TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Guy I totally understand that complacency. I too am young 20s, pregnant first month. . Textbook pregnancy and lovely birth. I just "expected" the same this time. It's taken us 16 months just to get this bfp, which obviously hasn't worked out. Our second babies will come to us. Just not yet x

I think if you are feeling okay you can go with your gut, go in and if you get poorly tell your employers you need to go asap. Speak to them and let them know you won't know when things might start so will need to be able to leave quickly. I'm. Glad they're understanding. Remember you might need time off to emotionally process things. Not just for physical reasons.

Did they offer you any medical management? 5 weeks seems like a long time to have not already mc if baby is showing 6 wks. I hope you are ok.. well. . As okay as one can be in these circumstances.

I kind of still feel like this isn't really happening to me. Like sometimes I'm overwhelmed with sadness and it feels very, cold and real then.. but daily it just feels like it's not. And i find myself going over the "evidence" and wondering if they've got it all wrong and I'm fine. Obviously this is irrational and there's no way it's not... but I don't know.

Guy So sorry to hear what you've been going through :( I would say if you can have the time off work, have it. I powered on through but it came back to bite me a few weeks later because I felt so ill and run down and I now wish i'd taken some time off at the time. Think the ill/run down feeling a few weeks later affected my fertility too when i'd been hoping to get a BFP but I ovulated really late which isn't like me at all. This month (after having a week of annual leave where I recovered and slept a lot) my ovulation was back to normal and I feel human again!

chasing Sending you massive hugs, I can sort of relate to how you're feeling. With my mc it was early (I bled at 5 + 3 just a little bit) and they scanned me at 6+1 and said my womb was completely empty but that the lining was really thick and I spent the whole of my WTF cycle certain that I was still pregnant and they'd made a mistake and it had just been too early to see the baby (all a complete load of rubbish as I had a negative urine HPT and negative bloods) but I still kept thinking it must somehow all be a mistake because i'd bled so little and had absolutely no pain :( it's such a hard time and i really hope you are having lots and lots of RL support as well as on here

How many posts can each thread have? If its 1000 then were nearly there! and i was so hoping to have my BFP before the next new thread :( oh well.. guess i'll get to hang out with you all a bit longer! I really don't think i'd want to leave this thread even if i get a BFP... you're all so lovely and supportive :)

Oh Guy Sorry just realised I misread your first post and started babbling on about medical management, sorry! With regards to time off work I really think it varies on the person. I had 2 weeks off in total. 1st week started with the shitty scan on the Monday when we found out, then had the management on the Thursday but didn't stop bleeding until the Friday in the next week/the Friday before the Monday I returned to work. I would have given myself another week off but they had needed me in to cover them booking the other girl on a course that Monday and thought I may as well just go back anyway, it was keeping me busy. All I can suggest is that you don't put too much pressure on being in work. They will understand if you need time off so take it if you want to.

My worry with you being at work if it happened is that I was 10 weeks when we found out and the baby had died at 6 weeks, and I don't think I was prepared enough for what I saw when everything passed. I would hate to think of you being at work when it started. Whatever you choose to do hun we are all here to support you and listen to anything you may wanna get off your chest.

Chasing Hope you're ok hun, when do you next get your levels tested?

Daisy I was thinking the exact same thing this morning, I was optimistically thinking when I do get my BFP next month lol I couldn't leave here. I'm still unsure if I would say anything straight away in worrying I would jinx the pregnancy. My MIL has told us she doesn't think we should tell anyone at all until the 12 week scan including all family, but I don't know. That's if I even fall pregnant! I don't feel very lucky atm!

You are all very kind. Thank you.

Sorry to all the newbies here - this is a horrible experience but you will get lots of support on this thread.

Metal glad you finally got an answer re Ashermans. It's so frustrating when you know something is wrong and no one takes it seriously. But it's very positive to have some information and know what you can do about it. I really hope your bfp is just around the corner x

Guy i was abit further along, our baby stopped growing at 9+1 but i wouldn't have wanted to be at work when it started. Saying that, it started with just bleeding before i basically experienced early labor before the baby came out. It was all over within 2 hours for me so if you left work as soon as you started bleeding you'd probably be okay. The hospital told me i could have waited another month before miscarrying naturally so i went with medical management and it happened that night. Went in for a dating scan and came home with a miscarry :(

