Relaxed TTC Feb/March/April 2016

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Hi,

We've just agreed to start TTC #1 in March so just starting to look at preparing for that - prenatal vitamins, losing some weight, etc.

I'm 33 and have only been with my OH for just over a year but we're both sure this is the relationship for us...we'll be getting married but want TTC as a priority and fit any wedding around Mother Nature.

Not planning any temp checking or charting or such like....maybe I'll change my mind if I'm not preggers after six months or so!

Anyone planning TTC about the same time and want to keep in touch on this thread for relaxed catch ups about preparing and then TTC?

Sarah X

I've still not started the folic acid. Will pick some up tomorrow x

I was looking longingly at my bag of maternity clothes and even my breast pump in the loft last week!
You've reminded me I've completely forgotten my folic acid over the weekend.
Bit confused today as I had a bit of a tummy pain and what seems to be EWCM but only on day 8 of cycle which seems a bit early. Is it possible to ovulate before day 14 but still have a 28 day cycle?

I've not even thought about it. Only managed healthy start for about half of the first 12 weeks as I was so ill.

pointless, that would make your LP 20 days long, which doesn't seem plausible. Usually the LP will be the same cycle to cycle and any variation in cycle length will be down to how long there is before O.. Maybe you'll have a shorter cycle this time, do you know how long your LP usually is?

Hello ladies.
I really hope I am on the right thread as I have just joined.
I have technically been Ttc since September '15 but for the first few months relied on Ovia. My cycle however is a little different which I found out after trying the ovulation sticks and I seem to be ovulating around day 18 so I really only count as starting from January. Just got AF today so another month gone.
I went for some blood tests which came out normal. Am trying to reassure myself as really we were concentrating on day 10-14 and I don't ovulate til 18/19 each month so it's only the past three months I feel we have 'nailed it'😉
Am so disappointed today though. Really thought that this month would be good and made it to day 30 with no AF.
I also have had a few periods where it wil start very lightly on time, then stop and not return for another 5/6 days. This is very annoying as I don't know what day I'm on or which date to count from. (Have also gotten excited and mistaken it for implantation more than once)
Next month we will be apart for ovulation which is also a pain!
Sorry for the negative post!! It's just the day that's in it. Will be fine tomorrow .

Welcome Mbire!
Wispa I have no idea! How would I work that out? We actually DTD on Monday so if I was ovulating you never know... Meant to be having a month off this month too!

Hello! Can I join? I have just persuaded DH to start trying. I already have a dd (15 months) and as I'm still breastfeeding I don't even know if I'm ovulating yet but I've had 3 AFs now so hopefully. I'm going to wait until April because I already have one December baby and I feel guilty about how close she is to Christmas. Don't think I could cope with another birthday around then! Means I can probably start trying in just over a month. Exciting!

Hiya newbies!

CD14 here and I had a temp drop this morning, so probably ovulating tomorrow as thought and DH is in Paris until Friday. No problemo, it's more of a relief than anything as DH thinks we're trying now and I've suddenly wanted to wait until May. Anyways, by May I'll have been taking folic acid for 3 months, so perfect time, really!

Pointless, you just need to know which day you ovulate, either through tracking signs, using OPKs, or temping. The average is 14 days, but I would hazard a guess that while some people have a longer luteal phase it couldn't be much longer as its down to progesterone levels after ovulating and they drop towards the end of the TWW.

It's quiet in here, I hope it's just because no one wants a Christmas baby

No temp rise this morning, so I'm confused and suddenly jumping to the conclusion that I'm no longer ovulating normally! Probably not true, and I'll probably see a rise in the next couple days, but it's definitely thrown me. I've not been tracking any other signs, and don't plan to, but if temping doesn't give me a clear idea of when I'm ovulating I might start looking at other means of tracking by May.

It is quiet! I can't say I am too bothered with Christmas baby or not really! Is anyone else in their TWW? I am in my first and going slightly mad with symptom spotting at only 5dpo! Ovia is telling me to test in a week, but with irregular cycles I don't know if I should try to hold out for AF (although not sure when that will be?) I am not feeling too confident this cycle, only as it is the first one and I am not quite sure if we got timings right.

I'm still here but lurking a little haha. I take my last pill in my second to last packet today so then only one pack to go 😁 x

Lurking too. I tried and failed to avoid December last time (miscalculated dates slightly as I must ovulate later in my cycle than average!) but actually having a December baby is lovely and it makes Christmas really special. I don't want two birthdays on one month though!
So talk to me about temperature to tell when you're ovulating. I want to see if I can tell this month. Should it be consistent and then rise while ovulating? Sorry-I'm clueless!

friendly, this is a really textbook temp chart - lower temp pre-ovulation with a dip just before O, then a rise caused by progesterone in your system. If it's not a successful cycle progesterone will fall off after an average of 13 days or so, temp will fall, and the lack of progesterone and HCG will trigger AF. The second photo is my chart this cycle, and if nothing else I'm ovulating later than expected!

