TTC for 10 months, and all the rest. 10 plussers welcome.

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critter I am so sorry to hear about the bleeding, fingers crossed all is ok for you, big hugs x

Thanks everyone. MrC is here. Just feel so tired and sad. Think I may try to cancel my long haul flight work trip on Monday.

Cos I don't know about a fresh round, suspect the insurance will only cover it if we use up the frosties first.
My mum wants me to get a second opinion on why this has happened again when my fresh cycle was so straightforward, but my doctor is good at his job and I don't think it is his fault. I also feel bonded to him as he has been my RE for the past 2 1/2 years. I think I will ask about doing progesterone injections for the next frozen round though.

Critter- your hcg levels aren't that low considering they were 850 or something on Monday. Or am I wrong? What progesterone have you been on? 2 x 400mg candles? I really hope this is just a horrible scare . It would seem extraordinary bad luck for it to happen again and so now just praying you needed a bit of extra progesterone and that will help. I'm glad mrC is with you. Sending massive love and hugs.

joy I didn't think they were that low but the nurse said they were and she didn't seem particularly hopeful. The bleeding seems to have tailed off a little bit so maybe the progesterone shot has helped somewhat in staving it off for now. I reckon it's 80-20, maybe 85-15% chance this one doesn't make it. Anyway. The only way out is through.

Oh critter I'm so terribly sorry. This isn't just so unfair. I really hope this all works out but I understand and remeber all too vividly that awful feeling of being in the midst of the bleeding and cramping and unknowing. I'm glad Mr C is with you. Please try and cancel your trip and rest up. Huge hugs and a tight paw squeeze.

fox I'm really saddened to hear your news too. I was hoping for the ironidiff for you and hoping that all of the other shit could be filed in the big box of "burn on the ttc bonfire". Hugs and paw squeezes to you too.

Oh sad, sad day. I just wish I could make everything better for everyone. You ladies all deserve the biggest breaks and hugest strokes of luck.

Critter - according to betabase, your levels are average for dpo and according to American pregnancy site they should double every 72hrs which they have done. I am going to believe and hope critter because they have seen the sac which is a great sign and good the bleed has tailed off. But I know this is the most ghastly thing about all of this and that is nothing can be done but waiting and seeing. It's horribly stressful. i also think you should cancel your work trip. Thinking of you.

Oh critter I am breathing in tightly and hoping that this is just a scary scary scare. It happens, big bleeds and doomy nurses but I will keep believing this will be ok for you. Sitting close by and hand holding.

Bunny thanks for checking in on us and I'm hoping you are through the illness grotty feeling. I like seeing you here.

My period has sprung itself upon me like an evil beast, it's a really horrible one. I have painkillers, iron and hot water bottles and a bloody expensive immune panel booked for December and a new donor is being looked for. And now I must sleep. Big hugs to everyone and night, Walton's style.

Critter it is a stormy day in the north here and the rain and period pain woke me in the night and I couldn't sleep. I thought about you and the hellish year you've had and thought positive hopeful thoughts that this will all turn out well. Big big love.

Love to all ten plussers on a gloomy November day. Happy Friday. We will keep marching on, tail fluffs to everyone and I throw gin and cake into the tent.

Fox, sorry to hear about the horrible af, hope you're feeling better soon.

Hugs to Critter too, wishing you all the luck in the world. Xx

Critter and Fox, big hand holds and hair strokes. Critter I hope the bleeding disappears and it all works out but I know this is a scary time. Thinking of you. Fox, sorry for painful periods and rubbish weather. November is a crap time of year.

All ok here, just quietly waiting.

Oh Critter, I can't believe that you are having to endure yet more shit. I'm not surprised you're feeling tired and sad. This year must have been so exhausting. I really hope it is a false alarm but, if the universe was a fair place, you should be having a trouble free pregnancy right now. I will be thinking of you and hoping it all works out. I think cancelling your work trip is definitely a good idea.

Fox, I'm sorry you're having such an awful time too. The immune panel sounds like a good idea. It's always worse when your period is horiffic too. Hope you have a restful weekend ahead.

Ray, I don't think what you have said is pathetic at all. It really resonated with me. My heart beats really quickly and I feel teary as soon as I step foot in a hospital.

