First time TTC - thread 3

[Pyjamas81]

A place for all those trying for their first who didn't know their OPKs from their BBTs, their EWCM from their FRERs and everything in between before discovering Mumsnet!

If you're that glorious mix between excited about getting that elusive BFP and terrified - this is the place for you

pyjamas ahh boots are the exception.. I love boots.. I do enjoy the cosy evenings and chunky knit cardigans, just I'd prefer to be able to do everything from indoors which is slightly impractical!

Big temp dip for me this morning, right in time for predicted AF tomorrow Ah well - I wasn't expecting it to be this month so I'm not too disappointed. Onwards and upwards!

Ah rubbish Pyjamas! Hope she doesn't show her face but if she does - I'd be having a large glass of wine and maybe treat yourself to a nice winter wardrobe item!
Definitely onwards and upwards for next month.
We are doing pretty well at dtd this month - hubby looks permanently bewildered though - like I might jump him at any given moment...

Ah crap pjs, hopefully she won't show but floras plan sounds like a good one if she does!

I have no idea what's going on for me, ff says 4dpo (cd14) - I'd be amazed if that was correct. I've just got to wait it out and see what happens. Negative OPK this morning, I'll keep doing them til AF/ff test date - mostly out of curiosity.

Ah crap pj's to the wine! 🍷

flora enjoying the idea of bewildered DH!!

Eva wing it, and poas to your hearts desire!

Hi Ladies, thank you for the very warm welcome as I nervously dip my toes into the TTC pool. You spend a long time trying not to get pregnant but then you start and realise that it is not as easy. I'm on only cycle 2 but it feels like I have been trying for a lot longer.

Eva, Piehunter and Moonlight - Thank you for explaining the cycle as I was not sure of what each stage meant but you have made it clearer for me. I got so confused with the apps that I stuck to using 'my days' to track periods at least. Yes we dtd on Tuesday, Thursday and Friday. I then got the positive opk on Saturday so dtd in the afternoon, Sunday and Monday! Exhausting writing it all down like that. Hopefully we have covered all bases and that we caught it in time. DH is loving it all though. He is in his element! He is trying the see if he gets to dtd everyday for the rest of this week just in case I read my symptoms wrong. Nice try...

I am still puzzles as to how anyone gets bfp as immediately after dtd, It seems to all comes out of me(sorry tmi). I am however, continuing with the opks just in case, . If it doesn't work then for cycle 3 I will introduce the temperature checks too.

Pyjama - oh no! Onwards onto the next cycle but hope it is still bfp. I am also not very good with not drinking. I don't drink much but a glass of wine about 3 days a week. Hope I can stay away from booze now that I am in the 2ww. I had a glass of rose last night, is that bad?

Still no sign of AF for me, but my mood was definitely spiky today! I have ZERO patience and tolerance during run up to AF. Just want to get it over with now so we can do the next cycle properly! Given how early I got a peak reading this time, we'll dtd every other day once AF clears off until peak, then every day for three days, miss a day, then one more for luck. I'm bored already lol.

Looks like you've got all your bases covered notyet!

Yes - I will definitely have a nice glass of wine once AF shows (not that that's any different to the last few weeks ha ha) and yes, winter clothes shopping as a treat!

Hey,
I'm totally new to the site but have been reading group threads for a few weeks to get tips.

TTC #1
Age 24
Cycle 1 (after withdrawal bleed)
CD 17

I was wondering how everyone else's journeys are going. My husband and my libido isn't up till much. So struggling get to DTD.
Does anyone got any advice?

mojitos I just got baby bombed too... someone I used to work with just put a pic of their 12 wk scan on facebook, due March 2017, which is when I would've been due. I can tell you it's not much easier having 're-conceived' knowing that that is where we would be right now, looking at our first scan. I so hope this one sticks... I am feeling sick this time round, which I am taking as a good sign, last time I didn't feel sick at all. How is everyone else doing this evening? Been busy over the BH weekend so just catching up on everyone's updates, nice to see lots of newbies, welcome to you all! Welcome to the madness

pj sorry you feel like af is round the corner, hopefully she isnt but if she does show up next cycle is going to be ours! I've decided I'm done with this one already lol but next month it is happening, I'm so prepared for uber healthy month plus epo, pregnacare and opks for first time!

notyetthere don't we know! It's a miracle anyone gets pregnant let alone all the accidents/we wernt trying/happened the day after I stopped the pill just by him looking at me. You've definately done well, fx for you! Don't worry there are so many millions of sperm you just need one to get in! Apparently it helps if you orgasm at the same time/slightly after as the cervix contracts and sucks it in... dear God I never thought I'd talk about this 😂 what has become of me. There's a good excuse if I ever heard one though!

