Bumsnet - where we get it on and get our BFP!!

[Rainy34]

This is the bus where we will get our BFP, hop on with your summer skirts and grab the bfp 's!!

Ps how on earth have you filled this bus so quickly you chatty bunch xx

Gahhhh can we please fast forward this week? This was our 12 week scan week (coinciding perfectly with our wedding anniversary tomorrow) and I am not doing very well! AF's relentless tidal wave of gore has been giving me huge MC flashbacks and last night while we were out watching a band my friend tells me in strict confidentiality that she's 7 weeks and please can I look after her (she has a medical condition and needed someone in the group to know in case something happened). Obviously delighted for her skirting over the "it happened so quickly!" comment but felt like I was carrying weight with me all evening. Just want to curl up in a little hole and wake up when everything is lovely and not painful anymore!

Oh mega :(. I had an announcement like that before a night out and it ruined the whole evening for me. It is unfair that it comes so easily for some and others of us struggle.
Hope you're feeling a bit better this morning, and AF has subsided a little?

I have my suspicions that my other sil is pg too, just been a couple of things she has missed due to being tired which isn't like her... I'm not sure I can cope with them both having bumps together while I'm left behind :(. Xx

Sorry to hear so many of you have been made sad lately :-( big hugs to you all Boris Sammy nomio pikz mega and anyone else I've missed and chocolate whilst you still can

Me and dh met when I was 26, married at 28 but did not feel ready for kids. Bought a house, did it up. Started trying when I was 32 and I will be pushing 36 when I give birth! I think I was immature in my 20's, didn't graduate until 24 and def did not find the right man whilst at uni!

One of my work mates (male) was prattling on about how people should have kids before 30 a few months back actually, causing some conflict as 2 ladies were preg at 33 and 32. He was well up on his high horse. No idea why he was so passionate about it! Just wait til he finds out I'm preg at ancient 35 lol!

Hope your week gets better ladies x

I didn't meet my DH until I was 32. The guy I thought I'd have kids with dumped me when I was 30 after we went to a friend's wedding together and he had a big freak out about how that could be us one day soon, quit his job and moved 200 miles away a week later. I should have seen the signs, he had a mini freak out when we moved in together. Some men are really, really scared of commitment. It was a terrible time but I'm glad it happened now. Got myself on match and met someone wonderful
It will be 2 years in August since my and DH's first date and we're already married and pregnant. Some men aren't at all scared of commitment. I'll be 35 when we have our first.
I don't know any women who have delayed having children because of their career. I know lots who have delayed because their men aren't ready or they haven't met anyone suitable.

Oh mega I'm so sorry, difficult times for you. X
to chops and oyster
Is anyone testing soon?

mega sorry you're having a shit time. Wishing the week away for you! Hopefully you've got nice plans for your anniversary that will help a little. In the meantime, cry, scream, drink...whatever you feel like, do it. You're absolutely entitled to grieve in any way that you need to.

15000 is a great target pikz!

for you mega, you will get your sticky bean soon.

It's funny how these articles never mention men not wanting to commit, it's almost as if they think women make babies on their own!

boris I'm going to test on saturday if AF hasn't arrived by then

Hi chops and oyster hope you're both feeling well

How many dpo are you queen? Thanks for asking after me :-) I'm sick and tired of feeling sick and tired but I'm happy :-) x x

Happy is good, Chops! I am pleased it is all going well for you.

Mega, I really feel for you. It sounds like you are really going through a rough time at the minute. We are all here to support you in any way we can. X

Boris, how are you feeling now?

Hey nomio I'm ok thanks. I have my delayed annual review today - see if my bitch of a manager still want to employ me. So at least stress at work makes my home life feel better.....

I'm feeling so tired. Late night last few nights, broken sleep due to drunks outside and an early start this morning all taking there toll. However as I'm now about 7dpo I'm googling exhaustion in early pregnancy

queen fx for you testing so soon. X

I do that kind of thing all the time, Boris. I think we can convince ourselves that anything is a symptom!

I had a dream last night that I tested today (8DPO) & got a BFP, so guess what I just did. Obviously it was BFN.

Mega big hugs lovely. You will get your sticky bean.

Hope everyone is ok! Last night DP asked me "do you need my baby gravy yet" I actually wanted to vomit no dtd last night for us....

oh nomio when were you going to test? It's just to early.

mummy baby gravy???!!!!!

I know, Boris, I am such an idiot! I will leave it a few more days.

Have you had your review yet?

Baby gravy would put me off ever having sex again!

I know. Disgusting!

Nomio good luck testing in a few days. The BFP dream is s good sign! Fx for you

Thanks Mummy.

I have such a headache today I can't be bothered doing anything.

Oh gosh you lot have been busy!

Mega sorry you're struggling. Be kind to yourself and remember these dark moments will pass. You will get your sticky bean

Happy shagging frog!

Nomio step away from the tests way twerly. Fx it's a bfp for you.

Mummy that would put me right off.

As for me I'm still in limbo as FF thinks I ov on cd14 but I'm still not convinced I ov this cycle, sigh. Hopefully AF will arrive in a few days so I can start again

Ladies! FRER are 2 for 1 at boots. So was £10 for 4 tests!

chops according to Glow I'll be 14/15 dpo on sat, if I did indeed ovulate. Currently cd39!

boris how did it go?! X

And now I feel like AF has started/will start imminently. Will be on knicker watch. Like spring watch but less birds, more vagina.

Hi everyone, I'm coming out of hiding to update my stats and give big hugs to everyone (espesially mega ) af came today, a day early (32 day cycle last month, 27 this month) I knew that there was very little chance this month, but I am heartbroken. Dh just keeps saying "stop putting so much pressure on yourself" which was like a red rag to a bull! I have been trying for 8 months now. 8 months of enforced nympomania! (Which has turned dh into a constant sex pest) 8 months of lying in a sticky puddle (and suffering reccurent uni's) 8 months of walking past the pregnancy mags in the shops and thinking how much I want to read them! Then to top it off my niece has announced her pregnancy and dh told me off for begrudging other people happiness when I have had my share of happiness (l don't begrudge them, it was just hard to hear today) I tortured myself as to whether I should have a baby at such a difficult time, I guess my extreme reaction to af has shown that I wouldn't be happy if I didn't carry on with my quest...... So:###* riceicle, cycle 9, age 38, ttc 5, BFP 1/6/15 ##**