TTC after MC #5

[Bristolian1]

New thread!
This thread pretty much does what it says on the tin...
Shall we start with some stats?
I'm 32, TTC since last Jan, 2x MMC last year and on second cycle of trying again.

Arggggggh apologies ibeka/kep I was on my mobile and it's not great for flicking back...

Thanks ibeka. It is comforting to hear that it gets better and easier, and also that I'm not going to be like a limpet sucking the life out of DH forever (even though he doesn't mind and is being amazing). I just want to feel strong and independent again. Takes time I guess.

You ladies are super strong on here, it's amazing, really! :)

Yep, AF is here. Feeling very depressed indeed this morning and not strong at all...

Ibeka I'm sorry to hear that, it really is shit and there are just no words...sometimes we just have to accept that there are going to be shitty horrid days and do all you can to be kind to yourself and comfort yourself with the things you love around you. But there is little that can take away those feelings when they are there. Big hugs to you.

Today I am going out with DH for a day trip, we planned this as a distraction after all the heartache we have had. Hoping it works! And determined to try to make it work!!!!

Hi all, I'd like to join in please? First post but reading various threads has really helped me over the last few months.

We TTC for the first time in December 14 and got a BFP in Jan 15. However I started bleeding at 11weeks and scan at EPU showed 8 week size and no heartbeat. I miscarried naturally later that day and a further scan the next day showed mc was complete. This was early March and I got my first period post mc after 29 days (which is completely bizarre as my cycles have been irregular and vary from 31 to 37 days!)

I also took part in the TABLET trial when I went back for my follow up scan but my bloods tested normal for thyroid levels.

We're trying again, although half heartedly this month. It's hard to know where I am this cycle as my periods are so irregular. It's cd22 but no idea when AF is due so don't know where I am in 2ww not temping or using OPK at the moment but thinking about it for future cycles.

Anyway, would be great to join you all, hopefully we'll all have some good news soon

Hi tootle, welcome and I am sorry for what you have been through. I hope you find comfort and support on here with everyone who has been through the same or similar experience. Who knew ttc could end up being so terrifying?!!! I wish you lots of luck and hope you get your sticky bfp very soon.

ibeka sorry your af came. It's often difficult to see the positives but the first af is a milestone and at least you know where you are now.

Hope you're enjoying your day out mamama!

Welcome tootie!

CD5 for me. Rock n roll. If I am back to normal this month I should ovulate when we are on a week's holiday, which bodes well for dtd. I'm not sure I could handle yet another cycle with no O...

Hi lovelies, hope you are all ok. Good news, my bloods came back and the levels were very good. They hcg had more than doubled. Trying to feel confident about it now! Going for another check this week.

kep it was from a private consultant so I'm having to pay for all the bloods etc

That's brilliant news MissMrs. So glad you've got great reason to feel confident again. Fab!

Red a baby made on holiday would be lovely. Fingers crossed.

Sorry AF arrived ibeka. Mine will be here tomorrow. I can just tell.

A very warm welcome to tootle.

Mamama how was your day out? I really hope you were able to enjoy yourself and forget about things for a few hours.

Kep thanks for your message yesterday. I'm sorry to hear that you have been trying for so long now, that must be so very hard. I agree about feeling pressure from everyone. We didn't tell even our closest family that we were ttc, but now even my work know. I even worry about how it will affect how I am treated by my boss now he knows I may (hopefully) be going on maternity leave in the near future.

Hi to everyone else. Happy weekend!

Hi ladies, hope you've all had a lovely weekend and not stressed too much on ttc.

Ibeka so sorry to hear that witch arrived.
I'm not so hopeful myself, I'm pretty sure af will arrive later tonight or tomorrow morning which would make my first cycle after mc, 30days which is about right.

Keeping my fingers crossed Marysprayer that she doesn't pay a visit.

Thank you Littlebunny. I'm sorry you're expecting AF too. As you say though at least it means our cycles are back to normal straight away. Must look at the positives!

Hi littleb sorry you're not feeling hopeful. I have everything crossed for you x

ibeka sorry AF has got you x

I'm not sure if this is the right place but would love some opinions please as someone said this would be the best place to ask my type of question. Me and Dh would love to have a third baby however I'm scared. I've had 3 miscarriages prior to having my first baby. During that pregnancy I had to take cyclogest a progesterone, low dose aspirin and high folic acid and multiple scans. Pregnancy however was lovely and labour quick and easy. We then tried for our second without any of the drugs and unfortunately it ended in an ectopic. I was given methrotrexate and didn't lose a tube. I moved county and managed to persuade my new doctor to prescribe me the drugs I used in my first pregnancy if I became pregnant. I got pregnant and the drugs worked but I had heavy bleeding through out with no explanation for it. Healthy normal quick delivery at home. So, do I go for it again with always that worry I might have another ectopic and also that I will have to persuade another doctor ( male this time) to prescribe the same drugs (mine has gone from the practice). Or do I just thank my lucky stars I got through the last two pregnancies relatively unscathed. Am so torn!

Thanks ladies.

Truth be told, I haven't tested. I'm just going to wait for af, rather be disappointed that way.

missmrmummy looks like things are going well for you, so pleased for you. x

I'm still quietly hanging about in the background. Congrats to all with bfp, hi to everyone joining us.
Like a few of you I'm also going to be 38 later this year so hear the tick tock rather loudly.
Although technically I'm not supposed to ttc for the next 12 weeks we did dtd on CD12 and I'm pretty sure I ov on CD13 so we might not be out.
5dpo and not symptom spotting at all.

