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TTC #1 after miscarriage - looking for some buddies

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Clareinthemiddle · 29/08/2015 13:29

I have been ttc for 10 months. I'm 34.
Took it very easy the first few months and then went for it with OPKs, no caffeine, reduced alcohol and got my BFP in May, but sadly mmc at 12 weeks (a few days before my scan). The little thing had not made it past 5.5 weeks :(
Took July off to recover and then back on it again in August. Heard/read a lot about increased fertility the few months after a miscarriage so was really convinced August would be my month, but af arrived yesterday. Absolutely devastated.
Can feel a very lonely place, especially as I either have friends who conceived within 1-3 months, or those who always knew they would have issues so started with IVF a few years back and have thankfully all been successful. I guess I just thought I would have an easy ride, as my sisters did, but no such luck.
Thought it would be nice to share the journey with others dealing with similar situations or with success stories after a miscarriage. Please say hello :)

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mascaraisamust · 24/09/2015 20:59

Clare is there no possibility it could be implantation or is it definately AF? Hate how our bodies play tricks on us sometimes Sad

amymb86 · 24/09/2015 21:56

Thanks Clareinthemiddle and sorry to hear that you got your Af. Fingers crossed for next cycle. I'm rooting for everyone's bfp, we all deserve it after what we've been through. Xxx

sundayraspberry · 25/09/2015 19:38

Clare- so sorry to hear you are feeling low, Mascara is right about our bodies playing tricks on us, it's sooo cruel. I've spent the last two weeks convincing myself my boobs are bigger! You do feel like you are going mad! I was so much more relaxed before mc and never symptom spotted.

Wondering how you are getting on Manatee? Must be nearing end of 2ww?

I've had a short holiday, plenty of sun and cocktails, although couldn't help thinking it would have been our last break just the two of us Sad

Sakura03 · 27/09/2015 12:16

Hi everyone, can I join please? I was on the other ttc after miscarriage thread but it's gone ever so quiet there, mind you a few ladies have fallen pregnant again so they they've moved over to the pregnant board. I had a mc on 28 May at 6 weeks. Cd12 here and using opks this cycle.

mascaraisamust · 27/09/2015 14:49

Hi Sakura. Are TTC #1? Fx for you! I've run out of opks, 4 weeks today since the mc. Still awaiting AF x

sundayraspberry · 27/09/2015 16:46

Hi Sakura, I did a bit of lurking on the other TTC after mc thread, its reassuring that many move on and get their bfp although not so if your still waiting.

Forgot to mention, Mascara, I had quite a bit of cramping during my first AF after mc. Nothing too bad tho and just had light bleeding so it's bark was worse than its bite!

I've got drs appointment tomorrow, am a bit nervous.

mascaraisamust · 27/09/2015 17:13

Thanks for the warning Sunday. Ordered some CB opks so they should arrive tomorrow.

I don't feel like AFs on the way, apart from my horribly spotty chin which is due to hormonal inbalance (more reason I think the progesterone is an issue).

Good luck with your appointment Sunday, mine is on Wednesday.

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Clareinthemiddle · 28/09/2015 18:36

Evening ladies. So after a few days of spotting with some lingering hope it was implantation, af got me in full force yesterday! I'm Gutted!!!
I also feel shaky and weird today, just like I did with the anemia after the miscarriage. Did anyone else have this after their mc?
I'm also a bit concerned that starting my af on 17dpo is not good. They say 14/15 I think.
I'm going to doctors this week as well to see what tests/help is available so we should all report back on that.

Hi Sakura. Sorry for your loss Sad

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mascaraisamust · 28/09/2015 22:20

Ah no sorry Clare Sad sounds like you could be anaemic again. Is this your first or second AF since the mc?

Did a CB opk and it said I'm not ovulating although I had two lines which looked positive but I'm not sure that means anything so I'll test again in the morning.

Hope that appintment went ok Subday x

mascaraisamust · 28/09/2015 22:21

Appointment Sunday! Silly phone!

