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Angels and Rainbows - remembering our angels and praying for rainbows

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missalexandra · 09/09/2014 18:16

New thread ladies, hope it brings us all good luck.

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EarthWindAnd9 · 11/09/2014 14:08

MissA, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, but I'm glad you are able to be with her. Life is truly shitty at times. I have come to learn that sadly bad things happen to good people. There is no rhyme or reason to it. Lots of love to you, your friend and her family.

Lake, well done for getting things done, don't underestimate that achievement (auto correct wanted that to say achey enemy...!). It's tough with ttc, I had the decision taken out of my hands wrt waiting for the PM results as I was still bleeding. My only advice would be to just see how you feel. I'm almost certain that they would agree to induce you/c-section on your due date or maybe even a week before if that is what you wanted. I know lots of ladies who have had rainbow babies and not a single one of them has gone overdue with their rainbow. In fact, all of them had their preferred delivery method. I think the hospitals are very understanding when you have been through something like we have.

kayleighferrie1985 · 11/09/2014 20:52

madem i agree with the others about seeing your doctor- even if it only puts your mind at rest

missa sorry to hear about your friend, i'm sure your support is very much appreciated Flowers

lake well done for getting things done. Sorry to hear you've got a long wait until the PM results. Me and DH waited to TTC, but we weren't waiting on PM results (they'd found a huge blood clot in my womb after Ben was delivered so the consultant wanted blood tests done). Once we'd had the results appointment we started TTC. Regarding your queries about another pregnancy, my consultant told me i'd have consultant led care, more scans/appointments and that if i hadn't delivered by 40 weeks they wouldn't let me go the 10 days over. And also, if the worry/concern was bothering me that much they would possibly induce me at 37-38 weeks depending on how baby was developing.

Waves to all xx

Rubyshoe · 12/09/2014 13:08

Lake glad the funeral went ok, I know the snowdrop poem I think you are talking about. It was on the wall in the Bereavement suite where we had 'H' and it is beautiful. It is still such early days for you but it sounds like you are doing the well giving your days some kind of structure. I think in the beginning just getting from one day to the next is a huge achievement. Sorry you have to wait for your PM result, we lost H at end of July and had our result at the beginning of November. The meeting was difficult and set us back again but the Consultant did use it as a planning session for how future pregnancies would be managed.

Missa A belated Thank-you for the new thread! I am sorry for your friends diagnosis, she is lucky to have a friend like you standing by her. Hope all is going well with your pregnancy and the GD is not getting you down too much x

ATM Glad you feel better since seeing your midwife. If they are offering you weekly visits and you feel you would benefit then take them with both hands. My CMW offered from 34 weeks and documented it was just to "mark the time until delivery" and I think it has given each week a bit of focus.

Little Tulip So sorry about you insensitive colleague, all it shows is her weakness and your strength, not that that helps at the time and just to echo the other ladies I am non-politically correctly thrilled she looked like a bag of spanners!

Critter thank you for thinking of us and hope your transfer goes well next week. Will be thinking of you and sending you sticky bean vibes x

Mad Hope work is going OK, I think you are doing incredibly well to be back and functioning at all! I know what you mean though, after we lost H, at the beginning it was like she occupied the whole front half of my brain and I just couldn't think 'around' her. As time moved on I did start to have some days where she and her loss moved slightly in my head and for short periods I could process other things and was quite grateful for the diversion. It felt like I was doing an impression of myself for other peoples benefit but to start with I certainly couldn't keep it up for long.

Agree with the other ladies, definitely go and see your GP if you feel you need to. You have been through so much and it's perfectly normal to have question and concerns, that's what they are there for x

AFM - Think we are doing OK and kind of ready for tomorrow?!? Can't believe we are so close. Hopefully this time .......

MademoiselleG · 12/09/2014 14:18

Oh Ruby - tomorrow!! My heart jolted and my stomach went all tight in anticipation for you. I am so very excited! 'Hopefully this time' indeed. There is just no reason why it should all go so terribly wrong again and H will be watching and protecting you both. I'll send G to help out too, they can both hold hands and send you love and strength!

missa how devastating. How cruel and utterly crap (I am watching my language!). I am so sorry that your dear friend has been given terrible news.It's so unfair and I can't believe how sad it is, especially as she has young children. How bad is it? Has she been given any hope? Or a timescale? I am so sorry and thinking of you and her and her family. (((tight squeeze)))

Critter how are you feeling? I imagine you must be quite excited and apprehensive at the same time. I am sending good vibes your way. If you are a bit of a hippy like me, you might like some of the fertility and meditation videos available on youtube? I'll send you links if you want - I have started doing them again this week and am finally starting to feel a tiny bit more at peace with my body.

Lake you are SO incredibly strong. I am in absolute awe that you have made a to do list and are tackling the items on it. I couldn't really function at all at first and remember picking up a magazine and just barely being able to look at the pictures, but certainly not reading anything, unless it was about loss, stillbirths, miscarriage or similar.Have you received a little more support from your friends in RL? Is your family supportive? I am sending you lots of strength and love and please be kind to yourself. Sometimes, just getting up and managing to breathe all day long is an achievement in itself. You are being incredible and that is such an incredible way to honour E.

ATM take all the support you are offered! Your MW sounds great, I am glad they are being treated so well and in a sensitive manner.

