TTC #1 after miscarriage - looking for some buddies

[Clareinthemiddle]

I have been ttc for 10 months. I'm 34.
Took it very easy the first few months and then went for it with OPKs, no caffeine, reduced alcohol and got my BFP in May, but sadly mmc at 12 weeks (a few days before my scan). The little thing had not made it past 5.5 weeks :(
Took July off to recover and then back on it again in August. Heard/read a lot about increased fertility the few months after a miscarriage so was really convinced August would be my month, but af arrived yesterday. Absolutely devastated.
Can feel a very lonely place, especially as I either have friends who conceived within 1-3 months, or those who always knew they would have issues so started with IVF a few years back and have thankfully all been successful. I guess I just thought I would have an easy ride, as my sisters did, but no such luck.
Thought it would be nice to share the journey with others dealing with similar situations or with success stories after a miscarriage. Please say hello :)

Clare - it took me six months last time. I also hate the thought that it could be that long again even though it's nothing in the scheme of things.

Hi ladies

I'm joining as feeling super rubbish and in needed support. It's so good to read all sides of this.

I came off implant one year ago and naively thought everything would happen very quickly as our 4 year old was conceived whilst on contraception!
I was pregnant in April, briefly but unfortunately had an ectopic which was very scary, I had to be rushed to hospital and have several blood transfusions.

Anyway, I recovered well and everything is in tact...however still nothing.

We dtd mostly every 2-3 days, relaxed, excited. But it's just not happening. I feel rubbish, like a failure. I know it sounds silly but we just want a baby so much.

I do OPKS which are positive each month but can detect your body gearing up and not actuall OV. I'm going to speak with my GP tmr. Anyone else had tests yet? I had a scan in March which showed a large cyst. But that's gone now. No other issues with pcos etc?

I'm sorry anyone else if going through this x

Hi helloall1, I had some tests done in jan via gp. Bloods to check hormone and thyroid levels, swabs and semen analysis for OH. Got referred for ultrasound and fertility clinic but got bfp before going so I'm gonna try and get re-referred soon. I would try and see a gynae specialist gp if there is one at your surgery, prob more likely to help.

Amyyy8, any sign off AF?

Thank you Sunday, I will phone first thing x

Hi Sojii - welcome!
So sorry for your loss earlier this year. Sounds like you've had a terrible experience and really hard with your mother-in-law.
Have you had any tests now that it's been 18 months?
Have everything crossed that you're time will come soon!
And welcome helloall1!
Sorry for your loss. Impressed with your ever 2-3 days!! We only manage every 1-2 days the week of ovulation.
Yeah I wonder about the OPKs. I always get a positive, but I've heard that this doesn't actually mean you've ovulated it. Saying that, since my miscarriage I've had 2 months of really strong pain on one side and then the other within 12 hours of getting the positive OPK. So hoping that's ovulation pain.
I went to a private clinic for an 'MOT' which all came back fine, although there are more tests I could do. Hubby had semen analysis which was all fine. In some ways makes it more frustrating as to why it's not all happening quicker :(

Hi, I'm back TTc after our mc in early August. I had a total loss at 10+2 after on and off bleeding from week 7.

It's cd4 for me so I'm ready to put the last cycle behind me and start getting back to "normal." I'm back on the folic acid and the healthy eating and less drinking!

Good luck everyone!

Hi northernlight, good luck with this cycle! Hope you get back to feeling 'normal' quickly.

Good luck northernlight and sorry to hear of your mc.

So how's everyone doing in their cycle this month?

I'm on 6dpo and trying not to symptom spot or worry, but finding it really hard! Also hubby away for 10 days right over my next fertile window do know if it doesn't work this month I'll be even more upset :(

Clareinthemiddle, shame hubby is away next month although might not be a wasted month as you could ovulate earlier or later than usual. Are you planning to test early this month or wait until af is late?

Hope you are feeling better Fandango. Have headaches gone now?

Did you get to the GP Helloall1?

I'm now on cd47 (grrr) just wish I could join in with 2ww, sooooo frustrating. Been a bit emotional since last week and boobs are a bit 'funny'. Trying not to read too much into it tho as I think it's mainly all in my head! Still BFN. Anyone else convinced themselves they feel symptoms?

Hi everyone.

Hope you're all doing OK.

I'm due tmr, I know AF will arrive...but obviously I couldn't resist testing just to be sure. I still have a tiny bit of hope though!

I have a GP appointment on Friday, they could have seen me earlier but that's the soonest I could do, around work. Fingers crossed they will suggest some tests.

How is everyone else getting on? X

Hello all, headaches gone for now (I'm about cd8), but I know they'll be back next week! Going to the Gp on Monday. Will keep at it all, but not feeling very hopeful x

AF showed up this morning. Gutted, I really knew it would but every little twinge gives you hope until it does, doesn't it?

I'll update people on what doc says tmr

Good luck to everyone still in with a chance today. Tonight I will drink wine.. Lots of wine

Sorry to hear that Helloall, it's horrible when even the slightest 'symptom' gives you even the tiniest glimmer of hope, and then bloody AF pitches up! I find that the disappointment soon turns into fresh hope of the new cycle, kinda wipes the slate clean. Fingers crossed for this one for you x

Sundayraspberry - what a nightmare for you! I totally convince myself every symptom means something and then google it manically.
Today at 7 dpo I have mild cramps and tingley boobs, which seems early for af, but who knows!?!

So sorry Helloall1 :( It's so sh*t all this. We spends years desperately trying not to get preggers and then when we want it...
Nightmare! Enjoy that wine tonight

Let us know how Drs goes on Monday Fandago. I've decided to go to mine if this month doesn't work out.

