'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

Edie - just had a conversation with the lovely doc at the hospital who has seen me through the 2 m/cs and also helped deliver my dd. She wants me to have another scan sometime this week to see if we can pick up the heart beat...

When's your next scan?

edie.....

Glad all is well.
Keep up the good work.

good news ladies, got my 1st appt with the mc specialist on the 1st febat 9am!!! yay. follow up appt isnt til 21st may, but still, finally getting things moving

Hi all. Edie, great news! Fettle, you are so strong! I beleive you just need some time and it will be good to talk to the specialist. Hopefully and most likely he/she will tell you
that you just had bad luck and that you have a 50%-75% chance each time.
As for me I had severe cramps/vomiting/fainting on the weekend but not a drop of bleeding. I will see another specialist today. Jobwise I will decide sometime this week. My work made me a great counter offer once they heard I have another offer, so I definitely I have positive feedback which is nice. Relationship with DH strong, too. If I, or better we, decide to stay here he will move here. Have given up TTC this year. My case has just been to draining and existential and frustrating and is still not resolved. Wont allow myself to log on for a while but best of luck to all you!

good luck

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Just popping in to say good luck to Oinker. I'd be interested in knowing what you think of the revered Prof. If we have another m/c, I'm going to start pushing for investigations fairly quickly.

Good luck also to you, lissie, for your appointment. And in relation to your other thread on acupuncture, I would give it a go. Whilst not in the same league, it was the only thing to help my ex's dodgy knee so I do believe it can help where conventional medicine can't...

Good luck with your appointment oinker

Thanks Jimbo
I feel sad that April seems so long away till we can start TTc again, I know it will be here soon but ... umph! Why is that getting pregnant again is the only thing that fills the void when you have had a miscarriage/ectopic? I should really enjoy the next 10wks of not having any pressure of trying to conceieve. Oh wish I could have a glass of wine...

Thanks for all your kind thoughts ladies....

I really do appreciate it.

Am feeling a little more positive as I had a message on the thread I started from someone who knows the Prof both as being a patient of hers and a fund raiser for over 12 years. It was all good.

Oinker - good luck for tomorrow. You so deserve some. xx

Wishing luck to all with pending appts and scans (edie's on friday - hopefully twins )Lissie I feel worse than in December. I think it's January blues. I think I probably always feel like this in January. What a rubbish month to have a birthday in (35 tomorrow). Glad you have yr appts lined up but it would be great if you fall pg before then. Apparently I should be doing lots of bding now. Libido at an all time low. Oh well lie back and think of England. Da4phne so sorry to hear still no af. Hope you and dh get much needed r + r this year. Good news that you are appreciated at work though.

im 29 on sun, kwym about jan blues

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Thanks for the good wishes! Just in case anybody is ever reading this thread for info, I now finally have resolution. My cervix was damaged during the ERPC and the scar tissue has closed the cervix completely (it's called cervical stenosis). I had periods, but the blood is not able to leave the utertus except by being pressed up and out into the belly cavity. Immidiate surgery is necessary.
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Oinker - good luck!

D4phne...

What bafoons...

I wish all the luck in the world hun. Take care.

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D4phne - that's awful. i've never heard of that happening. You poor, poor girl!

I hope they sort it all out for you now?

take care
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Hi d4phne - best of luck for the surgery, what a nightmare...

I really really hope that everything gets sorted for you this time... I'm so angry for you..those bloody doctors sometimes

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d4phne - how awful. Good luck for the surgery.
Hope you can also sue or at least get someone's ar*e kicked.

Bluddie hell, D4phne... Good luck with the op and definitely speak to a solicitor. How incompetent is that?!?!?

I have had the appointment and met the lovely Lesley Reagan.
Well that's it....There is nothing wrong with me other than being overweight. I have been dieting for a while now and lost 2 stone. ( I love the hospital scales, they always make me lighter) I am starting on the Folic acid and in three months will try and conceive. I have another appointment for end of June and will hopefully be pregnant when I get there.
The more weight I loose the better it'll be.
I feel a bit low as for the past 7mths i have beleived there was something seriously wrong with me and now it's nothing....
I suppose I should be grateful...

Thanks for all the support over the past few months ladies... It really means a lot to have such great understanding cyber freinds..xx

Good news about your appointment. I know how easy it can be to become obsessed with wanting to find something wrong and something to blame for the losses and the hurt.

She has confirmed that there is nothing wrong with you so you should now relax and go a bit easier on yourself. Having already lost 2 stone is such an achievement I'm sure the rest will fall off

happy birthday plummymummy!

oh my word D4phne! that's just awful... i hope that you're sorted out soon.

i had another scan today. 7wks+4...and we saw a heartbeat. i burst into tears!

good luck with Friday UKi.

When's your next scan Edie?

rahrah how are you doing at the moment?

D4phne, that is truly appalling. I am so sorry for you. If they had taken your concerns seriously weeks ago, you may not be having to have emergency surgery now. I can see why you would be jolly cross. I guess it must have been from the second ERPC, and that what you have is an extreme version of Asherman's.

I hope this last surgery goes OK, and that you recover as quickly as possible.