TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Monten - I was very much in that dark place, very angry, especially at the nasty bitch doctor who I saw to ask for some help, who said 'I'm afraid you just have to wait for another one before we can help you'.

But, turns out I was wrong it can very much happen. It's just not bloody fair that it's such a struggle for some people... Yet others get it so easy!

Your evening sounds hard to deal with. I found the only way to deal with that sort of thing was to remember that it's not her baby you want, it's your own. I found that distanced me from comparing dates n stuff most of the time. the other times I locked myself in the bathroom to have a cry

Boysclothes - sounds like you've been through a lot. Hope here on in is easier

Welcome Boysclothes - sorry to hear about your ectopic. I had a ruptured ectopic in September, which resulted in my right tube being removed so currently biding my time until I can start ttc again.

Sounds as though you've had a rough time of it. Here's hoping that the journey from here on in goes far smoother.

Hi all

I am lurker on the other threads and have decided to be abit more active
. I'm 38 and have a ds who is 2.4. We have been ttc dc 2 since January . Unfortunately I suffered a loss in June and one again in September, both around the 8 week mark. Due to my age the doctor has made me a appointment for the 17th of November. I don't know what I am expecting to happen or hear at this appointment just glad I don't have to wait for a third time.

My doctor feels I might just have been "unlucky " ,I hate that saying. As I have da she doesn't think I have that blood clotting/not clotting type of blood but said I will be tested for it anyway. There's not a word for how I feel, I also know if I happen to get pregnant again I won't be able to relax.

Everyone in my life seems to be pregnant right now and I'm finding it hard to keep a brave face on.

Sorry if my post is negative just how I'm feeling today.

Hi boysclothes welcome.

I'm really struggling this week. Having had really strong preg symptoms at the end of last week I was convinced I was pregnant but AF arrived Monday night, bang on day 29. I hope I don't upset anyone by saying this but I almost experienced it emotionally as yet another MC. I was SO convinced that I was pregnant again. After the results from MC2 showing trisomy I had just started to get my head around the idea that the next one might be ok, that I'll fall reasonably quickly again and this one will work out. So when I thought I was preg I realy got my hopes up. I just feel so so dashed right now. I have my counsellor today so hopefully I can talk about some of this but I just don't know what to do anymore. Plus my 3 bleeds since the EPRC have been so heavy and when I googled (I KNOW bad idea) it's completely freaked me out that there's something wrong. I can't keep having this every month, where I get my hopes up then am so disappointed. I can't focus at work, I just feel so angry and I just don't trust my mind & body any more.

Don't worry about being negative onefoot. We all are sometimes, it's a tough road we're walking. I understand what you're saying about being "unlucky"... I had an erpc for MC2 so was able to pay to have the embryo analysed and I found out it was a trisomy. So I really was unlucky. I'm just trying to remind myself that I'm actually lucky that there was a cause and there's no reason to think it will happen again, that I probably won't have to go through all that testing if it does.
If you're looking for information the recurrent mc board ladies are lovely, and know EVERYTHING. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2183892-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-tests-treatment-trying-again-thread-12?msgid=50244290#50244290

Charlie's thank you I think I was looking for that thread but I just came to conception instead. We are not going to be ttc again now till after the appointment. Just seems so unfair x

charlie you poor thing. Does the counselling help? Keep talking it through with us if it helps.

Hi onefoot don't ever worry about being negative, this is the one place you can really be yourself. Sorry for your losses .

Sorry you're down charlie. Every time af arrives it is a reminder of what we no longer have. It's very hard what you're going through, don't feel bad for finding it tough. You can only be where you are, mentally. Be kind to yourself xx

Thank you Ibelieve that really helps. (BTW – I said I have had two, I meant two MCs, not two DCs! I wish). I think I am in the angry phase right now. I’m so ragey all the time! The quality of my sleep always says a lot about my current mental state and these days I sleep badly, have very vivid dreams, and wake up in the night really angry with the world. I feel a lot of irrational anger and jealousy in my head with people who seem to have it so easy, like my SIL who has been pregnant three times and has three babies to show for it. And the countless other people I know who have conceived and had their babies in the time I’ve been trying. You’re right tho, it’s not their baby I want it’s my own. You’re right about milestones too – I get so stressed about arbitrary milestones (must be pregnant by EDD, birthday, Christmas) but actually they are meaningless in the grand scheme of things. So glad you got your lovely DD in the end, and I am going to think of you every time I get down! not in a creepy way

Sorry to see u here boysclothes.
Af due today...no sign yet. Had neg 10dpo and 11dpo. I just wish it would come so I can move on with cycle no 4 of ttc. Will test again tonight if no show as need to start meds ASAP once get a BFP. Don't feel at all preg. So doubt I am.

