Positive Decembr - All aboard for Santa to bring a BFP!!

[MrsMcJnr]

Well, I thouht I'd better start this thread as I am CD1 of my 6th cycle of trying for our very precious first baby. This is going to be a lucky and positive thread, I can feel it so I'm laying down the babydust now so that as you join me, you can collect your dose .

For those who join me, what are you doing differently this cycle?

Morning all. Lisalin3: day 37 must have really got your hopes up. Poor you for the disappointment.

Flossam, poor you for nasty poisoned body and head with no sleep and no doubt a small dynamo whizzing round the house making noisy demands? It's only about 9 hours till you might be able to go back to bed again... Hang on in there

If we don't conceive this month the pate, prawns, excessive alcohol etc will be compensation. It's the month after that I'm dreading - going without all that tasty yumminess just in case. That's the thing about TTC that's really stunk, and that's why I'm trying really hard to chill out and get my normal life back, because I was missing out on life month after month to no avail. And it's not like I was conceiving in my months of purity anyway! I'm sure none of this sounds remotely new to many of you.

Welcome Lisalin3 - was hoping to see you on here. Wishing you a very Positive December!

Oh Flossam - so sorry about AF know how you feel, exactly! Bit hungover too - bed at 4.30am and up at 11am but still shattered. My AF is due on my birthday the cycle after this one too. Hope you get the best birthday pressie ever! Here's to 2007 - the best year yet!

Impatience - the chef has to try all the bottles of wine just in case yes? Hope you ok, remember the December karma.

CD7 for me and not much going on really - ho hum!

Hungover too. And was maintaining the Nov/Dec chill karma until I just spent ages trying to beat car renewal quote. Grrrrrrr. I'm sure I used to spend my weekends on more fun things And I gave up so still haven't done the job!

I am not the chef in our house, but I definately encourage and support the full wine taste. It would be simply awful to serve guests anything that wasn't just perfect, heh?

Have you tried confused.com? best quote I got last year was from Diamond but I have only been driving 3 years (though 33 ) and as I'd been driving a comapny car for 2 years, had no years of no claims. Costly business!

I am liking the chilled karma... I wonder if I will be able to stick to that plan?? Judging my reaction to MIL then probably not.

MIL called again today... no mentions of other people's babies (thankfully) but plenty of Christmas suggestions (argh) which I don't want or need. YES, I am a bitch! YES, I get wound up soooo easily over the stupidest things... but I cannot seem to help myself!!! Where am I going wrong???

Sorry chicks - ignore me. Rant over. It's out. I am calm now

Ready - think you just don't want her in your face at the mo. Totally understandable. It just makes us feel more pressured to be around people who we know have an agenda on our TTC abilities.

Christmas is going to be a bleeping nightmare. Both our families are coming to us because we live so far away and DH has to "work" Boxing Day so can't go home to either mother's house. And MIL likes to take over, constantly offering suggestions on what we should do. what we will eat. etc... I am sure that I am overreacting but My Mum on the other hand is happy to just help if and when asked and I just wish MIL could be like that too.

Sorry ladies... this really isn't the place for me to unload my stress!! Like we haven't got enough to think about ttc!!

MrsMc: Did have a look at confused.com but needed so much info and my brain just expired!

I'm not up to date on your MIL traumas, Ready, although I can feel the vibe . But non-MIL-specific, I think there should be public health ads on being sensitive around people who may be TTC. Bring back Nanette Newman (was it her?) narrating over someone's shoulder as they thoughtlessly declare how you should hurry up and have kids because really you just don't know what you're missing and it's really just what makes one life complete! Selfabsorbed smug b*ds

Oops, didn't read your reply before leaping in with my tuppence: MIL issue actually not TTC-specific! Makes a change!

Poor you nonetheless. Can you pretend you've got some horrible lurgy and everyone has to bgr off asap?

Hmm, can feel my calm is a bit squished this evening. Think unfolding petals, slow clouds against blue sky. Or just get a glass of wine. Back soon

Wishful thinking Impatience (I should have your name by the way - it sums be up!!!) I have tried lots of different things to get Christmas cancelled... but it's not working - my DH loves having everyone up, but then he is soooo laid back and lets everything just roll off his back, where as I take all the comments and suggestions too personally - like I am not good enough for DH! Pathetic really!!

