TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

Hi all...

Loki I've had two micro surges this month but as yet, still no positive opk just an almost positive second line.

Adventure welcome and sorry for your loss.

Cheeky so sorry about the loss of your uncle.

I went and got some dual inductors from boots earlier. Stupidly didn't read the pack and tested when it should be fmu, guess what it said? Big fat circle, not fertile! What a waste of a test!! Any who, this am my fern pattern was everywhere on my microscope which means high estrogen so I am fertile according to that but like I said (up there ^^) still no positive opk but just almost positive. Have lots of ewcm and dtd last night. Don't think I can take another banging tonight though. Poor DH looks tired too think he deserves a rest too.

This ovulating lark seems too confusing. I can see myself getting really stressed. I think I'll just try dtd often. Thanks for your kind words girls. X

Amy, the first test on a dual hormone always shows a negative result - it takes a base line reading so that it can be more accurate. I made the same mistake. You might get a flashy face or static face tomorrow.

Thank Loki I didn't know that either!

Mrs I hope for you it is late ovulation as it is for me. I never had any problems with opk's before and used them when I conceived dd2. Conceive first month using them, had dtd the day before my positive.

Cheeky it is stressful, I feel like a duff hen that can't lay any eggs! I like using them though because when it goes positive we can focus dtd around that time as me and DH both get fed up with dtd and it kind of feel like a chore for both of us.

I don't tell DH when I'm fertile but he guesses as I'm constantly jumping him.

That's what I'm doing now Mrs, will use the clear blue thing in the morning but if that's a firm low then I'm just going on my microscope ferns. When the ferns disappear I'll know I'm not fertile anymore. Only thing that seems to give any clue to what's happening at the min.
Had a dip in my temp today and a massive one at that, it could mean I'm going to ov or it could just be random as I was freezing when I woke up for work this morning.

I'm almost convinced I ovd straight after af and I've missed it. I'm just not getting clear ov signs. Going to just dtd as often as possible but I'm feeling very low. My boobs are sore and my cervix is closed. CB dual hormone is saying hf but opk cheapie are almost completely faded. I don't know. I just want to be pregnant again.

amy I always get a dip the day after my second positive on the single hormone IC OPKs and that is my ovulation day. Then my temperature starts going up the next day. I would listen to the temp/ferning rather than the hormones.

Brenna I think perhaps the opk's I used the other day were positive you know because they're the strongest ones I've had and this evening they are almost invisible again. Had a few twinges that could have been ov pains but have since subsided. Had no spotting this month like I did last month though. Done enough dtd to maximise it over the last few days if it was ov. Trusting the temps and waiting for a rise. The dip happened like this before I ov'd last month too.

Loki don't get disheartened I know easier said than done! I feel like I've missed it again to be honest. Fed up with opk's and seeing my wee in a pot.

With me it's not so much the getting pregnant that is bothering me, it's that I feel I've lost control of my own body. I don't know if it's working properly so I'm doing everything I can to try to find out if it is. Probably a few cycles down the line I might chill out a bit. Feel relaxed and not too stressed about it though. Just want to feel normal again. I've had one period in 2 years and that was last month because of the bloody depo injection! Then fell pregnant and didn't know because of the bloody thing and mc'd. The last 6 months are a write off, had to have emergency surgery in November beaches my gallbladder burst and nearly killed me after my dr said I was too young to have gallstones then the mc, my gran being ill with sepsis and much more.

Sorry I'm rambling just too much crap.

Off load some of the crap here. It will help. I know just how you feel about the crap. I went through a phase of about 3 years where it just kept coming. Then it calmed down a bit, then life got really quite good with a couple of blips. Then since October the crap is raining back down again. Hopefully the tide will turn soon. Is your Gran ok now?

Brenna she's ok now, she had pneumonia as well as sepsis which made her lupus sle flare up as well. She's still a bit exhausted but much better than she was.
All the crap makes you feel like you must have done something really wrong doesn't it? None of us deserve it. You all seem like lovely people and very supportive.

