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It'll never happen, and even if it does, something will go wrong. Hut of Doom part deux

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duchesse · 19/01/2007 19:43

There wasn't any more room for moaning with all those grinny smilies's eyes following me around the room.

Suspected (my own self-diagnosis) perimenopause, anyone?

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lissielou · 17/02/2007 22:57

im still here. drunk and bitter

Catbabymummy · 18/02/2007 05:46

Am I first up? Been lying awake, imaging being a mum, feeding imaginary baby, taking it for walks, even changing it's nappy. Does anyone else do that? What about those of you who already have kids? Do you keep thinking back to when they were babies and wish you were doing it all over again?

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duchesse · 18/02/2007 08:20

Aww. Catbabyummy- First thing about half and hour ago, I was imagining/thinking back to (can't be sure which) to that time that babies first wake up, and they arch their little skinny bodies with their fists by their ears to stretch, eyes shut, and you can pick them still stretching, and it's just the most glorious moment as they open their eyes for the first time that day and see you and smile at you. It aches a bit to think I may never see that again.

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Catbabymummy · 18/02/2007 08:31

Agghh just spotted an apostrophe in the wrong place in my last post... one of my pet peeves....

I now have another outlet for my obsessive baby wanting, I now have my own blog...

lissielou · 18/02/2007 11:25

i miss that look that ds used to give me when he first woke up and as his eyes focussed he half-smiled. now he wants to watch fecking balamory 1st thing, not see me.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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duchesse · 18/02/2007 14:14

Catbaby- gi's the address then.

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Catbabymummy · 18/02/2007 16:51

The baby blog
Not much on it so far, but give it time!

Ambi · 18/02/2007 20:11

Thinking about coming in for a few highly flammable beverages and a few joints... My pretty unsupportive hubby has managed to be too tired/ not in the mood for the whole of fertile week (which included val's day btw) Jesus, paranoia about being unattractive or he's feeling under pressure to impregnate me I don't know. I'm just so p*ssed off with him right now. I have really long cycles so prob won't ov again until april ffs. I'm so ready to strop like a 2yr old in supermarket, but fancy partacing in a pint of long island iced tea and a yummy joint. Hmm feels good to have an outlet in this hut. And whats worse i feel really guilty because loads of you laydeez are going through worse than m, now i feel ashamed. Need more booze - sod it think i might go for the real thing.

seaside72 · 18/02/2007 20:23

Ambi - one long island iced tea coming up!
You are not alone - there are a few us who have exactly the same problem with our DH's/ DP's - If you check out the hut last month you will prob see my posts after the 3rd night in a row that DH failed to come to bed/perform right during my peak time - needless to say - one night of arguing/sobbing and me in the spare room then it was too late

It is definitely a psychological issue for them I think - and they think we are the sensitive ones!!

Jossiejump · 18/02/2007 20:32

Cat baby, you do have similar thoughts if you already have children, I'm now two days into my third m/c, have just driven home in floods of tears because I heard one of the pieces of music that I had in the labour room with DS1 and it just brought back all of what I have missed out on with the three babies that I have lost.
God I need a drink

Ambi · 18/02/2007 20:42

Thanks seaside, that drink did the trick, and i've brought a couple of bottles of cheap red wine and choccies for everyone to enjoy.
(cheap red cos even on here i'm a skinflint and after the first bottle you won't taste the rest anyways...)

Catbabymummy · 18/02/2007 20:48

Well hubby is just as enthusiastic about getting me knocked up as I am, so no worries on that score.
Anyone wants some Raspberry pavlova ice creams? It's lush!

sideways · 18/02/2007 20:51

Ambi - I had the same problem in January - mega protest from dh, no sex at all for the whole month.

I sympathise.

sideways · 18/02/2007 20:52

Choccies and ice crea, - yes please to both

Ambi · 18/02/2007 20:54

Its pants isn't it - but I've just thought that now I can really enjoy myself in amsterdam next month

plummymummy · 18/02/2007 21:15

Keep watching those horrific daytime childbirth programmes such as homebirth diaries and multiple births etc etc etc and worse still it is becoming an addiction. Now ds (2yo) thinks any straining noise (eg doing a number 2)is the sound of someone having a baby . Saw one the other day and this woman was being a right arse toward the poor midwife who was doing her best to help and I felt like jumping into the tv and slapping the woman in labour, then saying oh ffs just get on with it you ungrateful b*h By my own definition I think I am losing it

lissielou · 18/02/2007 21:25

i dont think you are at all plummy. have some voddy

ammylovesolivia · 18/02/2007 21:36

I'm obsessed with birth programmes. They make me cry.

But how embarressing when you take a step back and look what you're watching......"won't be a mo- just watching this stranger have an episiotomy and have her waters broken then birth a whopper of a kid, then I'l do tea!!"

I do wonder who thought up the idea of birth programmes and why I love them so much- bizarre.

Catbabymummy · 18/02/2007 21:57

I was out the other night for a meal with friends (inc pg one), and right in front of me was big TV screen, and yes they were showing that multiple birth program .

plummymummy · 18/02/2007 22:13

Oh good, thank frig it's not just me. Dh thinks they're horrendous (which they sort of are).

plummymummy · 18/02/2007 22:15

Thanks for the vodka, if drunk I have an excuse to be disorderly

lulu1414 · 18/02/2007 23:10

Hi all- I'm quite new to all of this. But just want to say hi and loads of hope and love. I had a m/c in October (13 weeks along with my first) have found it all so hard, and am trying to stay positive. Looks like I may have complications now... So wierd that it is all much more complicated than any of us had ever thought. Does any of it make sense?...

sideways · 18/02/2007 23:17

Sorry about your mc and welcome to the Hut. You can get all your moans and miseries off your chest here.

lulu1414 · 18/02/2007 23:25

Thanks- good to hear that someoen is still up and ready for a moan! Here is my rant... I think that we are stuck between a rock and a hard place.... I never wanted to become obsessed with having a baby, but I realise how you can't BUT be obsessed as it is part of you, of your body, of your very being. I guess something changes within you once you make that decision...

Wheelybug · 19/02/2007 09:22

Hi ! May I poke my head round the door for a moan ??

I have a dd (just turned 2) and had a m/c in July. Been ttc again since Sept to no avail. In my sane moments I know it hasn't really been that long but we have been fortunate enough to conceive easily twice before. So am now convinced the m/c caused something to go horribly wrong so I will never conceive again.

Have been obssessed with age gaps a bit - wanted 2.5 years but getting over that now (although probably not that much, just managed to persuade myself 3 years would be good !). Also a bit obssessed by concept of DH being home at the right time (). Thankfully he is quite understanding of 'right time' but gets stuck in the office a lot and his 'usual' home time isn't till about 10 if we're lucky so doesn't make an early night very easy.... sigh.. winge.. moan.

Anyway, spent the day at a christening yesterday with some v. good friends and their family and spent the afternoon answering 'when are you having another one' questions to the extent I was virtually in tears.

I know we should just relax and not worry about it but its just not that easy is it ???

Right, need to get dd dressed and then off to music group followed by soft play. Can't be ar$ed though.