Aged 35 or over TTC #2?

[RememberToSmile1980]

Hi ladies
I'm trying to conceive no. 2. My aim was to ttc from January of this year - however due to one thing or another (very stressful time at work!) I have not been giving it my all. I have now decided I need to focus on ttc no.2 as I am very conscious of the growing age gap! Please join for a friendly chat and to hopefully support each other!

Stats
Age - 35
Ttc - #2
CD - 21
DS - 3 years 10months!

Don't want to obsess about it! However I think it's inevitable!

[Buddahbelly]

Thankyou spin.

Im throwing myself into work as much as possible to stop from now trying to symptom spot when in fact I havent noticed a bloody thing going on with my body.

Just goes to show the amount of time I would sit there and try my best to explain wind as implantation, or a headache as signs of pregnancy... literally nothing has felt any different enough for me to notice. I only realised this morning when I saw the date and thought oh I should be due on son, then counted the days... Fingers crossed, Ill be back next week, trying not to tempt fate by posting about it too much, but will be lurking with you all.

[Lulu298]

Fingers crossed for you Buddha xx

[Lulu298]

Are you having sessions currently binky or was it soon after the birth? How did you arrange it? I've moved away from my borough but might look into it if we get a second BFP...

[binkybunny]

I'm waiting for my appointment to come through lulu I have moved too so I went to see my new doctor and she told me about the sessions. She said they are usually for people who are already pregnant but she couldn't see why I wouldn't be able to go.

Fx Buddah hope to hear from you next week!

Btw anyone who is thinking of testing Boots have bogof on FRERegion. DH got me a couple of packs today but I've started with AF feeling cramps

[oliversmummy26]

Hello ladies....haven't been on here for a while as I got my bfp in October...

However found out today that our little bean stopped growing at about 8 weeks (2 weeks ago)...going back tomorrow for a D&C under local...

So would like to join you all again if I may?

[Spindelina]

So sorry to hear that, olivers. I hope tomorrow goes OK.

And of course you can come back.

[blackcherries]

Oh olivers you poor thing. Best of luck.

[Lulu298]

Sorry to hear that olivers. Hope today goes ok.

Hope your appt comes through soon Binky.

[TheLegendOfBeans]

olivers

[binkybunny]

olivers so sorry hope all went OK today

Feels a bit insignificant but AF arrived today so that's month 2 with no bfp

[oliversmummy26]

All went fine yesterday, it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be.
Feeling ok now, very little bleeding and ready to start again..

[Buddahbelly]

Oliversmummy So sorry you've had to go through that. Ive been there (quite a few times) and I know the feeling of complete disappointment, but so glad your staying positive and will continue to jump back on the horse (pardon the pun)!

Still no AF here though, I think i'm around 5 weeks ish. Its just my luck it was the one month I honestly wasn't trying to havent added the dates in my phone, It all usually falls apart around 6 weeks so i'm waiting a little while longer to test. At least if af comes I can tell myself, it must of been delayed, whereas I don't think I could face knowing its happened again.

Wishing you all the luck in the world for those waiting to test.

[oliversmummy26]

I'm thinking now that it obviously wasn't meant to be, I didn't feel terribly pregnant this time round, with my DS I felt awful, was only sick a handful of times, but felt very queasy almost every morning until about 14 weeks I think..I also was dead set against telling anyone, but with DS was shouting it from the rooftops to anyone who would listen, so maybe subconsciously I knew something wasn't quite right..

Also, I was a bit bummed out that I would miss out on all the Christmas fun (I know this is very trivial compared to being pregnant!) but am happy to now be able to have a few drinks and all the cheese and paté I want!!

We aren't waiting to try again though, and being 3 months behind where I wanted to be, we will be getting back on that horse next weekend as soon as the risk of infection is over. I think having an MVA rather than waiting for it to pass naturally has helped. It means I've been able to draw a line under it almost within 24 hours of finding out, rather than waiting around indefinitely.

