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TTC after MC #5

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Bristolian1 · 18/03/2015 11:41

New thread!
This thread pretty much does what it says on the tin...
Shall we start with some stats?
I'm 32, TTC since last Jan, 2x MMC last year and on second cycle of trying again.

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epskie · 21/03/2015 19:19

Hi salty it's amazing how much of a detective you become isn't it? Sorry to hear you're feeling despondent. Are you definitely out for March?

Cariad2014 · 21/03/2015 19:47

Salty - you have my sympathies - I'm the only one of my close friends who doesn't already have children/ isn't heavily pregnant and I'm already dreading the baby bombs as they all start trying for number 2.

Have any of you lovely ladies had counselling to help deal with the aftermath of your mcs? i wasn't offered anything after my ectopic, but six months on, I feel I could really do with having someone who isn't DH to talk to about how I feel, particularly as I'm feeling so blue at the moment.

onefootinthebed · 21/03/2015 21:30

I caved and got a positive result, however I have period like cramps. The next 8 weeks are goinging to be intense.

MelonMelon · 21/03/2015 21:37

Wow congratulations onefoot! Hope your good luck rubs off and that you have a happy and healthy pregnancy Smile

kep1979 · 21/03/2015 21:41

one keeping everything crossed for you!

mrsdiddlydoo · 21/03/2015 23:52

Yay onefoot! So happy for you Smile the pains are all normal. I'm sure of it. Great start to the new thread x

onefootinthebed · 22/03/2015 00:43

Thankyou all, l wish l could lay in bed till I am past 9 weeks but I know l can't,unless I have won tonight's lotto,will have to check tomorrow lolGrin , however l feel l have used up all my luck.

MrsConfusion · 22/03/2015 07:48

Super news onefoot, many congrats! Remember there are lots of ladies here and who have graduated from this thread who understand your worries, and we're all cheering you on.

epskie · 22/03/2015 08:09

Big congrats onefoot lovely news to hear!

Got my pos opk on Wednesday, only managed to dtd Wednesday and Thursday as DS had a sleepover on Friday and DH had a sneezing fit last night!! Will try for a quickie this afternoon but just hope we've done enough, any thoughts from more experienced ttc'ers? :-)

CarrotPuff · 22/03/2015 08:14

Congrats onefoot! Keeping everything crossed for you it's a sticky one!

Salty did you see your GP about the length of trying?

Cariad you'll get your baby soon too, keep faith. I haven't had councelling, but I think someone on this thread had. Was it chasing?

Last night DS was woke up and it took us 2 hours to settle him. We were absolutely drained. This morning however he made up for it and is still asleep!

I'm full of cold though. Feeling very rough. I had some brownish mucus yesterday, not sure if it was EWCM or just remains of AF, as it was only CD8 (but I do have shortish cycles sometimes). We really need to DTD tonight but not sure I'll have the energy...

CarrotPuff · 22/03/2015 08:19

Cariad and Yokill I hope you're feeling better soon, lots of bugs going around.

Allqueens, how exciting, keeping everything crossed for you! When are you due to POAS?

onefootinthebed · 22/03/2015 09:35

It's sunny were I am today ladies and I was dreading waking up to find history repeating itself. My stomache pains are gone and I feel ok today.

I only have a short cycle and I hate mornings. My dh knows as he read the test result and told me as it's usually the other way round, but we have decided not to tell anyone in rl, I am just fed up of sympathetic looks and people who speak before thinking.

I am just going to take my ds to the pictures and have a nice day. And be grateful that I can get pregnant and hope with all my heart this bean is a sticker. Have a lovely day ladies.

brickiemum2 · 22/03/2015 09:49

Congrats onefoot
CD11 here and opk neg.. time dragging lol.

Yokyil · 22/03/2015 10:09

Big congrats Onefoot - great news! Enjoy your lovely weekend and praying the next 9 months are the most boring and uneventful you could wish for Wink
Thanks Carrot - yeah seems to be flu like bug going about - but plenty of lying on the sofa getting looked after is helping!! Feels like I've done a lot of that this past few months Confused Wish it was next week so I could POAS!!

mrsdiddlydoo · 22/03/2015 12:57

epskie I'm no expert with opks because since my mc they don't seem to work for me anymore. I reckon you're in with a good chance. Advice often is DTD 3 days in a row from positive opk then a day off and then one for luck. Fingers and toes crossed for you.

Glad the pains have settled onefoot! Enjoy your Sunday you deserve it! We all do.

brickie cd 9 here. Feel the same. Roll on ov...

