The Bumsnet Bus: All aboard for destination BFP!

[MagpieCursedTea]

Hope it's not too presumptuous but the last thread was nearly full so thought I'd get a new one ready!

Dizzy I'm pleased the chat went well and things are moving along for you.

That's so exciting pixa. 2016 is going to be a great year for all.

I hear you soda we started dtd yesterday and I'm now getting itchy to start opks and then the mad tww will begin.

Kellz welcome. Can you tell us a bit more about yourself? Do you already have DVDS? How long have you been trying? How old are you. 8dpo is early to test. Step away from the pissy sticks for another couple of days :) I hope you get your BFP really soon, but if you get one in the next couple of days you may make me cry. As do other posters who arrive and get their bfp instantaneously. It's tough on this journey for thoes of us in it for the long haul.

Hi BorisIsBack of course. Im 23, married with a lg who is nearly 3. She was a surprise so this is the first time ttc. I fell pregnant at the beginning of the year, had a CP in March, stopped trying until July we started again. This is the first cycle that we used OPKs. im not going to POAS for a few days, only did it because my OH wanted too, i knew it would be BFN. Dont worry i dont think this is my month. Im getting symptoms that i never get for AF but i have a feeling that i wont get my BFP. Xxx

Soda I have been spotting ever since coming off the pill before my period, the fertility people think its linked with low progesterone , I too have noticed since coming off BC my af is a lot lighter and has cut down to three days instead of 6 days like it used to be

Dizzy Glad you are getting referred for an ultra sound , I hope your DP gets on board with the SA tests, my DH at first did not want to take them which i can understand but it will be the way forward help you get referred

Boris I have between 24 and 26 day cycle, hopefully you will get more answers from your test and go from there, you are on the right path to getting your baby!!

Af came today so il be able to start the Clomid tomorrow, so excited and scared!!!

rainy excitibg for cycle clomid. Will keep everything crossed for you :)

kellz sounds like you've had a tough time, sorry for your loss and cp. hope your journey with us is drama free

rainy I spotted after I came off BC for the first few months. Ive been better the last few months but last month I bled after DTD which I guess is spotting? Obviously I was convinced it was implantation bleeding! Do the fertility people think your lighter AF is linked too? Just wondering if that's what could be wrong with me.

Exciting about your clomid. So can you TTC as soon as you start taking it? Are there side effects? Please feel free to ignore all my (probably ignorant) questions!

worried about it and ended up going for s smear test and then ended up having treatment for pre-cancerous cells

There's something funny going on when I post on my phone and it's reordering my posts so they make no sense! I meant to say that I was worried about the spotting between periods so I went for a smear test - and that led me to having treatment for pre-cancerous cells a couple of months ago. I've been fine recently but the bleeding last month really freaked me out. Will keep an eye on it this month. I suppose I'm not sure if any of this is related to problems TTC or smear issues or even post treatment issues as my body is settling down.

Sorry for essay, basically thinking out loud!

dizzyn glad your chat with DP went well.

magpie are you feeling any better now?

Soda they were not really concerned about the light AF, she said lucky you, my 21 day results were 27 and then when i took the test again it was 22, she thinks I'm not ovulating properly causing my progesterone to lower and that is why i spot, iv said this all along that my progesterone lowering, when i start spotting i can feel my mood change to becoming angry and irritable

The bus has decided to drop me off at aunt flo's.im out and gutted.good luck to everyone and hope you all reach destination BFP !!

Sorry to hear that mimi, hope you have better luck next cycle!

Welcome kellz best of luck.

I agree with Pikz, it sounds like the new year will be an exciting time for lots of you!

I'm still unwell, the throat is better but I'm just so tired, sore and struggling to concentrate (so I apologise for the quality of my replies/posts at the moment!). The GP thinks it's viral and it's just hit me particularly hard as I'm run down so just need to rest. I've also been having spotting again (sounds like I'm not the only one) so I have to go back for an examination. Going to phone for an appointment tomorrow morning. We also talked about my medication stopping me ovulating so I might be coming off it for a while when my current work contract ends in February to see if that helps.

Sorry Magpie here is to a speedy recovery((hugs))

Thank you Boris and Magpie

Hi everyone, sorry I've been absent. I'm just trying to chill out a bit while there is nothing happening here.

I'm on cd11 now so will be gearing up for dtd from tonight, although I don't think I really believe it will happen naturally now.

Thanks for asking after me soda, I'm ok.
We have our appointment with the consultant on Tuesday, so not long until I will know what the next plan is.
I got baby bombed at work today, but I had guessed so it didn't sting as much. What did sting was when she said 'I'm having a girl' and I'm not sure why, maybe because it made it more real.

Magpie - sorry you're still poorly Hun, that sucks. Rest up when you can, you need to be better for Christmas!

Mimi - sorry for af (and welcome I think??)

The light AF talk has be interested. I'm worried about that too, and have been wondering if that's related to my thin lining measurements. A question I will be asking on Tuesday, so will report back.

