ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

[northdownmummy]

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

I was thinking of you yesterday allthefours. It's so hard and you are right, others just do forget. Despite af arriving yesterday I also feel more positive today and hoping for that rainbow.

epskie I agree with others re gp. I still got positive tests for about two weeks after bleeding stopped but better to be sure. In they end they took bloods each alternative day to monitor the levels dropping. Take care.

Thank you so so much ladies.
After the mc I couldn't have coped without all of you.
Guy, I'm feeling very nervous and very crampy but so hopeful! :)
I think we conceived on the 30th but I'm taking it as my angel baby looking down on me.

Oh llama ill join the September a/n thread in a few days then :)

Allthefours, i hope you're ok. For me the due date was hard but I did manage to move on a little knowing it was gone. I felt I'd been on pause til then.
You will get your rainbow baby xxx

Oh and teenie we waited for a cycle after before trying again. To be honest I don't feel like my body recovered until recently. Not properly anyway.

Just popping in - using my phone with a badly cracked screen and my laptop chargers isn't playing ball.

On CD 10 so going to start using the One Step Ovulation Tests tomorrow morning.

DH sent me an incredibly emotional email today that I have been crying about on and off all day. Mostly because he is so desperate for a baby and I have been hesitant, and then even more hesitant after the MC, debating going on the Pill for a while etc, I just want to give him what he wants, the same way he gives me everything I want/need. I said yesterday that I felt a huge failure for losing the baby and I can't even describe how beautifully worded his email is, and the emotion its caused in me today.

Its just so bloody hard. I am terrified.

Hi guys, I went to the gp today and she took swabs but because my temperature is raised she said she will treat me as if I have an infection and she's given me two lots of strong antibiotics that she said are likely to make me feel poorly :-/ can I just ask how long it was until you all returned to work after your mc? I've been in one day since but then I did have this week off due to taking the misoprostol x

Oh I found you! I thought the thread had gone quiet and then realised hello again everyone.

Epskie I work p/t and went back 10 days after mc. I also popped in after 5 days to keep up and it was too soon, I felt awful. I had strong abs in hospital (IV) and was pretty out of it but felt better quite soon after I finished them.

TMI warning:

Just been to the loo and there was loads of something that had the consistency of ewcm but was brown. It's 7 weeks since my mc and I have been on knicker watch recently as I thought I might have ovd before Xmas (we haven't dtd since the mc - no wtf baby for me) so I guess it's probably the start of AF but I have never had anything like that before. It gave me a shock actually. Sorry to ask but has anyone else had that?

My brain started whirring and I thought maybe I am actually ovulating now and should see if DH is in the mood. So I guess that tells me I do want to start ttc again.

stocking glad you're OH has been so honest with you. I understand your fears for ttc again though.
epskie I only had a week off - I just wanted to get back to some normality and stop dwelling on the mc.
msJ I had red blood and ewcm during wtf and had similar to what you describe yesterday and I'm cd5 from 2nd AF post mc. Even though my cycles seem to be on track my body feels very different - no ov pain like b4 and horrible periods.

I hope you don't mind ladies but I'm really nervous and not sure if there's a thread for pregnant after mc now.
Im only 1 day after bfp and having sharp left hand pains. It does come and go but it always achey.
I'm worrying about ectopic, DH says it's too early for anything ectopic to cause pain.
I'll only be 4 weeks tomorrow.
Problem is last pregnancy I went to the emergency doctors with pain and they just sent me home. Obviously that wasnt ectopic but I reckon they'd just do the same.

I think ectopic does present more at around 6 weeks.
At the start of my pregnancy which ended in mc at 11 weeks, I didn't have any pain like that. Ironically I did have sharp pain at the side about 6 weeks with my previous pregnancy. Was bass enough for me to go to a and e. All was fine and that pregnancy went flawlessly. The pain was just stretching.
Try your best to relax and rationalise. Statistically it is far more likely that this pregnancy will be just fine. There actually isn't anything you can do either way so to some extent, you have to accept that you have no control or responsibility for the outcome, that it will probably be fine and that you just have to let your body do its thing now.
Obviously if the side pain was really bad, if there is any bleeding or shoulder pain, go straight to a and e.

Hi Treacle, I had alot of twinges and pains in my left side which worried me a bit but after all that it turns out I ovulated from my right. I did a bit of reading about it and it did say from 5 weeks but if you are worried you should get checked out. You know your body best. Any pains in your shoulder then defo get checked.
Having said that there are some lovely ladies on here who have been through it and should be able to give much better advice.