So far today i"'ve done some digging and been to the park. Its lovely and sunny. Helps me feel more positive although dh is in the dog house because he was too tired to start this months TTC efforts last night. Managed to duck out of a family lunch that would have included a very pregnant dsil. Phew... Feel guilty though but need to look after me at the mo

jassS · 22/03/2015 13:17

Hello ladies, can I join? I have just had a mmc at 9+1, baby actually measuring ahead at 9+3 but no heartbeat. D&C yesterday, this was my first mc with a fetus which had actually had a heartbeat. I also have had 2 blighted ovae and one fetal pole which never developed hertbeat, plus numerous chemicals. I have been lurking this thread and obviously the grads' thread for last 7 weeks, too, but never joined since I always miscarried within a week of my positive test. But I seem to learn how to keep them longer (I am progressively getting further along with each pg) and am now seriously hopeful for next time, when this time comes. So feel I somehow might fit in. Oh, and to make sad story happier, all my mc are secondary infertility cases, we are ttc for our fifth. All mc have happened after DC4 was born almost 6 years ago.

MrsConfusion · 22/03/2015 21:42

Welcome jassS, sorry you need to be here but glad you feel ready to post. Lots of hand holding here.

Hope everyone has enjoyed some sunshine today, v impressed with digging MrsD! So far I've only gazed in despair at the garden chaos...

Back to work for me tomorrow, part days to start with (doctor's orders). Rather nervous. Still haven't worked out what to say if people push me on why I've been off. Ho hum.

MelonMelon · 22/03/2015 21:48

Sorry to see you here Jass. We're all here for support Flowers

SaltySeaBird · 22/03/2015 21:54

Thanks to everyone for making me feel welcome, and welcome to Jass, you sound like you've had a hard ride.

I'm definitely out for March as AF showed up just over a week ago. I have long cycles so a bit of a wait now until I ovulate next - should be Easter weekend.

MrsConfusion hope tomorrow goes okay Flowers

Romeolovesjuliet · 22/03/2015 22:11

Hope tomorrow is ok Mrs C - I hope people are sensitive enough to not push with the questions.
Welcome Jass, sorry to see you here.
Had a lovely afternoon out in the sunshine, very good for the soul. Will be 9/10 dpo tomorrow with AF due Fri/Sat and struggling to hold my nerve.

mrsdiddlydoo · 22/03/2015 22:15

You wouldn't be impressed if you could see the rest of the garden mrsC. Its only the neglected veg patch that has had some love (and chicken muck!). Hope tomorrow goes smoothly. It will be a short day at least. When people ask if I'm feeling better/ok I've taken to saying vague things like 'I will do soon I'm sure'. Or 'not yet but better than I was'. Then politely ignore them or give back off eyes. It's not helped by having had weeks and weeks off with horrific ms with ds so they usually think I'm pregnant. Hmm

Welcome jass. Sorry you find yourself here and what a journey you've had. It's good the pregnancies are getting longer, but crap they haven't worked out. Flowers hope you are feeling ok and have some time to take care if yourself.

ProbablyMe · 23/03/2015 13:50

Hello can I join you?

I'm TTC again following a late miscarriage at 15 weeks in January. I'm 40 and this would be my 6th including my lost baby and my 2nd with my lovely DP. My DSs are 17, 15, 14 and 11 so it would be a big gap. DP has two DDs aged 10 and 8 so we're a big bunch!

I'm on CD25 - approx 10dpo - AF is due on Thursday so I'll test on Friday/sat if it doesn't arrive. I am really nervous - torn between desperately wanting to be pregnant again and fearing what may happen.

jassS · 23/03/2015 18:10

Went back to work today. It helps. Two closest colleagues know about what has been going on. Sent them an e-mail informing them, am not able to talk about it. But neede some people at least to know, in case I started bleeding or sth., they would help to cover up from the rest of the house! Both have also had a mc each, so they know the routine as well....

MrsConfusion · 23/03/2015 22:53

Welcome probably, so sorry you need to join us but glad you've found this lovely group.

Glad your first day back went well jass

I Survived first part day at work, despite hardly sleeping last night (boy that was a horrid night! I do not like the inside of my own head). No probing questions thank goodness, although I am now suspicious that someone warned them off or that they've all jumped to their own conclusions. I was strict with myself and only did 4 and a bit hours (boss said I looked tired after 2!). Lots to sort out so I expect this week will all be firefighting. Just tired and sore and feeling flat. All to be expected i suppose.

Night ladies x

onefootinthebed · 23/03/2015 23:57

Hi ladies, hope your all well. I rang the fertility clinic today to keep them up to date. I thought the would at least have a bit of joy in their tone of voice but no, nothing.

I don't know weather or not to inform work due to my history. But I am also aware it is mega early tbh I actually don't want to tell my he she is a but incentive and so nota people person .i am just scared of the trauma last time.

I have a stitch this evening I am so aware of every single little ache, and I dread going the toilet. I hope as I get further on it eases up all this worry. Saying that I just hope I get further on, well to the end.

Arh I hate not sleeping because I'm overthinking.