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juneybean · 03/05/2015 18:01

The Rules of Bumsnet

  1. Don't talk about Bumsnet
  2. Get the sperm in the hole
  3. Don't LPB. It's frowned upon.

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loopylou1984 · 14/05/2015 19:17

Pixa - don't worry, I'm not that knowledgable either... Getting there though sadly!

Pug - you know what, I didn't actually ask! Better than we're doing on our own I hope! Xx

Rainy34 · 14/05/2015 19:23

Dizzy sorry you are feeling down, i think we build ourself up each month and then come crashing down when af arrives, be gentle with yourself xx

Tessie i can't stand animal cruelty either, makes me so upset to think people could cause harm to an animal

Purdie sorry your train is delayed, puts me in a right bad mood when i can't get home straight away, so i feel for you!!

Pixa your husband is so thoughtful, fx his tests come back all fine

I spoke to a work colleague today and she is going through infertility, she has been trying for two years and has a appointment for the first time with her consultant next week, and i also spoke with someone else who is at the start of ivf, i i did not realise how common it is for women to struggle to conceive, more and more people are struggling !!

lucieloos · 14/05/2015 19:48

Sammy great news about your appt. Glad it all went well. In my opinion I wouldn't pay all that extra money for the embryoscope. You are young, you will collect plenty of eggs and at your age a good percentage of them are likely to be good quality. I don't think you really need the embryoscope and especially for that price. I used the embryo glue on my treatment. Obviously it didn't do much for me lol. The doctors at my clinic don't actually recommend it as there is very little evidence apart from the manufacturer that it actually improves success rates. I am going to save my money this time around and not use it but I was like you the first time and wanted to try everything I could and for that reason I would say give it a go as its only an extra £100.

loopylou1984 · 14/05/2015 20:09

Thanks Lucie - I'm just worried that I'll regret it if I don't use it and it fails? Xx

loopylou1984 · 14/05/2015 20:16

Is anyone watching born naughty? Xx

Rainy34 · 14/05/2015 20:16

Sammy i dont have much knowledge on what you have been discussing in your last threads, still all very new to me but if you feel that you may regret on paying the extra £100 for the treatment then you should go for it, there is nothing worse in looking back and wishing you did things differently , do what you will make you feel better, you will be less anxious and hopefully that will help you succeed in the treatment , good luck xxx

Pixa · 14/05/2015 20:21

Sammy I am watching it, which is why I am quiet. Does it make you think that TTCing is the beginning of the worrying stage? We will worry about TTCing, then pregnancy, then labour

Pixa · 14/05/2015 20:23

Silly phone! Then labour, then birth, then about our children and them as adults, then their children!

I am fascinated by behavioural issues and mental health issues. I have learnt so much about them doing my job. They're so interesting.

loopylou1984 · 14/05/2015 20:30

Thanks rainy - I need to chat with dh about it when he's back! I think he'll want to spend the £775 on the scope too, but I could be wrong.

Pixa - I know, so much to worry about. I know my parents still worry about me, as do my grandparents! Oh dear.
I feel really sorry for honey - maybe the speech therapist should have gone to her house so it wasn't so strange for her! X

woodpigeon123 · 14/05/2015 20:31

Purdie I think you need to keep peeing throughout your cycle.... One pot for every day. That's what I did anyway! x

lucieloos · 14/05/2015 20:32

Sammy I agree with what rainy says. I don't think you need it but you need to do whatever will put your mind at rest so that if it doesn't work then you can tell yourself that you have done all that you can and you won't have regrets. You have an excellent chance of success at your age though. I am the same for my next cycle. I'm not using the glue this time but I have researched other medication which they use in people with repeated failures or miscarriages. I've only had one failure which is nothing abnormal but I've already convinced my doctor to put me on this extra medication because it won't do any harm to me but could help me and it has put my mind at ease a lot that I'm using it as its another thing ticked off the list that I have tried and if it doesn't work this time then there's nothing I can say that I wished I had done.

Rainy34 · 14/05/2015 20:34

Sammy £775 is a lot of money but manageable to find, least its not thousands,

Rainy34 · 14/05/2015 20:36

I have bought a fertility yoga dvd, I'm hoping it will help me destress when i get anxious and help, i told my oh he does not even say anything anymore when i buy things, just rolls his eyes at when he thinks my back is turned!!

DizzyMerry · 14/05/2015 20:37

Sammy your appointment seems to have gone pretty well. I don't know anything about IVF but wanted to say that if the test will put your mind at ease then go for it as there is just no point in coming this far and then having doubts and wondering what if. Good luck with it all.

eskimoflo · 14/05/2015 20:47

Thank you for all of your kind words about the greyhounds in Spain. It's heart-warming to know that you all care so much about their plight, but it's heart-breaking to know that there's not much we can do to help them Flowers

Purdie Are you home yet? Hope so! Sad

Pug I'm glad that you're back in the game and have got some CoC time in Wink In answer to your question about my Bumsnet name, I wish that I could tell you a story about my great great great grandma battling the extremes of the Arctic regions, having been raised by wolves and then being taken in by Inuits, working her way up and then spawning a new generation of Inuit fighters, with me being the sole surviving descendant. I wish that I could tell you that when my DH and I met, I kept my honour and chastity and I refused to sleep with him or even let his flesh touch my flesh until we had been together for a year. Until then, the only contact that I would allow, in order for him to maintain his respect for me, was a swift Eskimo kiss before we parted. I can't tell you any of these stories. DH and I slept together the first night of meeting slut and I just kinda like the word Eskimo Innit Inuit Grin

Ok... Does anyone want to hazard a guess at my CD21 results? Honestly, I haven't failed a test so dismally since I took Latin during my university degree. Seems like my progesterone levels are almost as dead as that ancient language. 3 out of 30. Must try harder. See me. Blush

Seriously, I knew I hadn't ovulated, so it's no biggie. On the plus side, I have tons of EWCM since my peak smiley yesterday morning, I have another CD28 day test on Monday and I rang the GP today and managed to secure a CD32 test for next Friday too! So if I have ovulated today, the Friday test should show it.

