'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

Firststar-how are things? Good luck at the FGC and glad to hear about the ms!!

No AF today but that is not unusual-im often late. AF pains though so I think it is coming...

Hiya D4phne et al....

Hi Dutchess, sorry for your distress which is understandable. I joined after August and do not quite understand what you mean with 'AF kicked off bad pregnancy'. I am pretty sure I once had a very early m/c which manifested itself as an extremely unusual and painful AF. I think those are very common (I once saw the number of 90% of pg end in the forst two weeks) and no reason to be worried about. Could that be it?

My last period, back in August, happened at the time it should have done, was as heavy as it should have been, but lasted only three days. It turned out that I was in fact pregnant, about four weeks in fact (conception having happened two weeks before), in a pregnancy during which I bled heavily twice more(at 8wks 5days and 11 weeks 1 day), before ending in miscarriage about six weeks ago at 13 weeks. Altogether not the most pleasant three months I've ever had, and not an experience I wish to repeat.

Oh Duchesse, it sounds you have went through a lot!
There seem so many forms of pg I had no idea even existed. If you are still worried and want to have clarity you could go to your GP and have a blood test?! But if you just want to share your worries, let us know and we are here!!

No AF as yet. Do you like my new name?! God im not even a mum and I know who the characters are on Balamory!

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I know im not pg. Just waiting for AF. Booked a two week holiday to Barbados today for next May so im very happy

EdieMcredie v about Barbados. Been there twice and it is the ultimate luxurious destination. Enjoy. Would like to join the thread. Having a miscarriage atm (it started Monday and still going)but want to conceive asap after. Wishing you all lots of luck and babydust xxx

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage, plummymummy. It's certainly not a pleasant experience, but you sound positive. Hope it's over soon and you can move forwards.

Hi All

How you all doing? Well we've moved - house is in chaos but at least internet is up and running again.

I hope you've all been ok, while I've been off-line.

I really feel for you Plummy - but you are in the right place for support.

EdieMcready - I absolutely love the new name!!

Not much going on with me, CD43 today and still no obvious temp shift, so don't think I've ov'd yet this cycle - so annoying as I was so positive at the start of this cycle when DH was coming back. Anyway, caved in yesterday and did a test, but BFN. So confused as to what is going on with my body - had large, achy boobs and very mild AF-like aches and pains for a week now, but still no AF.

Anyway, off to see my new GP on Wednesday and hopefully she'll be as sympathetic as my last GP and refer us straightaway, as it's been a year now since we conceived the mc.

Anyway, I hope you all have more success and lots of babydust to you all. Got friends coming this afternoon who are pg with their 2nd. This will sound awful, but I find friends who are pg with 2nd or more children so much harder to deal with than those having their first. I think because we are blessed with DD, but I so want another one. I know I should be happy with the one, but other people find conceiving so easy, why is so difficult for those who so desperately want children?

Well - I've let off enough steam there - hope I've not spoiled anyone's weekends.

Off to get our Christmas tree in a bit, so hopefully that will cheer me up and make me forget for a bit.

Take care all
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Thanks duchesse and babyfettle. Can cope with two, a third might be more of a challenge to get through. It's a nice thread to join as everyone's pretty much in the same boat. Wishing everyone lots of love, luck and of course babydust.

Oh forgive my manners, congrats on new house babyfettle. It's so stressful moving isn't it. We moved in June this year and I wanted to wait a few months before ttc as I was so worn out and knackered but then I'm sort of getting a bit ancient (35 in 2 months)

HELLO Everyone
Have been missing you all.
The conference went extremely well, everyone worked and played hard, ate well and enjoyed all the sightseeing trips althouigh totally exhausted as had 2 projects on each side of it as well.

Plummymummy- sorry to hear, your news
welcome though hope your stay is short? have yoou had children before m/s or was it your first?

Duchesse- I'm sorry to hear about messed up af, how frustrating and confussing? I hope things are better, my cycle is still all over nearly 4 months post m/c.

Edie- undersatnd your pessimism, feel totally the same managed to bd loads so would really like something to happen now, but feel like my body is failing me.

day 26 or something here, have lots of achy pains down low, no idea really, trying not to think although will have little to distract me this week.
Sorry have not read all the thread but willl get back tomorrow to chat more, soo tired

Firstar -glad to her pg is strong, you sound positive good girl

Hi UKI, I have a ds who's 2yrs 6 mths on 20th of this month. I had a suspected ectopic in Jan this year and a poorly developing pregnancy this time (knew at 7 weeks that it was unlikely to progress). Have scan tomorrow so will see if any retained products. How about you? Do you have any children?