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Clareinthemiddle · 29/09/2015 14:38

Hi mascaraisamust - this is my third after the mc. The first 2 I had no anaemia symptoms but was on the strong iron tablets from the Dr which I stopped taking a few weeks ago.
How did the opk go this morning?

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mascaraisamust · 29/09/2015 17:47

I got a flashing smily. Knew it! So maybe I will ovulate on my first cycle since the mc.

If you stopped the iron tablets then you probably are a bit anaemic. How are you feeling today? Better i hope!

sundayraspberry · 30/09/2015 10:26

I agree clare sounds like you might be anaemic again, although it could be a good excuse to pay a visit to drs to ask about tests etc.

Congrats on your positive opk Mascara. Perhaps it will lead to a different positive soon!

I've got a fertility clinic referral, no date as yet. I was worried that Dr wouldn't refer as I got pg naturally last time while waiting for clinic appointment, hoping history will repeat itself Smile

How's everyone else doing? I'm so bad at keeping track of people!

sundayraspberry · 30/09/2015 10:29

BTW I'm quite proud of managing to make your names bold! Simple things Smile

Sophia1984 · 30/09/2015 10:54

Hi everyone,

Joining you over here about a month after my miscarriage. I had conceived the first cycle I was even paying attention to ovulation and it was a massive, but very happy, surprise. It felt so natural straight away and I didn't even mind the incredibly sore boobs and all-day sickness! Sadly at 7 weeks (27 August) I found a drop of pinkish blood, went to the EPAU and they couldn't see anything except a well-prepared womb lining and a tiny dot on the ultrasound. I started bleeding the next day and had what seemed like a normal period.

Here's where it gets a bit complicated and I know this might offend people but please try not to be judgmental. About two weeks later, my partner and I had sex and then freaked out a bit that I was ovulating as we had decided not to try again. We both thought I couldn't face the stress of being pregnant or having a MC again and I reluctantly got the morning-after pill on September 9th Since then we have talked more and decided we do want to TTC again.

I started bleeding on the 14th of September and had a few days of really heavy bleeding. I noticed that I had pretty much text book egg white mucus on cd10 (assuming first day of bleed is day 1) and we have had sex on cd 6, cd 10, cd 12, cd 14 and cd16.

The weird thing is I am feeling really nauseous, and have been for last couple of days. If I did ovulate on cd10 as my mucus suggests, would it be too early for symptoms? I have excess saliva and that gagging feeling that distinguishes MS from the anxiety nausea I also get. From the cycles I ad before I conceived, I have 26 day cycles.

Any thoughts? And thanks for reading!

sundayraspberry · 02/10/2015 07:36

Haven't a clue I'm afraid Sophia1984 it's very common to have a strange cycle straight after mc, perhaps try doing a test? Did epau get you to a test after mc to check it was negative?

Sakura03 · 02/10/2015 08:00

Good morning everyoneSmile. I'm using clear blue digital opks this month on Cd17 6 ånd still haven't had a smiley faceConfused my cycle is on average 28 days, no ewcm, however I had loads of this on cd 12-14. Should I keep testing or have I missed Ov somehow?

Sophia1984 · 02/10/2015 12:33

Thanks sundayraspberry I think I messed it up even further by taking morning-after-pill. I did take a test after miscarriage and it was negative - they had discharged me when HcG was 44 and falling. Not feeling so sick today so who knows? sakura03 I don't have experience of using opks but I just make sure to have sex every other day during the whole week I think I could be ovulating. I sometimes get ewcm at other times of the month too..

rhodes15 · 04/10/2015 10:14

Hi, hope you don't mind me joining you all.

