don't really have symptoms - like, boobs have felt 'full' but not sore at sides like they did last time I was pg and like most months post-ov. Don't even know whether to tell OH as I'm pretty sure he'll be annoyed with me for testing so early and I'm concerned signs aren't good.

This process is a horror. Misery if you get a bfn but can't enjoy a bfp (or 'little thin positive' in my case) either!

Gizmojo it's the curse of testing early isn't it. All you can do is hang on and see what happens. Tentative congratulations, wishing you lots of luck.

Thanks, ababs. I've never tested this early before, I've no idea what got into me. Like I say, the big dilemma now is whether or not to tell DH.

Gizmojo I hope it's good news! I'm not sure that I'd feel I had news to tell until I had a majority of bfp. Right now you've got a split decision. But DH is very much of the he'd prefer not to know the details camp.

Weird about the early positive ovulation test, ababs. Maybe the dual hormone Ines don't work well for you? Or maybe you'll get several days of flashing smileys?

Clara sorry about AF. It's a real drag.

Fuzzy I hope your blocked chakras don't hold you back!

Pies I've used them before with no issues, it's probably just indicative of my increasingly erratic cycle. Hopefully I'll get a few days of flashing before I ovulate - day 9 or 10 would just be silly!

Gizmojo - when I temped and got pg they were all over the place up and down. They say to stop as soon as you get your bfp as they're unreliable. Some people have implantation dips others don't. All your temp can tell you really is that you ovulated in the past.

ababs you can get the flashing smiley for days or even a week before the static face appears. What it's telling you is your estrogen is starting to increase. Don't panic.

/bloop runs around panicking/

Thanks Bloop, the package indicates that it's only the couple of days before the LH surge plus I've never had one so early when using them - I normally wouldn't have even started yet. Hopefully I'll hang on a little longer.

How are things with you?

Thanks, guys. I did a CB+ and got a positive on that too, so I guess for now I'm pg. I might still hold off on telling DH for a few days since it's so, so early, though. Maybe if all is ok on the day af is due.

Meanwhile, I'm SO sorry, I came in here flapping and didn't even check in with everyone else about how they're doing. How rude of me. Apologies!!

Hi Ladies,

Sorry i ve been awol so long and hello to new ladies. I ve been reading along but had to take a step back for a while as was really struggling with the whole ttc when we hit the 3yr mark in july. Had decided enough was enough but after a long chat with dh we decided that we d regret not trying ivf so here i am waiting for af (due next wk) to then start the pill with a view to ivf begining of dec with full immune meds.....sometimes wonder if i m crazy but i feel i need to do it to get closure one way or another. Maximum i ll do is two but may well stop at one if it doesn t go well.

Fuzzy - so sorry to hear your
ivf wasn t sucessful this time and have been thinking of you at this difficult time. You ve posted some lovely pics of your beautiful son, he must have been such a joy, my heart aches for you that he was so unfairly taken away and i so hope that you can soon have his little brother/sister.

Pies - i m so sorry about you mc. I was rooting for you. Its bloody tough and i hope you re doing ok.

Abs - i m not sure i trust the dual hormone cblues as this month i also thought i d try them. Started day 9 (first day ecwm) and it was a blank circle, then next day solid smiley !! I didn t believe it and prev months temping and doing the other cbs i usually get my peak 4 days after first ecwm which has fit with ov the next day (also been confirmed with temp rise and scans). So i did a normal cb as well and it was plain circle, got my positive on day 12 so ov day 13 and not 11 as the flashing ones would have me belieive ! I d just keep covering bases until after your normal ov to be sure.

Congrats Bloop on your bfp ! i know how painfully slow time goes, keeping everything crossed for you and also Gizmojo. I d say getting a positive on a CB at 8dpo is a good sign of a quickly rising hcg.

Sorry to anyone i ve missed.

Hula I think you're right, best to have no regrets. Remind me how old you are again. Really hope it works for you.

I'm on cd8 and have had my first ewcm today. Still a flashing smiley on the opk.

Gizmojo congratulations again . Fingers crossed for a sticky one.

Thanks abs, i m 41 but have low amh but hoping there might be one good egg left !

Thanks, ladies, and hi Hula. Hoping ivf goes well for you, totally makes sense what you said about giving it a try.

ababs how long do you normally have the ewcm for before ovulation? Got to say, I can vary from a couple of days to almost a week. Isn't it estrogen that causes it? Fx for you.

How is everyone else doing today?

Congratulations gizmodo!

Thanks, Bloop. How are you getting on?

I don't know Gizmodo. I'm in a ridiculous state of anxiety and think everything is a sign of doom. I really wish I could stop obsessing that everything is about to go wrong. How are you feeling?

The same. I actually went out yesterday and bought white knickers, as mine are all black and I thought it would make knickerwatch easier. Yes. Really.

What's the next step for you, have you been to dr yet?

Oh yes I've been pulling out all the greying pants from yester-year. Glad I'm not the only one. That made me smile... although today I had a proper belly laugh when talking to my mum on the phone & throwing up at the same time while also laughing. It was a you had to be there moment!

OMG, poor you but at the same time yes, I think I would have been laughing myself if that'd been me!

Thinking of you today Fuzzy

Also thinking of you these days Fuzzy.

Congrats Gizmojo, hope you and Bloop hang in there!

Hula, I reckon you are right to give it a go through IVF. 41 is still young (says she almost 44 ;-) ). Sorry I can't remember, did Drs help you get anywhere understanding what cd be causing secondary infertility? Have you explored lifestyle factors? It is always so hard to know but I'm convinced the second helped me finally conceive dc2 born when I was almost 42.

What I mean is AMH etc can be presented to us as a static (depressing) fact but I'm not sure that's correct and overall health, nutritional status, stress levels etc can have a big impact.

Much love fuzzy thinking of you x