TTC and still breastfeeding? You're not alone! Thread# 2

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Marking my place...hoping I won't be here for long

Does anyone else have to frequently endure intrusive questions/comments from people who assume they 'should' have had another dc by now?!

Looking at dds craft supplies today I was tempted to make a placard to take with me to family gatherings, visits with friends, generally out and about - I envisaged placard in one hand, dd in the other, which would read -

"STOP! Before you engage in conversation with me do not ask any of the following - Are you going to try for another one? Are you going to have another one soon? When are you going start trying for another one? Is your sister just having a baby making you broody? Please be advised that my answer would not have changed since the last time you asked and just because I do not have another child does not mean I am not trying. Please refrain from your incessant questioning and speculating. You know I want more and no, I don't want dd to be an only child, but I don't want to keep being reminded of the fact that it hasn't happened for us yet. Nor do I wish to discuss my cycles or lack of at a dinner table opposite my grandfather, on on a street in broad daylight in front of nosy passers by. And the people you keep referring to who have had children in close succession DID NOT BREASTFEED! Also, please note, should you state once more 'well, you'd better get a move on' I shall use my placard to bop you on the nose'

But I probably wouldn't find a bit of card big enough, and dd would probably want to scribble all over it anyway ... Lol...

If it makes you feel any better, I stopped bf my ds1 at 20mo and was pregnant 2 months later so he was 2yr 7m when dd arrived. He adored her from the day she was born and have been the best of play mates, well worth weaning for, from my point of view and his With any luck that'll be you too!

Hahaha Ava, glad I'm not the only one!
Apologies for taking so long to type my last post, it was supposed to be in response to Pear's.

Ava ~ just bop? Surely a "bop" wouldn't release enough of that stored up fury

Ispy ~ Thanks for the encouragement although it does concern me that I am still bf first thing in the morning so I haven't completely stopped yet unlike your situation.

Apologies for gate-crashing, I too was taking a while to vent write my post...

So lovely to hear how your dc's are together,I spy. I have 2 female cousins who are 3 years apart and they are like best friends. My sister and I have always been close but with an almost 5.5 year gap there wasn't much we could do together growing up - either she was was too young or I was too old the age gap seems much less now we're older though iykwim? [happy]

My two male cousin's wives have, in the last year conceived their second child in 6 years (not through lack of trying) and I really hope my dd doesn't have to wait that long for a sibling x

Haha, Pear, I was tempted to say smash across the head but I didn't want you to think I was bonkers. I am actually a very sane, positive person (albeit with pent up rage issues, apparently, lol) I thought 'bop' sounded more in keeping with my passive aggressive imaginary placard...

Pear it would be so unfair if one morning feed prevented conception, I can't imagine it will though.....I'm really hoping to get to 2yrs this time

Hi duchess
Sorry to be so hit and miss these days guys. Life is a bit trying at present so just don't have time or energy to chat regularly.

Oh thosel flowers were for you guys! Not in self-sympathy mode yet! (Although it might come!)

Afternoon all

Just read this and nearly cried

Wean Me Gently, By Cathy Cardall

I know I look so big to you,
Maybe I seem too big for the needs I have.
But no matter how big we get,
We still have needs that are important to us.
I know that our relationship is growing and changing,
But I still need you. I need your warmth and closeness,
Especially at the end of the day
When we snuggle up in bed.
Please don't get too busy for us to nurse.
I know you think I can be patient,
Or find something to take the place of a nursing -
A book, a glass of something,
But nothing can take your place when I need you.
Sometimes just cuddling with you,
Having you near me is enough.
I guess I am growing and becoming independent,
But please be there.
This bond we have is so strong and so important to me,
Please don't break it abruptly.
Wean me gently,

Because I am your mother,
And my heart is tender.

Oh, Mary, your last post had me in tears. So lovely, and true x

Awww yes Mary

Feeling happy that my ds still loves a cuddle before bed. He still knows I love him even though he now knows he only has has access to mummy in the morning

I brought 3 casual tops in the sale online today. Safe tops...nothing overly exciting but they will be new and add a bit of colour . Now I just need smart Jeggins

Glad to hear it, Pear! You could always jazz up the outfit and 'safe' tops with a nice new jacket or blazer too - that's what I love about bags and jackets/blazers (as long as you leave them undone) that, even during pregnancy, they still fit you can see I've already worked on this "it's an investment" argument with dh haha x

I had a Christmas baby first time -it was actually bloody lovely, wards were quiet and then as we started getting out of the house the spring was coming. In an ideal world I'd have 2 dc bth with winter birthdays so no-one feels left out but then in an ideal world I'd get a full night's sleep and be knocked up by now!

pugle

I have to say that there is very little that would stop me TTC. I just would want to waste a month or an egg on the off chance that it might conflict with a holiday or season or school year or whatever. Only so many eggs. Only a 33%,chance each month (and that is if all is hunky dorey in the downstairs department to start of with, and not counting that bf can make you anovulatory regularly anyway), and you don't know if you might miscarry etc either. And of course baby could come four weeks earlier or two weeks later. You just do not know. Every month counts IMO. DC is getting older by the day and the age gap is growing and I'm no spring chicken either. I'd forget this Xmas panic and just go for it regardless!

Tell me about isoflavone supplements if anyone knows. Worth it? Is it bad if you're bring? I'm waiting for ff to tell me if that lh surge resulted in ovulation and then to see if all the shagging these last four days took. But musing on what to do next if not!

^^ just would want to waste a month
Just WOULDN'T want to waste a month

^^ is it bad if you're bring?
Is it bad if you're BFing?
Gosh I really should disable the autocorext

Aaaa-aaaaah autocorrect autocorrect.

slumps down in little pile to cry

Lol Aurora! I love my iPad and wouldn't be without it, but I'm totally with you on hating the autocorrect function when trying to post on here - takes twice as long and I end up making even less sense!

Thanks for sharing, Puggle, I hadn't considered the pros of giving birth at Christmas. The way I'm feeling now, a baby at any time would be amazing, and I'm not going to be as choosy as I was at the start of this journey. Totally feel like time is getting on and I cannot waste a month or two. And my sister quite rightly reminded me, like Aurora said, even if I try to plan on 'avoiding' Christmas, my baby could come weeks early anyway. And dd is still so young that, if I am kept in over Christmas Day itself, we could celebrate on 27th, 28th etc, and she won't even know . I am a great believer in what's meant to be will be, so we at least need to keep doing our best x

Ava - yes! A new fitted jacket is what I need and I am definitely investing in 2 new pairs of mummy shoes in March. I am no longer going to suffer in uncomfortable converse shoes or flats that are hanging together by a thread

Pugs - That's interesting to hear that wards are quieter at Christmas...makes sense!

I keep forgetting to pick up a new basal thermometer ..doh

Ava - how young is DD?

Hi ladies, can I join please? My dd1 is nearly 10 months now & this is cycle 1 of ttc #2 x