Hi everyone else I have had Parent's Evening tonight, so I've only skim read everyone's news. but I'll go back and have a proper look after I've had a cuppa. Brew

chopsface · 14/05/2015 21:05

Just wanted to say since I have become pregnant I have done nothing but worry! It def doesn't stop at ttc! I'm watching born naughty too and saying to dh, omg I hope our kid isn't like that!

I cannot possibly keep up with everyone's individual stories I'm afraid but I do read every day x

ibeka · 14/05/2015 21:09

sammy I agree with others - you have to do what you feel comfortable with. At what price peace of mind? is how I would look at it.

I am watching born naughty, pixa and sammy. Agree the worry never stops! I am reminded of this every day at work speaking to fraught parents and distressed teens. I wish we knew more about MH and behaviour disorders. its fascinating how differently kids react to their circumstances.

night I've just about recovered but was in a state of heightened anxiety all evening!! My parents were round for dinner and I kept snapping at them and DP for no reason! Honestly, next time I think 'tube at rush hour with 30 kids? Oh, it'll be OK!' someone needs to slap me. You ALWAYS end up split between trains then panicking about what they're getting up to/where they may disappear to!!

Rainy I have had the same. Have discovered one friend who is long term TTC and if you remember the other day I posted about how I had said to a colleague "everyone is getting pregnant just to rub it in my face" then realised she was preg? Turns out she is having a REALLY hard pregnancy with no security at all that it'll turn out OK. Women really need to talk about this more. Why is it such a forbidden topic? It means all we see are the baby bombs of successful pregnancies....

eskimoflo · 14/05/2015 21:15

Ibeka So true. I only found out last month that my Italian friend has been trying for three years after mentioning my ultrasound to her in a FB message. Maybe that's the reason that there are so many baby bombs? Maybe most people have trouble, so when it does happen, they can't help but shout about it everywhere, and the shouting is all that we see? Hmm I keep thinking about your parents' lab, bless his little heart Flowers

loopylou1984 · 14/05/2015 21:45

Slightly off topic but has anyone seen the persona synthetics adverts on e4? Proper freaked me out until I googled it! Xx

loopylou1984 · 14/05/2015 21:46

And thank you everyone. I'm going back to thinking 1 step at a time until dh is home to keep me calm! So, AMH results tomorrow is what I'm concentrating on! Xx

chopsface · 14/05/2015 21:58

Oh is that "humans" coming soon.....?! Yeah that freaked me out too if I'm.thinking of the same thing?!

I was whinging about a colleague forever being off sick until I found out that she was suffering mc after mc. And another colleague gleefully announced a pregnancy during my dark times making me feel jealous and then I found out that she'd been ttc years and years and had many fertility treatments inc Clomid, iui and ivf for severe endo. I was so happy for her then and we've got closer and I confided in her about our journey and our future treatments which never happened! 2 days after my bfp she whispered to me do I have a treatment date and I said we didn't need it any more! So I had a confident in work then! No, people don't talk about it, I was getting to this all along. You just don't know what happens behind closed doors.

eskimoflo · 14/05/2015 21:59

Sammy You do right. Focus on the next thing, and then the next and the next and then suddenly, your big day will be here! And yes- that advert! I stumbled upon it halfway through and thought it was some weird film! Then I thought it was an advert for an actual thing, and then the penny dropped!

Woolly84 · 14/05/2015 22:05

Good luck with the results tomorrow sammy! So glad things are progressing for you.

pug yes I do that too, wake up and get excited about taking my temp! Yayyyy for being back in the game!! Spafftastic! Grin

I agree infertility/subfertility should be talked about more openly, thank goodness we all have each other for support in this forum, I really feel for those brave ladies out there struggling alone.

rainy what yoga dvd did you get? I've been doing a beginners yoga thing from YouTube to help me destress- love it! It's the only time I'm not thinking about stuff and can truly "be in the moment".

eskimo I was getting really engrossed in your inuit survival story!! Sad please can we have more of Eskimo story time??

Woolly84 · 14/05/2015 22:07

^^ that was supposed to be a smiley face Eskimo Smile

loopylou1984 · 14/05/2015 22:10

Chops - yes that's the one!! I saw the end of it the other day and I thought it was a weird advert then saw the whole thing tonight and had to google!
Eskimo I thought it was a real thing too, until the logical part of my brain kicked in and said 'why wasn't this in the news?'

I work in a team of 10 people, of which there's me, 1 who had IVF, 1 who's wife needed clomid and one with a morph score of 2%! So that's 4 out of 10 who haven't had ttc easy and another 4 who haven't even tried for kids yet, so could be more. It is more common than we think! Xx