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TTC after MC #5

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Bristolian1 · 18/03/2015 11:41

New thread!
This thread pretty much does what it says on the tin...
Shall we start with some stats?
I'm 32, TTC since last Jan, 2x MMC last year and on second cycle of trying again.

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Mamama31 · 30/04/2015 17:44

Kep where do I find this thread? What section?

Adventuregame · 30/04/2015 17:56

Mama if you need a laugh.....

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/a1875847-Do-you-dunk-your-penis

Mamama31 · 30/04/2015 18:00

Thanks adventure. Had a quick look....and very entertaining....have to go out now to meet another friend for dinner (get me...twice out of the house today and much less tearful!) but I will be resorting to this thread to cheer me up later on or whenever I feel low. Great recommendation Kep! Please find some more funny ones....i don't want to run out of resources.....ever!

kep1979 · 30/04/2015 18:42

adventure I had to leave the office when I read that one originally!

MarysPrayer · 30/04/2015 20:27

Ah, the 'penis beaker' thread. It made the news didn't it? There's some great threads in 'classics'.

Mamama 'get you' indeed - socialite Smile . Glad to here you're managing to enjoy yourself again.

Mamama31 · 30/04/2015 21:14

Haha! I read the penis dunking thread a good while back when I was on the ttc buses! It was so funny!

I will def have a read through some classics while I'm off work the next while. My friend gave me 2 self help books tonight....i must be grim! haha! I do feel a bit better tonight from seeing people today....i must make more of an effort to do that.

Thanks Marys, I'm all over the place, up and down like a yo yo! My next goal is to get a bfn but don't want to test too soon again after strong pos yesterday. Need to leave it so I def get a bfn next time!

How you feeling Marys?

MarysPrayer · 30/04/2015 21:22

Thanks for asking Mamama. I've been a bit up and down this week. I had pinned so much hope on getting a bfp straight away and this first AF has hit me quite hard. I just find myself dwelling on what could/should have been. I'm terrified that this will be my last pregnancy.

Mamama31 · 30/04/2015 21:48

Marys I totally understand that. I am actually really trying hard to not pin my hopes on getting a bfp soon as given our history it could be an unrealistic expectation. It's so hard not to have that hope though as it almost sees you through but then when af hits, the emotional impact is too much because you so hoped for a bfp.

I'm going to try so so hard to live my life again, I'm not quite ready yet, but I am hoping to make some plans for the next few months instead of waiting for a bfp. It's just so hard Marys, I never imagined having a mc would make us want a bfp as soon as possible again. I always thought we'd need to recover for a long time....but the want and need is more than ever!

It will happen though....we must believe that...but living life in the mean time is important too.

MarysPrayer · 30/04/2015 22:01

Thanks mamama It's a relief to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this and I'm not overreacting. I never imagined mc would be so painful. It's hard when everyone else is carrying on with their lives while mine is standing still.

On a happier note I have splurged bought a lovely butterfly pendant today. I decided this week that I wanted to buy something by which to remember my lost baby. I love my jewellery and a butterfly is a very fitting symbol. Looking forward to wearing it!

Mamama31 · 30/04/2015 22:16

Marys you are so far from alone on this thread and as you have seen, I have been very up and down. The pain seems endless most of the time. But there is hope and we must have faith that everything will work out in time. Even though I feel so much pain, I also feel huge appreciation for all the good things i do have in my life....there is only one thing missing and I know that we will get it when the time is right...i just have to trust that now is not that time and live until the time comes. I hope you can do the same. A butterfly pendant is perfect :) just perfect x

brickiemum2 · 01/05/2015 06:38

Well it seems like my sore ( o )( o ) s were not really much of a symptom Sad On CD21 my daily bouts of strong period cramps started and my boobs are no longer sore. They always herald af on day 28 so just waiting now for that to arrive next week.
We're off camping tonight for the bank holiday weekends so plenty to keep me occupied Smile

Mamama31 · 01/05/2015 11:58

Sorry brickie! But that's great you have something to look forward to this wkend....enjoy :)

DisneyMillie · 01/05/2015 12:16

How do days pass sooooo slowly post mc? I swear time is standing still when I just want it to pass quickly so we can ttc again!

I've got a follow up scan today (1 week post medical management). I seem to have almost stopped bleeding but a hpt is still showing strongly positive - how long did your ones all take to go negative?

