Positive Decembr - All aboard for Santa to bring a BFP!!

[MrsMcJnr]

Well, I thouht I'd better start this thread as I am CD1 of my 6th cycle of trying for our very precious first baby. This is going to be a lucky and positive thread, I can feel it so I'm laying down the babydust now so that as you join me, you can collect your dose .

For those who join me, what are you doing differently this cycle?

I know how you feel Mrs, i did manage a bd on CD6 but he was too tired last night, and he is going out tonight so my plans of bding at least every other day are fading fast. Like you though OH is as desperate as me for a family but doesn't seem to be as keen to put as much effort in. Think i will send him a text now and like you say this is the last nag of the month.

Sometimes i think it would be easier if we could do it on our own.

Natty - It will happen... he will propose. he's probably planning on how to do it! But men tend to want things to be their idea, well my DH always does!! and will want to surprise you! I realise now that I hinted WAAAAY too much, but I was young... I'm not saying you are hinting too much or anything!!

MrsMc - Big hug for crying yourself to sleep. Bless your heart. I liked your note though, straight to the point, in a sweet way, not selfish so stop worrying about that!!!
Agree with you about loving being married, I feel closer to DH too. Some people think I am mad when I say that, but it's the truth!!

Sideways - oooh you are right in your peak time!! How exciting!! Keep going, it'll be worth it!! LOL at you with you bum on a pillow thinking of MNers!! tee hee. Have to say I was curled up on the sofa feeling sorry for myself with snot on my face so no BDing

CD4 for me... AF still in town. Looking forward to some BDing next week

Thanks Sideways: hope bfp is winging its way to you too

MrsMc, sorry to hear about your bd stress. At least dp and I don't have to worry about that It does sound stressful, which is what we're all trying to avoid. I have no advice at all except keep communicating. Good luck! Can he catch you ironing in your saucy lace? Would that get things moving? tee hee hee

I'm happy for you to ask about our timing. I've been charting now for, oh about 3 years so I'm pretty sure when I ovulate. So I give him an idea, then text when I start getting EWCM, then try and get over there as much as poss, around all our various commitments. It's an hour drive each way, and he works and we work and have baby so we don't have much say about timing when all's considered! But I aim to get at least 2 insems in over the 4 or 5 days I have CM, aiming for later in that period if poss, as close to max CM as poss. If I get LH and insem on the same day I'm v pleased, but that hasn't done it so far!

I do get a bit obsessive, and anxious that I'm missing best days and trudging over there on rubbish days. But this month we have weekend commitments so I'm 'booked in' on Fri and Mon so we'll just have to chill out and have the somewhat random timings! Am expecting LH prob Sat or Sun, so should be OK.

I know I'm ovulating because my temps gone up but I haven't had a positive LH line for months - could it be because they're cheap on-line purchases, or because I drink so much water I've diluted myself? Anyone else not get LH lines?

Oops, better rush to my meeting. Hope I can switch brains over

liking the good marriage vibes around at the moment. Totally agree about feeling safe to talk about the future and plan a family, and just generally closer since my marriage. But I guess we're a special case because we did the old traditional thing of 'saving ourselves' (silly phrase!) until the wedding! Which made it even more special

MrsMcJnr, hug from me too, must be so hard for both of you when your hubby finds it difficult to turn his support for the idea of a family into 'action' I guess you just have to try to rely on knowing that your love will produce a baby eventually, and as soon as it does I'm sure the wait will seem worth it!

Impatience, that does sound pretty complicated having to do all that travelling to try to insem at the right time. Really hope you get your magic BFP soon! Sorry, can't really help with the LH, though I'd be surprised if you could really dilute the result by drinking more

CD9 for me today. Hoping for BD on 10, 12, 14 and 15 (I'm away on 13). Last month we did manage it every day except one between 9 and 16 but DH complained it was completely knackering him out by the end! Quote "it really takes it out of a guy, you know?" LOL

waited until you were married. think you are the first person i have met, fair play to you though. I have only ever been with my OH.

Oh Natty sorry that the plan isn't working can you request a wake up call when he gets in?