As for me...well....(drumrolls.......) AF has arrived!!!! I never thought I would be this happy to be in so much pain! Clearly the acupuncture and chinese herbs I am taking have started to take effect, if only on my mind, putting me in a slightly more serene place. I am felling so delighted about it that I actually feel super strong today! I went to see the GP this morning (knowing that I had had quite a fair bit of spotting that definitely looked like AF was on her way) and said I was worried as still nothing even after nearly 9 weeks. She really wasn't concerned. at. all. She just advised me to stop testing, stop using OPKs, stop worrying, do some yoga and exercise and try to make time for myself. I was a little annoyed at first as I just wanted a magic cure, but after much discussion with her, came to the conclusion that she was right. She still gave me the papers to get blood tests done if nothing happened in the next 3-4 weeks, so I feel 'safe'. Now going to lie down with a hot water bottle on my stomach and rejoice Grin

Hugs to all of you wonderful ladies. Thank you for being the best support one could ever wish for! xx

MademoiselleG · 12/09/2014 14:19

(whoops, sorry, that turned into a short novel!)

EarthWindAnd9 · 12/09/2014 14:38

Oh my goodness Ruby, tomorrow!!! I was spared this last minute waiting as my rainbow decided to show up 3 days before my planned section. You must be feeling so nervous. Please please please come and update us when you get a chance, even if all you managed is a Grinand then come back and update us fully in a few days/weeks. I'll be holding you in my thoughts tomorrow.

Mad-woo hoo AF!! (What a strange thing to type). I'm glad you are starting to feel more at peace with your body, I think it's a really positive step forward.

MissA, thinking of your friend x

kayleighferrie1985 · 12/09/2014 16:45

ruby tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you, and i'll send Ben over to keep you both safe. I cannot begin to imagine how you must be feeling. Make sure you get plenty of rest tonight x

madem so pleased (that sounds odd) that AF arrived for you, although i do hope the discomfort eases off soon for you :)

AFM well if the nurse i saw last week is correct, i'll be ovulating in the next few days, so here we go again, although DTD is one of the last things on my mind after hearing that Brian's teacher has concerns she can't cope with him in her class Hmm

Waves to all xx

Rubyshoe · 12/09/2014 18:07

Thanks for the good wishes everyone, will keep you as posted as I can!

Sorry to hear about Brians teacher Kayleigh surely ultimately they have an obligation to educate and support him. They need to come up with a plan! it shouldn't all be on you!

Mad woohoo! Congrats on AF! You're back in the game. Enjoy the cramps x

BettyFriedansLoveChild · 12/09/2014 18:22

Just wanted to say a very quick good luck for tomorrow Ruby - will be thinking of you.

LakeOfDreams · 12/09/2014 18:53

Good luck for tomorrow Ruby. Hope everything goes to plan, we'll be thinking of you

kayleighferrie1985 · 12/09/2014 18:58

Thanks ruby he had to go to mainstream school because he didn't get a statement, but the teacher's worried now she's actually spent time with him. I knew that this would happen so it's pissed me off because i feel like i wasn't listened to xx

EarthWindAnd9 · 12/09/2014 19:36

Kayleigh, that is ridiculous. Had the teacher suggested any next steps?

kayleighferrie1985 · 12/09/2014 20:42

Earth because the school are doing a staggered start for the new intake the teacher (who is the SENCO for the school) is going to keep an eye on him and will request an educational psychologist to come and see him. I've got 2 of his doctors writing to the school as they're not impressed that he's got no 1-to-1 support at school when it was put in reports from his 2 main consultants that extra support would be needed. I'm happy things appear to be going in the right direction, but i'm angry it's taken nearly 2 years- and we still don't have a diagnosis for him! Apologies for the rant xx

EarthWindAnd9 · 12/09/2014 22:32

It must be tough, you have my sympathies Kayleigh, but it sounds like you are fighting for him and what he needs

Ducky23 · 13/09/2014 09:27

Thinking of you ruby! Grin X

Kay, I have a friend who is going through similar issues with her sons school ATM Hmm I know it's a very stressful situation x

MademoiselleG · 13/09/2014 10:13

Oh Kay - you have a lot on your plate!

Thinking of you so much Ruby !!

LittleTulip · 13/09/2014 10:42

Just a quickie - you are in my thoughts today Ruby!

LakeOfDreams · 13/09/2014 11:03

Thinking of you today Ruby

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missalexandra · 13/09/2014 13:15

Ruby Thinking of you and your DH and hoping everything goes really smoothly Flowers

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kayleighferrie1985 · 13/09/2014 13:38

Thanks ladies, it can be stressful at times, but we battle on. Someone once asked me whether i'd change the way Brian is (if it were possible) and my reply was "no". Yes at times he's extremely demanding and can be aggressive at times, but when he comes up to me asking for "mummy hugs" my heart melts. While it would be nice if he didn't have his issues, he just wouldn't be the same boy, and we love him regardless. Apologies, that turned quite soppy :)

Ruby thinking of you and your DH and hoping all is going smoothly Flowers

EarthWindAnd9 · 13/09/2014 14:56

Just popping on to see if there is any news from Ruby. I hope you've got your baby on your arms now x

Kayleigh "mummy hugs" makes me go all gooey inside, how lovely

BlueSkyandRain · 13/09/2014 16:49

Just lurking to see if there's any news from ruby...

Thanks for the new thread missalex

Sorry not to name check, this thread's been quite fast moving recently! Waves to all x

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missalexandra · 13/09/2014 18:19

Just checking in for any Ruby news too. It's you next Blue Smile x

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MademoiselleG · 13/09/2014 19:15

Ruby: I've been thinking about you aaaall day, sending good vibes x

AllTerrainMammy · 13/09/2014 20:23

Just popped in to check for any news from ruby. Really hope all is well. Thinking of you x

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