This morning my clear blue had a solid smiley face on the screen, peak apparently but I don't know whether to trust it or not. Have cramps now though more like period pains and a bit more towards the right side as well. Temp is still low, only .2 higher than yesterday and not any higher than the temps I had previous days either. Going to dtd later then just wait and see what happens.

Is this a positive opk I'm seeing? Obviously the clear blue is peak but the IC's? I think it is

Amy I don't know enough about ICs to comment but looks possible - especially combined with the clearblue.
I know what you mean about going thro crap - my Dad had sepsis too last year and it was straight after my mc hence why we just couldn't even consider getting pg straight away - I was a mess.
I'm not gutted when I don't get a bfp - I just want to be able to follow what's happening but not sure now if I can trust the clearblue ovulation.

I might start temping as well. Can someone tell me how you monitor the temp and how to link it to ovulation ?

Adventure temping is easy, I use fertility friend and ovia to chart mine.
All you need is a bbt thermometer not a fever one. Take your temp at the same time every morning before you move or talk.

When you ovulate your temp spikes because progesterone dominates after ovulation and causes a temp rise. Only way to actually pinpoint ovulation and confirm its actually happened. The opk's etc just give an idea or not if it's going to happen.

I'm not sure what to trust at the min to be honest, my opk's are still not dark enough to call them positive and I'm not sure how accurate the clear blue advanced are either! I'm just waiting for my temp rise now to confirm if the opk's are correct or not.

Let's hope the run of crap is coming to an end for all of us.

Adventure this is my chart from last month. You can clearly see the dip then the rise after I ovulated. This was after my mc which is why my ov happened later than normal and why I'm so confused now as I don't know my cycle length at all.

Hello thread. I hope you don't mind if I join (or possibly just lurk for a while).

I went for a dating scan last Monday but there was no heartbeat, so had a D&C on Wednesday. Physically it was absolutely fine and emotionally it sort of was too, though I'm now finding myself quite cross that I'm no longer pregnant and all the plans I was planning have to change.

It was my 3rd pregnancy (first two resulted in dc1 and 2). I'm almost 38, my dc2 just turned 2 and so I want to get on with ttc again straight away for age and age gap reasons. I got pregnant the first month of trying with dc2 and lost number 3, but I've got no idea what will happen to my cycle now so don't know when we should start. I feel totally ignorant of how my body works. I suppose just looking for ovulation signs and trying then... I assume I'll have to ovulate between post-d&c bleeding and my next period.

I'd like to tell so many more people but it's just not something people realyy talk about freely is it ?

Pickled welcome and sorry for your loss.

Mrs & adventure no it isn't something people talk about. I told a few close friends who looked at me and didn't know what to say and then changed the subject. Given up trying to talk to people. I keep getting asked if I'm going to have anymore, one lady I told bluntly that I did try but I had a miscarriage to which she said 'oh sorry' and walked away. I just say I don't think so now and smile.

Mrs my opk's look like yours do! I'm counting mine as possibly positive. I think I've got a dodgy batch of the one step tests that's what I'm hoping.
Attached a pic of mine from today.
The first one was still wet. The second pic with the digi in it, both the opk's were taken with the same sample of urine within two mins of each other. The darker of the two was the first so you can see how bad the tests are with one being dark and the other being light which makes me think it's a bad batch!

Neither looks positive yet Mrs. I am so sorry about your friend's comment. We were actually very open about ours and I am so glad. People were very sympathetic and I didn't have to pretend to feel ok when I am not. Plus it stops (most of) the questions. I think we should be far more open about miscarriage. I found that when we told people about ours a lot of people said they had had at least one too and wished they had been more open about theirs.

Hi and welcome Pickle. Sorry you are here.

I've just realised we have filled this thread. I've started a new one.

Thanks Brenna going to look for the new thread now xx