First time TTC - thread 3

[Pyjamas81]

A place for all those trying for their first who didn't know their OPKs from their BBTs, their EWCM from their FRERs and everything in between before discovering Mumsnet!

If you're that glorious mix between excited about getting that elusive BFP and terrified - this is the place for you

Well I don't know what to expect Pyjamas I had the implant until April and then switched to the pill so I could prevent a bleed over our wedding/honeymoon if I needed to.

After 2 years of no periods on the implant I started to have fairly "regular" periods and I managed to track them for nearly a year so I still have the data. They were anywhere between 27 days - 49 days but averaged at 39 days. I don't know if that's what my "real" cycles will be like now I'm off contraception or if they'll return to a shorter cycle.

Heather I absolutely feel you on the doubts about whether I'm doing the right thing re. work. I have a bit of a complicated situation because I'm a researcher on a three-year temporary contract (I started a whole thread about it here!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2726765-To-have-decided-to-have-a-baby-while-on-a-temporary-contract). My big problem is that if we don't conceive within a year then I think we'll have to put it all on hold because that will put my mat leave way too close to end of contract. The sooner the better, really - but I'm trying not to make myself feel under even more under pressure!

Another slight complicated work situation here! I'm currently under collective consultation for redundancy - and if we fall this month or next then I'll still be under that banner. I can't tell them - firstly it would be too early for me to be expected to tell anyone and secondly - I might as well write my own P45 but at the same time I do will feel incredibly guilty if someone loses their job and I keep mine while knowing that I'll be going off on maternity leave.

CD29 here and I have all the symptoms under the sun of both pregnancy and AF. My back is a bit tender, my boobs feel huge and heavy, my hips are sore (almost as if I've been running which I definitely have not!) and I've had a few rather "fruity" dreams the past few nights... According to my App my average cycle is 31 days - but that has been warped by a really odd 37 day cycle two months ago so I know full well that I could probably test - but am too scared for that at the moment so just torturing myself instead...
Oh the joys eh ladies?!

So still waiting to hear how my interview went but noticed they have put out a new advert for the post. Awkward. Although they did say they had more than one post available but still. Haven't seen my hubby since Thursday last week due to working nights and I'm so tired today there is no way we will dtd. On cd 14 but stopped having ewcm on yesterday. think weve missed this month.

Sorry about your aunt mouse

Sorry for the bfn Eva

Yey for the static pj

And I hope the rest of us get a spurt of good mood and luck soon.

Blooming heck I wonder what they said to get their message deleted.

Anywho. Flora I think you should test!!!! How you are waiting it out past 28 days is beyond me. Lol.

Ladies, I think it's natural for you to sideline or not focus on your career quite so much. I've certainly given less of a damn recently. Lol

Totally agree with Mouse, you should test Flora FX for you!

That's almost exactly like me MrsG! I got my implant taken out in March (had it in for three years), then went on pill to cover wedding and honeymoon!

Wowsers flora you just be itching to test! Although I quite like putting it off as the fantasy of 'maybe' is sometimes more enjoyable than the 'definitely not'.

Fx for interview blissful - I bet the ad was for the other job

Just did another cheapie OPK after work (had another strong positive this morning with line darker than control line) - this now looks on the negative side to me? Which would be good!!

Must dtd again tonight, and tomorrow, and Friday. Then we're done! Unless I get a second surge again, then I'll cry ha ha.

I keep forgetting to attach pic! This was this afternoon's OPK - negative I think! Hope so, want surge to be over!

Update: I got the job! Lord knows how? I have to give 12 weeks notice in my current job so won't start til January. Had a chat with DH and we agree that we still want to carry on trying. They can't legally reconsider the offer if I announced next month that I was pg (fx) and I'd be happy to work all the way up to just before popping. It will just be one awkward phone call.

Pj I can't comment on the opk as I have 0 experience but your plans sounds like you will be covered. Fx!

Congratulations, blissful!

Congratulations blissful! I recently started a new job and we have decided to try anyway. Not sure if you're aware but most jobs need you to have been with current employer for at least 20 something weeks by the time you reach the date that's 15 weeks before due date to qualify for statutory maternity pay. Not sure if it's all jobs though!

Thanks ladies

I'm actually working for the same employer. I work at a hospital and I'm just moving to another unit. So I will still have all my maternity entitlement if and when I get pg.

Ok I need someone who understands and I know you guys will. My dh just had a call from his best mate. They are pregnant. Due the same week I would be due. I feel like someone just broke a little bit of me away. Is that pathetic?

It was their first go.

Ugh I hate myself for feeling like this. It's so selfish.

Oh busy I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that. It's so bloody unfair that it's easy for some and others have to go through heartbreak. You are entitled to feel sad and angry. I would be. Don't beat yourself up for feeling selfish - as you're not.

Congratulations blissful! Hoping new job keeps your mind occupied and keep you from obsessing over TTC!

I took a test but think it was faulty as the control line was extremely faint - the foil was opened - does that make a difference? Feeling less confident but not upset as such- would rather AF just showed her face so I can get onto the next cycle and really hoping it's not another really long cycle. I'm still cramping like crazy too.

Oh well - at least week is halfway over tmrw. And I've chosen my AF consolation present to myself - some cozy fat face jammies!

