TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Hello everyone, newby here. Had an early mc 2 1/2 weeks ago, recovering now but soooo tired & bit dizzy. Was anyone else this tired afterwards? I've been taking lots of iron. Various opk/Preg sticks ordered and on the way so am all set... But am in the WTF cycle so no idea when that will be!

Welcome Toasted. Sorry you are here my dear. Xxxx

Congratulations Lucy! ! X

How you doing purple giraffe?

Monten how you holding up my love?

Thanks Chasing I am doing ok but panicking a bit as my symptoms seem to be diminishing rather than ramping up. I was so sick with my last successful pregnancy that I was expecting the same again if this one is on track. I seem to be living in a permanent state of anxiety, but I know I am lucky to have got this far.
So glad to hear your levels are coming down, what a relief, when do you get tested again.
Congratulations on the bfp Lucy!

So sorry about af Monten, huge hugs and

Another set of bloods Sunday, then it'll be weekly until zero. Honestly though I'm getting so tired of being stabbed, it's sore every time and gets me quite anxious. I don't know how long I can carry on doing this! I know I have no choice but still.

Giraffe I can only imagine roughly when will you get scanned? X

Hopefully your levels will drop quickly now and there won't be too many more. You really have had a tough time hope this part of it is over soon.
I don't have a date yet but after Christmas would be my guess. I am thinking about getting an early scan privately so that if it's bad news I can deal with it over the holidays.

I think private scans are a good option. Apparently hcg needs to be 1500 to be seen on a scan. Could you request bloods before forking out as pregnancy could be perfectly well but not developed enough which would be wasted monies and worrying!

It must be so hard purple I know I will be the same but remember every pregnancy is different and you'll feel different too.

So glad to hear your good news chasing. What a bloody tough time you've had.

Sorry you're here toasted. I felt really washed out for ages after mine. It takes it out of you, try and look after yourself.

Hi metal yes that was me. I've been really panicking about it today actually. Last night my cramps were so bad they woke me up. But I have hardly bled at all today. Less than half a light flow tampax. I've cramped all day. I've never had a heavy flow but the ratio between cramps and blood is really worrying me now. What about you - did you ever get a definitive answer?

I've just been to see a specialist in London today monten and he confirmed that it looks like I have some adhesions in the lower part of my uterus! This would account for my lighter periods (not as much blood can get out) and the lack of BFP (not as much sperm can get in). So, I'm all set to have a hysteroscopy to hopefully cut away the adhesions, but I'm still waiting to see whether Bupa will cover it or whether I have to pay myself (£5k!).

If you're worried you might have it too I would urge you to try and see someone, I knew something wasn't right even though everyone thought I was just being paranoid!

Good news is that the consultant seemed very confident I should be able to conceive again after the op.

Fingers crossed the levels keep coming down * chasing*!

Hope you get some strong symptoms soon purple giraffe

monten sorry AF arrived.
toasted also sorry you're here but its great for support. My mc started about 2 weeks ago and after thinking bleeding had stopped I've had spotting all week. I am absolutely exhausted too - had a 3 hour sleep this morning after taking son to school and I've been taking spatone and actimel to try and get health back. After my 1st miscarriage a picked up everything going round!

In other news I have got ANOTHER Fu&*ing cyst and this time its on the rt side and more in the way of DTD. Its not particularly sore but just feel its reminding me of the failed pregnancy coz I'd never had them b4 and now the pregnancy s gone why can't they! ?!

waves to everyone old and new! Thread seems to have moved so fast... Only been away a couple of days! Welcome to the newbies and sorry you're here :(

Congrats to the BFP's and good luck to anyone testing :)

amyyy I'm really glad (in an odd way but hoping you know what I mean!) that you've got your BFN, at least it means now you know what's going on and can hopefully move on quickly from the WTF cycle and get your BFP! :)

chasing so glad to hear everythings finally sorting out! Got my fingers and toes crossed for Sunday for you

eggs sorry about your cysts :( is there nothing your GP can do? If it's getting in the way of DTD then maybe they'll do something? Even if it's just come thing to numb it so it doesn't hurt whilst it is there?

purple I know with friends who have 2 children they said their pregnancies were really really different. My friend was sick up until 30 weeks with her first then only sick once in her 2nd pregnancy and wasn't even sure it was due to the pregnancy! And they were both healthy babies so it can happen :) I know how anxious you must be feeling though, think I would definitely try for an early scan. How many weeks are you now?

I'm now officially in the tww... DTD a stupid amount (don't think DH wants sex again for a long long time!) over the last week so really hoping that I get my BFP!!! Will be very cross if I dont! But not going to think about that yet :) just going to enjoy the fact and I can simply go to bed and go to sleep tonight haha :)

daisy thanks hun I know what you mean! Just need at to hurry so I can get that over and done with at start trying.