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Hello All - named changed to be a bit more festivey!

Hope you all had lovely weekends and you are starting to feel a little bit Christmassy? All our decorations are up, so getting in the mood - feel a lot more positive about everything today. Think we are just going to take it easy and see what happens. The last 2 times I got pg, we had decided to stop trying for a while, so perhaps that we should do again.

See what the doctor says later this week.

take care all

Morning all
Festivefettle- love the name, and you have inspired me to get festive too, spent the day making and writting on my cards, phew all 24 of them this is novel isn't it.

Plummy- yes i have one ds, who's 1.5 on the 14th december. had 2 m/c before him and one 12 week missed m/c after him in August.

How are Oinker, d4ph, slingmad and juicy doing???????????????????

Hi everybody. Well I am doing better than before but still not back to normal. Had a private post-2nd-ERPC scan today (I really seem to have to organise everything myself) and the results are mixed.
Good: no retained products any more; Bad: no signs of rerturning to normal -- there is no buildup of lining or ripening follicle. At this point (after 3 months) I am so stressed about returning to normal that the stress might prevent the thing I most want.
So: no festive feeling here, just stress about not being healthy and stress about changing my job and
stress about moving back to Colorado. Oh, and here comes the last bit: Had to stop counselling since the counsellor had a crush on me which I was not comfortable with. I really need a little luck and positive vibes here .... Sorry for ranting -- hope you are all doing mcuh better!!!

I plummymummy and welcome!!

I am not quite sure what your results mean, D4phne. Does it mean that your body still thinks it's pregnant, or just that the ovaries etc have not yet recovered from the the shock of the EPRC? And will you have another scan in a couple of weeks to see if there is any change in things?

Do you chart your temperatures? They might help you to pinpoint shifts in your cycle.

Oh D4phne - I hope things seem better soon. I hope you got some good explanation of what your scan means and what happens now?

Shame on your counsellor - have you reported him ( I assume it was a him?!) That was really unprofessional of someone in their position.

{{{{BIG HUGS}}}} I hope you are feeling better soon and sort our your plans to move to Colorado - sounds great to me - much warmer and drier than the UK at the moment!!

I'm doing ok - still not 100% sure what is going on, but I think I may have ov'd at last at the end of last week, so see what the next 2 weeks bring, but I'm not really stressing about it anymore and feel quite relaxed at the mo.

Hope everyone else is going ok - how's the pre-holiday prep going Oinker?

take care all

Hi Everyone

Daph- you poor love, I feel for you, you sound stressed. Sounds very unlucky what's happening to you, never heard of anything like that before.

I really think you do need to relax and try and enjoy yourself, your body will return to normal it has too.
Can you get away do something spontanous. It may even help to write and get all your feelings out, I did that after 2nd m/c and it now helps to look back and remember how much better I am now.

Well not much to report from me just sitting here in the anxious last week wait, not to hopeful though

Hello everyone. Thanks for support firststar, uki and d4phne. Sorry to hear things not back to normal for you d4phne. Have they given you any explanation? It must be so frustrating. You feel in limbo when your body's not doing what it should.
Who's done all their xmas shopping? I have no enthusiasm for it at all this year.

Hi all! Thanks for our support. I guess from the doctors point of view only the 2nd ERPC counts and so they won't do anything until 8 weeks post-2nd-ERPC.
From my point of view I had my 1st ERPC 11 weeks ago and have been anxiously waiting since to return to normal. There is nobody that takes charge, so e.g. the scan yesterday I had to do independently, and no doctor has seen me since the ERPC but I do have an appointment in two weeks.
I guess all my hormones are still imbalanced which is why I dont get AF. But at least I dont test pg any more....This has been really a nightmare and I wish I could just get away, Uki. But with the job change and move I really dont have a possibility right now. So lost of stress in the short term but hopefully more relaxed in the long term.
The thing with the counsellor -- well there was no inappopiate behavior, so I won't do anything about this. Oh boy, you all must think I am completely wacko but honestly I am not! I am just a normal person who want to be content if not happy!!!

Oh dear, I do hope no one thought I was excluding anyone from the thread (it's just that I've tried to acknowledge people individually as the thread goes along). Maybe it's better to say "our support" in case anyone gets offended.

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