Hi ladies. I had a lovely day out with DH yesterday, found it to be very healing. We drove 2 hrs to a lovely beach with a mountain/waterfall backdrop and had a picnic there, then a long beach walk, a beer in an old in, then silly games at an amusement arcade, a bit of shopping then a lovely pub meal. We left home at noon and didn't get back until 10pm last night. I was exhausted but feeling happy. DH then got my hot water bottle ready and we snuggled under a fluffy blanket with crap tv and a glass of wine. It was a perfect day in every way. Just what was needed! :) and it was the first full day I've got through without tears. As the bleeding has stopped today we also dtd (x2) and it was just so nice to be close again after such a long time! I feel things are getting better. DH has truly been amazing and has built me up bit by bit each day. I am so blessed and feel optimistic now about the future. Long may it last!

Missmrs great news all is going well for you!

I hope everyone else is doing ok too.

Hi secretkourtfan congratulations on two lovely pregnancies so far. It's hard to advise, I think it depends how badly you want a third baby and whether you want to have the worry of all those other things. You seem to have been lucky so far and it's good that you didn't lose a tube from your ectopic. If you explain your history to your new doctor and the fact that you had cyclogest etc before, I would be hopeful that he would prescribe them again. Best of luck

Hi brickie good for you! Fx for you x

mamam what a lovely day, I have just asked DP if we can do something similar! Sounds like you are really on the mend It is a good milestone, the first day you don't cry. I remember feeling like I was finally healing! You will start to smile more as well. x

littleb I really hope AF never arrives! x

Went to visit my grandparents today. My Uncle was there with his DP. Baby bomb dropped on me. Gran knows about the MC, Grandad doesn't, wider family doesn't. Due November. I'm really rattled. I just didn't see it coming. Uncle is 47, his DP is 33. I managed to the huggy congratulations, asking how she's doing, etc. Then I did a bit of an hysterical laugh and said "There'll be 29 years between your eldest grandchild (me) and this one, hahaha."

Hope I managed to come across happy and excited (which I am) and not pissy and upset (which I also am, but isn't their fault.)

Theres a slight issue here though. Uncle has a DS, who's 6. He's 6 weeks older than my eldest DD (there was meant to be 12 weeks parting them but he came late and DD came early) and I was accused, when I announced, of "stealing his thunder." Now, I had no idea that Uncles (now exDP) was expecting back then, and when DH & I decided to restart TTC last weekend, I had no idea that Uncles new DP was/is pregnant. So now, ridiculously, I feel like I should stop TTC.

Somebody hand me a grip.

boils you shouldn't stop ttc just because of your uncle. What a shitty visit. Sounds like you did a good job of dealing with it at the time.

mama your day yesterday on the other hand sounds divine. Beaches, waterfalls, picnics and beer. I can't hide that I'm a bit , but you deserve it

secretc it's difficult to say what to do. What a journey you've had. Did you have rmc testing after your first 3mc? Did they find anything? If you're happy taking the progesterone and other bits I would probably ask a doctor to prescribe the same in view of your history and in the hope it would maximise your chances of a successful pregnancy. There is a rmc thread in the miscarriage section of talk ... The ladies there might be able to offer more advice.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2350304-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-21-tests-treatment-trying-again

Boils I agree do not stop ttc to please anyone else. Do what is right for you.

Mrsdiddly and Missmrs, thankyou it was a fab day and just what I needed. I prescribe one for you both, get to it ;) yesterday was also the day my DS little sister was born (my ex p had a little girl) and I remained rationale but also grateful that this did not happen on my darkest days or the day of my d&c. I truly believe that the baby was so long overdue to give me some time to heal before my DS unknowingly bragged about his lovely new little sister (he has known nothing about this loss).

I am definately feeling stronger, but I am also apprehensive as I have had good days followed by despair but I feel that every good days should be acknowledged and recognised. So again, 2nd day of no tears :) and hoping to get to bedtime that same way.

This really is a journey of ups and downs....please feel free to remind me of my optimism and positivity when doom and gloom strikes!

ItBoils I really struggle to understand people like your uncle. Just because someone in their family/circle of friends/work etc gets pregnant/engaged/ etc then they get all territorial an accuse people of 'stealing their thunder'. Other peoples lives shouldn't have to be put on hold just because they are getting on with theirs!

(Sorry, that was a bit of a rant)

Littleb you're stronger than I am. I've wasted £££ this week on bfns. AF still hasn't shown. She's mocking me now.

Mamama your day out sounds wonderful, I'm so glad you had such a lovely time. Your dh sounds really supportive too.

SecretKourtney you have a very difficult decision to make. I have one dc already so I may be able to relate a little to your situation. Everyone I have spoken to about mc has said that they finally felt 'at peace' when they went on to successfully conceive again. As a 'second timer' my biggest fear is that it might never happen for me and that my last pregnancy will be the one that I miscarried. In some ways I think I would rather have never begun trying than for that to happen.
I think you have to consider whether you want to put yourself and your family through what may be a very difficult time. You have two much loved and wanted children. On the other hand it is easy for others to say 'be grateful for what you already have' (I keep trying to tell that to myself) but if that longing for another one is there then it's hard to ignore. I'm sorry that may not have answered your question. Wishing you all the very best though. xx

Sending lots of love to those having a rotten time and hopefully lots more BFPs really soon. I'm really struggling with believing this pregnancy is real. I'm so terrified of losing it and the anxiety is really getting to me. I feel guilty for not being happier and angry for how the previous MC is making me feel at the moment. So terrified of the early scan we have booked in case it is bad news again. Normally i am such a positive happy person, need the old me back! Sending lots of love to all and sorry for self indulgent post I know how lucky I am to have the BFP and that it's not good to be negative I just think MC has such a profound effect on you that only ladies like us can really understand. Love to all and sorry again xx

When's your scan booked for fizzie? You'll get through this... And will get more confident and happy about being pregnant again x