'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

Sorry PinkElephant not had any experiences to help you with your questions. Best of luck getting the answers and we are all here to support in other ways if needed...everyone has been great with me... xx

Congratulations Edie!

Thanks everyone, excited but very anxious at the same time and have a very slight ache in my back which I keep thinking is a bad sign but I know I must stay positive!

CONGRATULATIONS edie is that edie123. Well done.

rahrah-BTW by the way, and LSC- low sperm count, I was trying to be subtle, not clever, sorry.

Well i guess someone who knows more than me told you not to bd to often, but i thought it would help improve chances, sperm is made every 24 or 72 hours i can't remember? Anyway i've always got pg when i bd more than once in a night/day, so worked for me have no idea about my dp's sperm count though.

Thanks for the info Uki.

My husband has quite a lot of lazy sperm. Apparently 20% of male sperm is of good quality. However only 5% of my husbands is of good quality. But the CRM consultant said this did not concern him too much as they produce a lot of sperm in one go. His sperm count is good, which is the main thing. A low sperm count is where men have big problems conceiving and is serious for fertility. (my husband is quite laid back, so it only expected that his sperm is too!!!)

Hi everybody! I am back from vacation. So many BFPs!! That wonderful!!! Edie, good luck!
Okay, I am a little jealous, too. 5 months after m/c and 7 weeks after 2nd ERPC and still no sign of AF.

• Fettle, I am so incredible sorry to hear about your m/c I can't tell you. I understand you worries about the ERPCs and share them but I have no knowledge if there is any reason to be concerned, i.e. as long as you get your AF after ERPC. If you don't there is something called Asberger (?) Syndrome, where there is too much scartissue from the ERPC. But I think you just don't get your period rather than m/c.

I really feel for you and am so terribly sorry. I have lost trust in all British (sorry) doctors, GPs and consultants, and think having the initial ERPC was the worst decision in my life. Welcome to everybody and may you not stay here for long!!!

Correction: it's Asherman's syndrome

Hi D4phne, and welcome back from holiday. We have started a new thread for those days (weeks/ months?) when were not feeling even remotely positive. We've nicknamed it the Hut of Doom, and have a serious party going on in there- there's virtual drink, virtual weed, and virtual pills rolling around all over the place. Come and join us if you're feeling downhearted by the lack of normal service from your uterus. It's the down at heart and lacking in optimism thread on the conception board. I'll go and find it to link to.

It's here . complaining actively encouraged, and never a thread-stopper (as we suspect happens on other threads). Swearing encouraged if it helps, and plenty drinking etc...

I'm Back

I have had a superb holiday. What a beautiful part of the world. Two weeks of total relaxation.

Oh, nearlly forgot....
HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all.

I have tried catching up on the thread and have not done too badly considering the jet lag.

I see we have a mixture of good and bad news. It is so hard and energy consuming for us all but we will get there. We have to try and remain strong and positive.

I had my hysteroscopy today.. F**K it was painful... I never expected it to be. I had read loads on it and everyone seemed to think it was just a little uncomfortable. The nurse kept telling me to remeber to breath...I though I was going to pass out. They encountered difficulties getting into the uterus and had to clip back my cervix... It was sssssooooooooo painful...
Anyway, I was lead to beleive they were going to remove fibroids and scar tissue.. Well slight change of plan. The prof had decided they only wanted definate clear pictures of uterus and fallopian tubes. Well, they got their pictures. The consultant who took the pics has informed me that my uterus has a tiny (not even worth mentioning) kink and my tubes are totally clear. She has said that I would not benefit from removal of scar tissues or fibroids. None of these are suffieicnt to cause the recurrent m/c. She has stated that my problem may be else where. As of yet we don't know where. The consultant was adamant that there is no problem with any of my bits as such...
Well, I have an appointment with Lesley Reagan in a couple of weeks and I will be intrigued to see what she has to say.

Signing out......I am knackered....

oinker - welcome home.... Glad you had a good holiday...

Heard loads about this Professor Regan, she is meant to be really good. Quite a few people have mentioned her. Good luck with your appointment. x

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Hi everyone thanks for the congratulations. Unfortunately I think I maybe having another miscarriage but im booked in for a scan next Friday so will hopefully know more then.

Anyone else suffered quite severe back ache early on and it been OK??!!

Oh gosh, I hope not, Edie.

I don't know anything about the backache I'm afraid. I'm sure someone will be along soon who does.

Oinker welcome back, holiday sounds blissful, I'm sure it was just what you needed. Good news at the op/test too. I hope prof regan has some answers for you, she is the worlds best really.
Can I ask how many m/c you've had???
It's terrible having to live though all this
but I really hope this is your year

Edie_ I hope all is ok, you sound like me I've been terribly worried also about little pains I've been having, AF like and also some lower back. My first scan is about 30 hours away, I'm sooo nervous, though I know it's silly to worry I just find it hard to get my hopes up if they will be squashed again.

