First time TTC - thread 3

[Pyjamas81]

A place for all those trying for their first who didn't know their OPKs from their BBTs, their EWCM from their FRERs and everything in between before discovering Mumsnet!

If you're that glorious mix between excited about getting that elusive BFP and terrified - this is the place for you

Oh no warwick!! Sorry you're feeling like this. What cycle are you? Can you get help yet?

The last 48 hrs have been MEH for me.

I found out the date for the funeral of my Aunty is next Tuesday.

I've been feeling really heavy in the tummy and boobs. Weird niggly gassy pops and fizzing in my tummy. A few little spots on my chin (and I NEVER get spots) DH commented quite sweetly there might be a baby in there (and as much as I wish that were true I know it's not)

Temps have been high, but I've put that down to me not feeling 100% and sorry TMI I've had non-urgent diarrhea and all the feelings with that also. Also another reason I think my gassy belly is just that. Gas.

But if I needed to be reminded that AF is on her way my temp crashed through the floor this morning. Ah well, I just wish she would turn up now so I can start the cycle again of doubt and hope.

Oh and then this morning I saw a single magpie, and a guy who smelt so bad of wacky backy and tobacco sat next to me on the tram to work. So I arrived with a massive headache.

Does anyone else want to top my poop day hahaha.

Mouse oh dear! Not the most fantastic day but it is hump day so hopefully the countdown to the weekend is more pleasant. As I have seen many ladies say on these posts... it's not really over until AF shows up! So there is still a chance...

To all the ladies who were discussing careers and jobs... as if by magic an agency has called and said a firm is very interested in me... eeek! I haven't even TTC yet, been looking forward to FW but having all sorts of doubts again now! Why is life written so ironically!

Wantingbaby hi!

I'm a newbie too! Cd is your cycle day. So if AF started on 1st (as she did so kindly for me) today is 12th so CD 12 (Days from day1 of AF).

Ov seems a bit tricky when you come off the pill so maybe the other ladies can help with tracking ov in that circumstance... x

Ah thanks for the explanation! I'm CD 9 in that case :)

Wantingbaby Hi!

I am still getting use to all the abbreviations also. I got my period on the 3rd also and myCD (cycle date) is 10. So you would CD 10 You count from the first day of your period.

Heather it sure is - as my mom would say there is never a right moment to have a baby - but if its sometime you want you will never regret it.

Mouse sorry to hear you are having a terrible day. But you never know! With your aunty you are probably all over the place - our bodies play games when we are stressed. Positive thoughts your way and hope the day gets better.

Thanks Hells ! CD 10 it is. Are you trying any ovulation tests? Not sure when (or where!) to start but I have some Internet cheepies

Wanting Think I am going to wait a few months before I move onto the ovulation tests. If nothing happens I will get some in January. I just use an app on my phone.
So DTD last night (just decided to start last night didn't look at the app or anything) - then today looking at the app I started my fertile period according to it. I don't really know to much about ovulation either but I have a feeling over the next few months I will be a expert!

warwick you aren't alone. Please remember that. Ttc is awful at times and exciting and emotional and just shit. And that's ignoring all the hormones. You will get there by hook or by crook. Let yourself wallow and feel the shittyness and then just tell yourself ok enough. I'm going to smile and be busy and it gets easier. It will pass I promise. I was exactly where you are for the last few months and still am. But I'm getting there and starting to feel more like myself.

Welcome to all the newbies! The abbreviations are fun to figure out lol. There is a glossary on mumsnet so you can cheat (it's what I did the first few months lol)

I'm still feeling wobbly after last night but determined to distract myself. My health still isn't great but doc said I'm getting there albeit slowly.

mouse sending I'm sure AF will rear her ugly head when she's good and ready (callous cow that she is) but just try and distract yourself for now, got enough on your plate remembering your aunt. And remember come and rant when needed!

Good luck to those with exciting job prospects!

Thanks ladies. Much appreciated.
It's weird, I don't feel like I'm going to have AF. I just hope something, anything happens this weekend for the sake of my sanity lol

In to the 2ww you go pj fx for you! Are you going to keep testing again just in case?

Congrats on the job blissful!

Sorry for the baby bomb busy. It's really shit, I know. I had an one too last month, a friend posted her scan pic on fb with her due date the same week mine would have been if I hadn't mc and it hit me much harder than I thought it would. Hope you're taking some time to yourself and just remember that them having a baby does not affect your odds at all. I know it's crap but fx for you soon. And glad you're keeping busy and feeling a bit better.

Welcome newbies! Welcome to the madness!

I'm 5+6 today. I was referred for a scan on Sunday as was having really bad pain but everything is OK and there is a little bean with a heartbeat in there already. It's completely crazy. I mc last time at 6+4 so still got a while to go yet until I start to relax a bit though. Turns out I have a cyst on one of my ovaries which is causing some of the pain combined with just a bad belly I think, which isn't helped by the fact I'm so anxious.

