'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

Rahrah-I have spoken to my doctor and they are going to scan me next Friday xx

Hello D4phne, yes I too was so happy when I found out I was pg but this is definitely bad news, I don't think it is normal to be pg and in this much pain. Good luck for you xx xx

edie - sorry to hear you are not doing well. Hopefully the week won't go too slowly. All I can say is that I didn't have back pain witheither mc, but around 5-6 wks with DD, I had awful pains in pelvis and abdomen - rushed to gp who said it normal in early pg as all your ligaments relax almost immediately to ensure your pelvis can stretch enough for birth. It may be as you have had back pain in past this is where the relaxing ligaments are not supporting your back so much. I do so hope you are not losing this one again. x

welcome back oinker - holiday sounds great - hysterscopy not so!! Hope appointment with Lesley is more useful.

D4phne - great news on job offer. I hope this part of your life is sorted soon as you and dh need to be together at the moment, whoever makes the move. take care of yourself - x

I hope everyone else is doing ok.

I'm ok - better than after my last mc, but DH reminded me that it was a year ago today that we found out I was pg with 1st mc -think it affected him more than I realised! Hopefully I'll be pg again before feb 13th which will be anniversary of mc scan.

take care all
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Hi everyone. Uki and Edie I hope all goes ok with your scans. Fingers crossed. After bleeding for 3 weeks with my m/c (finished 2 days before xmas) my period has come. I can't believe it. I usually get it around the 3rd-4th of the month and got it yesterday so pretty much spot on. I had hoped it would get back on track but I didn't expect it to - especially with the drawn out m/c. It's quite painful and I don't really feel that I've had enough time to recover before it started but I'm grateful it has returned - it must be awful for Duchesse to still be waiting for things to return to normal. It's my birthday on 17th so who knows, maybe I could get the best present of all!

hi guys - can I join? I have just had my 2nd mc and want to get pregnant again ASAP. I already have 2dds but always wanted 4. Am beginning to wonder wether this will happen? But am trying to stay postive.
Am going to make appointment at the doctors next week to disucss things, although I know she won't do anything until I have amother (Oh god please no!)...

Edie - Good news that you have a scan booked in for Friday.. I am going to be thinking of you, I expect it is going to hard in between now and Friday, but try and stay as positive as possible... I know it is hard.. Take care and hoping the news is good news on Fri.. XXX

Hi cazzybabs, nice to meet you.. x

Thanks RahRah. It's hard not to feel positive now that the pain has gone. Boobs more sore than before the back pain and im now getting up in the middle of the night to go to loo which is something I did when last pg but never do otherwise. Guess staying positive will do me good...

Thanks rahrah1 - I look forward to getting fat (in a preganant sense) with you!.

Edie - I hope it will prove to be good news.

Out of interest what happened when you went to the doctors to tell them you had a mc. I didn't bother to tell them with my 1st one - I naively assummed it would not happen again! I have cut down my tea drinking and have given up alchol and I must learn to get less stressed. Our neighbour was being nasty and I was waking up the night worring about it.

crazzy, its wrong isnt it. my 2nd mc was horrendous and my doc was saying that after 3 theyll think about it but prob wont do annything til i had 4 coz they were allso early! i went nuts and told them that i had been pg 3 times and i always wanted 4 dcs and if he didnt refer me i would ask for an investigation into my antenatal care with ds and my postnatal care too, coz a lawyer friend made a comment about negligence. i went on to have a 3rd mc and have just had bloods and swabs back, and am waiting for an appt with a mc gynae unit. how many w's were you?

That's really good news Edie - symptoms are always a positive sign....

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Great news from camp uki

Saw baby bean today 8 weeks+5 wriggling with strong heart beat.

I was soo nervous I couldn't look at the screen, and sonographer said "do you want to see the baby" and I said "no, only if it's good news" and she said "yes, it's good"

I was sooo relived, I was convinced my symptoms had died down and that it was over.

I have another scan late next week and after that one I may relax a little.

Welcome crazybabs. I think you should have simple blood tests after 2m/c. I asked and then was tested, I have now been tested 4 times, lucky me as things can change depending on m/c's and then births between.

Fettle-glad to hear your are doing o.k, you brave girl and what a sweet dh, mine hids his emotions under lock and key with these things.

rahrah- if you concived bertie after only 2 bd, you probably shouldn't worry to much. east to say though.

d4ph- sounds like it could be a fantastic year for you, I hope the move or job for dh works out. do you chat to dh on webcam? I think it's amazing, freaks me out.

Excellent news Uki....

It took us a year and half to conceive with Bertie, it was just that month we did not bother and BD twice and it happened...

Uki - that's fantastic news. you must be so relieved.

Edie - things are sounding positive. As others have said, the ligaments stretching during pg can lead to back pain so please try not to worry if it happens again.

Well I am now finally in the 2WW. I got a positive OPK 7 days later than usual (which is probably down to the m/c messing up my hormones). My poor husband has been left exhausted!!

Wishing everyone lots of babydust...!

UKI...

Great news...
You must be sooooo happy

Make sure you keep taking things easy.

Happy New Year everyone! Very pleased by your positive news, Uki! Not ttc this month - can't deal with the stress of it on top of other things, but will follow this thread with my fingers crossed for everyone.

Uki - brilliant news...big congratulaions. it was nice knowing you briefly!

Hi All
Thanks {blush}

Crazy-I'm not going anywhere yet, I'm waiting for you lot.

really looking forward to another BFP on here, as much as you all are.

Hi Oinker- how are you?

mump- thanks for posting

Wavedancer- best of luck , spreading my unusual but hopefully lucky dust for you,;.,;,.,;,.'.;;.;,;,'.,;;,;,;;',;,,;,,;,;,;,,;;

Uki...

I am fine hun.

Just stressing a bit about my coming appointment with Prof Reagan. I won't go into it here but if you have time pop onto The Conception...Recurrent M/C? thread I started.

Keep up the good work..

Uki, you must be so happy!

Well girls, we are back from holiday, off the malaria tablets and officially TTC. The only thing that is bothering me is that my AF is not regular since the MC in Oct and I don't know if we should wait until it settles down and I can monitor fertile periods a bit better.

Anyone expereinced this before?

Not sure if you all remember me. I was on this thread back in Oct/Nov. I feel I have neglected you since getting BFP. Had a scare the other day and vowed to come back on and say HI to everyone.

SO HI EVERYONE!

Hi typhoonsmum, sorry you had a scare the other day... put your feet up and relax...

Keep us updated...Best of luck..

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Hi Firststar, holiday was lovely and relaxing and I have come back full of positive thoughts about how a baby is definatley going to happen this year. Even DH said that in New Years Eve which is a great step in the right direction since he was a bit shaken by the pg/mc in Oct.

I'm not gong to pin my hopes on the first month trying but will give it our best shot. AF came last week so I'm now counting....

2007 has already started on good footing though. I got 90% for my dissertation which was not written under the best circumstances (during and after the mc) so I am very pleased and feeling positive!

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