How is everyone else???

When is af due for duchesse and rahrah, hope it stays away

Uki-Im pretty sure it's over for me. I don't have any hopes that it will be ok just because of how painful it is. Hope you are ok though, all the luck in the world xx xx

My period came 21/12/06, which means I'm on day 16 with still no sign of ovulation (no temperature shift, no LH surge). As far as I'm aware this is the first time this has happened. Also some abdominal pain. No idea what's going on here.

Is it back pain Edie, Could you have put your back out?
Or is this what happened before?
Don't mean to be optimistic if you think it's over, but I've never had any pain, before m/c, just in last stages.

Duch, My ov changed from between 14 to 18 days So my advice is just keep bd and it will happen.

HI All,

Edie... Really hope everything is ok, I had threatened miscarriages through out my pregnancy, in the early stages I did not have any pain when had bleeding and had heavy bleeding, but afterwards I would have bad pain. Basically what Im trying to say is you never know. My consultant said to me the pains were heightened as I was always thinking about it.

My period was also on the 21.12.06 - But like Dutchesse I do not seem to have ovulated. The ovulation sticks did not show a surge, and my temp has not changed (but going to chart properly next month, as did not know how to do it properly, as just been taking it willy nilly without writing anything down). I have not had a lot of mucus (I even took cough medicine).. so have just continued to BD every other day. However we did not do it yesterday (CD16) as I have now got the flu/bad cold....and my muscles really ache.
I have an appointment with the fertility consultant on the 23.1.07.

When we conceived Bertie we only had sex twice that month (as was having an operation, so was not trying to catch - typical)We had BD on CD11 and CD15 (I only know this as it was my birthday and had 2 nights out.hehe)I normally have a cycle of 28-31days, so it would be good if I can devise a way of ascertaining my ovulation.

Uki, really hope scan is ok... I know all too well how nerve racking they are..(had about 10 scans in my pregnancy)....It's all worth it when you get to see them.

I have had bad back pain before and not been pg-saw a physio who didn't know what it was. With my mc I think I had a bit of a mild ache. Im not bleeding or anything but then again I didn't with my last mc either. Im now wondering why it would be this painful if it was a mc. Its very early...

If you have had the back pain before (infact so you have had to see a physio) It does not seem to be associated with pregnancy. I know it is easy to relate every pain to pregnancy and things going wrong, do you have any stomach cramping? In the early days it is very hard as the symptoms are only mild if any... I only really started getting any in week 7.

How far are you now? Hope you don't mind me asking but how many M/C have you had and at what stage did they happen. - Sorry if questions are not appropriate xx

Don't worry about asking questions.

Not sure how far I am, I know that sounds odd but my last AF was 6th Dec and I had a positive pg test during the week. I guess thats about four weeks by now. Very early. I have had one miscarriage, it was missed, baby died at 5 weeks and I found out at 10 although had been trying to tell people at 5 weeks as I had some back pain. So I guess it's not surprising im thinking the same thing has happened again. I have had some pains in my stomach but it feels like it may be the back pain coming round to the front if you see what I mean. It is very painful. I do suffer from lower back pain but have only had one epidode of it being this bad before so thought it may be a coinsidence that it happens now. The pain is in my pelvis too xx

Yours was much earlier than when my started, I did not suffer from back pain too much either...just when I got further on, but associated that with all the lying down I was doing. Can you go and see your doctor on Monday, just so you can get you mind put at rest. They may be able to scan using internal scan??? I had an external scan between 6-7weeks and they could see the baby at that stage. I know from the internal scans they can see things much earlier on.

Oh Edie, I really hope you are wrong with your fears! This might sound funny but I consider you a sister since we shared our hopes and worries for so many weeks and our stories were so similar for a while. And I am so happy that you fell (and hopefully are!!!) pregnant again, because your pregnancy means hope for me (in some distant future).
I hope my last post wasn't read the wrong way. I think we all know that after a m/c we can be very happy for somebody else's pregnancy while at the same being a little jaleous that it is not us.
Dutchess - thanks for the invite for the Hut of Doom. That threat is really much more appropiate for me and I will join you there.
Firststar - Thanks for your good wishes and concern. I got an offer for the US job yesterday and am in the negotiation process.
Am not sure if I will accept it but if not then dh will move here. I should really focus more on how supportive and loving he is and how lucky I am to have him on my side.
Nettle -- I am thinking of you constantly. Will have a look over in the bereavement thread to see if you are posting there. You have all ready become my friends.
All the best to everybody and a Happy New Year!