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The BESH are cheating on Luck with Irony, all Hags aboard for the ironiclusterdiff of the decade (for the B's and the none B's!)

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Blue2014 · 27/06/2015 18:53

You know the drill by now ...

Rules of Entry - must be over 30, TTC no. 1 for over a year, be suitably evil and Hag like, willing to shout Cunt at the moon on regular occasions, consume extra gin when our fellow hags are unable to, and to get the nipple tassles out for any successful Hag ...

No admittance without a complete BESHtionnaire - see below.

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barkingtreefrog · 04/07/2015 12:11

blue private investigators?! Shock What was that about?!

Blue2014 · 04/07/2015 12:25

Ha Grin I meant investigations! But I'm really disappointed that's what I meant, investigators is much much more exciting GrinGrin

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barkingtreefrog · 05/07/2015 16:49

blue I am gutted. I loved the blasé way you just casually announced you'd been tailed by three private investigators!!!! Shock

barkingtreefrog · 05/07/2015 16:49

OK, note to self, don't attempt to use accents mn doesn't like it...

Blue2014 · 06/07/2015 16:06

Hags, I think I may be a fertility genie - the 3rd of my specialist students has now become unexpectedly pregnant months after leaving my side. Quick come rub up against me!

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Blue2014 · 06/07/2015 16:15

Sigh - I want to find my below post funny, and I do a bit but I'm also really sad. Seriously, where's my baby??

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EricaJ · 06/07/2015 17:53

I am sorry, Blue. What a ballache.

The reason that I've been a bit quite lately is that I think I have sort of give-up. I don't know if I have the energy for IVF, specially not sure I could cope if it failed, or if I miscarried again. So I kind of stopped procedures for now and in a limbo between despair and acceptance.

Maybe in a few weeks I will feel differently. But I am sending you all the haddock of hope !!!

cooperG · 06/07/2015 18:07

That's shitty blue Wine Hmm

Aww erica has something happened or just general fucked off with it all-ness?

Blue2014 · 06/07/2015 18:49

Oh Erica, my darlin (sod this hard faced BESH thing for a minute) I'm so sorry things are so tough. I wish we didn't live so far away and that I could come and be there with gin and a fish of your choosing. I'm selfish and I don't want you to go but sometimes distance brings us the space we need to survive. Many many hag like hugs to you ThanksThanksThanks

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EricaJ · 07/07/2015 07:12

Sort of givenup... man, I can't write these days.

I don't think anything happened Coop, I just ran out of energy. I see everyone around getting pregnant, having a baby, having another baby... and it just seems something completely alien, something that it is just not meant to happen to me. And I am unsure whether that's a good state of mind to go into IVF? Feeling so totally hopeless?

Blue Thanks, I would love to have gin and fish with you too! I won't go, I enjoy chatting to you hags too much, if you don't mind me not having any TTC updates...

cooperG · 08/07/2015 18:06

Aw erica, I feel you hag. I have no wise words unfortunately, because I feel the same - it seems about as likely as winning the lottery to me now. I can only pass you the cod of comfort and remind you that we're here if you need to rant. Wine

barkingtreefrog · 08/07/2015 18:22

erica, cooper and blue
Well. If you're not busy stressing about your own treatments right now please distract yourselves by chucking shit loads of fish in my direction. It appears I'm starting IVF (frozen cycle) today. Yes, today. Shock As in today is day 1 and the nurse said I could start whenever, so I said how about now....

We're having a natural cycle so no injections, therefore no need to wait. I'll start taking aspirin tomorrow due to the thrombophilia, and I'll have progesterone after transfer due to my LP issues (apparently they don't give this as standard on natural cycles). They will monitor with bloods and scans and deposit the embryo 5 days after ovulation (as it's a 5 day blasto, so that matches the time).

Starting today means I'll be doing it all by myself as DCW leaves for his exciting trip in less than 2 weeks, and I go in for my first scan after that. Didn't want to wait, but I've no idea how I'm going to cope when things don't go to schedule (they haven't done for the previous two iui and ivf cycles so I don't see why they would when they're relying on my natural cycle!) and more importantly, not only will OTD fall when DCW is still away, he won't even be contactable where he's going, and he won't be back home until 11 days later...

Is this is really stupid idea? Confused

Blue2014 · 08/07/2015 20:47

Oh barking, you've let out my crazy dwarves! (Where is bad, I forgot what we called them??) this is massively exciting and terrifying at the same time. Can you plan somewhere to be on OTD, reckon you'll need someone either way.

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cooperG · 08/07/2015 22:39

Wow barking, exciting! I don't understand a lot of the terminology though, sorry, what's OTD?

barkingtreefrog · 08/07/2015 22:52

official test date coop.
Blue at the moment I'm more concerned that transfer could be while I'm supposed to be at a festival...
The following weekend I'm already away camping with a friend (and his daughter) so I'll have company. I'll work something out for otd once I know when it's likely to be.

EricaJ · 09/07/2015 00:03

Barking I may have given up on myself (for now at least... mood swings are the flavour of the day) but you go, hag!! I imagine that going through it without DCW won't be easy but the BESH are nails!!

Coop As likely as winning the lottery is pretty much as it feels right now. I don't mean to drama queen it, I just don't have the energy right now.

Blue2014 · 12/07/2015 19:33

Oh the Fred fell off my watch list.

Hope all is going well barking.

No news from me, spent the entire weekend with a new born niece. Praise for me having not openly acted hag like please Wink

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icy121 · 12/07/2015 22:29

Blue strong. Not even one teensy hag-comment?!