At 6 weeks I had some brownish discharge and because I was about to leave the country they sent me to epau. They told me everything was fine and booked me in for a check up when I got back. Went back and they couldn't find anything, told it wasn't good news but that they couldn't confirm anything so I would have to have another scan. This was 2 weeks before my wedding. Went back 7 days later having cried for a week to find it had grown but still wasn't bigger than 5 weeks. But again because it was too small (even tho it was bigger than last time) they told me I needed yet another scan and that I couldn't go on honeymoon. I told them that wasn't going to happen! I started miscarrying at the wedding reception and the next day the sac left. Went on honeymoon the next day, uncomfortable and tired but determined to have a nice time.

Anyway, I've struggled with it all a lot recently. But we have started trying again, this being the first cycle. Does anyone else go from feeling really hopeful to terrified to pressured all at the same time? Hope you don't mind me joining, feels slightly easier knowing your not alone.

Sophia1984 · 04/10/2015 11:25

Hi rhodes15 I'm so sorry for your loss. No wonder you've struggled - that sounds like a horrible experience :( I feel the same mix of emotions. At the minute I seem to simultaneously have morning sickness and period cramps. I don't want to let myself get too excited and I don't think I'll feel pregnant till I see a scan, but I am also terrified of scans as that's when I found out baby hadn't really developed at all. What day of your cycle are you on? Good luck!

Sakura03 · 04/10/2015 12:48

Cd19 here still no smiley on clear blue opk, I'm going to order some cheap opk strips on Amazon and give them a go next cycle as this is just a waste of money!!! Sophia how are you getting on? rhodes so sorry for your loss and at a time where you building happy memories, I hope you did have a nice honeymoon after all? I had my mc when flying out on a beach holiday in May and could only go swimming on the last two days of the holiday. It is such an emotional roller coaster, you worry it's never going to happen but want to believe that it will...

mascaraisamust · 04/10/2015 13:10

Hi all, still on cycle 1 since the early mc and haven't had an AF yet (it's been over 5 weeks, mc end of Aug). Got a positive opk on Wednesday on the CB opk (I was shocked to ovulate over 4 weeks after mc, I thought I was due AF)...

I'm assuming ive ovulated but don't have my usual symptoms. I had a short LP so expecting AF by the weekend at the latest but I have a horrible feeling that it's going to not show up and give me false hope of a bfp.

Went to my gp last week who completely dismissed my worry about progesterone and told me to relax and keep at it for another six months. Got my private fertility consulatation on Wednesday to see it they say any different!

So I'm in the tww I suppose (unofficially)...

rhodes sorry for your loss. Mine was a similar story.

sophia take a test, it's the only way to be sure and if youre still worried see your Gp. It may be your hormones settling.

sakura keep going, cd20 normally for me. I've given up on cheapies and doing CB, take the guesswork out for me but it's expensive!

rhodes15 · 04/10/2015 14:03

I'm so sorry for all our losses, it's awful that we have to experience this. Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

Sophia Il keep everything crossed for some good news for you. im on day 15. Using the clear blue dual digital sticks. Before I got pregnant last time is been off the pill for a year and had really irregular cycles. Still waiting for the static smiley. Husband is doing his best to keep up. Doubt it will happen this time but you never know.

Mascara fingers crossed for you. Hope your appointment goes well and that the tww is fruitful.

Sakura I managed to have a lovely honeymoon thankyou, put it all away and got in with having fun in the sun. Its awful when you want to go in the pool and have to lie around the outside watching everyone cool down. It's since I've come back it's hit me like a ton of bricks.

Sophia1984 · 04/10/2015 15:23

Just did a Clearblue digital and got 'not pregnant'. Kind of relieved as I was freaking out that I could be more pregnant than I thought, but that would mean it was ectopic, as I had a heavy bleed since that ovulation. So hoping that it is too early to pick anything up.

mascaraisamust · 04/10/2015 15:30

Sophia glad you've got an answer. At least you can move forward now.

Rhodes it's hard not to think 'why me' when everyone else seems to have an easy ride get pregnant but it will happen for us, one way or another! And we will be so, so grateful!

Just been out to buy new born baby clothes for the third time since mc, my friends just keep having little ones. Try not to think about it!

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