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TTC after MC #5

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Bristolian1 · 18/03/2015 11:41

New thread!
This thread pretty much does what it says on the tin...
Shall we start with some stats?
I'm 32, TTC since last Jan, 2x MMC last year and on second cycle of trying again.

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MelonMelon · 25/03/2015 20:27

My MC was in august and I've not been right since the erpc. Took 4 months for periods to come back. Only started ttc again in January. Spotting has stopped today fingers crossed it stays away!

ProbablyMe · 25/03/2015 21:01

Hello, thank you for the kind replies. No, my DP has a work function tonight and can only manage the odd text message which isn't cutting it. Feeling quite angry and resentful toward him although I know this is unreasonable as it's not his fault really. Just feel really drained, got more and more stressed and anxious at the hospital although fortunately DS wasn't admitted. I just need a hug really.

My AF is due tomorrow/Friday which probably isn't helping. Although in a weird way I just want to move on to another month.

onefootinthebed · 25/03/2015 21:17

Evening ladies

Probably,I feel for you when I was at the miscarriage clinic I had to sit with all the pregnant women waiting for their scans,heartbroken I was and then the asked me why I seemed so upset.although the worst was after my traumatic miscarriage walking out of the hospital and seeing a woman heavily pregnant smoking near killed me not to say anything.if your up late and need company even though it's online I don't sleep so post and after Rosie I will probably be lurking .

Jass thanks for asking I am doing ok I tend to have little wobbles and sometimes and need people to talk me down from the edge of my panicking. Just before I tested I was going to see the doctor about anxiety,but feel like I can't now.

brickiemum2 · 26/03/2015 05:25

Glad your ds wasn't admitted probably hope he is feeling better. I think it would be a good idea to see your gp onefoot it's not surprising that you're feeling anxious and I'm sure there's something they can do to help, even if it's just listening to your worries.
I realised I was wrong yesterday..I'm actually CD15 today and absolutely no ovulation. Technically I should have just started the tww but I think I'm out for this month. I feel so so let down by my body just now. I technically conceived last month but with a lp of 5 days there was no way it would result in a pregnancy. Now I'm not even ovulating Sad I've never had these issues before, even after my other mc's.

Romeolovesjuliet · 26/03/2015 07:15

brickie try and be patient, I was convinced I wouldn't ovulate this cycle as CD14 and 15 came and went but I finally got my peak on CD17 so it may be a bit delayed for you, especially if you did conceive last month x

onefootinthebed · 26/03/2015 08:51

Brickie the gp's in my doctors have no time to listen,they give you a telephone appointment first and if you don't need to see them you don't. I am 4 weeks and 1 day from my last period and 20 dpo. My cycle is 21-23 days and my test was positive Saturday.i don't think my doctor takes it seriously. I called the fertility clinic on Monday and they didn't seem to say anything other than thanks for letting them know. I think I will wait till I am 6 weeks and call and ask for an early scan .

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 26/03/2015 10:22

Hi everyone, just wanted to pop on and say hello and see how you are all doing. It's about 3 weeks since my bfp and I am mostly existing in a state of anxiety. Constantly comparing this pregnancy to my first pregnancy with dd and to my mc. I wish I felt confident but I just don't think this one is going to work out either. Scan on Monday at 7+2.
Big hugs to you all. Going to have a read back and see how you're getting on.

CarrotPuff · 26/03/2015 10:35

Oh no Guy what happened?

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 26/03/2015 10:48

Nothing really. A bit of spotting a couple of weeks ago. Sickness comes and goes. Just feel so uncertain.

jassS · 26/03/2015 13:57

Guy, it is normal to feel this way. Try to will the baby to grow and be strong, instead of thinking negatives. Thought is a powerful tool, so you have to help your baby by positive thinking. Even if the negativity hits, stop it and turn it into positive. Many women spot and go to term, did you spot with DD? If you did, it is not too worrysome for you, I hope.

kep1979 · 26/03/2015 14:46

Hi all,

Well I went back to work on Tuesday - it was pretty emotional, I felt like going back to work signalled that all was back to normal, and it isn't. Anyway, it has been getting steadily better, although I am rather short of patience with idiots Blush

Had my last lot of bloods back today - hcg is now 19, so I'm discharged. Still pulling a v faint positive on ic hpt, but feel like my body is gearing up to ovulate - isn't that a bit early?? I am still spotting occasionally, pink though rather than brown. Plus a permanent headache.

