TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

Paws i remember you from previous threads! Congratulations!

Mummy.. I am so feeling your pain about pregnancies in the real world! Two of my friends are pregnant by accidents and I have an incentive work colleague that blabbed about about how close we were and is now pregnant with her 6th child and it being rubbed in my face constantly!! And asking me what names I had thought of prior to mc, pushchair etc!! ????

Thanks carrot, DH will be nice to me when he gets home, poor man is in bits himself.

Megan, i can't believe anyone can be that insensitive! I've had a few ill-thought comments but nothing like that. I'm so sorry you have to put up with that.

megan that is completely awful! You poor thing!

It's awful ????

That's absolutely shocking,Megan! Some people really should engage brain before opening gob.

Her husband is the same, while I was still miscarrying he phoned my dh and asked when we were going to try again as our children could grow up together! How we haven't snapped I don't know. Have to keep business and pleasure separate somehow.. I can rant away here lol x

Megan what insensitive arseholes! Sorry, but no matter how happy you are about having your '6th' child...you should consider the feelings of those who have not long lost one of theirs! I'm sorry you've had to deal with that x
dobby thank you, I will have a butchers soon x
mummy I completely understand, I'm sorry I jumped to conclusions. It must be infuriating when all the people around you seem to be having 'accidents' that they aren't even sure they want! One of my guilty pleasures is Jeremy Kyle and I actually have to turn it off most days, as I cant stand seeing all those half-wits that are pg yet again with children already in care and three possible fathers! Does my head in to say the least x
mama I hope you're doing ok, my thoughts are with you...doesn't matter how small the loss, its the dreams that are lost with it that hurts the most, I know x

paws two couples I know who are expecting told me weeks before their "condom accidents" that they didn't want any more babies

It's just not fair is it? Makes you mad

What's your story mummy? X

Long version paws I have one DS to my ex. DP and I started ttc in Jan. On cycle 3 I got my bfp at 10dpo lmp date of 30th March. I told all our family and close friends straight away as I was so excited. 5w +6 I had some red spotting - not much, was told all would be fine. At 7w +5 at work I had some spotting, then an hour later went back to the loo and there was enough so cover my knickers. Went to gps as had some cramping on RHS, they were worried about ectopic so sent me to hospital. Had an inconclusive scan, the pregnancy was in the right place but unsure of heartbeat, bloods taken and told to go back in a few days for a scan and 48 hours for bloods. Went back for bloods at 8w, bleeding had nearly stopped begged to be seen by a Dr for a scanner (was a Sunday) waited 3 hours for her to be out of surgery to be scanned. Was still hanging onto a little hope, she asked me to look at the screen (here is me thinking she was going to point out a heartbeat) and she measured a baby with no heartbeat being only 6w+5. Then she told me my bloods were decreasing. Suggested I wait to miscarry naturally but that they would intervene if carrying it around was too painful emotionally. Naturally miscarried at 8w+1 on 25 May. Passed the baby in its sack during a contraction and took it to the hospital to be "humanely disposed of" while all the nurses called it "product of pregnancy" and "tissue" it had tiny arms and eyes in its tiny head and I had held it in my womb, my hand and my heart I sobbed while they offered me the box I had lovingly put it in back - knowing they had slung it in a yellow waste bin. Wtf cycle was 35 days and here I am on CD8 post wtf and honestly terrified of history repeating itself.

Thank you for your experiences.

Tftpoo - fingers crossed for your tww and thank you for your thoughts. It's hard to be patient. Wtf is exactly how to describe it!

Paws - great news on the bfp, it sounds like you went through a lot during your mc

Carrot - i had a v close friend tell me her news too recently. She knew my situation so i think felt a bit guilty. I am really happy for her but sad too as her due date is 10 days after mine would have been.

Mummy - i do feel i need to get pg again so have been dtd every other day. I'm probably over thinking it though - i find it impossible to 'relax and don't think about it'

I think when you are used to being in control of most aspects of your life, it's hard to be faced with miscarriage as there is nothing you can do about it. I think that's meant to make you feel better about it but it doesn't for me. Emotional rollercoaster isn't the half of it!

Oh mummy what an awful thing to go through, no wonder you're scared stiff . Some ladies wait a bit longer before they ttc again, personally I hoped I got pregnant in my wtf week but I didn't. Now I'm hoping this first proper cycle after mc will be my lucky one...

wine you will find no one on the conception board who can "relax and not think about it" as soon as you start ttc you turn into a mad person. Fact

sakura I am terrified but it is the thing j want the most so I just can't put it off. The chances are on our sides. After one mc you are more likely to have a normal pregnant next time. Just got to persevere. Just got my flashy smiley on my CB opks. Dtdathon starts today

Mummy - posted before reading your story and it sounds really hard. You really do feel like your baby was a baby and it's all the hopes and plans that you start to make around it too. Rationally I do know that with nearly all early miscarriages that they are totally random and there's nothing you can do to prevent them. You start every pregnancy with the same odds so don't stand any greater risk when next time comes. Good luck.

wine it's painful physically and the emotional pain of losing the ideas of your baby are awful. The fun guessing a gender, trying to think of names, working out how far along you'll be at certain events or even how old the baby will be. It's unimaginable pain.

Which is why I hang around here - amongst the people who really understand what eachother have been through.

I am feeling brighter today - was a bit sad yesterday but happy we will start DTD tonight and waiting for ov now.

Morning everyone, looks like the rain is going to chuck it down any minute here...
That's the spirit Mummy!!!
Cd13 here, no sign of ov yet, when I got my first ever bfp we dtd on cd 11, 13, 14 and 16 so I'm in two minds as to do I just wait for a smiley opk or follow the pattern from last time?? Perhaps a bit of a strange question but just wondered what others would do having never used opks before.
Don't think I've said hello to Megan and Wine welcome.

Sakura Are you using the dual hormone opk or regular digitals? We are DTD every day from the flashy smiley and I ov 2 days after the solid smiley normally.

mummy I'm sorry you had to go through that...very very sad good news on the flashy faces though! X

My bleeding has picked up and has tiny clots in... Mc#2... Or still implantation bleeding? feeling so low, all these familiar feelings are resurfacing, feelings that I hoped I would never have to feel again...maybe I just cant have children.

Can you get to an EPAU paws and get yourself checked out? FX it's just breakthrough bleeding.

Paws I didn't know you had been bleedingyes see if the epu will see you. I am so sorry hun, thinking of you and sending you luck x

Phoned the doctors, going to see them this afternoon...im guessing they will refer me to my EPU. dh just not supportive, more like this whole thing is a burden to him, "oh great, so we're gonna go through all this again are we" he won't come to doctors with me because 'its raining' but I will walk half hour in it to get there, and that's ok...i just give up I really do. I can't do this anymore. Feel like I have nothing left to give. No support from him, no hugs, no reassurance, just sits there at the computer.

Oh paws you poor thing! Big hugs. Kick his arse.