I accidently poas last night... not sure what I was expecting on cd20 but I've been feeling so sick all the time! What a surprise BFN and my body is just being cruel. Way to waste a 5er clearblue!

cinnamon sorry for that :(. Take some time to yourself and cry or get mad or sulk or whatever you need to but at least you have your little bean now

notyetthere yes it all dribbles out... It's a messy business the first cycle that we conceived I had laid still for a bit each time we'd DTD, to keep it in place in case that helped, before going and cleaning up. After my MC we were supposed to be waiting a month/cycle before trying again so we avoided what I thought was my FW and I didn't bother with lying there, just went and cleaned up straight away, apparently it makes no difference as I got pregnant again, just without getting cystitis in the process and less mess, so much nicer all round really!!

Yes mojitos, next month will be our month if we don't get this one! AF due tomorrow, we'll see what Wednesday brings, but I'm fully expecting her. I even ordered some new cheapie opks! Started my nutrition plan today and already feel better after less carbs Going to pick up some epo as well - what's the recommended way of taking it? I know there's a window, but can't remember what it is or how much you have to take for improving ewcm purposes.

Welcome Mshopey! I hear you on the lack of libido front - me and DH were content with once a week at most, I'm not going to lie, it's a struggle for both of us! But, after a couple of months, it has brought us closer, which is good

Sorry to hear you got baby bombed cinnamon I'd be taking feeling sick as a good sign too though!

Hi all , just checking in.
Nothing going on with me. I had my 1 day AF and have seen nothing since, so having thought I had cancer and then worrying it was PCOS I am a little calmer.

Wish I wasn't such a neurotic hypochondriac but can't help it.

Fingers crossed for lots of BfP's - PJ I hope AF doesn't show for you and this it your month

My horrendous bloating has stopped though and I can fit into my clothes again! 😆

We both work full time and he works morning and I work evenings. We very rarely see each other and he always initiates DTD. We finally agreed to start trying (he's wanted to for years but I finally feel as ready as I am going to be). But we're still finding it hard to find the time, and he's a bit annoyed that I'm pestering him around ovulation, I know people say do it every other day, but we really are lucky to do it once a week. I've tried being sexy but we're both just so tired and I know it's hard enough getting BFP, it's never going to haopen if we can't DTD.
Stresting about it a little as there is some.family history of struggling to conceive.

One more day of AF (hopefully) then getting 'back on the horse' or DP :) this month is going to be more relaxed...I hope, just DTD every 2nd day or so and no OPKs or obsessively staring at Ovia or my CM. I say I hope because we all know that although we would love to be more relaxed TTC is bloody hard work and stressful!

Arr I'm so relieved today - I had a weird feeling yesterday so did an OPK last night and it was positive! Did the clear blue monitor this morning and it is peak!! Put it in ff and it has finally changed ov from day 10. Cd15 today and this is when I expected ov based on last 4 cycles.
DTD last night, used pre-seed, and put legs in the air for a good half hour, and then slept with bum on a pillow - actual crazy woman over here more DTD over next couple of days.
pj and moonlight are you both testing this weekend?
difficult I get that really bad bloating too eugh, are you doing opks this month?
misshopey I was the same, very happy with weekend DTD before TTC but must force yourself now, and when it becomes more routine your libido may go up naturally (although there will still be nights it's the last thing you want to do, but think of the end goal)

Looking good Eva! Glad you managed to catch ov - fingers crossed!!

AF due today and fully expecting her as have had two temp dips in a row now, but if she doesn't show (which she will), I'll be testing on Fri. Oh well, am going away with DH this weekend, so can at least let my hair down!

Welcome Hopey!

That looks like a strong line Eva (I know nothing about OPKs though...) Get jumping on hubby!

