The February bus rumbles on - only stops are Valentine's Day, Pancake Day and BFP-land. Ding Ding!

[MrsGingerbread]

Hello ladies,

Last bus looks full up. Unless there is a new one that I can't find...

Coffee ditto to all Purdey said! You come and say exactly what you want anytime.. No one judges everyone needs to get it out from time to time!! Sorry you are feeling so low sending

Purdie your not a patronising twunt, you are totally right about the lack of sex at the right time, next month I'm going to demand more sex from the first day of high right through to a few days after ovulation and hope that might make a difference

Thanks for the new thread MrsG
CD17 here. Had some twinges in my right side yesterday but apart from that nothing else to report. No more green snotty discharge!
Not been temping or opk's this cycle.
AF/bfp due 17 feb

Whoops have been sat refreshing old thread wondering why no one was posting!

Ack sorry for your Bfn wishing but don't give up yet.

No I really needed that Purdey and I imagine I'll wake up feeling a lot more rational in the morning! Bloody 2ww sending me nuts.

It's true about weight not being as big of an issue as we would be led to believe. Like your pregnant granny today!

I didn't have any trouble healing but it was just the nature of the birth in general. I pushed for nearly two hours. Then I was vacuumed out with a ventouse whilst pushing for my life with blood splattering everywhere. Then they cut me open and used forceps to pull DS back up into my uterus. It took them over and hour to stitch me back up. I'm honestly surprised I survived it I just feel that damage is inevitable. But I'm going to try and chill for a bit longer.

(anyone yet to give birth please ignore the above paragraph)

thanks everyone, such a lovely bus this

Two week weight is a nightmare I went through every emotion going after my IUI.

Hang in there :)

Coffee that sounds horrendous it's no wonder you have worried about damage but like Purdey said maybe a scan would reassure you. Sending amazing strength you have after going through all that and ready for the next.. You will get your BFP!!!

coffee, I honestly think the biggest threat to a woman's fertility is wonky hormones, endometriosis and undiagnosed STDs - not the brutal pushing and wrenching and splitting-in-two that goes on during labour. I don't want to negate your horrible and distressing experience ( my baby was dragged out with forceps after 1.5 hrs of pushing and a 17-hr labour), and I would hope you had a debrief after that horror to help you psychologically to heal?

Evening all! Soo hormonal here! No sign of AF yet but she's clearly on her way. It's been a chocolate day

Thank you Sparkly tbh it's the reason we only started trying last summer. I needed some distance from it! But we're both alive and that's what matters at the end of the day!

Purdey sorry to hear you had a rough time too. I had a 'birth afterthoughts' session and the tit of a midwife basically said it wouldn't have happened if I hadn't had an epidural. Fuck that. My son was well and truly stuck. He was nearly 9lbs and I'm 5'2. He's a little beefcake with broad shoulders even now. I had counselling a while afterwards when it all hit home just to stop blaming myself and I'm in a much better place now. I guess that's the added frustration, it took a long time to get the right emotional state to ttc and for it to not happen (yet).

I honestly feel that men, as lovely as they can be, have no idea what we really go through as women in our quest for a family. Lucky them.

coffee men have no fucking clue!
I had quite a traumatic experience with my second child's birth (long story, sad ending) & I remember asking if he was worried about the very real threat of losing me.. Nope, turns out he was oblivious, or blinded by denial..or being kinder, he was probably in shock

Sorry to hear you had a tough time with the birth . I'm sure that had there have been any obvious damage it would have been discussed and that all has healed well - as purdey has said, the body is bloody amazing & incredibly resilient..
I've had two difficult births, first breach, second EMCS.. Thankfully I'm healing well & looking forward to a brighter future.. Join me!!
It took me ten months to conceive second child so I understand your frustration..wish we all could just fall pregnant at the drop of a hat.. I'm beginning to wonder if contraception is at all necessary!!

Stick at it, have lots of sex and you will get your bfp
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Congrats to those with bfps!! Wooo...

Can I join..? :) congrats to all those with BFP's! And fingers crossed to all those currently in the 2ww..!!