Obvs I am hoping to get a BFP again asap - but it took a long time to get the last one so not too hopeful.

I hope everyone else is OK Flowers

CarrotPuff · 26/03/2015 16:22

Did they scan you when you were spotting Guy but couldn't see much because it was so early? Did they take any blood tests? Has the spotting stopped?

I'm sorry you are going through this, I hope it's just one of those things. Put your feet up and have some Cake and Brew and try not to worry - I know easier said than done Flowers

CarrotPuff · 26/03/2015 16:23

Sorry, didn't mean to bombard you with questions Blush Just trying to find a silver lining!

epskie · 26/03/2015 16:26

Hi kep I've found I have much less tolerance of idiots since my mc too, not sure why that would happen but it's obviously a 'thing.'

guy I've been thinking about you (and chasing too) I can imagine how anxious you must be Flowers
As jass says, try to remain as positive as you can. (((Hugs)))

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 26/03/2015 16:31

No, I was only 4 weeks. It was on the day my period was due so far too early to scan.
It's the symptoms as well! Feel sick, then it goes and I panic, then I feel backache and remember that I felt backache before I mc...
I swear I wasn't insane like this before!
Anyway enough about me, how are you all getting in? epskie do you feel recovered now? What a lot you went through. MrsC are you around? How are you?

epskie · 26/03/2015 16:41

I remember reading a post on here where somebody said that unfortunately miscarriage does taint subsequent pregnancies unfortunately and I can totally understand that. So I don't think it's insanity guy I think it's completely normal Flowers
I'm ok now and on my tww (finally) we only dtd twice so not sure how successful I'll be but I'm still hopeful. I'm ill with flu at the moment so any symptom spotting is a bit irrelevant to be honest!

MrsConfusion · 26/03/2015 20:23

Hello all - been lurking but mostly too tired to post since going back to work. Even part days are hard, like someone has taken my batteries out. I'm not sleeping at the moment, very rare for me to get insomnia and not ideal timing to be alone with my thoughts... All 3 mcs are running round my head. I just feel flat, low, thin-skinned, so impatient with people including DD which makes me feel awful, like I don't know my body and can't trust it, tired and sore and nauseous. No doubt all perfectly normal and necessary but not nice to live through.

But I'm trying to work on finding the positives, writing good things down in my little starry book before bed, getting in touch with good friends etc.

I think of you all lots and am standing lots of vibes for BFPs soon. guy you are strong, your baby is strong. Holding hands Flowers

CarrotPuff · 26/03/2015 20:34

Guy I hope it was just a breakthrough bleed and all will be fine.

Epskie in theory one time is enough Wink

Poor you, I hope you fell better soon, I have a horrid cold with worlds worst cough too. Lots of Brew I should really jump DP tonight, but my cold seems to have gone from bad to worse Sad

epskie · 26/03/2015 20:48

Ahhh (((MrsC))) sounds like you're emotionally run down but you're doing your best to get through it, well done for that! I also felt that I couldn't trust my body after my mc, it's an awful feeling Flowers

Are you going to try again?

Thanks carrot you're right. Once was certainly enough last time - had my implant out, dtd once, pregnant! Obviously it didn't end well though :(

Seems to be a lot of flu flying around!

MrsConfusion · 26/03/2015 22:14

Sorry ladies that was really selfish, you've all been through this and I have lots to be thankful for.

