'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

mump-sorry you feel so rubbish, i also find being busy is great for distraction, but comes flooding back when not busy.
Thanks for the prayers, I went to church at christmas, on my own, and it was packed. The Priest said "I hope it's not another year till I see you all" I haven't been for two

I have diabetes in my family, and had two tests during my pg. I was just about to have a test for diabetes when not pg after last m/c, as I think i have some of the symptoms, but then got pg again.

How old is your ds? Did you have m/c before him too.

I had two m/c and another suspected m/c then ds (now 19 months)then another mc.

LissieLou, I was so sorry to hear your news . I feel there is nothing I can say to make it easier, other than to send you some virtual hugs {{{{HUGS}}} and say I?m thinking of you.

Hate doing this on the same thread as above, but I did another test this morning and it definitely a BFP, so now I can?t deny that I am pg again, but now the worry sets in that I?ll miscarry for a 3rd time. I know every says that it is still not more likely that for anyone else, but you can?t help worrying can you.

I?m at work, so can?t chat long, Ill try and get back over the weekend.

Take care all
x

congrats fettle, so pleased for you hon.

uki now i know what its like i think i had 2mcs preds, but it took 6y ttc with him. hes 21m now and this last mc was my 4th in a row

Fettle- great news, I'll keep everything crossed for you.

Lissie-does that mean 6 m/c all up? You poor hun. I bet ds feels like an absolute miracle!
I can't believe the dr's haven't done more either, i think some assume youv'e had one dc, you'll have another, but no one should have to suffer recurrent m/c

Many congratulations to Fettle!

Lissie - do you know what the m/c specialist is going to do? Does it involve more tests or looking at your lifestyle or what?

Ok, I think enough uki posts for this morning, You'll know all about me now, if you didn't already I'm actually off to bed.

Hi to Oinker, rahrah, edie, D4ph and everyone else I haven't mentioned this morning.

Thanks for the good wishes all.
My gut feeling is to start trying again straight away but then I wondered if that was a bit "cold" of me?
Have been a bit worried that the medication I take may have been a cause of the m/c so have enlisted the help of a pharmacist friend of mine who is doing some research into it for me. I've asked him not only for his professional opinion, but also for his personal one as I think that people in that field would understandably tell me what the cold, hard evidence says but not necessarily what you could read between the lines. So I've asked him as bluntly as if it were him and his dp trying, would he be happy for her to take what I take. So waiting to here back on that one.
Have also booked myself an appointment with an acupuncturist who speciales in fertility and pregnancy with the hope that it will cleanse/unblock my system. Never had acupuncture before so quite intrigued about it all.....

And I quick message for Lissie....I have not "spoken" to you before I don't think, but have been following your ups and downs while lurking. You sound like an amazing lady, and I bet all your difficulties make you an even more loving and devoted mum. Sorry you are back on this thread, and so soon as well. Big hugs sent your way....

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thanks all, the specialist is going to look at what could be wrong. even with ds i had several scary mo's lots of bleeding 5w + and contractions 25w + starting to think "thats it now! cant do it" afs are awful too so was talk of endometritis. so disappointed with the docs now. and dh and i are really struggling

Lissie - how frustrating... Another round of tests in store for you by the sound of it. Let's hope they can pinpoint something definite and that it can be resolved... Even though I've only had 2 m/c, I can imagine how hard and stressful it is for you - should think we all can on this thread, hey? Try to take one day at a time for the moment...

Can I pick your collective brains on something... As some of you know, I had a m/c at the end of November. My af is usually around 4/5 of each month, but after the m/c, it arrived on Xmas Day. Then, at the beginning of Jan, I had some spotting over the course of a few days. Quite dark blood, so not sure if it was the tail end of the m/c or not, iyswim.

Now I don't know whether my next af should have come on 24 of this month or whether it is likely to go back to its original dats and arrive at the beginning of Feb. Anyone had anything similar and any thoughts on what the hell is going on?!?

af will be all over the place for a while, i would say that if she hasnt arrived by feb see your doc. have you been ttc?

In a half-hearted, "can't quite leave it alone" way, I guess I have been ttc - not sure DH realises this!

I can't stand the waiting to see whether or not my af arrives in Feb... Patience is not a characteristic (let alone a virtue) of mine...

TBH, it's completely doing my head in today in combination with feeling really down about the m/c... I'm sh*tting myself that I might be pg, scared to get my hopes up and then go through the crushing disappointment of not being pg and generally all over the place today.

i would have thought that af is due any day, but if it makes you feel better test tomorrow, just to be sure.

Thanks - will see how I feel over the weekend, but might throw caution to the wind and test... Can't help wondering if that might be part of why I'm feeling so emotional.

Hope you're feeling a bit better now, at least physically, lissie.

yeah, bleedings all but stopped nowjust feel drained

The whole experience is just so draining, isn't it? Have you got anything nice planned for the weekend as a pick you up? I know it sounds trivial, but I always find a facial makes me feel chilled out when I'm stressed. In fact, I might try and get one myself for tomorrow...

got a reflexology appt booked for tues so just looking to that now

Hi all. Lissie I'm so sorry to hear about your little un not hanging on. It just seems so unfair, especially as your tests came back clear. People think we should feel lucky to have one child but it's heartbreaking for us to know they are missing out on a brother or sister. Ds (only 30 months) said to me today "Do you want a baby Mummy?" I was stunned but once recovered I said "Yes, do you want Mummy to have one?" and he replied "Yes I do, I want a brother". Now, he's bright but not exceptionally bright so how weird is that?!

Plummymummy - aww bless, what a sweetie. Makes it all the poignant.

Lissie - so wish I could help, you poor thing, you've really been through the mill.

Uki - that's so hard for you, with friends being pg. At least I haven't had that, I've 2 friends ttc, but they haven't been successful so far.

Mumpbump - not sure. Would like to ask, I seem to stop bleeding on Monday but since Wednesday have had a dark brown discharge, very light but looks like dried blood (sorry if TMI) is this usual?

Best wishes everyone, have a good weekend.
CBM xx

Fettle - just seen your news!!! Soo pleased for you sweetie.
Fingers crossed for you that all goes hunky dory.
Get that early scan in xxx

Hi
been doing some research on miscarriage again, and found this extensive study on women with recurrent 2 or more miscarriages. Quite interesting and our chances for going on to full term baby are very good.

The most intresting thing is that pg women after m/c need tender loving care. I'll say

Also noted was most critical period was the 6-8 weeks mark

here .

Anyway made me feel better, I hope it helps others too.

That's a good article Uki, now we just have to convince our GPs to get us scanned early and not make us wait! Like the TLC bit, couldn't agree more!