TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Sorry amy I know exactly what you mean about the little part of you that just hopes it was all a mistake and you actually are still pregnant. I know that feeling all too well. But it is a fresh start and the beginning of trying again. Fx for you.

Welcome envious sorry you find yourself here. It must have been a real shock. Take time, be kind to yourself, do whatever you need to do. There is no right way to behave or feel. Hopefully you will find lots of good advice and support on this thread, I know I have.

chasing really hope you are managing to rest amidst everything that is happening. My experience was different to yours but I found it physically took quite a toll. Look after yourself.

northdown I know, if you google hard enough literally ANYTHING can be a symptom, isnt it hilarious?! I’ve had so many cycles now where I was convinced I was pregnant, I don’t believe anything any more. But still like obsessing over it.

So, I am CD32 here – still no AF. Previous cycles 31 days. I had a peak OPK 16 days ago, normally AF arrives bang on 14 days later. A lot of cramping on CD 27, since then nothing. Today cervix is still high, so no imminent sign AF is on the way. But I did a FRER on Sunday and it was BFN. It wasn’t with first morning wee. Not done one since. I have started to ever so slightly get my hopes up. Is that really stupid? I will test again tomorrow am if still nothing but interested in others experiences. Has anyone used a FRER a couple of days before AF due and had a neg only to get a positive later? Please be honest with me if you think I am being barmy and AF is just late the most likely reason

Thank you Monten I guess we all have that irrational part of our mind trying to convince us there is some hope left to hold on to! Nevermind, I'm feel better now, wallowing in self pity will get me nowhere and I've done enough of it over the last few weeks. I just hope it won't take too long to fall pregnant. We were due the day before my birthday in May and if we don't fall before then I just don't know how I would make it through the day, especially as someone else has taken that day off work so I would have to work through it! But that is 6 months away lol so fx.

Plus, I haven't myself, but I have read of others using a frer a few days before to get BFNs and tested later to get BFPs so there is hope but only time will tell. Everything crossed for you x

HI monten sorry you're having a tough time. I've never tested positive before CD27, even with a FRER. Might be time to test again with tomorrow's FMU? DH was away the 2nd week of my 2ww this month so I didn't test earlier than cd27 but got a + with FRER then. Good luck hun xx

It seems that so many people are in the same situation with the wtf cycle. I felt quite positive after the bleeding from my MMC had stopped and had convinced myself that we would conceive immediately. Since AF arrived at the weekend, I've had a really crappy week. I've been really shakey and tearful. I've broken a glass, trapped my fingers, lost £5 from my pocket etc- all v minor but just as irritating. I think that it's just the harsh reality that I'm going to have a gap between pregnancies and won't be pregnant for a while. Am going to try my hardest for a BFP on the next cycle.

monten I didn't get a BFP until the day my AF was due with my last pregnancy. It could be worth a test tomorrow.

fife one of the hardest parts of a mc is letting go of the plans you had. I was so excited about our age gap, a spring baby and dreamt of the summer on the park with both DC. There would have been 20 months between them. All of that has gone now and it's hard, especially when your not pregnant so can't begin to have new dreams. I really hope this is your cycle.

So I tested with the test the hospital gave me, 3 weeks after mc tomorrow and got a BFN. I feel surprisingly okay about it, at least I know my levels have dropped and could ovulate.

Evening all.
enviousllama I'm so sorry to see another June 15 member here.

I can't remember who said it sorry, but the 'empty womb' really resonated with me. I'd got to 11 weeks but don't actually have medical proof I was ever pregnant - no bloods or scans - despite the symptoms and bump I had. Its hard. Im now panicking as to how would you know if it was molar because doesn't that have a load of other complications? !? Just finished antibiotics prescribed after mc and still got 48 hours b4 I can drink.
Today I've felt ok and I'm really scared its going to hit me again when I'm not expecting. Not even sure about TTC atm. As fifi said, coming to terms to the increasing age gap ( and school implications of an autumn baby) is currently what im struggling with.

Fififolle I actually think the wtf cycle is hard to conceive in as you don't know your timings and not everyone ovulates, I don't think I did. The next cycle however is all yours, you are back in control, as much as you can be with ttc. I got my bfp that cycle, hopefully it will be the same for you.

Haribo good news on the bfn, in a way. You can move on now and get excited if you get that bfp in a few days

Monten, fingers crossed for you. Sounds promising to me, fmu all the way!

Aww fifi hope you're ok hun and fx for your bfp, il be joining you in trying hard once af has arrived!

Haribo pleased you are feeling ok after your BFN, looks like were in the same boat hun i got mine this morning too. Fx we get our BFPs soon!

