TTC after miscarriage thread #4

[InsufficientlyCaffeinated]

Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

[jpeg28]

Afternoon everyone... I am avoiding coffee now which is so hard. But stupidly had some Diet Coke today which obviously has caffeine in! I'm such an idiot. I really need to try harder with my diet, feel like since the MC I have put on so much weight and let myself go a little!
Maybe I should start dtd every day?!

[nailsathome]

I know it's easy to say ladies but the best thing is to try and relax about it all.

[5tardusty]

We're doing every other day right thru the month at the moment, but when i get back on track and can spot ov we'll do every day and maybe twice on ov day . All i can do this month is watch out for ewcm. None so far but it's clear and slippery which is consistent with pre ov so i'm just sitting tight atm.

I am not being v healthy atm. Was determined to shift a stone when i mc, to try and get myself in top shape for pregnancy. Unfortunately we seem to have been doing a lot of socialising and subsequently drinking and eating out. I have started exercising twice per week again but need to step this up now i've stopped bleeding.

Must try harder!

[InsufficientlyCaffeinated]

I lost 1 stone while pg because I developed aversions to everything tasty! Grapes & ginger cordial was my diet. Kept it off for a month after mc but now have 3/4 back

[Grapefruit8]

Hi all, just thought I would let you know... Nipped into my local tesco today and clear blue digital were £2.36!!!

[HopefulKate1980]

Ooh great. Thanks! OPKs? Xx

[Fairygodmother1]

Hi all, thank you for your advice and appreciate the warm welcome.

Jpeg Not officially TTC but not preventing either as I have PCOS and the only way I've got PG (and lost 4 times) is through help. Clomid & IVF.
Brenna I was thinking implantation/ovulation as the bleeding is non-existent today but I feel 'periody'. When I use OPKs it shows ovulation about day 20.
Kate I was induced and had 14 hour labour. Midwife said a few weeks ago that my uterus felt back down to normal size but could again be a bit dislodged although it was more red/pink so newer blood I would have thought I am supposed to get a 6 week check but no-one has told me whether this will be booked by midwives or GP. I asked for a scan as that's what happened with an early MC but was told that it should happen alongside the check We will see a consultant when we get post mortem results. I am asking my midwife tomorrow about the cremation date so will also ask about the 6 week check and this weird bleed/spot and the fact that I feel like I am coming on but not.
Mr I have a bereavement midwife that I can contact.

[HopefulKate1980]

Oh god, fairygodmother I had no idea that you had been through all of that from your previous post. I am so so very sorry for your losses. That must have been so very difficult. I am incredibly sorry. I hope you get an appointment soon and the cremation goes as smoothly and as peacefully as possible. How sad. But you sound like an amazingly strong woman. I am glad you found us. Sending you lots of thoughts. xx

[Cuckoo73]

Hi all, been lurking with intent for a while but think it's time to say hello! Must say I've really appreciated and admired the positive advice and lovely, supportive vibes from this thread. Have a brill DD who's nearly 2 and been trying for another since Nov last year. Had two m/c since Jan, seems thankfully I can still get pregnant easily enough but lost both earlyish at 6.2 ish. Now been referred to consultant as older at 42 nearly 43. Wondered if anyone might know what to expect at first appt? GP was great but on phone so didn't really have time to talk and I was just in pieces anyway. Appt not til early June so might just carry on trying but wondering if a break is what body needs... We'll see... Hope everyone had a good bank hol anyway xx

[5tardusty]

Hello cuckoo and welcome. Can't offer any advice myself but i am sure someone will know more than me. I love mumsnet for a place to vent and get all your obsessing out!

[HopefulKate1980]

Hi cuckoo Sorry you are here. I don't have any advice I'm afraid either. I wonder whether they may do blood tests to check your FSH levels or AMH levels? That will give them an idea about what type of help if any you may need. I'd just keep trying if I was you. My consultant says every egg matters so it's important to try and catch every one! You have to look after your happiness though obviously and do what feels right. Could you push for an earlier appointment?

[jpeg28]

Hi cuckoo and sorry for you losses. I can't give you any advice myself but as everyone has said I'm sure someone will be able to! Good luck with your appt xx

[AmyB1986]

Morning all and welcome cuckoo, so sorry for your losses.

Cd5 here af had almost stopped. Feeling a bit disheartened this cycle, like I really can't be bothered to keep this up anymore. This is my 3rd cycle since mc and I keep thinking to myself that I should be happy with what I already have and just stop trying altogether. So we've decided to just dtd when ever, thrown out all of my opk's given the fertility monitor back to my friend and if it happens, it happens. I'm going to carry on temping and recording my af with fertility friend but that's it.
It'll probably take ages for us to get pregnant but I don't really care at the minute because I've got this overwhelming sense of dread at the thought of being pregnant again right now. I've made an appointment to see my therapist and my gp has taken bloods etc for a full mot last week, hopefully I'll get the results from that in the next few days.