DH thought my note was hilarious he said he did not realise it was time to rally "the boys" and when I told him that the good ones were not needed for a few days but it was a good idea to get rid of some of the rest in the meantime, he retorted that he did not need me there for that! .

Thanks for the big hug Ready I'm fine. Hope you feel better soon.

Impatience - DH does all our ironing (yup, I'm one lucky lady!) do you think the kitchen sink would do? . Gosh, you must be a charting expert, I shall remember that . Sounds like a bit of a military operation what you have to do, that must cause you a fair amount of stress too. I really hope your pre-bookings give you exactly what you need this cycle. Everything crossed. I'm with you on the LHs by the way and I am not going to use them this cycle as got myself so upset last cycle. They seemed to work fine for me for 3 cycles and then last month, 10 negatives but like you, I knew by temps that I had OVd.

Hello Geek - good for you that's so rare and lovely. No years and years of the pill to wear off for you then Very presumptious of me but that's my annoyance with myself at the mo, all those years of chemicals when it is actually not easy to get pregnant . I'm CD9 too. I will probably OV on 28/11 so CD18. How about you?

military maneouvres indeed

Perhaps MrMc should be ironing in HIS best lace to get things moving . Your note sounds fab, Mrs, and seemed to have let him know how you feel without stress and a laugh indeed - success!

I am also CD9. Mrs: I'm so relieved it's not just me the LH strips aren't working for. They have worked some months but not for ages. Every month I end up in a big flap about having missed my ov. Grrr.

Nope, only about 8 months on the pill for me - we thought we were going to give ourselves a few years after the wedding before trying for kids, but about 6 months later I suddenly got so broody! I'm not the kind of girl who's been dreaming of babies since they were barely out of nappies themselves but suddenly all my hormones must have kicked in at once!

yeah, don't want to make anyone who did differently feel bad AT ALL, but I'm glad we were able to wait for the wedding - at first it was "I'm saving myself for the guy I'm going to marry", then once we were engaged we thought we might as well carry on the self-control for a few more months to make the wedding night even more special. It was difficult, believe me! But worth it.

This is my first month charting, so I'm still assuming OV is around CD14 (which is the average for a 28 day cycle, right?). Hopefully the temps will start to give me a more reliable picture though.

So glad your DH reacted so well to your note MrsMcJnr - he sounds gorgeous

A wake up call when he has had a few beers. LOL

Put it this way he has a t-shirt thats says 'floppy chappie until kissed' i think it should say 'floppy chappies after 1 too many beers'

Glad your note worked, going to see if we can bd before he goes out tonight if not may do a note tomorrow. x

Geek - Good for you and DH. That is some will of steel you have got waiting til your wedding night!! I would have popped although DH is the only notch on my bedpost

MrsMc - PMSL at your DHs comment of a "self clean"... in fact I can't stop chuckling away. Bless him!!

Fingers crossed for you and your military operation Impatience. It will be worth it!!

Just had SKY+ installed today... DH was showing me how to use it and said "you can pause live TV, so there are no excuses anymore" and gave me a kiss. Gush. What a cutie. Although we are both poorly so that is excuse enough!!

Natty good luck with the BDing before he goes out... LOL at the floppy chap tshirt.

Don't believe a word of it Ready, it just means that he can watch more sport, more often and later than usual .

Natty - could be a problem then, also L'eau de lager is not the greatest turn on either is it! Get him before he goes!

Hello everyone. Well my Dp is in my good books for correctly identifying that I'm being underpaid, by quite a bit I think. Forms hadn't been sent from my last jobs effectively wiping out 4 years worth of experience! They have said they will pay me at the end of the month all my backpay (8 months worth). I'm really not sure I would have noticed had it not been for him. Planning lots of different ways to spend it, altough I am really not too sure what I will be getting!!

Only CD4 here. BIL is supposed to be coming to stay on Fri night, the two boys will be out together so am pretty much garenteed BD on Sat - or do I have the only OH to feel rather err, desperate the morning after the night before?

On that subject DS is saying a fab word atm - hungry is 'horney'. We POSL everytime .