Have just booked me and my
OH a romantic weekend at the lakes next month, something to look forward to and possibly some baby making! Lol

Evening! So its two days since af was supposed to show. No sign of anything tbh, only super sensitive boobs! Im normally spot on with my monthlys but now im wondering can they still be out of whack from the mc? (Currently on second cycle since mc) as i tested on tues, i think im going to try and hold on testing till sat or sunday. I think im going a tad crackers through, driving to work this morning and there was a rainbow in the sky....i am hoping its a sign

Had such a lovely day celebrating my Son's birthday with family. It was totally perfect and the cherry on top was his birthday card getting read out on CBeebies! We were all squealing lol.

I got confirmation that I ovulated on cd13 today. So soy did add a day onto the first half of my cycle which I'm totally delighted about. Not sure if that will translate into a BFP but you never know!!

Sorry to see newbies joining us, so sorry for all your losses. you've joined the loveliest, most supportive board ever. Lots of hugs and advice galore.

Feeling pretty low here, bleeding slowly reducing which bizarrely makes me think/feel more about the mc. It's making me think so much about this summer's loss as well as this most recent one, keep replaying things in my head and driving myself nuts. DH away so trying to drown sorrows with chocolate. Not working so far! Sorry to be selfish in me me me post.

chasing really hope injection poorliness is passing now and you can have TLC in RL.

Hello mrsconfusion so sorry for what you're going through. I read it up thread and meant to say hello but you know how this thread moves so fast sometimes. I hope you're doing okay.

Af arrived with force this morning. Bit gutted, I had made peace with the bfn at the weekend but then started to get my hopes up again. When this nightmare started in Jan I made a pact with the universe that as long I got pregnant quickly again I would accept it. To now be approaching my second due date and still not pregnant I'm finding increasingly hard to deal with. Quite angry at the world today.

Apologies if I have missed any newbies or news. Glad you had a lovely day with your son newera how sweet about cbeebies!

elley 2 days late and still not tested you've got way more willpower than me. Keeping my fingers crossed for you

Elley Any news hun? I agree with North amazing willpower!

NewEra Lovely to hear you had a great day, fx for a BFP!

MrsConfusion Hope you're ok, sending lots of hugs! Hope the chocolate helped in the end!

Monten Sorry you're feeling down :( sending hugs. Hope you get your BFP soon.

Chasing Hows things going?

xx

Hi ladies. I need some positive thoughts from you please. This is my first cycle after I had a chemical pregnancy last month, and I am 16dpo today.

I've just had a faint BFP on a FRER. The line is definitely there but it is not very strong at all, would expect it to be much stronger on FRER by this point. I'm really scared that this will be another chemical :(

Is there anything I can do to help it stick other than just pray??

lucygoo that's tough. I seem to ramp up to high hcg slowly, as FRERs don't normally show strong lines until I'm overdue for AF. Don't get too worried, try to leave it another couple of days before testing again, that should give you a better idea xx

Hi Lucy I'm not aware of anything you can do. I agree with Charlie to give it a couple of days and test again. Good luck hun! x

lucy The strength of the line is really not a good indicator at all, in my experience. These tests are only meant to give you a Yes/No answer, nothing else! There can be batch variability, manufacturing issues, your urine concentration varies, lots of variables that play a role! The only way to check your HcG would be by blood test.
Sorry that this is not more helpful, but a line is a line, and you have everything still going for you! Fingers crossed x

Just home from hospital. . Numbers are down from 427 to 258! Yay!! Not counting my chickens yet.. but I think it might be on track

chasing that's wonderful news! Hopefully you can start healing emotionally & physically now. It's been an incredibly difficult journey for you, we're all in awe of your strength

Fx for you Chasing , good to hear and hope you're feeling a bit better in yourself :) x

Little bit better today..not as sick and cramping is sporadic and mild thankfully :-) wish me luck for a really big drop for sunday! The quicker i get to zero the quicker i can start my prenatals. Methotrexate strips your body of folic and since i had two doses i need to ramp it up and get my levels back up for when our 3 months is up! X

lucy both my pregnancys (one with DS, one with mc) I had faint lines on all test including first response up to a week after af was due. If I was you, I'd take a clear blue digital tomorrow morning and go with what that says. I'm 99.9% sure you pregnant though :)

chasing this is fabulous new! I hope and pray this nightmare is coming to an end for you.

morten that sounds so difficult and I've been telling myself the same thing although I'm at the beginning of this journey so to speak. Big big hugs xx

I think I might be ovulating! Only sign is increased discharge, I'm 3 weeks exactly since mc. Either way we're going to get at it like rabbits just in case!

Thanks you are all so reassuring. I'm pretty sure I am pregnant as the line is not to be doubted, plus I've been having cramps for days and feeling slightly nauseous. I'm just completed paranoid about things going wrong after last time. I will update you when I've tested again :)

monten I'm sorry AF got you. Was it you who was also worried about Asherman's or was that someone else?

Congratulations on your BFP lucy.