My DP is so positive and is convinced we'll be pregnant again in a couple of months (I fell first try with this mc and 2nd go with my DD5 (diff dad)). But I'm worried the mc will mess everything up Confused

kep1979 · 01/05/2015 14:43

brickie sorry you feel AF is on her way, obviously keeping things crossed that she stays away. But have a lovely weekend away, and I hope the weather is kind!

disney and mamama I mc on 15 March, hcg dropped to 19 on 26 March, got first BFN on 30 March - so two weeks after mc. Don't know if you'd had your hcgs checked - I opted for it as I am a control freak and obsessed with numbers on 17 Mar it was 486 and on 19 Mar it was 206 (I was 6+2 when I mc)

Mamama31 · 01/05/2015 14:47

Thanks Kep. I had d&c 9 days ago, but did a test on wed after 7 days and was strong positive. Not testing for as long as I can now, just desperate for bfn next time! I am also a control freak, but didn't get hcg tested after d&c.....also trying to work on controlling everything as this journey is beyond control unfortunately! Think I'll book a holiday for July...give me something else to think about.

MissMrsMummy · 01/05/2015 16:46

Hi ladies,
Just checking in to see how you're all doing. Hope you are all ok Smile

redredwine4 · 01/05/2015 18:25

Hello to you all- sorry for those feeling down. Hope everyone hasa nice long weekend.

I'm having a crappy few weeks all round. After the mc in Feb I was so in need of our two week holiday at the end of March. Just before it my mil had a heart attack and needed a bypass and we had to cancel (she's fine now). So we rescheduled our holiday to the 1St week in May, nextweek, but my poor gran passed away on Tuesday. That is upsetting sso much by itself, but the funeral is next Tuesday and so we have to cancel holiday again. Don't think I've ever had such a difficult few weeks.

Hopefully next week I'll o for the first time after mc as a bfp this month would be so welcome.

DisneyMillie · 01/05/2015 18:32

So sorry redwine - have everything crossed for you ovulating soon and a nice bfp to cheer you up x

I didn't have the option to find out my hcg levels - they don't do blood tests at my hospital apparently (norfolk) which is a shame. I'm hoping since I'd started spotting before my medical management my levels were already dropping?

My scan today went well at least - nothing left - think we're going to wait for first AF still before trying again - although I might get impatient if it's not before the end of May!!

DisneyMillie · 01/05/2015 18:34

Ps - I so relate to the rest of you control freaks!! I went out last week and bought the horribly expensive fertility monitor to try and make myself feel in control (pointless I know!)

Nousername2015 · 01/05/2015 18:52

Flowers redwine, sounds like a really rough time to be going through. Hopefully you can get that holiday soon and do some relaxing.

Mamama31 · 01/05/2015 19:34

Redwine what a terrible time your having...thats got to be your quota of horrible things for a long time! look after yourself, and I hope you get a sticky bfp soon to lift your spirits!

Disney glad your scan went ok and lol at your purchase. I refuse to spend any more money on ttc when you have been at it as long as I have and pretty much tried everything...the most I've got is a pack of 5 ov tests from superdrug and only because they were reduced from 10.99 to 99p! haha! I don't even know if I'll use them....need a bfn first I guess.

Well after a few difficult days emotionally I'm feel a lot better today and no tears. Making DH a nice steak dinner and have a lovely bottle of red in...he's been so amazing, sensitive and patient with me I feel I should show some gratitude while I'm feeling a bit more upbeat.

My next task is to train my mind that I will not be getting a bfp anytime soon and to get on with life...thats how it happened last time.....

Mamama31 · 02/05/2015 11:47

Well steak dinner was cold by the time DH got home from work so that was ruined. Grumpy today, woke up after a very long, detailed dream about being pregnant. Then I got a text...a picture of my DS holding his new little baby sister....lovely as it is....could just do without this right now!

Meeting a friend for coffee....she usually inspires me and makes me feel better....here's hoping!

Hope everyone else is having a better wkend! Ignore me....im a miserable cow!!!

AtAt · 02/05/2015 12:01

I am going to see a close friends new born baby next week. I'm a little bit worried about how I'm going to react, really hoping I don't burst into tears! She knows what happened, so if I do, I'm sure she will understand

Mamama31 · 02/05/2015 12:57

Atat I find that I'm ok with my friends babies, I think if you know about the baby and it is a planned visit you can hold it together. It's when unpredictable things happen it catches me off guard. I usually feel sad after seeing friends babies though, when I'm home and have processed how lucky they are and how unfortunate we have been. It's so annoying that we can't fully appreciate and have great excitement for our lovely friends having babies because our own sadness for ourselves gets in the way. I hate that! But we have to believe one day that will be us, and we will be so sensitive to anyone else who then may find themselves in the situation we were in.

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