We took OHs kids for a walk on Saturday up Leith Hill. Highest point in South East or thereabouts. National trust walking trails. Suitable for feet (human or otherwise) and mountain bikes. Saw some ditzy cow pushing a baby in a pram up to the top. Not an off-road special pram, a daily life barge-everyone-else-off-the-pavement-because-they're-not-my-child-and-therefore-scum pram. I've told one of the SDs off for using the word "retard" previously, so I had to settle on an eye roll and a tsk. Moron.

TheRainDrops · 13/07/2015 09:56

Holy shit hags, has it been that long?! you're on a new fred and everything! Had a fab holiday, very relaxing, followed by a hellishly busy week back at work hence the lack of posting!

bad hang out, post, entertain us with dwarf names (I can't remember them either!) Grin How was the harmony? I hope all is well with badlet!

blue that is a farce of Benny Hill proportions. It seems crackers that it's so complicated to get CCG funding transferred across, at the end of the day it's just a computer record somewhere. Bloody red tape! I think the Czech option sounds well worth exploring - I think a lot of CCGs allow you 1 private attempt prior to NHS treatment anyway?

icy I am not sure if we've met before or not!! I feel like I recognise your name, but I am hopeless at remembering stuff! Welcome back regardless, although obviously it would be preferable if you hadn't needed to. What the eff is ovarian drilling!? It sounds grim!! Good (IYSWIM) that you've got something to work with now tho. Are there plans afoot to deal with the endo? What next?

erica and coop Flowers - it's all so mentally draining, it's difficult sometimes to 'feel' anything. I am not saying that's the case for you guys, and if you feel it's genuinely time to stop then more power to you but I know I've had a couple of stages of feeling that way before the 'need' crops up again. At the moment at best I feel quite ambivalent about parenthood for the most part. If I look hard I know I definitely do want kids and am prepared to continue making the effort (which is handy as my IVF implications appointment is tomorrow!) but it is really hard to summon the energy/enthusiasm for it that I had before. I'm sure that'll change once IVF is properly underway. Buckets of shellfish for you both in the meantime.

barking good lord, I go on holiday and you're still waiting for the NK results, I come back and you've not only got them but you've started IVF again!!! I thought we were going to get to be cycle buddies (finally!!) Wink. Never mind, I'll cope, and this is going to be the one for you hag, it has to be.

cave I hope you're faring well? Any news?

So tomorrow is our implications appointment Shock. I called the clinic on Friday (day 1) so as I understand it tomorrow we'll spend a couple of hours being told about drugs, scans etc. and being shown how to stab myself (I still don't want to do this!!) and then it's a case of sitting tight till CD21 (July 31st) when it all kicks off. As mentioned above, I am feeling really detached from it all at the moment. Not sure if that's a good sign i.e. not stressing or a bad sign i.e. totally unprepared and more likely to go into a total melt down when reality hits. Just don't know what i SHOULD be feeling!! Going to send myself off into treatment with a last celebratory G&T tonight (body is a temple and all that shit), is it wrong I am more concerned about how I'll cope with nearly 1.5 months of NO BOOZE than how I'll cope with trying to have a medical miracle bay-bee??

Rain 34, married to RAF (33), TTC since March 2012 (fucking hell!), 1 natural BFP Oct 13 - MMC Nov 13. Starting IVF nowwwwww!

TheRainDrops · 13/07/2015 10:19

omg, my last post just shows my ingrained pessimism doesn't it? I should have said how will I cope with 9 months+ of no booze, not 1.5..... Grin Sad Hmm

Blue2014 · 14/07/2015 09:15

Hi Rain, hope hols were good?

Ha Smile I did think that about your 1.5 months. Hope it all goes well today.

The farce may be benny hill style but I may well be benny, I keep completely forgetting to follow things up! Forgot my bloods this month, keep forgetting to book Mr B spaghetti test (ha ha, that autocorrect ed from spaff!)

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Blue2014 · 14/07/2015 16:20

Also, it's ovulation time. I can't bring myself to tell him to ttc sex me, I just can't do it. There isn't a part of me that believes that sex makes babies so what's the point??

Erica,,,, look I'm loosing my hope - this is good news for you because from our past record only one of us can have hope at a time which means it must be your turn to look after the hope for a while, keep come grab it!

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badb · 15/07/2015 11:46

Hi hags. Did the dwarves have names? I can't remember them, if they did - all I know is emotional German dwarves of sympathy menkul. And those, to all of you.

blue and erica - massive (but gentle) arm punches to you both (also sneaky hugs). It's a rollercoaster, for sure. Hope you are both doing ok. I agree with icy (pleased to make your acquaintance, icy) re the positive mindset guilt-inducing rhetoric - so if you want to be menkul here and everywhere, be menkul.

rain, how were the holidays? I have booked a week in the sun in September before term starts - literally counting the days now (42!).

coop, cave - how are you hags doing?

barking - jesus, your poor head, hag. You've a lot going on. Indeed, it won't be easy without DCW, but like the rest of the hags have said - you'll get through it, you are one strong hag.

Harmony went grand, hags. All low risk, and badblet is a girl. I suppose I can go public with it, though I don't really feel inclined to do so, I'm not sure why. I'll have to tell work soon, though.

Blue2014 · 15/07/2015 12:15

Hey bad, congrats Smile and hey badlet Smile

Nice to see you here, this place has gone quite since we lost you 3 PESH. I think we need new recruits!

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Blue2014 · 15/07/2015 18:11

Hags,I dont want ttc sex!!! I don't want to, I don't want to! Confused (sex with Mr B, great but when I feel I have to I just can't do it!)

Tips? (Tips from PESH very welcome too!)

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