Aged 35 or over TTC #2?

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Hi ladies
I'm trying to conceive no. 2. My aim was to ttc from January of this year - however due to one thing or another (very stressful time at work!) I have not been giving it my all. I have now decided I need to focus on ttc no.2 as I am very conscious of the growing age gap! Please join for a friendly chat and to hopefully support each other!

Stats
Age - 35
Ttc - #2
CD - 21
DS - 3 years 10months!

Don't want to obsess about it! However I think it's inevitable!

Welcome blackcherries! If you've been TTC for 6 months and are over 35 the advice is then to go to the doctor for help..might be worth an appointment?

So I came off my pill on Saturday 10th (6dpo) and already have sore boobs, cramps, headaches, mood swings, bloated...AF is due on Sunday so could just be PMS but I don't usually get the sore boobs with AF and haven't had the hideous period spots on my chin I usually get this month...I can't be pregnant already, can I??

What sort of pill, olivers? I thought most of them prevented ovulation as well as implantation?

Sorry Spin.

Living in the states we've put off going to a doctor. I have an appointment for Oct 4th but will only be able to afford a couple of appointments and the most basic of testing so unless it's something very obvious and easily (cheaply) treated we won't be able to do anything. At least I'll know though, the torture of af turning up each month is getting too much to live with.

Spin I was on Micronor, the mini-pill, so still having regular AF and have got pregnant on it twice before just by being over 3 hours late taking it...I would have thought though that as I was still taking it during my (estimated) ovulation dates, I can't possible by pregnant just now after having DTD once out of my fertile window?? We'll see, give it a few days, and if no AF, maybe we are on already..

oliversmummy I've been to docs already! They said they can't do anything until it's been one year of trying (this may be different if I hadn't already had one baby?) and even then they can't refer until two years...

Oh blackcherries that does sound rubbish perhaps it is because you've had one already, but waiting 2 years to refer you sounds ridiculous!...fingers crossed Mother Nature is on your side and you get a BFP soon

Ah, OK olivers. I've only ever been on combined pills and cerazette.

Good morning ladies,
Any news over the weekend? AF was due for me on Saturday and still no sign...going to test on Wednesday when OH is home...
Only stopped taking my mini pill 10 days ago! x

good luck!
No news but it's time to start trying again over the next week or so! Oh and my OH's best mate is now having a baby, his wife is 14 weeks and I'm hoping so much that we can be preg at the same time. Feels like a distant dream tbh though.

Hi! AF a day late here, but BFN yesterday and have now run out of tests in the house (may be for the best). Alternating between hope and pessimism is really, really hard to handle! Have gone from being utterly convinced this is it (for the umpteenth time) and then being sure of the exact opposite and back again. All will no doubt become clear in the next few days, but the waiting is unbearable! Due date for my MMC was next month, and think that's not helping, pressure-wise.

AF made her appearance yesterday, 3 days late, so no baby just yet, which is fine really as I have my wedding and honeymoon next week, so wanted to be able to enjoy that. Chance for a honeymoon baby though, so we shall see...

Shrimpy, my due date was November, so I keep telling myself that I have to be pg by then. And then telling myself off for putting the pressure on. Difficult, isn't it? I keep seeing the November antenatal thread pop up in active, which gives me a twinge, too.

CD6. We're all exhausted from DD starting school. She's loving it, but shattered, and needing maximum attention when she gets home. So DH isn't getting anything else done, so I'm sorting out the bombsite in the evenings. Need to shoehorn in a few quickies next week!

Spin It's not helpful, is it, the extra pressure we put on ourselves. When it first happened, I think I was secretly quite confident I'd be pregnant again by my original due date, so I guess I just need to readjust my expectations again as it's only 4 weeks away now.

CD40 here... Still waiting, but still BFN, so think my body's just messing with me.

spin snap, ds has taken over for a while starting school so weve put trying on the back burner for now. (Im secretly hoping its one of those coincidences where your not expecting it to happen and it does) but dp has pulled his back out and we've managed once this month. The smiley face on the test yesterday was flashing so I thought well if we can only manage once this month it may aswell be today.