Oh and MIL issues are 50% ttc related and 50% not good enough for her son related. god help me if/when we ever have a baby!!

50% ttc related and 50% not good enough for her son - that's no good at all Ready

Yeah I am sure I make a mountain out of a molehill... Just recently comments have been coming thick and fast about my friends having babies! And to be honest, no one would be good enough for DH, he is up on a pedestal. I think all boys mothers do this don't they?... although I know I am good enough for him and we are perfect for each other!

what you two think is all that counts, though you know that, right? It sounds like the age-old scenario, and that doesn't make it any less rubbish. Lots of little comments add up to one great big slap in the face. Bring her on, I'm feeling vicious

Can't you quip that she should be relieved you're not conceiving, given that you're no good for him?! Silly old bat.

oooh I would love a little courage... maybe i need to start drinking again... that dutch courage to say something!! Thanks for listening!! I am imagining unfolding petals as I type

Unfolding petals for you, Ready, and a big spiky venus fly trap for her

tee hee

thanks so much Impatience!!!

Morning ladies! CD8, zip going on. Six weeks to Christmas today, yipee! Love Christmas .

Ready - if you can't let off steam about annoying family members on here then where can you?! My sister's MIL sounds like yours, she's insisting on buying the turkey and bringing it on the day etc. Can you allocate your MIL a job like wine or pudding so that she can get on with that and leave the rest to you? Sorry to hear she is one of those "precious" son types. I am very lucky, my MIL is a lovely lady and thinks her son is very difficult at times and is almost always on my side poor DH! My DH is the most chilled out man alive too. I try to be more like him but I struggle.

He is being so sweet at the moment, he knows that one of my fears about his back op is that TTC will be delayed due to recovery time and has said that he won't have the op until we conceive. Of course, I cannot let him do that and stay in pain for me and for something that might take ages more. I think we have to just go ahead and plan the op and just hope that I fall in the meantime and if not, tough. It wasn't meant to be. Hard and sad but the only way I think. Don't you?

Mrs - i think he should have the op if he is in pain, bless him for being so sweet. It is only 1 or maybe 2 cycles that you will miss. Even though it seems alot it isn't really and would probably be a nice break - think of all the wine you could drink.

You never know you might be able t get him to do his business in a pot and then use the turkey baster (sp?) to insert his magic stuff if jiggy jiggy is too painfull for him.

LOL

oh yeah CD7 for me so nothing to report, am going to try for bd on CD8, 10, 12, 13, 15, 17, 19, 20

Which is a lot for me but need to put more effort in really

x

Thanks Natty

MrsMc - MrMc should have his op if all other remedies and/or options won't help. But hey after his op he will be flat on his back - and I am sure BDing would be acheivable - you'd just have to do all the work and he lie there and think of England... well Scotland
If that's not possible, like Natty says, a break might be good for you, and it won't be long. Hang in there chick!!! It's best that Mum and Dad McJnr are as healthy as can be for parenthood!!

Ha ha, had to laugh about your sisters MIL, snap... mine is insisting on paying for the turkey, but thankfully I am allowed (!) to order it up here!! She's just reimbursing me I have suggested she choose and bring the crackers and anything they would like to drink. Lucky you with your MIL

Hi all. Sorry I've not been on in a while - been away for a few days visiting DH's parents at their new place in Northumberland. Absolutely gorgeous place, beautiful autumn woodland, really helped with the chilling out this month! Just have to try to hold on to it for the next week in the run up to OV - which won't be easy...

ready4motherhood - Sorry to hear about your MIL, sounds like a really awkward situation. DH's parents were doing a fair amount of reminiscing while we were there, so the subject of when my MIL had her first son came up, and though she didn't say anything (she's too sweet to try to make us feel bad really) you could just tell they were thinking it, and I couldn't help ing. Not that that's the same as someone being deliberately annoying, but we can all sympathise anyway!

Mrs McJnr - really sorry to hear about the upcoming op. As people have said, it's not really that long when you count it in cycles, and of course your DH's health is so important. If nothing else, TTC definitely teaches you patience and to takes things as they come - that or go loopy! Speaking of which, do let us know if you end up trying the turkey baster suggestion

Hello to all the newbies, babydust to everyone!

Hey, I'm happy with you all laughing at the turkey baster idea, but we are actually self-inseminating, so if you need some advice, don't be shy!