TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks

Oh no mama, I am sorry to hear that.

So sorry to hear that mama

Thank you all for the reassurance ladies. It was only the once this morning when wiping, so pretty sure its old blood (was brown with minimal red in)
mama I'm so sorry for what's happening to you...how long ago was that mc? Are you sure its not old hormones tailing off, hence why lines getting lighter? I can't remember your story hun? Test with a cb digi tomorrow morning and that should give you a definitive answer, you were due on today if I remember rightly, so an early detection test should be pretty accurate by now, mind you there is the few 10% of women who don't get a strong bfp till a week after AF. Let us know how you get on x

Thanks everyone. My last MC was January. An own-brand digital stick says negative this morning. I'm all over the place.

Can I join? Miscarried end of April at 8/9 weeks. Had two normal cycles now so ttc is commencing this month ???? nervous to say the least x

Welcome, Megalilly Best of luck to you xx

Oh mama I'm so sorry. Be kind to yourself

Welcome Megan hope you aren't here long

paws yay for digi – now take no more! I hear so many things about the weeks not increasing and everyone rightly panics that it means the pregnancy is not progressing! I think implantation bleeding can go on for some weeks after implantation as it nestles down for the long haul.

Carrot I am really confused – I thought you got your BFP?

So sorry mama I hope AF doesn’t show up for you. Look after yourself either way x

Welcome Megan so sorry for your mc.

That was carrotpuff not me mummy

Sorry Carrot

Fx for you - it only takes the one well timed shag

No problem mummy we carrots are confusing

Anyone seen keys about? I was wondering how she was doing

Thanks mummy... I have put the pg tsts down!!!
mama I'm sorry hun, I didn't realise the mc was so long ago. I'm sorry you're not getting the answers you need from the pg tsts...look after yourself and try to stay positive x x
Welcome megan ... I remember you from the headwreak thread...hows things going? I'm pg now, on first cycle after wtf cycle (I'm counting myself extremely lucky) only two weeks today, so four weeks really hehe! This is a lovely thread and everyone is very supportive and kind. I hope your stay is not too long. I'm nervous to go onto the march bus thread as won't know anyone and feel comfortable here...also early days x

So sorry mama
Welcome megan sorry you had to join us.
carrotvan have you still got your symptoms?

Hi, hope it's ok to post - long time lurker-worryer on these boards...

I am ttc my second child and fell pg v quickly without trying (sorry...) in april. I spotted continuously and hcg levels didn't double, but it hung on in there and there was a heartbeat at 6 weeks. Sadly it wasn't meant to be and i miscarried naturally at 10 weeks.

That was two weeks ago and I've had an all clear scan.

If i count the miscarriage as day 1 of my cycle, i had a positive opk on day 9 (which i realised must have been hormones as a pg test was also positive ), then a negative opk and negative pg test on day 13 (so all pg hormones must have gone right?) - then a rather surprising positive opk on day 14 which was yesterday.

Duly DTD last night hoping that if it's real and fertility is high after miscarriage we might just get lucky. Had also done it just for fun on thursday so hopefully that should cover all bases!

Has anyone got any advice or experience?

It's just so emotional - i had no idea trying to have the two children we want would be so hard. I had a chemical before my DD and it feels unfair to go through this again. Can't deal with pregnant women and when you already are a parent (for which i feel grateful and blessed) - you can't just take yourself out of that world. DD is 20 months so i am fed up with being asked when i am going to have another.

Best wishes to you all.

Hi megan and winespider. So sorry to hear about your losses.

I don't know if I can offer much advice wine, I am also in the wtf cycle after mc at the beginning of June, it's so confusing isn't it? I had a bfn on day 12 after erpc then a +ve opk on day 20. I feel like I have been peeing on various types of sticks all month! We dtd when I got a +opk so just have to hope that we timed it right without really knowing what is going on this cycle. In some ways I feel like it wouldn't be so bad to get AF this month, just to know my body is re-set.

People have been very kind to me on here and I have had lots of advice to be patient during the wtf cycle. Really, that's all that we can do but I know how hard it is. Somehow, it's not as hard to hear that from people who have actually been through it. Hearing 'just be patient' from people who don't know what it's like is so annoying!

I do monkey but I'm really not sure how much is in my head. BFN this morning but only 9dpo so that's no surprise. I think FF is wrong in estimating my AF due date as 8th. I think it's more like 10th.

It's an emotional roller coaster wine. I got totally thrown by a friend announcing she's 8 weeks pregnant over the phone but have been fine with the new babies of lots of my antenatal group.

Meant to say, I have two children (twins) so totally get what you mean about being around pg women wine. Three of my friends who I have meant through baby groups are pg for the second time and I was so happy that my baby would be growing up alongside theirs again. I have not being going to groups since the mc, I just can't face it, but I have seen them individually at home or at the swings and it was ok. Look after yourself at the moment, you'll know when you are ready to go back to people and the things you were doing before the mc. In some ways think my boys have enjoyed a bit more time with just mummy over the last month. I have found that I want to be with them all the time as they are giving me the strength I need to get over the mc.

Sorry you are joining wine welcome. I am not sure - a pos opk does sound good but I would say just keep DTD every 2-3 days through the wtf cycle – it could be any length. But some people have a perfectly normal post mc cycle. My wtf cycle just ended and I got my neg preg test on CD9 or 10 I think then a true positive opk on CD21 but didn’t actually ov until CD24 so not sure how accurate the opks are on the wtf cycle.

The last week has been full of baby bombs and I am so sick of them!

So the bleeding has started. I don't know if I can go through this any more.

So sorry mama for your chemical hun. So so unfair. Big hugs xxx

mama I'm so sorry...please do be kind to yourself, its not your fault. Bumsnet hugs to you xxx
wine welcome. Sorry for your loss. I have been through the wtf cycle (only last cycle) its not nice, and tbh no amount of advice to be patient will give you patients. Its literally just something you have to 'plod on through' with. It will pass though. My mmc was at 10&5, tried naturally which took 3 weeks, passed what I assumed was everything (10-15cm sack) in one piece. Went back for my 6th scan and was retained products, had medical management which failed, went back for 7th scan, still retained products. Ended up with ERPC a whole month after mmc....wtf cycle was torture, convinced myself I was pg, i wasn't it was just a lovely new bundle of pms symptoms i had never had before! I had a 28 day wtf cycle which was lucky, i think its because it was 28 days from mmc to ERPC so my body was already in sync
Anyways, first cycle after wtf cycle...got my bfp! Yay! I know some women have to wait months to conceive again, so I count myself very lucky.
I don't have any children yet, and losing my first pregnancy literally destroyed me. I became extremely depressed, and spent two months in bed throughout the entire process...but there is hope...i am pg again, and I will get my baby! As will you. X x

mummy I hope I've not upset you or baby bombed you by posting lots of pics of bfp's? I'm sorry if I have...im just scared to go onto the march bus...i like it here, but I know I should really move on? Just not sure when. X

I've not seen keys for a while, ???

paws there's a really friendly bunch forming on the march bus, so please don't be afraid to pop over. There's quite a few of us who are pregnant after a mc. Me and at least one other lady who have caught in the wtf cycle. I'm also finding the pregnant after mc boards helpful aswell. Pop over and say hello as soon as you feel up to it.

paws you haven’t upset me at all! Just baby bombs in RL – those who end up on these forums are here due to mc are just struggling with the stress of it all and want nothing more than their bfp and baby, those in RL who have a condom slip and fall pregnant, again really grate on me!

I'm really sorry Mama. Have you got any real life support who can tuck you up with chocolate and gin?