So sorry to hear that busy - it must feel lien a total kick to the gut How you're feeling is totally normal though - anyone would feel the same.

Sounds like a dodgy test to me flora if the seal was broken - maybe try again in a day or two?

Am so over dtd - but must tonight then one last time on Friday. Can't wait to just relax!!

Busy How are you feeling today? I have seen people on here mention that it isn't like there are only so many babies to go around. Their baby doesn't decrease your chances. Thinking that has helped me with a few baby bombs recently. I know it's tough so feel free to come here and vent.

I am 8dpo I think and I have the worlds sorest boobs. Didn't have this last cycle but have in the past. This time though they are so sore I couldn't run up the stairs without wanting to hold onto them. No other symptoms of anything really. Gone from feeling like I was definitely pregnant to no chance today. I hate the 2ww.

blissful congratulations on the job!
busy so sorry and definitely completely understandable. I have this friend who has been seeing this guy for 2 minutes and she's pregnant (unplanned)!!! It made me irrationally furious!

Cd27 here, temps are high but I have a cold so could be because of that? I felt very sick on the way in to work this morning I had to wind my window down, but again unfortunately probably down to illness. I had a bfn this morning on an internet cheapie as I've used both my frer's someone take the tests away from me... I need to go to POAS-addicts anonymous.

Sorry for all the bfns ladies.

I'm royally confused. I am using ovia and ff in tandem (not temping or opking but just logging symptoms) and they have different ideas about what my fertile week is. Ff starts today but ovias starts on Friday . I'm hoping we can dtd every other day from today. Did try to subtly initiate dtd last night but my oh was having none of it. A knights tale on netflix was a better option apparently.

I can't remember if it was this thread or a different one but does anyone check their cervix to see whats going on?

Thanks guys I feel a bit better today I just ugh it felt like a punch in the gut when my dh told me. He got the call and went outside (crappy signal) and I just knew and was trying to compose myself and then he said her due date is 3 days after what mine was and it just really hurt. Trying not to think about all the things that could be or won't be. And not to beat myself up for feeling shit. I'll be fine just need to give myself a few hours doing something else.

lol I know how you feel eva they sit there so inviting waiting to be used! Plus my chest infections sending my symptoms all over the place and confusing me too. But it sounds good so keeping my fingers crossed for you!

monkey that was the first sign for me so hopefully fingers crossed! I invested in a good sleep bra to lounge around and it really helped.

pj you are a champ lol you can do it! (Pun intended)

I'm on CD24 now and totally confused about what's going on. I hate this bloody virus messing everything up. I also clocked last night that we've been tryin for 5 months. Anyone else have those realisations and think shit! Trying not to panic as I know it can take a long time. But still

Morning Ladies,

Wondering if I can join you - this is the first month that we are TTC.

We are nervous as I don't think there is ever a right time to have a baby but we would really love one. We wanted a house first but I don't want to put it off any longer as you just don't know how long it is going to take to get pregnant!
I hope that makes sense!

So:
Age: 30
TTC: #1
Cycle: #1
CD: 10

Looking forward to chatting to you all! x

Hi everyone

I think many of us are in the same boat with jobs vs babies! Reading your posts makes that choice between the two that much easier

HellsBells welcome from a fellow newbie. I'm 29, TTC 1, cycle 1 and CD12 so we are very similar! Will be nice to have a testing buddy in a few weeks!

I am the same, it never feels like the right time to start but at the same time I am so broody.

I told DH this morning that if we aren't first time lucky then we will book a quick trip to Amsterdam next month as commiserations. I want to keep it all lighthearted and fun for now!

Ah that would be great to have a testing buddy Heatherbaby!

That is the same as us - just want to keep it very relaxed. We have a few things coming up to look forward to so going to focus on them.

We booked a trip to Barcelona last night for our 1st wedding anniversary in Feb, it would be great to be pregnant going - but if not I am looking forward to wine and all the cheese!!

TTC is so cruel, and I'm tempted to give up and go back on the pill because I can't deal with the mental havoc it's causing me. I'm never going to have a baby.

AF was two days late this month. Really thought it was my month. Did a test yesterday (AF 1 day late) - BFN. Another test this morning (AF 2 days late) - BFN. AF shows her face at long last only a few minutes ago. Why oh WHY is this happening? Why couldn't it have just been on time so it didn't build up my hopes even further just to dash them like this again.

Sitting at my desk at work trying so hard not to cry but feeling utterly devastated again. I hate this. I HATE this.

Aw Warwick I feel for you reading this.

Me and my sister were talking about how hard it can be for some couples. We all know a friend (if not ourselves) that struggle to get pregnant but me and my sister both said those friends that we now all have babies now after their personal struggles. What I'm trying to say is, don't give up! Cos even if it takes longer it will happen for you and if it doesn't happen naturally anytime soon then you can get Doctors involved. Unless there is a medical reason you or your OH can't... it's more rare for a couple to never conceive than it is the other way round.

Also the pill is so tricky you need to give your body time to get used to its natural rhythm...

Hope you feel better. It will happen for you, but kind of like a sick twist.. it's when you least expect it!

Hells Heather can I join?!

Age 30
Ttc 1

Not sure what CD means?

Came off the pill at the end on Aug and had my first period 3 - 6 Oct. Not sure when I'll ovulate but have got some cheapo tests. Fingers crossed!