Nelly thinking of you too and hope you're coping ok with the waiting. How are you feeling?

Critter, I hope you managed to get some sleep. Joy speaks wise words. The fact they saw a sac has to be a positive sign and the hcg is rising. But, I know you'll be preparing for the worst and I'm so sad for you :( I agree that if it's possible it would be a good idea to cancel the work trip. You need to be with mr c and Doug. I hope your work are being understanding.

Fox, I'm sorry too that the lines came to nothing. It is so very cruel.

Sorry, piecemeal posting. Had my appointment on Wednesday. Had a scan and went back to diagnosis of septate uterus. He doesn't think it is big enought to justify removal though so I'm trying to just forget about it for now and hope my MC was just one of those things. He did make a comment that he would reconsider if I had more MCs which makes me a bit but I have to just go with it at the moment.

critter I hope you have been able to cancel your work trip and have had lots of furry cuddles from D.

Foxy I would check the cost of the immunes with other places as it does seem expensive to me, sorry AF has come with a vengence

berry I hate that fecking attitude of we will reassess depending on if you have more miscarriages, it just shows a lack of insight and empathy to what its like to have one, why the hell should you have to have a more before they will help you

nelly you are very very calm

sam have you got your bbt

berry that is stressful. Have you thought about getting a private consultant to take a look at your uterus for a second opinion? I agree with buzzy, miscarriages are so shit that if there is anything you can do to avoid one, it's worth it.

nelly well done with the quietly waiting. I have everything crossed for you lovely one.

sam yay for temping!

fox sorry to hear about horrible period, and thank you for your kind words to me. I have been thinking of you too - I woke up a lot in the night as well and thought of the horrible luck we have all suffered. It will have a happy ending, eventually. In the interim it's all about distractions and compartmentalising.

All ok here. I am working from home this morning but going in later. I have also cancelled my work trip and told my boss. I have had more cramps and had more blood before bed so I don't think this limbo will have a happy ending, but thank you for hoping for me. Nothing to do now but wait it out and prepare myself.

Buzzy - yes I have, took my first temp this morning :). Fx it will show ovulation this month

Critter, hugs for you. I'm glad you don't have to go away now. Xx

Trying to post for a third time today to say how sorry I am about your news, critter. Crossing everything for a scare and nothing more. But I understand you're loosing faith! :(

Waves and hugs all round

I will do a better catch up later but just wanted to pop on with a hand hold for fox and critter. How much shit can the women of this thread have to put up with? I am very angry with the universe. Critter I have everything crossed that this is just a worrying scare for you. x

quick delurk to tell fox and critter how sorry I am. Hand holds. I really hope that this is just a scare for you critter.

Morning all, hope everyone is okay today? Especially thinking of you Critter.

Quick question; I realise it varies depending on where you live, but how long was it from your gp referring you to actually receiving a letter from the hospital/specialist? It's been 3 weeks since our gp did the referral and we have heard nothing. Should I be chasing or is this normal? X

Good morning. Sorry I haven't been on for a while, but had to come and say big hugs for Fox, im so sorry this has happened. It sounds like you're being brave but it truly is unfair! and to Critter, big big hug and I'm gripping on to the bit of hope that the sac sticks around and you get past this.
sam , it was about 4 weeks for a letter with 2 massive questionnaires. then when they received those another 3 weeks to advise the appointment with specialist in 6 weeks time. I'm sorry this is not what you want to hear, at least you are now getting on with it, I waited almost 3 years (silly me thought these things happened naturally! )

hope everyone else is ok, sorry it's just a quick message. I've been sniffing since Tuesday. Absolutely vile stuff, especially when it goes down the back of your throat, and yesterday I burst into tears in the car listening to radio 1 happy hardcore Friday! !! omg these emotions are going to take some getting used to!

Thanks Fluffy, I thought it was probably normal, but a niggling part of me kept saying 'what if the letter has got lost in the post?'
Tbh it would be difficult to get time off work for appointments before Christmas anyway so the wait is probably a good thing, plus we'll get a couple more natural tries (providing I don't have a repeat of last months cycle??).
My Facebook news feed would have me believe that these things happen naturally too, lol! X