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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #3

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northdownmummy · 05/01/2015 19:27

looking forward to new beginnings in the new year

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chasingtherainbow · 11/02/2015 09:39

Oh tiny. I'm sorry that you find yourself here. Flowers

Maybe we should all give up facebook for lent. In my head I'm now referring it to baby bomb. Com!

Several people locally (small village) are due in may.

Gahhh.

CirrusClouds · 11/02/2015 10:26

Sorry tiny Flowers. But welcome! Brew

I am so glad I'm not on facebook, I don't think I could handle having to deal with the baby/kid pictures every day! But then I'm pretty extreme that way, I even left a Whatsapp group with friends because of the constant baby/toddler talk- not that they were intentionally rubbing it in, but that is how it felt on my end.

TeenieDeenie · 11/02/2015 12:25

Hi Tiny Sorry to hear about your m/c but welcome Flowers

CD18... Cramps have subsided today but am still very aware of that area and getting twinges now and again. 10 days until I plan to poas... If I've ov'd around CD10/11, that would mean implantation could potentially be happening right now... Someone tell me I'm not going mad?

CirrusClouds · 11/02/2015 12:39

teenie do you know if (and when) you ovulated?

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northdownmummy · 11/02/2015 12:47

welcome tiny sad that you find yourself here but I hope you find the same support and comfort I have. THis is the one place people truly understand how I'm feeling

I'm getting bloods taken tomorrow morning to check hormone levels. Terrified about that they might find

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CirrusClouds · 11/02/2015 13:06

north information is power so try not to be afraid. If they find nothing is wrong, it;s good news. If they find something is out of whack, they will do whatever they can to treat that.

TeenieDeenie · 11/02/2015 13:31

Cirrus I think I may have ovulated early although u can't be 100% sure. This is cycle 1 after my mmc. My wtf cycle was 35 days and normal cycle is 27 days and I am regular.

CirrusClouds · 11/02/2015 13:56

teenie I don't want to seem negative but just to warn you that I had cramps in the middle of my last cycle (which was also the wtf cycle like you, and I am pretty sure it was an anovulatory cycle). I never had cramps at that stage before and I haven't had them yet this month although I know I haven't ovulated yet (by OPKs and temping). But the fact that you remember having them at the same stage before your bfp is promising. Will still keep fingers and toes crossed for you!

TeenieDeenie · 11/02/2015 14:30

Apologies Cirrus, maybe I worded that wrongly. I have had a period since my mmc. My wtf cycle was 35 days long and usual cycle is regular 27 days. I've only ever had these cramps in the month I got my bfp, last October. It seems a long shot as just started ttc again or maybe my body is playing tricks on me but it feels exactly the same. If it's not I will go see my GP as there's definitely something happening in there!

CirrusClouds · 11/02/2015 16:42

teenie yes I know you aren't in the wtf cycle, but just so you know I had random cramps mid-cycle last cycle and although I was very hopeful that it was a symptom of pregnancy it didn't turn out to be! But hopefully it is in your case!

ladydoc · 11/02/2015 16:59

Hi all,

Hoping that I can join in. I had a mc on 22nd Jan - was supposed to be about 10 weeks, but baby had died at about 6.5 weeks - just after we had an early scan which showed a heartbeat :( We are keen to start TTC again ASAP, but I'm scared about it happening again. I know that the odds are in my favour, but then supposedly they were last time too. Like others have mentioned, all my friends seem to be having babies, and I'm fed up of pics on Facebook too! Anyway, thanks in advance for sharing advice, stories, and support x

chasingtherainbow · 11/02/2015 17:51

Hi lady. I am so sorry for your loss. Things must be feeling very raw. Please give yourself time x

mrsdiddlydoo · 11/02/2015 18:11

Welcome new ladies. Sorry you have found yourself here.

Big wave to everyone.

Sucky day. Just want to find a big dark hole to climb into and never come out. Had enough of everything. Feeling desperate for a bfp. Sad huh.

ladydoc · 11/02/2015 18:29

Hi mrs-d,
I know how you feel. I am still feeling quite up and down, but deciding to take things a day at a time. I hope you get some good news soon x

SlicedAndDiced · 11/02/2015 18:50

Hello all, sorry to say haven't been keeping up with thread but I see some congratulations are in order! And welcome and Flowers to the joiners Smile

Unfortunately I don't think I'll be ttc for a bit. First it was sickness that got in the way (d&v the bugger)

Then I got down when my cousin who drinks and takes some pretty nasty drugs through her pregnancies announced her third with scan photos. I know I shouldn't be bitter or judging, it's just difficult to stop those thoughts sometimes.

And the biggest bitch of all. I went to my gp this morning, figured I had an infection or something (bloody left nipple discharge) and he felt a hardening/thickening in my left breast and commented on an indentation in my armpit which admittedly has been growing much deeper but I thought it was a gland.

So embarking on a completely different two week wait now for a scan.

I know people have it worse, but is it wrong to think life really takes the piss sometimes? This was supposed to be our year...

Ok moping over, positive thoughts to all of you lovely ladies.

chasingtherainbow · 11/02/2015 18:57

Oh sliced I hope the hospital referrals move quickly for you! Sounds like a really shitty time.
Wine

SlicedAndDiced · 11/02/2015 18:59

Thank you chasing.

I don't know what I'm getting all morbid for. Haven't even had a scan.

I tell you what,I'm back on the wine for a night though Wine

Cheers Grin

CirrusClouds · 11/02/2015 19:27

oh sliced poor you, such a stressful and worrying situation. I will be thinking of you. You definitely deserve a glass (or five) Wine

SlicedAndDiced · 11/02/2015 19:32

Cheers Cirrus, just waiting for dh to finish work and we are heading to the pub Grin

Hopefully in two weeks time I'll be ttc again!

Oh well after Af anyway Grin

TeenieDeenie · 11/02/2015 19:41

Sliced you poor love. I echo what chasing said and I hope you get your referrals and scan through quickly. Enjoy your drinks tonight my lovely!

Cirrus ah I see, yeah trying not to get hopes up too much but just have that niggling feeling with every cramp and pinch! Could also be body still getting back to normal though... You never know after a m/c what's going on!

SlicedAndDiced · 11/02/2015 19:45

Thank you Teenie Smile

Those little niggles and cramps can drive you mad can't they!

TeenieDeenie · 11/02/2015 19:46

Hi lady. Sorry you find yourself here. Can totally relate to wanting to ttc asap but terrified of things going wrong again. I waited for AF after my mc and am now in my first month actively ttc again. It's scary but we can only cling to the hope that we have just as much risk of mc again as anyone else.

TeenieDeenie · 11/02/2015 19:52

They certainly do Sliced! I bought some FRERs tonight just in case. Won't be testing until I'm late though. That IF I'm late lol Smile

MrsConfusion · 11/02/2015 20:12

Welcome tiny and lady, so sorry you're in the situation to be here but glad you've found this amazing group. Lots of support here.

sliced Flowers and Wine for you, hope referrals are quick and reassuring. Life's just not fair.

My friend who was due at same time as I would have been had I not lost baby last summer had her baby today. It just really really hurts. We should be meeting our baby now too. I thought I was getting 'over' it all quite well but tonight feel back at square one, all raw pain and tears.

Also started spitting today - only CD23 so crazily early really. It's (TMI alert!!) all old stuff so brown not red, but I've also been a but crampy so sure it's AF. Sad there goes last chance of being pregnant by due date.

MrsConfusion · 11/02/2015 20:16

Spotting, not spitting! That would just be rude! Must learn how to type on phone and to spot auto-corrects... Blush