Sorry about the temp drop mouse :(

Hey moonlight!!!!!!

Guess what I'll be torturing myself with later...

Gah. Three of my subscribed YouTube channels just announced they are preggers. And now my feed is full of videos like this.

Another baby bomb today that's 5 ladies in waiting now. Just shoot me in the face please.

Ok I am now over the 2ww. Had enough of crazy symptom spotting, apps telling me what to do and me driving myself round the bend.

Along with the sore boobs, today I have developed a new symptom of nipples that could cut glass. In my job I have the joy of wearing a tshirt which means I feel like my nipples have been on show all day. Been to the gym for Body Balance and even with my sports bra you could see them! Anyone need somewhere to hang a coat?

I think I am 8dpo so Sunday will be 12dpo, AF due Tuesday so reckon I will test Sunday. In the meantime I will look at my wardrobe and work out what is going to keep these nips under control!

Oh :( totally understand the torture Mouse & Bliss. We've so many pregnant ladies at work. People joke there's something in the water

Oh Bliss it's crap isn't it. I work with 5 pregnant ladies. One was in the HR office today when I nipped in and she was talking about giving birth and the older ladies in the room were advising she take the drugs. She's got such a beautiful bump, she's petite and pretty and I look at her and know she wasn't even trying, it was a "happy accident" that she's not ready for. And here I am being totally weird looking at her bump like it's a damn shiny diamond.

Sorry for all the baby bombs guys!

I got back off holiday today, ov'd earlier this month, day 16 instead of the day 20 it's been, lots of dtd over the week we were away- which happened to be fertile week. Today I'm 5dpo which is only cd22 and I've just had the tiniest bit of pink spotting when I went for a wee... Totally freaking out as this would be a crazy short cycle, could just be really random spotting from holiday messing with body? but it's perfect timing for implantation bleed?! I have a 10 day LP so will only be waiting 5 more days max til I know. I'm a little bit scared and a little bit excited..!

Major FX for you pie, we need some BFP fairy dust to come and sprinkle on us!!

Boo to all the baby bombs Hope those of you that have been hit by one recently feel better soon

Fx for you monkey! All sounding promising - not long to go now...

Glad to hear you're feeling more like yourself busy and really hope everything settles for you soon.

Cheapie OPK tested again today mojitos and got a very welcome clear negative. Please please please let that be the one and only surge this month! I'm going to test for the next few days just in case, but honestly, if I get another surge, I don't think we could even manage it ha ha. Tonight was the fourth night in a row! That's it for dtd until Friday, and then relaaaaaax. Before the symptom spotting after a few days...

Hello to all the newbies! FX for Pie and Monkey. I'm working from home today but in fact just fiddling with Ovia (which I've just downloaded - before was just using a period tracker). Does anyone else just endlessly play with the settings ('what if I say I got my period on CD 12?! How will it cope with that!') - I take a really childish joy in it (and then change it all back to the truth, of course!)

Welcome back pie
mouse when are you residing? Good luck!
lisa admittedly I have done that before too!

Cd28 here and another bfn on ic. Just wish AF would show her ugly face now. Have booked in at private fertility clinic for end of Nov as something to keep me going.

CD1 here. Really quite light so far which is odd for me but no reading anything into it other than my body messing with my mind.
Sorry about all the baby bombs, they really are absolutely everywhere and you really don't notice until you start TTC. On that subject.... Janet Jackson?! Pregnant at 50! Wowza! They really can do anything these days.

Hahaha Lisa - I don't move stuff around in PeriodTracker but I do spend a lot of time doing period maths in my head... Think I need to get a hobby.

Eva residing? Testing?
I'm not sure actually. Today is CD28 off my pill. I think if AF hasn't showed up by next weekend that would give me enough cause to test?? I've never POAS before.

I was terrified the first time I POAS Mouse (missed my pill once a few months ago and was sure I was pregnant lol)

I think AF not coming is reason enough to do one, at least it puts your mind at rest and if its negative you know you'll just have to wait a bit longer for your cycle to get back to normal.

I used to POAS almost constantly as a teenager(!) - even though used both pill and condoms with my first boyfriend I was constantly convinced it would fail and I'd get knocked up! The funny thing is though that neither I or any of my friends had much clue about how conception actually works - so I remember my friend testing a couple of days after a split condom and us all celebrating that she wasn't pregnant... As it turns out she wasn't, but I now know the test couldn't have told her that!

My best friend from school (only person who knows about TTC apart from DH) and I were joking about this the other day when I told her I was a bit sad about getting my period. All those years of 'thank god I'm not pregnant!' and then, suddenly, a complete reverse!