I also am young, 24 with a 13 month old who we conceived by accident which feels like madness now! We fell the first month of trying for the baby we sadly lost so i'm hopefully we'll be pregnant again soon. I'm currently attempting ttc during my WTF cycle so we'll see what happens. I'm so sorry to see you here and especially at such a difficult time at the moment. Look after yourself, i rested a lot after my mc and luckily have recovered well. Thinking of you x

purple i know it's hard but every pregnancy really is different. Just because your sick doesn't mean you wont have a healthy pregnancy. I know how difficult that is though and i know i'll be a scared mess if/when i get another BFP. I'm thinking of you lots and hope your okay x

My body was giving me signs i ovulated yesterday although i don't know for sure as i've run out of ovulation sticks and haven't ordered more yet. I will next cycle if we don't catch. I know it'l hit me hard if i don't get pregnant in the wtf cycle even though i know chances are slim. I've been lisiting to all the 'your really fertile now' and 'we conceived 2 weeks after our miscarriage' stories and holding onto them desperately.

guy I would say don't go to work. Having been through 2 natural miscarriages the only real warning I had of the tissue passing was cramping/ contractions and then just sat on the toilet as it passed. I couldn't have made it home 'in time' and wouldn't have wanted to have been at work due to my uncontrollable emotions going through it.

I think the others give good advice. I cane over very flu like a few hrs before it started for me so I knew. And would have been able to get home, but I appreciate it's different for everyone xx

Hope you are ok envious. Maybe some Spatone?
I think I'll hand on as long as I can and then if still nothing after another week or do, I'll go for medical management.

Thank you Haribo, thinking of you too and really hoping it happens for you this month.

Hope you are ok Envious, it's such a horrible thing to go through.

Thanks jetpack! I'm actually quite relieved to have a bit of a break from ttc now until after the op, and hopefully it won't be too long until I get my BFP after that. Positive thinking!

Evening all. A couple more newbies I see. So sorry to see you here.

Well I'm back from my week long business trip overseas - came back with slightly more than dirty washing. Came back with a BFP. 3 weeks today so I tested positive on 11dpo with a FRER and again today with a cb digital.

And it's fair to say after 2 mc's already this year I just feel totally numb. And I feel sad that I feel numb. The innocent hopes and dreams of a positive test has just gone

All I'm thinking now is how soon can I see a doctor so I can get it confirmed so that God forbid I lose another one, I've got my 3 in row mcs that Birmingham Womens Hospital insisted I had before they'd give me any help.

I'm trying to be "if it sticks, it's sticks, if it doesn't it doesn't"

But I am terrified

Huge hugs brummie, totally understand the fear but just hold on, and remember we're gear and understand. Today you are pregnant

guy the question of whether to work or not is really hard. I couldn't have coped at work when actual dramatic loss happened (luckily I was being held at hospital as they feared ectopic so had support) and bleeding was too heavy for next 2 days (weekend luckily) but I have been in this week. Probably shouldn't have as now feel even poorlier but I was scared of I stopped, I'd just fall apart so work kept me distracted. I didn't get much warning, went tired and faint then gush.
Envious agree on feeling anaemic - in fact totally utterly wiped out. Can't work out what is cough/virus, what is mc and what is just tiredness. I'm going to try to get something to top up iron this weekend.
Hope you can all have nice snuggly TLC Friday nights. Hugs to all x

Ahhhhhhhhh brummie!!! Xxx

I'm super pleased with the amount if bfp's going on this thread. Evens out the shittyness!

brummie so lovely to hear some good news, we'll all be keeping fingers crossed for you

brummie! So excited for you love, when's your edd? I'm 28/07/15... this is my third pregnancy as well, first thing I did was hotfoot it to the GP to get it all registered just in case, but i have a good feeling about this one. I know it's scary, but try to be positive - there's absolutely no way to prepare yourself emotionally for a MC anyway so I am thinking "sod it, I'll try to enjoy it". Spent this evening so far watching Gavin & Stacey and looking at pictures of nurseries on pinterest!

Thanks all! Charlie you have made me smile!!! And actually yes you are quite right, absolutely nothing prepares you..

Gonna wait until 4 weeks - just to make sure it's not a chemical job then off to GP I go!!

DP is a bit quiet and not that excited at moment. He's quite apprehensive I think.

Need to try and enjoy

Oh and EDD is 7th August

We need a new thread and I don't know how to do it!!!!!!

Ohh I can start one!

Eurgh must stop doing that on this thread! ^ that's me up there. Duck nc I use for threads I don't want linked to my ttc!

Link to the new thread