Relaxed TTC Feb/March/April 2016

[stumblymonkey]

Hi,

We've just agreed to start TTC #1 in March so just starting to look at preparing for that - prenatal vitamins, losing some weight, etc.

I'm 33 and have only been with my OH for just over a year but we're both sure this is the relationship for us...we'll be getting married but want TTC as a priority and fit any wedding around Mother Nature.

Not planning any temp checking or charting or such like....maybe I'll change my mind if I'm not preggers after six months or so!

Anyone planning TTC about the same time and want to keep in touch on this thread for relaxed catch ups about preparing and then TTC?

Sarah X

Thanks everyone!

Highhopes I have been so bloated I feel like everyone must be guessing!! Haha and swollen/sore boobs! Well it was a shame actually as he was going away for the weekend shortly after so it was all a bit rushed, but I couldn't have waited to do a test!

Friendly ghost that's really good to know it is still separate. I'm so excited to know we will have a baby for Xmas!!

Hi everyone, just checking in! Hope you're all well and this cycle brings some more BFP's. I'm bang in the middle of mine atm, so got a couple of weeks to wait and see if anythings occurring!

xx

Hey wannabemamas, me too!
I am 33 and have always been fairly sure I wanted a family someday but never felt ready to try before now. Been with OH for seven years, and he's 31.
We are both the black sheep of our families (very much loved and sources of pride mind!) in the sense that we are pretty bohemian and make our livings doing creative project work and renting rooms in our home.
We are both a bit eternal kids ourselves so I feel a bit embarrassed that we are trying for this, as if it's irresponsible, but I know we will be great, and in all honesty my clock is starting to tick very loud and I'm anxious not to miss my chance!
Love Alice and stumblys secret Pinterest boards for weddings and babies! I've never discussed w anyone but had mine a couple of years!! Haha!

Now I've just got to get my pretty low libido revved up. What is everyone else aiming for in terms of when / how many times you're "doing the deed" every month?

Hey AuntyADHD , welcome to the group! I'd say on average me and dh dtd 1-2 times a week. Dh (and myself sometimes) would like it to be more but sometimes We're just to sleepy. When I come off the pill in a few weeks, we will try to aim for every other day in my fertile week and around 2-3 times a week the rest of the time just in case my cycles aren't quite right x

Welcome AuntyADHD. I'm the same age as you so definitely get that clock ticking feeling! Still plenty of time though.
We're only currently dtd a couple of times a month. We have a non sleeping toddler though so quite frankly I'd rather sleep when I have the chance. I'm hoping it only takes once at the right time as I haven't got the energy for much more

Hello, can I join the lovely relaxed thread? I have joined the April one as I was all excited but I think this is more my style - I'm not really clued up on when I'm ovulating or anything and I'm not (at least not yet) feeling particularly paranoid about testing dates or anything. DH thought I'd be crazy and wanting to test all the time and dramatically announced that he would only allow me to do one a month I was just planning to test if my period was late and if I was planning to drink alcohol, which I don't very often!

I like your name AuntyADHD, I was just diagnosed with ADHD a few weeks ago. I'm a bit on the fence about whether to continue with trialling medication now we have decided to TTC. I haven't tried anything yet but they are wanting to do tests on me.

I have actually found since starting TTC that my libido has gone through the roof I expect that will wear off but the slightest thing seems to set me off at the minute and I feel really close to DH which is lovely.

Hello all, have nc so thought I'd better check back in.
Ttc #2 sort of. Dd turned 1 last week during supposedly fertile phase, so haven't dtd at all, been to busy, but I actually think I have been ov the last couple of days. Haven't had an ov bleed or pain like I did the precious 2 months though so not sure what's going on. Keep swinging between wanting to try quite hard and not being too bothered about "trying", rather just seeing what happens. So yeah, we've not dtd this cycle at all!
Sorry for the ramble! Hope all are well and congratulations devgal!

Precious previous*

Also, I'm not as grumpy as I sound, just exhausted as we've not stopped this month, it's been go go go!

Hi Aunty ADHD,

In terms of DTD, myself and his majesty are on average every couple of days anyway, so that won't change much. I have a higher libido than him though. I'm not tracking anything ovulation wise at the moment though I may start if nothing happens in 2-3 months. I have a sneaking suspicion that I ovulate later in my cycle so would be useful to pinpoint anyways.

xx

Hello everyone. I've been lurking on this thread for some time, hope you don't mind me joining.
I'm 32 & been married for 2 years. Since October it's been quite hard as I was ready to start TTC but DH wasn't there yet & he didn't understand that the biological clock is ticking & it could take some time to fall pregnant. I can finally say that in March we really started trying as we DTD every 2-3 days. I over think everything & I can feel quite stressed so it feels like almost a daily battle to keep calm & try to forget about babies. All you hear is how you have to relax but that almost makes it worse as then I start worrying that I'm stressed.
I'm finding it hard as it seems a lot of ppl have been asking "are you broody?" "are you trying for a baby?" & I get so frustrated & I don't know how to respond. I'm not sure why ppl think it's their business to ask!
Wishing us all lots of luck. Let's hope we see more BFPs on this thread soon.

Star I know the feeling. I have been married 2 years as well and people have been asking since before we were married as I have DC1 from previous relationship.

So far I've just been saying "Not just yet, perhaps later" but now we've actually started TTC I don't know what I'll say if people ask!