Thanks ladies. Not sure whether counselling is helping much. On balance it helps me to go and talk to someone but I don't really "click" with her so I find myself trying to hide things or not show emotions. Which really isn't the point!

Charlie, hope the counsellor helps. I didn't click with mine at first either, but eventually tried to see her less as a person and more of a sort of void- I can get rid of all my bad stuff into that void without it judging me, or being shocked or upset, just being open for more. That helped me open up and once I did, I think we both found it easier! By the way, the first 4 bleeds for me after MMC were ridiculously heavy, I was having to double up protection, but the fifth one was back to normal. Maybe you'll be similar

Welcome to newbies, and thanks Treacle for the new thread!

I am parked up at the back of the acupuncturists house and I have a little friend in my car with me, just hopped in

Posted too quick doh

New meeeeeeow! What a cutie. How was your acupuncture?

Evening ladies. Got to check back and see what's been occurring since yesterday. Been to coronation street today - omg, if you're a fan, I can defo recommend it! Amazing day out :)

Hi all, will read back tomorrow. Had a terrible day at work and af has arrived. Ugh!

Oh so sorry Treacle

Sorry to hear that treacle it sucks every time

Treacle I'm so sorry. Fucking AF bitch. I'm sure I will be getting a visit in 9 days time myself, it's crap I know

Acupucture visit went really well yesterday. The lady was really lovely and I have to admit I did cry quite a lot whilst discussing everything but she made me feel sane (amazingly) and I came back and slept like a baby

We are going to have weekly sessions and she advised a few different supplements and to avoid tampons.

Sorry NewEra, as I'm new I don't know your history. But I just wanted to say, I have heard some fantastic results from acupuncture. 3 completely seperate success stories! I was on the verge of making an appointment when I got pg with my dd.
fingers crossed it works for you too.

Bless you, thanks iBelieve

Hi, I just joined yesterday and am trying to understand all the acronyms..! Making good use of the glossary, until I've mastered it I'll have to write things out! I had a miscarriage on 6th Oct at 5.4 weeks pregnant. We were going to wait until I had my next period like they tell you to so we could date it. Then we accidentally didn't stop in time and I'm now wondering if something is happening. The first time I conceived it was our first time of trying and we only did it a handful of times so things are obviously working but then it's a bit unlikely that I've conceived after just once. My boobs are definitely tender and feel swollen but then that could be because I'm about to come on. The trouble is because of the miscarriage I have no idea when I'm next going to have a period. I wondered what other people's experiences were of getting pregnant after a miscarriage. Thanks ladies.

Hi Katie welcome... almost impossible I know but try not to dwell on possible preg symptoms etc. You'll drive yourself nuts. Don't worry too much about the dating thing, if you feel ready you feel ready. I personally wanted to have a period as I just didn't "feel" right.
I would think as your MC was "early" your period is unlikely to be later than normal but I'm particularly lucky as I've gone straight back to regular after my 7.5w and 10w miscarriages. But it is different for everyone. It took me 3 months to get preg the first time, 2 months to get preg after my first MC (5 in total as we waited 2 periods as I didn't feel ready) and I'm now 2 cycles after my 2nd MC, and desperate to get pregnant again, but I'm assuming it will take at least another month or two for me.
Hope that helps xx

Thank you, that's really kind of you. I know I need to just wait and see, I'm a really impatient person!! Anyway, I really hope you get a positive result soon. xx

Welcome Katie. Sorry that you find yourself here, but it's a very supportive group of totally wonderful ladies who know what you are going through.

I had a MMC in June at 12 weeks. We decided not to wait for the first cycle and I managed to conceive straight away, but was CD46 before I got the BFP. Sadly MC again at 5+3. Again we decided not to wait, haven't conceived again and F showed up this morning on CD57. The pregnancy/MC have certainly messed with my cycles.

You may want to test when you think AF would be due based on pre pregnancy cycles taking the MC as CD1.

I hope you get your BFP real soon.