TTC and still breastfeeding? You're not alone! Thread# 2

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Marking my place...hoping I won't be here for long

Oh no Pear . , and a hug for you!

Thanks x

Cuphat ~ lucky you. I'll have to wean my DS down from 2 feeds to 1 this week so I can get my BFP.

Sorry to read your update, pear. I hope it doesn't take too long for you.

Hi all, I'm holed up in bed with a rotten cold feeling sorry for myself, as I should be ovulating tomorrow (typical!), with just my iPad for company (apart from when dd is brought up to me by dh for boob) I had flu last month during ov too ... Sniff ...

Mary, my cycles are the same length as yours since they came back in august last year, which is when I last posted (I have been following the thread/s avidly, though) I can't believe I last posted 2 threads ago (!) and I too am still chasing that elusive bfp without having to wean (or even cut down on feeds, as they are a lifesaver with my 22 month old dd having colds and cutting her last 4 teeth simultaneously at the moment...) x

Sorry to hear your news, Pear xxx

Thanks for your story, cuphat x I am slowly catching up on all the posts in my groggy, fuzzy-headed cold state - it would make it so much easier for me if dd self weaned, then I wouldn't feel like I was depriving her if we were to cut down on feeds...x

cooeee! place-marking. No AF back at 14months so may be here sometime....

So, it's been 3 hrs since I got the 2 light pink spots when wiping. Clutching at straws here but just really praying that it was implantation! Cramping is still present but it has died down. I was all ready to crack open the wine but I might save it for tomorrow night...just incase. I don't remember it normally taking AF this long to start but saying that it probably does and I just don't notice or time it

Bugger. A tiny bit more spotting. Think I'll crack open the wine now

Cuphat, thank you for coming back on to share your story - it's just the sort of inspiration I need right now

Frazzled I'm in two minds about temping. I know it's a good idea - knowledge is power and all that - I just worry that I may get too obsessed with it all.

I know what you mean about feeling guilty weaning, but we really shouldn't. 2 years is a great breastfeeding 'innings'!

I'm still feeding 1st and last thing, plus a pre-nap feed 4/5 days out of 7 (when I'm not at work). This is the one that I want to drop but, since we're hanging on to her nap by a thread atm, I really don't want to upset her routine. She doesn't feed to sleep but it does calm her and I can imagine the tantrums that would ensue if I refused her!
It may be easier to drop her bedtime feed as dh is around 50% of the time so he could do bedtime while I hide downstairs and drink wine. I also wonder whether dropping the bedtime feed (rather than the nap one) would help to reduce my supply faster as the feeds won't be spaced apart so evenly - if that makes sense? Sorry to waffle on, my heads full of ideas atm.

Hi there ava, nice to 'meet' you.

Pear, hang on in there, you never know. but pleeeasse don't leave us

Fx it's implantation bleeding, Pear x

Enjoying my glass of wine that is going straight to my head

Pear I am keeping everything crossed. I know exactly how you feel. You don't want to get your hopes up but a little voice is saying "maybe...?". Hopefully you'll be exercising sods law like I was by having a glass of wine! If it IS implantation bleeding then don't forget you are unlikely to get a BFP until 2 days later - so Tuesday.

Mary - as I had had so long with no AF I was really frustrated and just wanted to know if things were still functioning in there. Temping worked really well for me in the end. I was already beyond obsessed with it all! Think DH is starting to worry about my sanity... he only knows the half of it...

We dropped the bedtime feed first precisely because DH is able to get her down in the evening without it whereas first thing in the morning she is half asleep and if she isn't presented with mummy and milk is much more likely to be upset - and I can't deal with that at 4:30am. That said, she has now got used to so much less milk and in fact is actually going to sleep much more easily in the evening.

Oh Pear the not knowing must be killing you, enjoy the wine at least! I had implantation bleeding with dd1 and ds2 and it was quite a lot really, makes it even harder to tell :(

Cuphat thanks for the positive story....

Puggle, 15mo no AF here too so I'll keep you company!

Thanks ladies. Two glasses of wine later and the world feels like a better place Poor DH is absolutely gutted. I'm quite surprised as I really didn't think he would be this bothered but apparently he was also very certain it was going in the right direction. He now wants answers to why it didn't happen for us and thinks just because we Dtd 9x means that we should have got success. Hmmmm I really was not in the mood to answer that one so I just nodded in agreement whilst clutching glass

How're you doing this morning pear?

Cd1 frazzled Thanks for asking! Now have to decide whether to stop bf or not When can I start temping?

Oh no!

Maybe try just one feed a day first before you stop?

You can start temping tomorrow. ??

Hi all congrats on the bfp frazzled

Mary when I got my bfp in 2013 I was bf 4-5 times a day, pretty much wake up and before naps/bed. Hadn't fed overnight for a few months at the time. But if you do need to wean don't feel guilty at all! I had it in my head that I was going to wean at 15m if I wasn't pg (which I was, but she self weaned at 15m anyway), which kinda made me feel better (having a plan always helps me ) and this time round will probably be thinking the same way.

pear still FX for implantation bleeding for you, I had quite a lot of it with both DD1 and DD2, gave up and sulked both times, then never really felt like 'post AF' so did a test!

Have finally had 1st AF (wooo hoo) so now getting into shag week, hoping I'll ov at the weekend! I'm quite excited about being able to oficially ttc again although I know the novelty will wear off in a couple of months (or with a few pregnancy announcements).

I feel much better today - just a regular cold now, and not the aches, pains and dizziness I had yesterday with it.

Think this is not gonna be our month again though - I'm apparently ov'ing today but we haven't dtd since Saturday (before this wretched cold/flu took hold, haha)

Pear, I am surprised with my dh too - these last few months he seems as gutted as I am when month after month it's just not happening (been trying since dd was 6 months old, way before af returned) I thought he was just happy to dtd ( a lot ) at the 'right' times during the month and if we get a bfp it'd be a bonus, but he's been really disappointed when af turns up, especially last month, and has started to ask why... Really hope for both of you it is implantation spotting, but if it is the dreaded af that you'll get your bfp soon!x

Hello girls. Sorry for radio silence. Have had a sickly DC. Not quite all well yet but much better. Have foregone all attempts at curtailing bfing these last few days. We're basically permanently attached to each other.
Sorry I missed the end of the last thread!!!! Any news from anyone?
I'm posting my chart for an update. Still think I probably didn't ovulate as have had not a single positive opk but maybe someone can make sense of it for me? DTD on cycle days 8, 11 and 12.

Mis-attached. Trying again.

Hello aurora have you POAS? That could be an implantation dip around CD 8... Looks rather similar to my chart. If you did ovulate, obviously!

Aurora - sorry I can't see your pic because I'm on my phone.

I'll have to get my head around charting. I can't remember what to do and when since I tried it back in 2012!

Frazzles - I've got 6 CBFM sticks left. Do you think that will be enough to make next month without buying more? I'm tempted to buy smiley sticks this month as they were cheaper and then when I get a smiley to start using my real CbFM sticks or get OPKs but I don't find the OPks that helpful! I just don't want to spend £30 on sticks again

Ava - get DtD tonight