Treacle - I'm fairly sure Sebsmum mentioned a pregnancy after mc thread on here a few weeks ago, so it might be worth sending her a PM so that you can locate it, as there may be people on there who've experienced something similar.

If you're concerned about the pain you're experiencing, then I would definitely give NHS direct a call/ call a doctor for advice. An EPU is probably best placed to advise, although I'm conscious that it varies from hospital to hospital as to whether you can self refer or not and indeed, whether they're open on a weekend. In terms of what treatment they can offer you, based on my experience of what my local EPU does, I assume an EPU would take bloods to check whether your hcg levels are doubling, and although they can scan you from around 4 weeks, I don't think a scan is likely to be definitive until around 5 weeks.

If it gives you any comfort, I didn't have any one sided pain with my ruptured ectopic, although I'm conscious everyone is different. My only real symptoms up until 5 weeks were spotting (ond and off) and the fact that my hcg levels didn't seem to be going up as they should.

That having been said, It sounds to me as though it's definitely worth you discussing your pains with someone who can give medical advice this weekend.

Thank you ladies for all your advice.
The pain is really bad when it comes on and is in bouts.
No spotting or anything but I'm still concerned. Like you say though a scan can't really do anything yet so I feel like there's no point going to the doctor yet even if it is ectopic.

Treacle - as Guy said ectopics really are rare (occurring in around 1 in a 100 pregnancies) so the odds are definitely stacked in your favour. The average gestation on which they're diagnosed is also 7 weeks.

I hope I didn't alarm you by telling you to get medical advice, it's just that as a chronic worrier, I know that it makes me feel better to feel like I'm doing something (in this case seeking reassurance from someone medically trained) as opposed to sitting around letting my imagination run riot and fearing the worst.

Thanks cariad, no don't worry. I'm a worrier too but I just feel like if I go to the doctors they won't know anything either yet.
I really don't know what to do for the best.

treacle Congrats on your BFP! Try not to worry too much, a lot is going on in your uterus at the moment, preparing and setting up, getting aches and pains is quite normal at this stage. Easier said than done, I know. Try to take it easy this weekend, distract yourself - maybe watching films or a nice long walk to clear the cobwebs?

treacle, I had sharp pains on my right not long after my bfp. They were like jabbing and shooting up my side. They didn't last long but did cause me to jump and "ooo" a few times. I think it's quite common as things are stretching and preparing. Come join us on the positivity thread!! Xx

Sorry to hear you're worried Treacle. Any advice would be along the don't worry line and that's easier said than done! Fingers crossed for you.
AF was due yesterday. No sign yet. I'm not really good with seeing negative tests though so going to leave the POAS for a few days. I've occasionally been two days late since the MMC, so just keeping my fingers crossed at the moment - although it would be quite bad timing if I am and would mean I ovulate later than I thought!

I had sharp stitch like pains a week ago that scared the shit out of me. I would have been around 5 weeks. I too thought ectopic but agree those sort of pains tend to be around 6 weeks as the feotus is of a size that is starting to put pressure on the Fallopian tube and is usually accompanied by some spotting/dark discharge.

Sounds promising DrDonna. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Thank you ladies xxx
the pain is still here but I've got lots of work to do which is taking my mind off it. There's a constant pressure but the sharp pains aren't constant.
I will come and join you broody :)

epskie I had a week off after mc 1 and 3 weeks off after mc 2 with then a further 2 weeks working half days as recommended by my doctor. There's no right or wrong amount of time to have off, but you mustn't feel like you have to return quickly. Take as long as you need. Some like to get straight back to it. Others need more time. Speak to your gp if you aren't sure. Work aren't allowed to be arsey about any sick leave associated with pregnancy or mc.

And congratulations treacle supertastic news!

Almost 4 weeks since I started bleeding with actual mc being 3 weeks ago yesterday and I've no idea what my body is doing... The spotting finally stopped last weekend and I actually had some normal cm, I had a few days with no blood, brown cm or spotting and I thought it was finally coming to an end. Then on Wednesday I started getting AF type cramps for a few days and it started again. I am spotting and wiping brown, it's not heavy but I still need a pad and can feel it coming out. Is this familiar to anyone? Is this likely to continue right up until I have AF?

Treacle, am sorry you are anxious but I'm pretty sure every single one of us would be the same. I would agree though that it is likely to be your body starting to adjust and preparing itself for pregnancy again. MC makes you hyper sensitive to any twinge, cramp or pain. It's not fair is it!

Epskie, how are you getting on today? Am glad you have seen the GP and they have taken you seriously and given you antibiotics as a precaution. I hope you get back to normal soon, it's gone on for long enough now. Being in a similar-ish situation, I'm desperate to feel like myself and again. Hugs.x