I'm currently 9/10dpo.. Had unprotected, drunken sex on the day of ovulation. In the past 4 days I've been cramping on and off. Some spotting.. But nothing for 24 hours now. In the last 48 hours, my boobs have become SO itchy and sensitive to the cold. If I touch my right nipple, it is sore for ages afterwards.
BFN 2 days ago.. Although this was way too early to test! AF due Sunday/Monday... Going to try and see what the next few days bring for me and test after the weekend (she says.. I may cave by then!)
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MrsG good luck for who you do test :) Sunday will be here before you know it

Coffee I could have written your post. I have a little girl (2.2) and we started TTC again in May. Meandered about with it for a couple of months and then got more serious. Not the merest hint of a BFP even though my daughter was conceived in cycle 2. BUT - I have five years on you. I'm turning 37 this year (ARGGGH FOREVER). It may be taking longer than you'd like but you do have plenty plenty of time for your son to get a sibling.

In the meantime - focus on your son. Have plenty of sex when he's asleep, but when he's awake, focus on him. My little girl is an absolute delight and while occasionally it makes me sad to spend time with her (she's so gorgeous and lovely! She lights up my life! I want to do it all over again! what if she's an only child!) I try hard to focus on her for herself, not her for what she represents (the baby all grown up, the potential older sibling). It's difficult.

Purdey, sorry if I've missed it, but what's your longer term plan with TTC? If no luck falling naturally are you planning on trying IVF again?

My mum just rang and ended up trying to problem solve the issue of how I'll manage the toddler once I have a newborn! I told her there was no point talking about it because there's a long way to go before that's an issue! Gah!

Seating chart update! As always, let me know of any changes. Wishing I know you said BFN but no period so I'm leaving you as "late" and keeping FX! :)

Sorry night, I've removed you now but won't post the update for a couple more days. Hoping for more people to update!!

Hallo folks. And feck it.
So, The rooftop gin terrace on the feb bus is officially closed. I'll be opening a new one on the march bus if anyone cares to join the debauchery. I hope you all get bfps so I don't have to see your beautiful mugs again, but if not, bring fanny blankets, earmuffs, and cocktail umbrellas!

Purdey you were right....! I ended up entering all my data into FF, and they seem to think I did ovulate! Temp drop this morning.... Not sure if that's a bad sign though.

Still definitely a weird cycle... For all the last ones got a positive OPK on CD16 so assumed that CD17 was my ov day?

Day 16 in the big giddymamma cycle .... Still no peak. Giddymamma has just thrown cbfm across bathroom......

Garg.

Sorry austral.

Morning all... austral I'll be joining you on that March bus roof terrace. Darn AF he this morning in all her glory.

thanks to all for making this a lovely bus for my first month ttc! Fx for BFPs all round...

Thanks BabyBump :)

What, is this bloody AF morning or something? (pun purely accidental) commiserations to sweets and austral. (Feel certain to be joining you next week)

Morning girls :-)

Sorry to the af victims this morning!

I never thought of ladies have post birth counseling, I was led to believe that you 'just forgot' the trauma because of hormones or something and that's why you go on to make more babies...?! I'm very naive though

To those ladies ttc since last June/july thinking of going to the GP for tests... Don't be surprised if they tell you to bugger off until 12 months have passed. I went after 9 months and said I was worried about spotting and not falling preg and got sent away with a flea in my ear. In the end I didn't pluck up the courage again until cycle 15 :-( Oh, and if you're gonna fib about the length of time, make sure there is nothing in your notes about coming off birth control. I couldn't lie as they knew the date I had my implanon out!

Phewww there is a lot to catch up on from yesterday and already another new post!
night enjoy your spa break and wine this weekend
Congratulations hide I am thrilled at your BFP ?
Boris I love cycling (just found out I didnt get onto Ride London...boooo) just worried about too much crushing of BF's precious bits
Spinning got my fx for you after your temp rise
Sorry your af also arrived Wishing
Sparkly your post ov temps look really positive. Fx for you
Purdey I am one of those other 'vintage' ladies (40)....(makes me sound like a Morris Minor!!)