So all in all, feeling good, and ready to make a Christmas/New Year baby

[TheLegendOfBeans]

Also, I was a bit bummed out that I would miss out on all the Christmas fun (I know this is very trivial compared to being pregnant!) but am happy to now be able to have a few drinks and all the cheese and paté I want!!

Darling please don't feel bad about this. When my AF arrived 12 Nov after I had a cry and a rage that was my first thought.

Last year I was 34weeks pregnant at Christmas/Hogmanay and it was dull as shit. Literally every man and his dog was eating delicious pate and runny cheese.

Have had a word with myself so have decided to nail all the cheese and all the pate this month: as much as I can now I know I know that AF is due to give us a wave in a matter of days.

We have to find a silver lining lest we go mad. Cheese + pate = sanity x

[Lulu298]

That's going to become my new catch phrase! Love it!

[oliversmummy26]

Thanks Legend that made me chuckle had a brie and bacon toastie for my tea last night and am starting our Christmas shopping list today - lots and lots of for me!!
I was pregnant over Christmas with my DS and it was so dull not being able to join in the fun, so I am pleased I get to enjoy myself this time now

Started spotting today, after only stopping bleeding on Saturday following my op...I'm wondering if this is AF, but it can't be can it?!

[Buddahbelly]

And here I am again, Back at square 1 I believe again... my boobs seemed to have shrunk overnight again, not hurting anymore at all, stomach cramping this morning but nothing too bad then started bleeding a while ago, nothing too much, but this is usually how it starts... I've ate my emergency chocolate stash already!

trying to console myself in the fact at least Ill be able to drink a bit over christmas but really just want to switch off from other people and lock myself away.

[oliversmummy26]

Oh Buddah bless you, it's shit isn't it...eat as much as you want and get a bottle of wine open tonight. Think of all the yummy cheese and paté and booze you'll be able to have over Christmas...
Don't be too hard on yourself, and I hope Christmas will help to take your mind of this...I'm certainly hoping it will for me!!

[Buddahbelly]

I just wonder if I'll ever get off this bloody board!

I hate cheese and pate anyway and christmas will be crap as we have 2 terminally ill members who for them will be their last, it was going to be horrific anyway and now I think it will be worse. I feel I want to run away and come back in January.

But thanks for trying to cheer me up. I will have wine, and luckily my mum bought me a bottle of baileys yesterday ( was wondering if dp would leave it alone till I could get round to drinking it, but no need to stash it away anymore).

[Spindelina]

Oh no, Buddah.

Are you having any investigations to work out why this keeps happening?

[Buddahbelly]

Up to now I've only had blood tests and they came back ok, I'm going to make an appt first thing tomorrow.

Bleeding has stopped but I'm still cramping bad so I've brought myself to bed for a good cry 😓

[TheLegendOfBeans]

Buddah wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. It's just shit and I want to give you an unmumsnetty hug now

[oliversmummy26]

Buddah have you managed to make your appointment yet? Hopefully having something to focus on will make you feel a bit better? I hope you managed to get some sleep

[Buddahbelly]

Yeah I've just come back (missed my hairdressers appointment due to me waiting half an hour longer ).

I've now finally been referred to the recurrent MC clinic, after 5. I should have been referred after 3 she said and couldn't believe that nobody had done it already. But she was lovely, I was trying not to cry as i knew i'd have to go the hairdressers straight after and didn't want to explain why I had panda eyes. She said the month I'd had my bloods done i hadnt ovulated at all, which would account for trying for so long. Nobody had explained my blood results before, just told me it was all ok for now.

Clinic appointment is not till the 12th January though, so thats a hell of a lot of waiting. I used to think to myself well everything happens for a reason, but now I just feel so shit about it all.I desperatly want dp to go out and leave me alone so I can just have a good cry but he keeps finding excuses to laze about the house!

[Lulu298]

Glad you've finally been referred Buddha. Hopefully Xmas and new year will help the time go by more quickly.

Do we need a new thread? My phone says it's reached the 1k mark which looks really weird!