'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

Hi everybody. It seems a lot has happened since I last logged on. Pinkranger my heart goes out to you. I also find that I often don't communicate my emotions to DH but then i often do not understand them myself. Congrats everybody to all the BFP!!! I had my second ERPC last Friday and wait now for the pathology results and hopefully AF in 4-6 weeks. Am very worried that things might not return to normal and envy everbody who can TTC and is only on a 2ww!!!! Babyfettle thanks for sharing your story. I very much hope that my story will be similar to yours and that they find that the ERPC was not complete the first time.

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Hello All

Hi D4phne - glad your operation is over. I hope the results are positive for you and you can be back TTC as soon as possible.

Pinkranger glad you've managed to talk to DH - hope you are feeling better.

Duchesse, my hormones are always all over the place, so I really feel for you - I hope you get some clarity soon.

I'm giving a tentative sigh of relief as my temps have been up for 2 days in a row, so may have at last ovulated - CD36 today!! But I'm not being too hopeful, as I had a brief rise earlier in the month, for the temps to drop again and I've got a horrible cold, so that could have raised my temp as well. Just see what the weekend holds!

Take care all
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Hello all

About to unplug computer and not sure when all will be set up again in new house. Temps back down again, so yest and today, so assuming I'm having an anovulatory cycle. I'll make an appointment to see my GP as soon as possible, once settled.

I'll pop back as soon as possible = but hope before then, we get some more BFP!

Take care all

hiya ladies.

i didn't expect much action on here today.
Went crimbo shopping and last minute holiday shopping today.
I was having a lovely time. DH decided to tell me what he was getting me for christmas. He walked me to the jewellers and said choose an eternity ring. I was chuffed. I looked down at the displays and an assistant came over. For some reason unbeknown to me as we never said a word to her she said, " Oh, an eternity ring how lovely they are traditionally given after your first baby"... DH just squeezed my hand. I had no idea. (neither did he)I just thought they were a commitment type ring.. I could have burst out crying there and then. I just stepped away from the display, somehow smiled and walked out. I felt gutted. Still do. DH has said he still wants to get me one. I am not sure. Am I being silly and over emotional. At the end of the day it's only a ring...

S*d tradition Oinker! - an eternity ring, is for eternity, it is a sign of your DH's commitment and love for you! So what if traditionally people get them after having their first baby - why not break tradition and be unique!!! You certainly deserve to be!

When you get your beautiful baby in your arms - then you can broach the subject with DH of getting another ring then!!! But I'd go for it now, I'd love an eternity ring, but DH hasn't offered me one yet!

Take care of yourself.

Evenin' all. Hope you're all bearing up with November.

Oinker- you can do what you like- a custom is only a group of people doing the same thing. Nobody says you have to follow. I'd always thought an eternity ring was to symbolise devotion between a couple. I'm guessing that the shop assistant was quite young and chatty...

Babyfettle- thanks, it is reassuring to know I'm not the only one, but my cycles seem to have gone from dead regular and predictable, before Mirena, to utterly incomprehensible since. I don't even know when I ovulate now without the use of a thermometer...

D4phne- hope it all starts regularising now...

My acupuncturist neighbour did some moxibustion (no needles, only heating with a kind of cigarette thing above particular points) on me on Monday, to treat my tiredness and what I thought was prob anaemia (had weird pica-type symptoms for first time since pregnant with child number 3) and showed me how to do it. I've been doing it every two days since Monday, and have ENERGY back for the first time in two years...

So I've been buzzing around doing all the things I should have been doing around the house for ages.

And my period came today. I think. It's like no period I've ever known though, so I'm waiting to see how it develops.

Thanks ladies...

I am going to go with it.
I checked out some lovely cluster diamonds....
Soooooooooo nice
I think it was just the shock of hearing the shop assistants comment. It just threw me a little.
I have to stop being so over sensitive.

thanks

Duchese..

Glad things are starting to perk up for you
I have tried alternative healing methods and they do work wonders. I steer clear of massages though as there is a history of cancer in my family and was advised by a healer to not have them. Crystals are great... I have had some interesting sessions with them.

keep up the good work.

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Defo a period.

Every time I get a period, I think, well, that would be an XXX birthday. We're up to August 2007 now. If...and it's a big if.

I might have to stop doing this to myself soon. We're taking a pretty devil may care attitude, as much as one can after 3.5 years of ttc, but I'm beginning to wonder if closure mightn't be easier.

duchese,

I know how you feel. I have stressed out days when I think of my age and all the effort I am putting into this. We have really tried to make a consciuos effort and not allow this to control our lives,but it does to a certain extent.
I never had a problem TTC it was just holding onto them hence all the ops and treatment I have to have.
I have been getting disolusioned like you. There is still no guarantee for me after treatment.
I am not getting any younger and neither is DH. He has kids so am sure he can not feel as strongly about wanted another.

duchese, have you gone thru all the routine tests? have you been given any idea as to why this is happening?

Where has everyone gone?

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Oinker - what a horrible experience for you
I think you should still get the eternity ring. After everything you and your DH have gone through you deserve a little reminder of how commited you are to each other. How lovely of your DH to think of such a great gift.

Hope you find the perfect ring.

When are you off to Mauritius?

Hi everyone. Im about although lurking more recently as have nothing of any interest to add.

AF due tomorrow and def not pg.

Here's hoping for next month...

You ladies are so kind. Thankyou.

Thanks for all your kind words. I won't show Dh otherwise he may get a little big headed.
I have decided to go for it. I just hope I won't ever see it as a consilation prize.

I am doing fine. On the cabbage soup again this week. Preparing for the seasonal festivities. They start on Sunday. Can you beleive it.
I am off too Mauritius on the 19th. I am so looking forward to it.

edie... are you 100% sure about A/F?
I'll keep fingers crossed for you hun

Oinker...Have no pg symptoms and can just feel AF coming on. Im ok though-not been ttc very hard this month

Good morning.

Yes, it's been quiet here. Have not to report much of myself. Got a UTI and had to get back to the surgery to get an appointment with the GP. This remembered me of all the agony they put me
(unwantingly) though there and I had a crying fit (caused by anger). Not that bad - after all my existential fear in the lkast weeks anger seems almost a freeing feeling. Had a good time with DH and have applied for a job back in Colorado, which I will most likely get an offer for (since i am overqualified).

Oinker -- sorry about the ring. I didn't know what an eternity ring was and which association it had. I aggree that getting you a special gift is your DH's way of expressiong how much he loves you.

Edie good to hear from you!! Besides my open envy for your second AF (I can't believe I would ever get to this point) I think we might be going through a similar emotions. I am, too, at the moment not that much concerned with TTC whereas a month ago it was the sole thing on my mind. It's a big relief and I hope a sign that things will return to normal for me at least hormonally.

Firststar -- how are you doing? How is it to be pg again after m/c? Are you anxious or pretty relaxed? Do you need support through this first weeks? What does your DH say?

Love to you all...

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Hi Firststar -- glad you are doing so well and have ms!! Seems you are in the best hands. Will think of you and look forward to the first scan!!!

I am worried now- my period turned out just like the last, back in August. Very heavy, lasted less than two days and ended abruptly on Tuesday evening, barely 48 hours after starting.

I'm hoping it's just a weird post-miscarriage period, rather than another like the August one which kicked off a really bad pregnancy. Plus am feeling queasy again; did a preg test this morning, more in blind optimism than anything, but negative.

Am deeply confused.

Hope everyone else well as can be.

Also temps back up.

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