That's really useful. Thank you Wispa. I'm going to start this tomorrow I think so that I can see if I'm actually ovulating yet. I know that AF can return without ovulation when breastfeeding so it will hopefully tell me if i am. My cycles aren't particularly regular yet either so it will be interesting to keep track. Do you take your temperature at the same time each day?

friendly, it has to be first thing every morning as its the basal body temperature you would be tracking, and you have to check it before you get out of bed or even sit up. I just have the thermometer on the bedside table and when my DD starts chatting in the morning I take my temp before getting up to get her.

Good news is that I saw a temp rise today, so probably ovulated yesterday, only a day later than I thought. This is only my second cycle temping (the first I fell pregnant with DD), so maybe my luteal phase is a day shorter than FF predicts and is only 13 days and my ovulation is normally CD 15 or 16.

I'm only temping for this cycle and next, though, to make sure things are still working. Not sure I could keep it up long term, though it is interesting to see. I have super regular cycles, though, otherwise temping for one or two wouldn't be as helpful.

So how is everyone?

Anyone actually trying this cycle and in the TWW aside from devgal and maybe pointless? Any more symptom spotting, devgal?

I'm get really itchy to not wait until May now, I can't believe how loopy I'm going yo-yoing back and forth between trying now and waiting. It's a total head vs heart thing - I definitely want to lose a bit of weight, and I want closer to a 3-yr age gap (DD born in June 2014), but I'm getting so broody!

Hi everyone! Hope you're all doing okay?
I haven't posted for ages cos I was trying to make my first ever tww as relaxed as possible, and I find if I'm on here I get a bit obsessive! But now I need your help again - I've just done a frer and I'm pregnant!! Just a faint line, but definitely a line, I even did the 2nd one in the pack to be sure. I'm freaking out a little! a lot My dh has already left for work and has a very busy stressful day ahead so I don't know if I should phone him to tell him or if I should wait till tonight. But what do I do with myself all day if I don't tell him, I'll go crazy!!
Sorry, feel bit cheeky having disappeared for ages and now asking for your support again.

Congratulations avriljen!

haven't posted anything for a while, as definitely won't be ttc until end of April/early may (if not made redundant!). Had my 1st af since coming off the pill at end of January so I think it'll be good to let my cycle get in sync a bit before ttc.

Avriljen - are you able to meet your dh for lunch & surprise him? That's what I did when I found out I was pregnant with dd. Dh secretly knew there was only one reason why I was meeting him for lunch (as he knew I was seeing the doctor on that morning) but he was really happy when I confirmed his suspicions.

Hi Jenny, Unfortunately not, he's working away from the office today. Then I'm meant to be out tonight, thinking of cancelling that and just being here when he gets home. He's driving for most of the day so even if I did get him on the phone I'd be worried the shock would cause an accident!
I'm off work today, only work part time, so I'm just going to have to do something to distract myself, other than bulk buying frers from boots so I can test every morning to be sure!
Fingers crossed for your job, must be a stressful time. I think it's def a good idea to let cycle settle once off the pill, at least you'll have a better idea of tracking by the time you come to ttc.

Congratulations Avriljen. Let us know how to managed to tell your DH in the end.

Wispa I just have this niggling feeling that I might be out. I was all cramps and bloating last week, but now 8dpo and not feeling anything now. I caved this morning and did an POAS - BFN. Not that I was surprised at all as it is still too early. I really am now going to wait until Friday and use a FRER. I do feel more prepared for another BFN now though so that's one thing!
Have you found the temping useful for this cycle? I am thinking of doing it next, but just to see if it tally's with OPK and ovia!

Congratulations Avriljen ! I would wait till tonight to tell him in person if you can- how exciting!!

Ovia says I am in my fertile week 22-29 Mar and I've worked out if we did conceive, my due date would be 17-24 Dec. Not sure whether to go for it or wait till next month?
What's everyone's opinions on a Christmas baby?

Congratulations avril!

High hopes- at first I had said I really wanted to avoid a Christmas baby. More so for the fact I don't want to be in hospital on Christmas as I already have children and want to be with them on the day. Now though, I wouldn't really mind, I just want a baby! Lol. My hubby is saying we have to wait one more month though as I'm having a party for my birthday in a few weeks x

Congratulations, Avril!! If it was me I would wait until after work and tell him in person.

devgal, it's not over until it's over. Symptom spotting is so pointless as all symptoms that could be pregnancy could also be AF at this point as the only difference will be that you'll have minute levels of HCG in your system - it's the progesterone that will be giving anyone symptoms during the TWW and you get that every cycle. Equally you could have absolutely no symptoms and be pregnant and that's not even rare.