Hi toasted welcome and so sorry for your loss :( I was totally exhausted ( and still am to be honest!) after my mc. The first couple of days were emotionally draining and then had my medical management where I was in hospital for a full day and that took it's toll! Felt dizzy up until a couple of days ago... Not sure why that is but maybe it's something to do with mc? Hope you're feeling better soon! Lots of hugs x

Question For everyone... I'm really normally a very friendly person who is happy for everyone and never really get jealous... However just seen a picture of a friend who is pregnant (haven't seen her with a bump until now) and I had some very jealous very nasty thoughts and I've gone from being in an ok mood to a foul one :( is that normal for us? I hate to think the mc has turned me into a bitter person cause that's so not me but I can't lie I had some nasty selfish thoughts :(

Sorry that should have said need af to hurry up

Thank you for your kind messages. I am 6 +3 so early days still. If I have an early scan I will wait until 9 weeks when the chances of survival increase. I will keep telling myself that all pregnancies are different!

Envious, totally understand how you feel. I think alot of us were desperate to get pregnant again straight after mc. I think the best thing to do in the wtf cycle is to dtd every other day. It didn't work for me but it does for some.

Amyyy are you taking iron tablets? I had the spatone sachets and they really helped with energy- would probably help with dizziness too.
It's not at all surprising to have mood swings, your hormones must be zipping all over the place. The MC hasn't turned you in to a bitter person, you're a good person on an emotional roller coaster. I got quite upset after hearing about a colleague who's due in May and who's mat leave I'm now going to have to help cover.

Hello. I'm tentatively joining you if that's ok. I'm actually waiting for a miscarriage- mmc was confirmed today after a bad scan last week but I still haven't had any bleeding or pain so I just hope it happens soon. I guess I'll join you all properly once it's over. I think getting pregnant again will be the thing that makes me feel ok about what has happened this week. But I'm also incredibly lucky in that I've got a gorgeous 2 year old dd and have not struggled to get pregnant before.
Never thought I'd be here though. Sorry you've all been through this. I'll have a read back on this thread and see what's what.

fifi I started pregnancy/TTC tablets after mc which I think has iron in. Thank you, I so hope that's all it is. And really feel for you having to cover maternity leave :( x

guy so sorry hun :( if
You need any help or advice we are here. I had my medical management 3 weeks ago today and there are many others here who had medical management if you have any questions x

Oh guy :'( sorry. If you need to chat. .. x

My Dr said to keep my prenatals up throughout mc. I can't take anything until hcg is zero because of the methotrexate

Thanks Amyyy I worded hat badly! I was just meaning that I'd been upset too and that it was perfectly normal x

guy so sorry, thinking of you during this tough time x

Sorry to see another June 15 member here guybrush I hope you've plenty of rl support.

daisy hope the 2ww passes quickly. I think I will book an appointment with a nicer dr.

Feeling generally shitty now.

guy sorry you've found yourself here. Any indication of how long you'll take to MC? I was offered (and took) an ERPC after my 2nd MC as they thought it might take weeks to MC naturally and I just wanted it over. Also, if it's on the bigger side IMO it's better to go surgical as it's not the nicest thing to have to deal with.
Also I can't stress this enough but if you do go the surgical route you can request a private analysis of the baby's chromosomes. My ERPC was in an NHS hospital but I paid about 250 pounds for the analysis (normally only done on the NHS after 3 MCs) and as mine came back as having had a problematic chromosome it was a real relief as the baby couldn't have survived. It's not offered, you have to ask for it and be willing to pay but if you can afford it IMO it's completely worth it - you have to ask beforehand and fill out some extra paperwork.

Charlie can you explain a bit more? Not relevant to me but interested to know.

I wasn't offered surgical. I should have been 11 weeks now but it stopped developing about 6 weeks so it's small. It had actually got smaller since last week.
No idea how long it will take. I guess I'm not panicking too much about the physical side of it and I don't feel the need to have any kind of analysis. I know we can make a healthy baby and I can have a healthy pregnancy so I'm focusing on this being just an abnormality which would never have been a baby. Our next baby is still to come I guess.
I think I was stupidly complacent. Having had a healthy pregnancy before and no problems in that area, plus I'm still in my twenties- I just assumed those statistics didn't apply to me. Silly. Of course it can happen to anyone and there isn't a rational reason for it.

Should I go to work next week? I took this week off because I was in that horrible limbo between scans and just couldn't even think of going in. My colleagues know what is going on and are very kind. I just think maybe I have to carry on normally now- can't put my life on hold waiting for this miscarriage to happen. Plus I might have to take a day or two off when it actually starts. And my dad has just had a cancer diagnosis which isn't looking good too I may have to take more time off to give my parents some support. And my toddler keeps getting ill.
It's all a bit overwhelming at the moment if I'm honest.