I don't think it matters BTW if you feel stressed or relaxed, if it's going to happen it will happen, you'll drive yourself crazy thinking that you can influence it like that. I've been on a huge rollercoaster since we decided. First off I was quite down and felt inadequate and couldn't really work out what it was all relating to as I wanted to be excited and was just really upset. Then I worked through that, the excitement turned up and was so strong that I basically couldn't DO anything for about four days, I was just on a total high, couldn't eat or sleep. Then I got scared, of doing it again, of doing it in a foreign country, now I'm back to watching OBEM and crying and going "I can't wait to do it all again!" and secretly researching prams

I suppose what I'm saying is just go with the feelings, they do calm down. I think BTW that at 32 you have loads of time yet, so don't worry about that. How many DC do you think you want at the moment? I think I want two more but DH is very sensibly saying let's have one and see how we feel. I feel like I missed out on the experience of raising siblings and although DS is excited about the idea of a baby it won't be quite the same as he will be at least 8 by the time we have another one.

Welcome, auntyadhd! I love a good secret Pinterest board. I had one for my DD's nursery when I was pregnant last time around. As for DTD, if you know how your cycle is you could get away with only the once, but I think it's pretty common to do every other day during the fertile week. Or there's the SMEP plan, which involved using OPKs (which I hate) and DTD every other day from day 8 until a positive OPK, then 3 days in a row. We did every other day (roughly) during the fertile week last time around and it was 4 cycles before we had a BFP, which isn't really that long but felt an eternity!

Welcome, bertiebotts as well!

I found the same about my libido last time around TTC! Currently it's close to 0, but I have a feeling that's health related, so our decision to put off really TTC until May was probably also driven by me not really wanting to go to the effort, hah.

If I was you I think I would ask the doc about the trial meds and let them know you're TTC. It may be that they're perfectly safe to take, or it may be that they switch to something else. I wouldn't just put your life on hold whilst TTC, though. If meds could potentially help you it's worth seeing through at least for know, just so long as they know you might become pregnant.

Hi starmist! I absolutely HATE questions like that, what if you had been struggling for years with infertility? It's just so insensitive! Sorry you've been getting them, and I hope TTC is quick for you.

Phew! Sorry for the barrage of posts, I just have to respond every time I see something to respond to, I can never remember it all for one long post.

I've not checked in for a couple days, but it's CD2 for me and we're not TTC this cycle either. I had bloods drawn on Wednesday to test my thyroid function, and I find it really strange to be hoping that there's something wrong. But if there IS something wrong with my thyroid it means that so many of my minor ailments, fatigue, low sex drive, etc, all could be linked to that one thing instead of me just being rubbish for no reason. Should be able to call for the results at the GP Monday and I'm nervous because I'm so sure they're just going to be all normal. How weird it is feeling like you want something to be wrong with you!!

Sorry, completely unrelated. On the TTC front I have kept up with charting BBT and I'm going to try OPKs this cycle just for curiosity's sake, even though I never got a positive last time around. I'm pretty sure my cycles are USUALLY 29 days, O of CD16, and a 13 day LP. I'm feeling pretty positive getting this all figured out before we really TTC because I'm hoping it will mean that I don't feel paranoid about not doing everything I can once we TTC and can just get on with DTD as and when we can.

FX for more BFPs for you lot this cycle, and I'm actually looking forward to getting TTC underway NEXT MONTH, eek!

That is true wispa, and we don't know how long it will take. I'm booked in for blood tests and an ECG on Wednesday which I'm actually just trying not to think about because I hate needles. The ECG will be OK but I think the results might be skewed by my needle phobia.

Thanks Bertie that makes me feel better, it always helps when you know others are feeling the same. I'd like 2 DC ideally. I know when I think logically that at 32 it's fine, I've got lots of time but it's like suddenly everyone around me is having babies!

Wispa exactly, ppl have no idea what's going on when they ask that question. It's like they think they have some right to know but it's such a private thing.

FX those waiting on tests get some answers soon.

Ah but it's nice if people around you have babies. I was the first by a long way in my social circle to have DS and it was a bit lonely not having anyone to talk to about it. I am more "normal age" now and I think it will be nice this time, as likely I'll know people with DC of similar age which will be lovely :) And nice to have people who've done it just before you as they can warn you of what's coming up and you get nice hand me downs

But I think I know what you mean - my best friend just had her first and is posting loads of pictures and I'm finding them really hard to look at :( I thought it was because I can't go and see her in person (distance) but I don't know what it is now.

We come newbies 😊 and hope the 2ww goes fast for those in it. 6 more pills and then I'm officially coming off the pill! Got my folic acid tablets now so Will be taking them from tomorrow x

Just got back from holidays, looks like I have some catching up to do!
Period just started this afternoon, I'm disappointed even though I wasn't really expecting to be pregnant this month. It's probably a good thing though, I've had a lot of beer and blue/soft cheeses this week!

Welcome, not we come 😂

pointless, the problem with soft cheese would be the listeria risk, which is minuscule anyways and you could just as easily get it from unwashed veg as mould ripened cheese - but you would already know if you had gotten listeriosis from it, so even if you WERE pregnant you wouldn't have done any harm. Nor would the beer have caused any harm, either

FX for this cycle!

I got a positive OPK this afternoon on CD15, the last test I did was on CD12 which was negative, i didn't test on CD 13 or 14 so unsure where I'm at with the LH surge or when I'll ovulate. We BD'd last night but didn't for the 2 days prior to this. We plan to BD today, tomorrow and the next day. Hope that's enough to hit the window.

FX Sienna! I think you're definitely in with a good chance this month.

Does anyone use the clear blue digital OPKs? The ones with the flashing smiley for high fertility and then static for peak? I've only ever used cheap OPKs and never got a positive, but I went and bought a back of the CBD ones on a whim. Now wondering whether I shouldn't have bothered. Pissing on sticks drove me mental last time around and I want to stay relaxed!