TTC after MC - the best shit place to be!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

That's great Boozle :) hope all goes well x

Whoop congrats boozle !!! Amazing, well done

Thanks guys :). Thank good for you lot keeping me sane! Mumsnet needs a blood award for inventing itself!

Back from Florida and the what is the first thing I see? Woo hoo Boozle fantastic news!!! I am so pleased for you.

Hope lovely to hear from you - so pleased you are doing ok. See this is the kind of stuff that keeps us going.

So sorry to see all the newbies. As Treacle said its the "best shit place to be" - great thread title!! So sorry AF got you :-(

I'm slowly getting closer to my first EDD - 27th Jan, I really want to be pregnant by then - and if not by then that at least by my 2nd EDD 25th March.

Did lots of shagging on holibobs - but the obsessive freak in me still worries "what if the one day we didn't DTD" - great a grip woman!!!

So anyway, I've always tested positive on cd 21 as have really short cycles and that day is Monday - am I brave enough to do a test and basically pee £10 down the loo or do I wait?? Need to go to Bullring tomorrow to change dollars so will try to avoid Superdrug and clearly fail and buy FRER

Thanks Cariad hols was ace!!!! I admit that it didn't take my mind off TTC but it did make DTD less stressful and trying to make time for it. When you are relaxed. It does make all the difference.

Although my family were on hols too, and I admit on past holidays we've been good and behaved ourselves. However I'm sorry my TTC mission takes precedent over my parents being around!

DP was a bit like "but your parents" and I was like "tough shit I'm not having no sex for 10 days!!" :-)

I'm 38, not 18 - they'll live #baddaughter

Nice to see you back brummie if Sounds like the break was super, you lucky thing! If you do happen upon superdrug tomorrow, frer are on bogof at the mo. #justsaying

Hah Broody that so means I will accidentally wander in to Superdrug. Just to look of course!! fail

Hi brummie :)
Thanks x
I'm glad you had a good holiday :)
I'm also getting stressed with my due date approaching. Xmas eve is goin to be tough :(

Treacle my plan was to finish work for Christmas then start maternity leave. The only thing I'll be finishing is work for a week.

I so want to be pregnant again but I admit I'm terrified

Oh and I've decided that I am an absolute shitbag cow bag. A friend of DP's - his gf is a bit annoying. Anyway just after my 2nd mc she announced to my DP she was 5 weeks pg. we were due to go to her 30th the following week and I promptly cancelled as wasn't prepared to watch her swooning around whilst I was grieving for our baby/babies

Anyway this week she's put her scan pic up on fb satans website and every day we have a running commentary of how tired she is. "I'm so pleased my baby is developing so well and growing up big and strong, but oh my god I wish it didn't make me sooo tired, everything is such hard work"

And all I want to say is "fuck off you stupid cow, you have no idea how lucky you are, so stop whining" so I've unfollowed on fb.

I'm a bitch, I know. But I'm jealous and bitter and jet lagged

No excuse I know

Argh I've fallen out with my partner today. Crap timing as we were meant to be going out to lunch tomorrow and instead I don't even want to be in the same room as him

I know I'm being a bit silly, but we have a reoccurring issue in our relationship that seems to happen every few months. I say something totally innocuous to him and he gets uber pissy with me and uses a 'tone'. He never swears or is mean, he just jumps down my throat and makes me feel like crap. I then get extremely hurt and won't communicate with him until he apologises and says he won't do it again, until of course he does.

Reason I'm so sensitive about it is because I had a very difficult relationship with my father growing up as he was extremely volatile. We would all be in eggshells and he would blow up in my face on a regular basis and make me cry and id run. OH knows this but still he can't control himself and I can't seem to stop being hurt.

Brummie I was going to start maternity leave from the 3rd nov technically but from Friday just gone really as it's half term.
Now I've just got loads of stress and pressure to go back to instead :(

Don't worry about the fb thing, I actually have considered blocking one of my closest friends because she's moaning so much about her newborn. She knows how hard it is and what I've been through.
We started ttc at the same time nearly and she has her baby. On my wedding anniversary I might add!

Newera, don't feel you have to explain yourself. Your oh knows how you feel and should be apologising for snapping at you. I hope he comes back with his tail between his legs x

It's so hard isn't it. My SIL and friend all started ttc no2 at the same time. They both have beautiful newborns now.

And i get the, sympathetic head tilt when they ask how I am. I feel pathetic

lol, I've deleted over half my friends list and changed my picture to a lego man and my name to Gertrude Humperdink... All because I can't stand the smug/ moaning fb world...

Oh Brummie - your tales of dtding with your parents around made me LOL. I've just worked out that if I don't manage to get upduffed this cycle, my fertile period over the next 2 cycles will coincide with my parents visiting/ Christmas, which means that we'll face 2 months of dtding with my parents in close proximity. I figure that I'm going to have to be a #baddaughter as well.

searches for Gertrude on satans website

Brummie don't feel bad. I have actually deactivated my Facebook account to avoid that sort of thing. Best decision I ever made!

NewEra sorry to hear about the argument with your DP. I hope the two of you make up soon.

boozle congratulations that's brilliant news. First bfp of the thread I think?

charlie how did you go about finding a therapist?

Haha great idea Boozle :p

I'm a bit worried about trying this cycle. Last time I mc at 8+3. If that were to happen this time it would be Xmas week. Last time I mc on my bday so feel like it'd be a repeat feeling.
of course the sensible side of me knows I probably won't even get pregnant this month. Cycle 6 after my miscarriage.
It took me 4 months to get pregnant when I miscarried.
Not much point me writing this tbh, I'm just thinking out loud...

ignominious i am seeing someone at city pregnancy in london

Treacle - I'm afraid I can't advise you as to whether or not to try this cycle. What I can say though is that the chances of the same thing happening again are slim (although as someone who's suffered 2 early losses for completely different reasons, I'm conscious that you can be unlucky more than once).

If you were to be 8 weeks by Christmas, you could pay for a private scan at 7 weeks, which should hopefully enable you to see the heartbeat and give you comfort that things are progressing in the right direction. Although I'm conscious that this might not be enough to stop you worrying over the festive period.

I sometimes find that when I have a difficult decision to make, writing a list of pros and cons works as this will often highlight whether one concern outweighs the others.

If it's any consolation, I'm likely to be in a similar boat if I get pregnant next cycle, as I would need a scan early Christmas week to determine whether the pregnancy is ectopic again or not. If the scan is inconclusive, there is a risk that we'd end up being in limbo over the festive period which would be far from ideal. I suspect we will try next cycle anyway, although I'm conscious that this is very much a personal choice.

You girls are so sensible. I never think of where is be in the calender, we just have sex and hope for the best.

Well we are still not talking. DS was sick overnight so we obviously had to communicate this morning but generally I don't want to be loving at all. Pretty lucky we are not in the fertile window lol.

Got a massive craving for chocolate. Could only be impending AF couldn't it!?

Thank you Cariad :)

I think we will just go for it and if I get pregnant ill have an early scan.
I couldn't bear missing a cycle really.

7dpo here and way way tmi alerts but have had really tender bbs today (only ever happened when pregnant) and just went to the loo and loads of creamy cm with a pink tinge on wiping... Implantation?! I hate the bloody(haha) tww! DH doesn't want to know cos he thinks it's gross and also doesn't want to get his hopes up so I thought id tell you guys instead! :)

If I concieved this cycle I'll be 12 weeks at Christmas so hoping my scan would be the week before for reassurance but think I'd pay for a private one at 7 weeks if they won't give me one as last mc was at 6 weeks.

Hugs and baby dust to all x