'TTC after a miscarriage - new thread'

[Janus]

Well tried to add my bit to old thread and we have reached 1000 posts again!!
Chocolatepeanut, am so sorry for what you are going through, although you sound as if you are handling it well so far. Hope things aren't too bad for you in the coming days.
Rubles, sorry if AF does arrive, bloody bitch! My blood tests will be next week. DP sperm test threw up 'abnormal sperm' and he needs to go and discuss with the GP later this week although she did say it wasn't too much to worry about. Been meaning to start a new thread on this but haven't got around to it.
I'm looking for a yoga class to try and help me relax! Do think this whole TTC is stressing me out so much, I'm so conscious of age gaps, both our ages working against us, even worrying about if we do conceive in next couple of months as worked out it would be a July or August baby (my oldest is July born and is struggling bit with school etc). Part of me thinks it may do us all some good if I just stop ttc for a couple of months, then the other half panics about an even bigger gap, etc!!
How on earth do you all manage to relax about all this stuff??

HYSTEROSCOPY (operative)

It's to remove fibroids, scar tissue and to reset my uterus as mine is distorted. They may not do the uterus work as it is quite complicated and the risk of cutting me open if they perforate it is high. I have to loose more weight(makes recovery easier and quicker). I have no idea how much. I will just keep loosing it until they decide to make a decision. Hopefully it will be early next year. I also have to consider that if they should have to cut me open (c-section cut) then this will hinder me trying to conceive for at least a further 6 months....

I just want them to get on with it and accept the consequences. There is no guarantee, even if I was to loose the wait they could still have to cut me open.

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Hi everyone. CD 18 for me today and unfortunately haven't had tha chance to BD much as I have tonsilitis and have been feeling very tired. However we have managed to BD about three times leading up to the point where I had some stretchy CM.

Today though I have some odd pains down low in my stomach and in my pelvis. I wonder if im OV now??!! No stretchy CM but might BD tonight just in case.

Can anyone advise?

Hope everyone is well xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Hi all

Hope you all had good weekends? Mine had its ups and downs, after finding out a friend who I hadn't seen for 3 months, was 22 weeks pg, I then found out that my best friend is 11 weeks pg when I saw her on Sat. Bless her, she was so sheepish when she told me, as she knows all about the mc and how long we've been trying, but I also know she's been trying for probably longer for number 2. Funny I felt awful telling her in Jan that I was pg, but then I lost it. I knew that I would find it hard if she got pg before I did (we were pregant together with our first borns, born 3 weeks apart, which was a fantastic coincidence = really hoped it would happen like that with number 2, but as she is already 11 wk and I'm on CD30 with no sign of ov yet, I'm going to be weeks, if not months behind her now - !

Anyway, probably all the stress in my life at the moment, which is making things worse - we move a week today, so if no sign of ov in 2 weeks, going to see my new doctor and ask for a referral asap.

Well - absolutely, very little punctuation in that ramble - sorry!! Deep breath!!!

Oinker - Mauritius - that will be fantastic - have a great holiday! When are you off?

Edie - keep at it!

Good luck everyone I've missed.

take care all
x

Babyfettle

How

There is absolutely nothing fun about finding out that a friend is pg when ttc/history of mc.

Guess we just gotta keep positive (yawn) and think its going to be us one day soon. Still no ov? That must be really frustrating.

Hi all
Oinker -you poor love, that sounds like a big op. Not meant to make you worry, as it will be good when you are all fixed, but i know your prob a little scared.
Just wondering is it if you loose weight you have keyhole and if not they go for c-section cut?

DS having major tantrum now so i'll type later.

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firstar
sumkata mantra is a mantra you say to yourself of something you wish to achieve. i.e "I will have this baby"
You say it three times in your head
first time) in a very quiet voice
second) in a loud shouting voice
and third) in a normal voice.

Do this every day and after imagine a warm glowing healthy energy that is your baby growing inside you.

Hope it helps I think it is a very healthy and positive thing to do each day.

Uki,

Not so much to do with weigth other than.....

If the perforate uterus they will have to cut me open to fix it regardless of my size.
It'll just mean a longer recovery period and possible dangers re anaesthetics.

Just checking in- not been online much as I have been trying to distract myself over the last cycle.

(hugs) to everyone still waiting for their BFP!

Congratulations to Typhoonsmum and Firstar!! YAYAY!! sending you ltos of sticky baby dust!

And well distracting myself.... it worked!!!

9dpo today and yesterday I just felt pg... no spots and a few sharp cramps (like I had with both sucessful pregnancies) so I tested and a light positive came up!! Hopefully this will be a sticky one!! yay!!

I dare not post on a pregnancy thread/area just yet, maybe soon! WIll test again either tommorrow or saturday and maybe do a digi just to see the word

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SLINGMADMOTHER

FANTASTIC NEWS

WELL DONE

well donee everyone on there BFPs

Juicy cnat belive its been 12 weeks it has flown past!!!