Positive vibes to all

How is everyone?

Updating you on my GP appointment today, I went just to ask about any possibility of screenings or blood tests to check everything is OK, as been trying for 12 months and had complications with ectopic in April. I am in shock at how rude and disrespectful the male doctor was!! He actually mocked me and laughed at me and made me feel ridiculous.

I'm so upset! I didn't ask to be referred for fertility treatments and I completely understand that others have been trying for longer. I was treated like a child asking for sweets!!! Obviously I am complaining.

I wanted to mention my very heavy and painful periods too, but he shot me down about this also.

I'm not quite sure what I've done wrong .

Anyone else experienced this?

Fingers crossed this month is lucky for all of us x

So sorry that happened to you - I've had consultations like that about other health problems and it is awful. So how was it left? Did he just send you on your way? X

I left because I wasn't getting anywhere. I stood up and calmly said I was leaving as didn't like his attitude, to which he laughed and said ok! He said lots of unprofessional things, such as he slagged the doctor off who sent me for a scan earlier in the year, which had showed a large cyst. Told me and hubby we shoukd get STI screenings?!??? We has full tests before we even got together years ago and always been faithful, so why the hell would we need to consider that? Such a strange doctor.... The previous woman I saw was so helpful and friendly. This gut was a complete arse.

X

Shocking! Am angry for you! I'd go and see another Dr.
Hate to say it but female drs are better for this sort of thing. Don't be alarmed about the sti checks, its standard for fertility issues, I had to get checked despite being in a 10 year relationship.

That really is just awful Helloall1! Definitely complain and go and see someone else who will hopefully be more understanding.
I actually saw an older male Dr after my miscarriage as no women were available. I was gutted, but actually he was lovely and we chatted for a good 15 minutes about it. In fact he was the one who told me I should go for a scan once the bleeding stopped to make sure everything was ok. The gyno lady at the hospital said I didn't need to, but thank god I went on his advice!!!

Happy weekends to all.
I'm on 9 dpo and creeping towards d-day

Hi all, can I join? I had a emc at 8 weeks over the bank holiday weekend in Aug.

We weren't meant to be trying this cycle as I've not had my first AF yet since the emc but we have been dtd and seeing what happens.

Not got a clue when I ovulate now as I'm not sure when to count day 1 of my cycle. Opks have been getting darker then lighter, then darker again! So we've just been dtd eod.

Hoping AF never comes and I can relive the bfp, but that's being highly optimistic!

Ttc #1, cycle #9, dpo ?? - progesterone level low at 1 the month I got my bfp, , had luteal phase issues it only being 8 days. Suspect Af could be the end of the month as that's when emc started...

Hope everyone's ok xx

TTC number 1 with AI (donor) since April. Got pregnant first try, MMC in June followed by ERPC. Followed by break up..
TTC again since August. Just got Aunt Flo today days early. Cycle all over the place it seems, and it used to be so regular. Was hoping was implantation bleeding but seems too heavy (sorry if TMI).
Booking flights to meet up with donor for 4th attempt in October.

Mascara, it took me 6 weeks for AF to arrive post ERPC and got 2 positives on OPK within that period. One 2 weeks later, one 4 weeks later. Am assuming the first one was still pregnancy hormones. It was all better after AF arrived emotionally, despite break up after 9 year relationship. But that's another story....

Hi all,
Can I join this thread too?
I miscarried baby #1 in August at 11 weeks (mmc). Started trying as soon as the bleeding had stopped. I just had a blood test on Friday as I was having cramps still and found that my HCG was at 6. Bit gutted that I'm still technically pregnant after 5 weeks. Was hoping id be back to normal by now! Still waiting for AF. I'm actually looking forward to getting it for the first time ever!
Fingers crossed for us all! Xxx

Mascara, I had AF exactly 4 weeks after erpc although it was v light. Think they count cd1 as the first day of bleeding? I couldn't face DTD for a while after mc, although I felt much more positive when started TTC again.

You sound deserving of some good luck billi77. I have a friend who has two boys conceived via a donor but don't think they had to travel too far to meet up, it must take planning to catch fertile window so fingers crossed it happens quickly for you again x

Thanks all. Feeling a bit more reassured not that AF will turn up towards the end of this month then, fingers crossed. I also am looking forward to it for the first time ever. Opk is sitting on a not quite positive and isn't chaning and temps are right down at 35.5, so it suggests Af might be on the horizon.

Billi, hope you're ok. Things can't be easy at the moment for you.

I have a gp appointment next week to discuss my concerns about progesterone levels after they told me to 'see how I got on' when I got my BFP even though I want apotting and was referred for low progesterone to the gynae clinic.

So I've got a gp appointment, a private consultant appintment and my gynae appointment in the next few weeks. Wonder if I'll get anywhere

Hey all.

Hi Mascaraisamust - I had af 4.5 weeks from day of miscarriage. It was the only time in my life I have been glad to see it :)
Let us know how all the appointments go.

Billi77 - sounds like you're having a really hard time of. Fingers crossed it works the next time.

Amyab86 - welcome and sorry to hear of your loss as well. Your first af is a great sign your physically on the mend, although the emotional side is something else.

I've been really low for last 2 days. I have been really convinced it had worked this time as my early symptoms around 7dpo were similar to when I conceived before. But the last 2-3 days I've had cramps which is normal for me before my af and yesterday evening at 13 dpo I had some light brown cm, which has continued today. I'm absolutely gutted as with af arriving, I'll have to wait until Nov to try again