Everyone's DH's/Dp's do sound fabulous on here, you are a lot of lucky women. Dp isn't keen on the whole marriage thing - he did tell me once not so long ago it was because he felt he couldn't give me the wedding I would want. i don't think I have ever suggested that I wanted a huge affair - in fact I've always said that I wanted a registery office do. Lots of his friends are getting married atm though and having quite fancy 'do's'. I too would like to get married in 2010 - its the year I turn 30 and would be quite a nice way to say goodbye to my 20's IYSWIM. Dp used to always take me to look at rings and ask me which ones I liked - but he kept doing it and nothing ever came of it and I told him if he didn't intend to ask to stop taking me cause it wasn't fair! So I don't even get that excitment now.

Good luck to everyone.

Hi, just wanted to join you, this will be my 3rd month of trying for our first baby.

I know it hasn't been long but I really thought it would happen this month but got AF today. So joining you all and hope that you get a BFP from Santa

Sorry to ask but when you say your CD1/2 of your cycle what does CD mean?

I think it is cycle day, counting day 1 as day AF starts full flow so to speak.

Thanks Flossam, you can tell I'm new at this can't you

Welcome Tor14 - It's my 3rd month trying for baby#1 too. Sorry to hear about AF (hug). You are in good company here, we are looking for that BFP from Santa (well not literally ) the motto is calm karma this month, no stressing!

Flossam!! Cycle bud! I'm day4 too. How long is your cycle?? Congrats on the back pay, go get yourself well and truly pampered. PMSL at "horney" bless his cottons! It's very possible to have a wonderful wedding on a budget, without it looking like it's budget IYSWIM? perhaps you could tell him you don't want all the trimmings?? I love being married.

MrsMc - Oh no is Sky+ going to spoil BDing instead of helping it?

Babydust everyone!!

ready4motherhood - Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not the only one trying for our first baby, and your so right about not stressing, been doing to much of that. Can't believe how much it can take over your life when you just think it's going to happen.

This site is great, everyone is so positive it's good to have somewhere to go and talk, when eveyone else thinks I'm mad and shouldn't worry about TTC as it 'will happen'

Good Luck to everyone

Absolutely Tor14. After ttc for the first month, when AF arrived I was really upset, I cried (for shame!) plenty. I felt certain it would happen straight away. It's a frustrating time indeed!!

Everyone on the conception board is SOOOOOOO amazing. Really helpful (I have asked A LOT of questions!!) and always have the time for others. It's addictive though

Fingers crossed for you!

Hello everyone. I am also ttc around the 3 month mark since end of July.
To be honest I am fed up with it!

I have lost all patience today (probably because I am on the 2ww and dh is out)

I have run out of things to try and make me more positive.
Vitamins for me and him, Lots of bd, improved diet, sexy underwear, romantic lunch/dinners, charting, Acupuncture, OV tests about to try the monitor, books, online research and chatting. Not to mention the bloody awful grapefruit juice

I think next I may need to try a course of patience and an evening not moping

I am not even really meant to be on the Dec thread, but I thought I'd pop over and send christmas baby dust

Ready 4 and Tor you are right I should be more positive Chatting on here does really help. It just gets very frustrating having spent so many years avoiding something you think could happen at any time and then when you want it to it doesn't!

Sorry your feeling down cityangel. Thanks for the Christmas babydust.

Welcome Tor14 i am also trying for my first but have been trying since Jul 05.

Mrs- well only just read your message, OH was waiting in bed for me when i got in. Result

Hi Ready. My cycle is pretty regular at 28days. This will be my third month of TTC to, although for number 2. First cycle I had a BFP but miscarried later on that week. Last month I was convinced I was again but not. In a way its probably a good thing as now I know my body will be ready to concieve again IYSWIM. Also Dp thinks I didn't hound him enough last month so that is what I will be trying to change this month!

CA are you on a self imposed ban on posting here? The board here is brilliant but it does nothing to stop me obsessing over the whole thing. I am going to try and stay more chilled out this month, but I normally seem to build myself up to a frenzy by the final week before AF is due. Ah well. Fingers crossed all!

Morning All

As i am planning to BD everyother day and ov between CD15 and CD17 what days do you recommend should put my legs in the air? Also what days should i use pre seed?

thank