Feeling really down and sad about it all at the moment, cant seem to stop thinking what if , does the pain get any easier , it has been 3 months now and i cant help still feeling "lost" at times. No one seems to talk about it, not even Dh, and i just feel that sometimes i want a big cry and let it all out but there is no one here to hold me and i end up sitting in a ball on my bathroom floor. I thought i was coping so well but it just such a front. Im doing course at the moment and one of ladys is due 2 days after my due date which is making it really strange as i keep looking at her bump.

So sorry to ramble on but dont know where else to let out these feelings
thank you ladies

xxxx

HI All
Congrat's slingmadmother-fab news.

Hi Pinkranger-Sorry you are feeling so bad. It's been over three months for me too, and I also go to a playgroup where i'm staring at a bump, one month apart from what mine should have been. It really sucks with the what if's. I have been so busy this month so haven't felt too bad most of the time. But bracing myself for next month where it will hit me if i get another BFN.
What CD day are you on???
I'm Cd day 15.

Do you have anything fun to distract you? Pets are always good or taking up something new?

Also try talking to dh, I'm sure he will be there for you if you talk to him.

hun

Hi Again

slingmad-just did a bit of a search of thread and can't seem to find out much, what's your history/story if you don't mind me asking???

Also did a search on andi she hasn't posted since about 27th October, very strange really don't understand how/why someone could post soo much and then stop. although I can try and understand- I think

Anyway to avoid any confusion on my part I will not be posting from now till after conference finishes -about a week.

So good luck to all, Best wishes and look after yourselves

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Thank you ladies, sitting here in tears at your kind words , dont know what i do so sometimes without mn!!!!

I think that i ahve been really busy but it all ha died down a bit now , just after the m/c i booked a party for my sons 4th birthday and that was my thing to look forward to and ger focused on but that has just happend this weekend and now i feel a bit " empty " again. Im on CD 7 so long way to go this month but gonna give it my all this time.
I have considered today seeking out some kind of conserling but makes me fill a bit silly as i know in 2 days time i most likely be absoulty fine again. My sister is normally very god to talk to but she has just split ( lasst night) from her dh so she has more then enough to be dealing with at the moment.
I know that it does get better, but just want it to hurry it up.
Thank you again xx

See you when you get back from your confrence xx

Just adding my history for UK-

took 3 years ttc ds1- unexplained infertility. I suspect I had a few chemical/ earlu losses in there.
ds 1 = 2004

ds 2 fell pg easily= aug 2005

then in Aug 2006 I fell pg by surprise- we were very shocked. as we didn't bd around O- but ob some swimmers lived longer than I thought!! I m/c at around 5/6 weeks. SO very early. We then brought forward ttc no 3.

2cnd cycle post m/c BFP at 9 dpo!

HTH!!

thanks for the congrats!! Hope there are some more BFP's before the new year!!

xx

It's been quiet on here recently!

Congratulations Slingmadmother - great news!

Pinkranger - {{{HUGS}}}. You'll find you'll have good days and bad for quite a while I would think. I mc back in Feb, and I still have days when I cry my heart out about how unfair it all is - particularly as it is taking so long to conceive again. Do try talking to your DH again, I found mine was desparately trying to stay strong for me, but was also really upset inside, so talking to eachother helped us both. I found the weeks running up to my due date, were the worst, just to warn you. However, the actual day was fine in the end and I felt like a weight had been lifted after it had past. What I still find hard now, is finding out when friends are pg. I feel so awful inside, as I'm so happy for them, but so sad for myself - selfish I know. Sorry to hear about your sis. Look after yourself, it will get better, in that the sad days become less frequent. Take care

x

Hi how is everybody?

Im on the 2ww but know im not pg this month. Not too bothered though, been ill so not much BD this time!!!

Hope you are all well. xx

Me? Still no idea.

Temps up and down like a whore's drawers, sometimes pre-O level, mostly post-O at the moment, so no idea if I've ovulated or not. Five weeks post-ERPC, and still no sign of a period.

Hope everyone is more clued up!

Also, my daughter re-broke her arm this morning, which has stirred up some unwelcome memories, since the last time she did that was August 11th, and well, I was pregnant, but didn't know it by then, because my period was due, and did come while my daughter was still in hospital, except it must have been an early bleed instead of a period, and I was in and out of the X-ray department with her, and you can't help wondering, can you, whether X-rays can damage a foetus, and I'm not really making any sense, am I?

I'll stop now. She broke her arm. Again.

Duchess,sorry about you DD- hope that she is o.k. when i wa pregnant last time i went to the hosptial with a broken toe ( belive me it was very bad), i was 5 weeks Pg and they even thought that i might have broken some small bones in my foot but still would xray me as they say it can damage the Nerological (sp) side of things for the babys.

Spoke to my husband yesterday about the way that im feeling as he rang me when i was in middle of meltdown mode, he had no idea which made me feel awful because i obvsiouly dont tell him. didnt know that it was still that raw for me. He was away last night back tonight so i we will have a good chat tonight. Thank you all for your advice x

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