But im not expecting a bfp this month at all, which im ok with. Id be expecting around June which is ds's birthday month along with my mum and dads so already can see the costs of birthdays crippling me for every june.

*shit, its gonna happen now isnt it, just to spite me!

shrimpy "Alternating between hope and pessimism is really, really hard to handle! Have gone from being utterly convinced this is it (for the umpteenth time) and then being sure of the exact opposite and back again."

Exactly this. Can't stand it. Will be so happy when it finally happens and can forget all this stuff forever!

oliversmummy congrats on your wedding! Hope you can enjoy it all the more!

blackcherries Can I ask why you want to be pregnant at the same time as your dh's friends wife?

Not being nosey but i was pg at the same time as my friend and all it did was create drama and tension and brought out the competitiveness in each other that hadnt been there before. You'll get so many people comparing the 2 of you and frankly I hope now that nobody arounds me gets pg if/when i do so can just enjoy being pg rather than having people keep saying oh you're bigger than... or have you started decorating yet... well..... has, why havent you. wears you down after a bit.

buddahbelly no worries, it's more because I'll be sad if she goes through a whole pregnancy with a baby, so close to us, and I still don't get pg in the whole time. I think it'll just rub it in that I'm still ttc with no success, that's all.
I've been pg once and honestly don't care about people comparing us (we don't really have the same social circles), I know what it all entails. I'd just love it if we both have something to look forward to at the same time!

blackcherries I get it now! Its that feeling isnt it, knowing they've gone and had their baby and you're still trying. I thought it was so you could do pregnant things together like pre natal yoga and stuff and was trying to cheer you up by saying its not great being pg at the same time as someone else.

I had a mc last september, on the same day a friend announced she was 3 months pregnant on facebook and I kept thinking that should be me. She had her baby around february and the baby is now 6 months old already and still i'm not pregnant! It does get to you after a while.

Been a bit quiet on here lately, anyone got any news?

We are on a mission to get pregnant this month, our wedding was 29/9, had a short honeymoon after that and my husband () has been home until this morning (he usually works away during the week) and we have managed to DTD 10 days in the last 14, which also happened to be over our ovulation/fertile window...so fingers crossed...DH is in his element, though I reckon he's gone off to work this week, happy that he'll be getting a bit of a rest, he's never been so much in demand!!

I'm probably imagining it, but feel like I've been getting AF symptoms since yesterday, very cranky and short tempered, cramps, back ache, also tired and in bed by 10pm most nights over the weekend, I'm usually an after midnight kind of person! So fingers crossed!

Lots of luck to you all, hope we have some BFP soon for you all!

Not managing anything as energetic here! But we did at least dtd a few times at the appropriate time, so we'll see. CD24. If not this month, I think we might manage something more concerted next month, with DD settled in school.

CD26 aka CD0; wine is in the fridge ready for this evening.

CD23 today, emotional, cramps, promising CM (sorry TMI) general positive pregnancy feelings...going to take a test on Saturday morning...too excited not too, though I'm aware it will probably be negative (hopefully false negative!)

No news here, managed to convince myself it was IT last month as had a few symptoms including sensitive boobs but did a test on day AF was due and it was negative, quite a blow, then got AF that day anyway.

It is starting to be at the back of my mind nearly all the time! Also a colleague asked if I was pregnant....

I gave in yesterday and tested (with a first response/early response test) BFN...I am still telling myself it was just too early.. Ovia says AF is due next Thursday, but that's based on my last AF which was 31 days which is unusual, I'm normally around 29 days. So I reckon if she's due on Tuesday next week then yesterday was 5 days early, and although it says up to 6 days early, the percentage is low that early I think to detect a positive pregnancy?
Will try again in a day or two and we'll see...unless I can keep myself busy enough over the weekend to wait until next week, as DH is away during the week and I've promised I'll only test with him there...
Argh!!! It's so stressful!!

Also Blackcherries a colleague asked if you were pregnant? Why?? And did you smack them in the face?