'm having a tough few days, a new management organisation was announced at my work this week along with a statement for additional information to follow - my instinct would say this is another consultation period for further redundancies. Very difficult to say how I feel - disappointed more than anything. Know work is not everything and obviously TTC means I should be looking beyond that but TTC could take us a long time and can't put all my eggs (unintended pun!) into that basket as it'll just be additional disappointment each month if we don't fall. Guess its just a matter of taking each day as it comes until it is announced but I'm pretty gutted.

Still in my FW but didn't DTD last night with everything that's going on in my head. Hopefully won't make a difference and we'll get on the case tonight!

I'm having a tough few days, a new management organisation was announced at my work this week along with a statement for additional information to follow - my instinct would say this is another consultation period for further redundancies. Very difficult to say how I feel - disappointed more than anything. Know work is not everything and obviously TTC means I should be looking beyond that but TTC could take us a long time and can't put all my eggs (unintended pun!) into that basket as it'll just be additional disappointment each month if we don't fall. Guess its just a matter of taking each day as it comes until it is announced but I'm pretty gutted.

Still in my FW but didn't DTD last night with everything that's going on in my head. Hopefully won't make a difference and we'll get on the case tonight!

Apologies for posting that paragraph twice! [blush[

Hi guys mind if I jump on here too?

I have just taken my last pill today so will have my withdrawal bleed from the weekend. Me and my partner are both 28 (I'll be 29 in Nov) and this will be our first time TTC. I have been on the pill for 11 years so who knows what my cycle will be like now. It was exactly 28 days before I went on the pill so fingers crossed it goes back to normal. I do have some slight apprehension about starting this journey now as I feel a lot of people will think I am only doing it as my dad sadly lost his battle with cancer a month ago today. Although this is something me and my OH have been discussing for a while now.

Florafoxtrot, all you can do is just think positive, worrying doesn't get us anywhere, especially on this journey. Much easier said than done, trust me, I know, but like you said, just got to wait and see what comes your way xx

Bassetmum, it's your journey and things have a way of working themselves out. Got to worry about little less about what other people will think and more about what will make you happy. I've always said I'd never have kids, but I was younger and less prepared. Now I've decided to TTC with the husband i was talking to the family hypothetically about me being a mom, my mom said I'm lazy and selfish and wouldn't be very good at it. I was mortified, gobsmacked, and to be quite honest, really hurt. And I know she is wrong. I have so much love in me, I am patient, a hard worker, kind, careful, considerate. I dont know which person she was talking about, but it surely can't be me!

Hello all, hope you don't mind if I jump in?

Just joined a week ago and totally new to ttc - I've spent the last 13 years actively avoiding pregnancy and fully admit, I didn't know my ewcm from my elbow

So, I'm 33
Cycle 1
CD23
7-8 dpo (I think!)

Basset mum - I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, my heart goes out to you

I lost my mum very unexpectedly to cancer in May (diagnosed on the Friday, and passed away within a fortnight)

I completely understand your apprehension, the same feelings have crossed my mind too as DH and I have just started ttc #1.

Ultimately, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks - what's important, is that you and your partner feel ready.

Also, I can't help but think that your friends and family would be so pleased for you if you fell pregnant - I feel like my friends and family want some good news for me, I wouldn't call it a distraction, but I think some well deserved happiness, if that makes sense?! x

Hopey - what a horrible thing to say!

Chin up, and don't let it upset you - I like to think that part of the fun of having kids, is having grandkids in the future - maybe she's forgotten that you're an integral part of that happening?!

Skee, I think it's absolutely mad that after worrying that and stressing and doing everything going possible to not get pregnant, we're all now doing the opposite. I can't get my head around it at all. And until I started TTC I didn't know a thing about actally trying to get pregnant. They spend so long in health class trying to tell you not to get pregnant no one mentions how weird and hard it is when it is time to try. I think alost everyone thinks it will happen straight away. I think we all know someone who missed one pill and got a baby, or used a condom and still got a baby. Yet when you're actually doing everything perfect it can still take ages. And I think I'm not the only one that worries that after 6 weeks of trying how can I not be pregnant?!?!?! Maybe it will never happen for me. I am definitely one to make myself stress.