Yes epskie we plan to try again, i'm v aware I'm not getting any younger! Most online info seems to say wait for two AF after ectopic surgery, but the doc here said just wait for one. I had hoped to see RMC clinic before ttc but they've now moved the appointment to later in April, so depending on when AF shows up, we may have needed to decide before then on whether to try straight away. I had bfn on tues (2 weeks post op) and think I may have ovulated, judging by knickers and tummy pain, so we'll see when AF shows up...

jassS · 26/03/2015 22:15

Its so hard when world around you is moving along as normal, and you act as normal, but you know you are not... I feel for all those back at work "as if life is the same as before, but it is not". Same here. There are two at work who know, and they are probably relieved I an acting Ok, but I am not feeling OK! i would like to talk about my baby who died all the time,but I am the only one! Even my husband does not fancy talking about it....

5 days post eprc, and did a test. Still a clear pos, I would say 400-500 units of hcg...Is it OK? I have mcd from 2000 levels max before, so have no idea what it means to mc at 9w3 d and probably at least 30 000. What was your beta a week after eprc?

mrsdiddlydoo · 26/03/2015 22:15

I can't remember what it feels like to trust my body (sorry unhelpful comment) Sad and I'm not sure I will until I survive being pregnant again. But things definutely get easier with time. You've done a fab job surviving this week at work so far mrsC and I might have to try writing good things down before bed because I find night times the hardest.

We kept a good things jar last year and neither of us can bear to open it to read the notes because of what it contains. It just sits gathering dust on the window will.

Hope everyone with colds and bugs feel better soon. Sounds like hot chocolates are needed by everyone.

guy well done for getting this far. The spotting must have been scary but I'm glad it's settled. Will be thinking of you on Monday.

kep sounds like your hormones are returning to normal. Work after mc can be tough. It made me suddenly aware of how many morons and ignorant people i work with. The baby talk and questioning I seem to endure is beyond belief some days. Dagger eyes don't seem to work anymore. Think they just think I'm a miserable cow these days.

onefoot our gp practice's sound similar. Phone calls and only go in if you really have to. They do most of it over the phone which works ok for me unless I'm in a public place discussing private stuff.

Brickie I don't think you're out this month. Mc messes up our bodies. I seem to be ov ing around CD 16 since my last mc whereas before it it was days earlier.

Brew Cake Brew Cake Brew

mrsdiddlydoo · 26/03/2015 22:22

X post jass I can't help with the numbers but know how you feel about your dh. I wish my dh would talk about it more with me, instead I think he just thinks I'm a broken record and should try to move on more. Don't get me wrong he's supportive and I know he's dealing with the situation in his own way, but its lonely this thing.

brickiemum2 · 27/03/2015 07:52

I'm not surprised that you are still feeling flat and low mrsc you just need to take care of yourself and prioritise your own recovery.

guy it does sound like a typical breakthrough bleed but I can understand how terrified you must be. Good luck for your scan on Monday.

jass I was still getting a clear positive at that stage too. My levels had been around 33,000 and it took three weeks to get to 14 and be discharged.

onefoot could you just call and book a non emergency appointment for anxiety? At least that way you would be seen eventually.

I'm so not sure what's going on with me. I'm slap bang mid cycle but I don't feel it. No ewcm at all. Normally around now I have a really high sex drive and (tmi) I orgasm really really easily during sex Blush Right now I have low sex drive, it all seems like a bit of an effort, my boobs are achy, I feel sick (almost threw up yesterday) and have a tender crampy uterus. In all honesty I feel like I'm about to start af or I feel a bit pregnant (but I've not detected ov Hmm )
I'm totally lost about what's going on and I'm finding that quite depressing as I have a sense of this month just passing me by.

kep1979 · 27/03/2015 11:51

jass and mrsd my dh is exactly the same - lovely, supportive, but kind of expecting me to be moving on.... it is tricky!

I'm doing OK, really feel like my body is gearing up to ovulate. Still had v faint positive on ic this morning - also did an opk which was dark but not positive. Obvs don't totally trust the opk as much as not had neg hpt - but was interested to see what it looked like.

And tfi Friday! Wine