Kelz - welcome to you too.

Waves to everyone else! Hope you're all ok.

I'm not sure if I told you, but I saw a counsellor at my clinic on Tuesday. It was very tiring and emotional, but it was good to talk without having to apologise for the tears. She gave me a couple of positive ways to handle my need to research and go over things without bringing my dh down with me which is good.

Does anyone else have a massive hate for the couple on 18 kids and counting? She's 'resigned herself to the fact that baby 18 will be her last' Oh shut up. Xx

Thanks Sammy, hope your appt goes well!

Ive seen 3 of my friends have babies and 5 announce their pregnancy. Its difficult :( xxx

Sorry AF arrived mimi.

Nice to see you back sammy. Counselling sounds like it was a good idea and glad you've got another appointment soon - hopefully more answers. Or at least next steps. Do let me know if there's any light AF conversations with docs! I've felt a bit worried about it since I came off BC - everyone else I know says AF is heavier but mine definitely isn't!

I've been asked to be bridesmaid tonight! Next August. Dress shopping in January. Really pleased to be asked but in the back of my mind I'm thinking 'what if I'm pregnant then?' Having said that I was bridesmaid in May and thought the same then!! So just going with it and going to enjoy the distraction.

Get well soon magpie!

Nearly the weekend, on the home straight now!

soda oh thoes what of in pregnant thoughts are difficult aren't they? I spent all of last year not wanting to book things more than about 4 months in advance, and worrying about how I would hide not drinking from friends. I hope you get pregnant quicky but also get to enjoy the wedding. If your friend us a good mate she will understand that bridesmaid duties or not, having a baby is hugely important to you.

I'm sat in the waiting room for day '21' bloods or day 17 in my case as my cycles are so short. I hate hospitals, blood and am really squeamish. If this is an ordeal how the hell am I going to have ivf and a baby?!

Be strong mama boris,hope the tests go well.
soda was the maid of honour at my friend's wedding with an 7months belly.everyone kinda found it fascinating.don't stress just focus on having your baby.
Am taking a more laid back approach this cycle,no opks no temping just enjoying the festive celebrations.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL

Hope everything went ok boris. Completely with you on hospital squeamishness!

I've spent ages not even buying clothes because I figured I'd be needing maternity clothes soon enough! So just going to go bridesmaid dress shopping and if it doesn't fit me later on then it'll be a very nice problem to have unless I'm not pregnant and have just gotten fat

We want positive thinking soda !!u will be pregnant next year dear

Sammy I'm glad to hear you're getting some support from the counsellor. It's good to have a space where you can just let your feelings out without worry. I know what you mean about the 18 kids people! I also feel the same when threads pop up in active on here with people complaining about pregnancy. I know it's hard and they absolutely should have a place they can complain about it all but I would give anything to be in their position.

Boris I hope the blood tests went well! If you do need further treatment, you will manage I promise. I know the thought of all the tests and treatment is scary, especially if you don't like needles but you are strong and you can do this!

Mimi a laid back approach sounds good. I think it's sensible to do a cycle like that once in a while just to give your brain a bit of a break from the stress.

Waves to soda, kellz and everyone else. My advice is to try and live your lives and not put them on hold. Don't add the extra pressure, easier said than done I know!

I'm being sent for an ultrasound to figure out what's causing the constant spotting. Just waiting for a date.
I've got all the in laws coming to stay for the weekend. I have a feeling I'm going to be baby bombed by SIL. I'll be happy for her as they've been trying for their first for nearly a year, but... You know, the inevitable feelings of jealousy and then the guilt because we have DS and I should be grateful. TTC does not bring out the best in me!

Hi Magpie

Hope you're not waiting too long for your scan date and can get sorted out soon! Im the same with TTC i have DD so i am very pleased but i see my friends getting pregnant and get very jealous!

x

I remember when we were struggling the first time round and thinking that even if we were lucky enough to convince and then struggled again I'd be more chilled about it. I am to a certain extent and I managed to stay relaxed about it all for longer but it's still so hard! I think part of it for me is that I'm an only child because my Mam couldn't have any more for medical reasons and I hated it. I always thought I'd have a big family and now that just isn't going to happen, I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself about it. I'm so lucky to have DS though, I really didn't think we'd even manage to have one and I'm trying to hold onto that feeling. I'm definitely having a day of feeling sorry for myself though!

I get it magpie. It's so hard to keep positive about it all the time and even though we're so lucky to have the one the longing for another doesn't go away. I thought I'd have had 4 by now! Ttc is a tough road and it does bring us down sometimes. Hope your scan date comes through quickly and you are able to get some answers.

Sorry for AF mimi.

Glad you're getting support from counselling sammy. I'm sure it helps to talk things through and let your inner feelings out.

Boris hope the blood test was ok.

Nothing to report here. Cd11 and will start the opks tomorrow. What fun!!!

magpie everyone has a day like that. I hope you're feeling better soon honey. Xxx