I'm sure we'll all be pregnant and have our babies in our arms at some point in the near future though, but for now I'm going to just lurk here if that's ok?

[Cuckoo73]

Thanks for lovely welcoming messages. Think you're right Kate will keep trying and if I'm pregnant at consultant appointment will just have to see.

Think what Bertie said about being informed is so important to ease anxiety. It's just so flipping scary isn't it? Good luck with therapist and hope gp tests go well too Amy taking things one step at a time here. Am going to start dtd campaign in time for weekend ov (fingers crossed still regular with that) am big fan of the pink smiley clear blue sticks and shoulder stands though DP thinks I'm mad. Think laughing helps too when you're upside down!

[jpeg28]

Amy... A friend of mine did exactly what you are saying, she all but gave up, dtd when she could and got pregnant almost immediately! Maybe not thinking and stressing about it so much helps.

However I am always over thinking and stressing!! In on cd12... My temp dropped this morning but I do not have any EWCM... Wondering if today is ovulation day. I'm saving my OPK until later this afternoon. Does everyone get EWCM?

[Llindsey85]

Fairygodmother I'm so sorry you have been through so much. Lets hope some good luck starts appearing on this thread!

Welcome to Cuckoo as well, hopefully your doc has some answers. Have you have progesterone testing? My friend mentioned this to me before but as mine was a later miscarriage (11-12 weeks) it wasn't the cause of mine.

CD23 for me. No ovulation sticks this month so no idea when I ovulated. Been trying to be more relaxed this month but as my expected period date gets closer, the more crazy I get! My period decided to play the late game last month and my cycle was 33 days instead of the usual 28 or 29 so I've got no idea when to test. I'm adamant that I wont take a gazillion tests this month though as it cost me a fortune last month.

[Fairygodmother1]

Kate Thank you for the compliment. I don't know how to be anything else. I seem to get so much crap thrown at me!
Cuckoo my losses early on seem to be progesterone related. Previous drs said mine was the low side of normal (story of my life) but my longest pregnancy I used injectable progesterone and that got me over the 12 week mark.
(waves at llindsey)
TMI but I had totally no hint of a period yesterday but about an hour ago full on red blood...maybe this is my period 25 days after delivery?

[InsufficientlyCaffeinated]

I get some EWCM but it's not always really noticeable. Some months it's a tiny amount that easy to miss, others lots of it.

Hope you're OK Amy. It does get a bit much sometimes. Try to take it easy on yourself

[Clarity77]

JPEG - I've yet to notice EWCM always seems either creamy, watery or dry but not EWCM as described. I had a positive OPK yesterday on cd11 so one day earlier than normal. The next couple of days should be important before the dreaded tww, month 4 for me, hoping this will be lucky but starting to feel less optimistic as time goes by. I'm sure ups and downs are normal for us all.

[jpeg28]

Ok thanks everyone... Glad I'm not the only one who doesn't notice ewcm. I've taken 3 OPKs today.. All negative. It's cd12, temp drop fooled me into think I would ovulate today... Guess I'll keep testing!

[redstrawberries101]

Hope everyone is ok today. Had a really busy and tiring day at work.

Fairy - so sorry to hear you have been through all that. How far along were you?

Cuckoo sorry to hear also. I don't think giving your body a short break is a bad idea, maybe even a mont to just repair from the two early miscarriages.

Amy - ofcourse that's ok. Like you I'm sort of backing off TTC also. Just not feeling in a good place right now. All I'm doing is keeping an eye on fertile window and trying the dtd as much as poss but so far every month we haven't really had the opportunity.

Mrs unsure can totally relate - number 1 for me too and I panic when I think I have been married 5.5 years even though I'm still fairly young and have time on my side. It makes me panic.

JPEG I've never paid attention to ewcm but I do notice I get some most months. I'm never really quite sure what's meant to happen though, does anyone know? AF due on Monday and I've had loads of discharge today.

Does anyone know how the discharge is meant to look at each stage of the cycle?

[jpeg28]

Hi cheeky I've been looking online recently and found this website which was useful... www.checkpregnancy.com/cervical-mucus-guide-ovulation-discharge/

I've decided to not get so stressed at work, today I left early and went for a run (first time in forever!), had dinner and instead of marking (which I should be doing!) I'm relaxing in front of the tv, I really worry that stress caused my MC so better start making changes now!

Hope everyone has had a good day